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brianlux
brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,663
edited September 2018 in A Moving Train
First let me say this, I am totally against sexual harassment and completely for women's rights and equal pay for equal work.  But I also believe it is a fair question to ask (as this article's headline does, "Has #MeToo gone too far?"

Here are a couple of articles to consider.  The first article says this about #MeToo founder Tarana Burke:

"Has #MeToo, reconfigured as a broad attempt to rectify a broad host of wrongs, lost the plot? Has it dilated to its detriment?Tarana Burke says, emphatically, yes."



My own thinking is that this is another example of a good thing gone haywire, the end result being that it is doing more harm than good, for both women and men.

Thoughts?



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  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,663
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
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  • Gern Blansten
    Gern Blansten Mar-A-Lago Posts: 22,192
    When people put up with abuse for decades then the consequences will be severe when they fight back.

    So....no
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  • mickeyrat
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    humans being humans, I can readily see how something this important can be co-opted for petty grievances. As with most things positive and forward moving , resistance to change permeates culture at large.Men, simply put, need to be better human beings. And maybe not so much "men"
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  • Kat
    Kat Posts: 4,961
    No. Sexual predators ruin lives, destroy victims. Let the sun shine on it so it won't keep happening. It'll all become apparent from facts, and we can judge each case, one at a time.
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  • As the parent of a little girl, I’m very happy for this movement.

    I do hope that we can slow the roll a little bit. We need to see accusations as that, not as truths. They need to be taken seriously and investigated, etc but we cannot let our desire for every women to have a voice when needed to convict every man based on an unproven accusation.  This makes the situations that are he said - she said (only 1 accuser) very difficult.
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,675
    edited September 2018
    I don't think the movement overall has gone too far per se; it still has a place in the fight for women's rights/safety. But I think in some instances it has definitely gone too far, where there is an unreasonable unwillingness to allow for redemption where appropriate, and where accusations that are groundless or even accusations of actions that are not wrong at all in the first place (like with Aziz Ansari) are negatively impacting people unfairly. I boil this down to plain old mass hysteria. It's what happens when public opinion becomes the judge, jury, and executioner. The masses are too dumb or too indifferent to distinguish specific circumstances, apparently, and also too unforgiving in some cases due to basic self-righteousness on a grand scale. It's very, very frustrating to me. So I think it's more like the #metoo movement is being violated by this, rather than the #metoo movement itself being the culprit.
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  • Kat
    Kat Posts: 4,961
    I should add to my post that I think the tide of accusations will slow naturally. This was a dam ready to burst and there are years of predatory behavior to be addressed. It'll even out in time and hopefully, be good for everyone. Daughters and sons, mothers and fathers who have been victims, whether from an acquaintance, stranger, clergy, etc. It's got to get better.

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  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,491
    PJ_Soul said:
    I don't think the movement overall has gone too far per se; it still has a place in the fight for women's rights/safety. But I think in some instances it has definitely gone too far, where there is an unreasonable unwillingness to allow for redemption where appropriate, and where accusations that are groundless or even accusations of actions that are not wrong at all in the first place (like with Aziz Ansari) are negatively impacting people unfairly. I boil this down to plain old mass hysteria. It's what happens when public opinion becomes the judge, jury, and executioner. The masses are too dumb or too indifferent to distinguish specific circumstances, apparently, and also too unforgiving in some cases due to basic self-righteousness on a grand scale. It's very, very frustrating to me. So I think it's more like the #metoo movement is being violated by this, rather than the #metoo movement itself being the culprit.
    Hit the nail on the head.
  • F Me In The Brain
    F Me In The Brain this knows everybody from other commets Posts: 31,814
    It is going to take a long while to see things actually change -- and people will naturally overcompensate, but I think it is better than the alternative.  IMO, Not too far.
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,675
    It is going to take a long while to see things actually change -- and people will naturally overcompensate, but I think it is better than the alternative.  IMO, Not too far.
    Yes, I agree what we've got going on is certainly better than nothing... I'm just hoping people can calm the hell down and get more rational about things. Hopefully it's just a learning curve. The media ain't helping either right now - I hope they also learn.
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  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,663
    My concern about #MeToo is that it is being co-opted in such a way that, at least in some cases, it is becoming less helpful to women's issues and harmful to some women and men (example of this are in the articles I posted).

    Personally, I never understood how it got to this point in the first place.  How is it that so many men are sexual predators such that a movement was needed in the first place?  But then I feel the same way about wars, human induced animal extinction and climate change, and planned obsolescent.  We are a weird and often sick species.


