Do I take wife to Wrigley PJ show?

PJinIL wrote:

I feel horrible in some respect, but the concerts that I've been to by myself have been better experiences than when I go with someone, wife included. She does like PJ and we've been to a handful of shows together, but how do I tell her I'd rather sell my 2nd ticket and let it all hang out than wonder why she isn't getting exactly why it's so cool they played XYZ song or whatever. I know, honesty is best, but how best to frame it so it doesn't sound like I don't want to share this special thing with her. Can't I just share the pics and memories? :?

Well if honesty is best, sounds like more issues then a PJ show.

Tell her you decided to take the money you wouldve spent for her ticket, drinks etc and hook her up with a massage,facial, pedicure, jewelry, etc for 7/19.
This show should be all about you!

I totally hear you. Marriage is complicated sometimes. Just tell her like it is. She's been to pj shows and has seen what it is to be part of that so should have some understanding of the intensity of the emotion that goes with loving this band. If one doesn't share that one could feel left out even being there. Maybe she'd rather not go but is wondering how to tell you that she doesn't want to share in your special thing. Just talk it out and then plan a weekend together doing something you both enjoy. You aren't rejecting her just don't want her lack of enthusiasm to squish yours.

F Me In The Brain wrote:

bringing my wife -- I need to have someone to make sure I get back to the hotel after the post concert partying.

:thumbup:

HollisBrown wrote:

Hope you like cold showers.

Thats why you have to replace the show with something she will really enjoy.
I'm all about ending a PJ concert night with a bang......icing on the cake. :shock:

Think long and hard before even bringing this up to your wife.

If you really want to test these waters, I would ask her, enthusiastically - "Are you stoked for Pearl Jam at Wrigley??!!" If she gives a lukewarm response, a couple days later then bring up the idea - "hey we can get a lot of money for the extra ticket if you don't want to go - we can use the money to go out to dinner another time. But if she is looking forward to the show I wouldn't even bring this up to her at all.

It is going to hurt her feelings and then she'll tell you to just go by yourself if you don't want her there. And you'll get the cold shoulder for months. Then you will have the worst of all situations. You will go to Wrigley, by yourself, exactly like you suggested, but not enjoy it because your wife is at home, stewing with a cold shoulder.

That's awesome your wife is into PJ. Bring her to the show and share a great event together. If she loves you maybe she won't mind if you "let it all hang out".

If you're like me, and prefer sex over a concert, you will keep your mouth shut and take her. It is just not worth the risk.

PJinIL wrote:

I feel horrible in some respect, but the concerts that I've been to by myself have been better experiences than when I go with someone, wife included. She does like PJ and we've been to a handful of shows together, but how do I tell her I'd rather sell my 2nd ticket and let it all hang out than wonder why she isn't getting exactly why it's so cool they played XYZ song or whatever. I know, honesty is best, but how best to frame it so it doesn't sound like I don't want to share this special thing with her. Can't I just share the pics and memories? :?

Wow...if I told my wife that...tread carefully my friend...

The minute you told her the 2nd ticket was her's was your 1st mistake at this point there is no taking it back with out the consequences of sleeping on the couch for a while , i've got tickets to London and the minute i scored them i told her i'm going alone as i have for like 35 of the 40 shows i've been to , i have taken her to 5 of them ....