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  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    brianlux said:
    My concern about #MeToo is that it is being co-opted in such a way that, at least in some cases, it is becoming less helpful to women's issues and harmful to some women and men (example of this are in the articles I posted).

    Personally, I never understood how it got to this point in the first place.  How is it that so many men are sexual predators such that a movement was needed in the first place?  But then I feel the same way about wars, human induced animal extinction and climate change, and planned obsolescent.  We are a weird and often sick species.


    men have been clubbing women and carrying them off to their caves to have their way since the inception of our species. it's no surprise this is still a rampant problem. 
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  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,663
    brianlux said:
    My concern about #MeToo is that it is being co-opted in such a way that, at least in some cases, it is becoming less helpful to women's issues and harmful to some women and men (example of this are in the articles I posted).

    Personally, I never understood how it got to this point in the first place.  How is it that so many men are sexual predators such that a movement was needed in the first place?  But then I feel the same way about wars, human induced animal extinction and climate change, and planned obsolescent.  We are a weird and often sick species.


    men have been clubbing women and carrying them off to their caves to have their way since the inception of our species. it's no surprise this is still a rampant problem. 
    So true.  But the thing is, we are supposedly this highly intelligent species capable of learning, growing and changing and understanding morals and appropriate behavior.  Perhaps our intelligence is over-rated?
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  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    edited September 2018
    brianlux said:
    brianlux said:
    My concern about #MeToo is that it is being co-opted in such a way that, at least in some cases, it is becoming less helpful to women's issues and harmful to some women and men (example of this are in the articles I posted).

    Personally, I never understood how it got to this point in the first place.  How is it that so many men are sexual predators such that a movement was needed in the first place?  But then I feel the same way about wars, human induced animal extinction and climate change, and planned obsolescent.  We are a weird and often sick species.


    men have been clubbing women and carrying them off to their caves to have their way since the inception of our species. it's no surprise this is still a rampant problem. 
    So true.  But the thing is, we are supposedly this highly intelligent species capable of learning, growing and changing and understanding morals and appropriate behavior.  Perhaps our intelligence is over-rated?
    I don't know much about evolution, but to me it seems like there are so many people in so many different places scattered across the globe, there's no way we are all evolving at the same rate. 

    I think our emotional intelligence needs a tonne of work. 

    humans are so easily corruptible by offerings of greed, sex, and now "likes", we are so weak emotionally it is incredible we have made it this far. I think the few have elevated the many, to the detriment of ourselves. 

    look at how so many people behave where a natural disaster hits. or even if their team does/doesn't win the championship. looting, rape, mass property destruction; mob mentality. 

    we are only as intelligent as our circumstances dictate. most of the time, things are grand, and everyone is fine. take us to our basest level of coping, and we are no better, or maybe even worse, than our primate cousins. 
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  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    I have witnessed first-hand how men can behave like animals.
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  • I don't think it has gone too far.  Almost every day I ask myself if I live in crazytown after reading about all of these famous CEO's, newsman, politicians, and celebrities that outwardly look like respectable people, and then you read the shit they have done and it is almost uniformly so far across the line of decency that you think it can't be true (but it is).
  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,663
    I have witnessed first-hand how men can behave like animals.
    Sorry to hear that.  Me too.  :frowning:
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  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,663
    I don't think it has gone too far.  Almost every day I ask myself if I live in crazytown after reading about all of these famous CEO's, newsman, politicians, and celebrities that outwardly look like respectable people, and then you read the shit they have done and it is almost uniformly so far across the line of decency that you think it can't be true (but it is).
    I'm definitely not against the legit complaints.  But if you read the articles, you may find some are not so legit and that can hurt a useful movement.
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  • pjhawks
    pjhawks Posts: 12,919
    I don't think it has gone too far.  Almost every day I ask myself if I live in crazytown after reading about all of these famous CEO's, newsman, politicians, and celebrities that outwardly look like respectable people, and then you read the shit they have done and it is almost uniformly so far across the line of decency that you think it can't be true (but it is).
    agree. it's very, dare i say, bizarre to me in some ways that this behavior has been this prevalent. i don't mean to diminish it or the affects i just don't understand it. i know men can be pigs. hell i'm sure i've had moments of being a pig around women but sure as hell never in the workplace and never as blatant and disgusting as some of the allegations against many of these men.  In a lot of ways i just don't fathom acting in those ways towards women.  
  • No way heck the commander in chief is culprit numero 1 and he's leading the free world i'd say more needs to be done the fact of the matter NO means NO , but men who are power positions have always believed that NO doesn't pertain to them ! 
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