Do men REALLY enjoy sleeping around?

rhcpjam1029 · January 2010

scb wrote:

The following advice was just given from one man to a younger man in another thread:

"stay single and fuck as many as girls while you are young."

And I can't help but wonder if men (and I use that term loosely) REALLY derive as much pleasure from meaningless sex as they act like they do. My experience has taught me that meaningless sex usually just isn't that good.

haha i'm the "younger man!" thanks!

rhcpjam1029 · January 2010

the wolf wrote:

scb wrote:

The following advice was just given from one man to a younger man in another thread:

"stay single and fuck as many as girls while you are young."

And I can't help but wonder if men (and I use that term loosely) REALLY derive as much pleasure from meaningless sex as they act like they do. My experience has taught me that meaningless sex usually just isn't that good.

I'm not going to even bother reading all the replies here, but my answer is no. without a doubt NO.

I look back at the amount of woman ( and even girls when i was a teenager ) that I COULD have had sex with and I'm glad I didn't.

maybe I'm just to ............... I don't know what word I'm look for. maybe I'm just not that damn Macho when it comes to shit like that.

the chicks that I did have meaningless sex with, I wish I hadnt. The number of woman I could have had meaningless sex with is staggering compared to the amount of woman I actually had sex with.

my friends used to give me shit about that, I don't care. just not my style.

to each their own though.

well since i'm apparently the "younger man" who the original poster referenced to, i thought i should share my idea on this subject.

at my age, i have the countless group of friends who just sleep around with each other and casually fuck. the accounts of intercourse that everyone else hears about in my high school are the ones guys have with the really slutty girls, and vice versa. now i mean at age 16-18 the only thing guys think about is sex and will literally stick their junk in anything (and i mean anything). they don't seem to care that they had sex with the notorious gross slutty girl who's been with dozens of other guys aging from 16-25. they're just satisfied.

with me, though, i don't want that reputation. it's hard enough going to a school of 600 students in total and hearing everyday about who hooked up with who. i don't want to have a reputation or be linked with any girl who is a slut. all my guy friends are always like "oh come on man go hook up with her. she wants you." and i'm just like dude i barely know the girl, she's not at all a least bit attractive, and i don't want to have that reputation.

i feel like guys my age who do quote "sleep around" are just lazy and will literally take whatever they can get.

_ · January 2010

rhcpjam1029 wrote:

scb wrote:

The following advice was just given from one man to a younger man in another thread:

"stay single and fuck as many as girls while you are young."

And I can't help but wonder if men (and I use that term loosely) REALLY derive as much pleasure from meaningless sex as they act like they do. My experience has taught me that meaningless sex usually just isn't that good.

haha i'm the "younger man!" thanks!

Didn't want to hijack your other thread, so I thought I'd start a new one.

the wolf · January 2010

rhcpjam1029 wrote:

the wolf wrote:

scb wrote:

The following advice was just given from one man to a younger man in another thread:

"stay single and fuck as many as girls while you are young."

And I can't help but wonder if men (and I use that term loosely) REALLY derive as much pleasure from meaningless sex as they act like they do. My experience has taught me that meaningless sex usually just isn't that good.

I'm not going to even bother reading all the replies here, but my answer is no. without a doubt NO.

I look back at the amount of woman ( and even girls when i was a teenager ) that I COULD have had sex with and I'm glad I didn't.

maybe I'm just to ............... I don't know what word I'm look for. maybe I'm just not that damn Macho when it comes to shit like that.

the chicks that I did have meaningless sex with, I wish I hadnt. The number of woman I could have had meaningless sex with is staggering compared to the amount of woman I actually had sex with.

my friends used to give me shit about that, I don't care. just not my style.

to each their own though.

well since i'm apparently the "younger man" who the original poster referenced to, i thought i should share my idea on this subject.

at my age, i have the countless group of friends who just sleep around with each other and casually fuck. the accounts of intercourse that everyone else hears about in my high school are the ones guys have with the really slutty girls, and vice versa. now i mean at age 16-18 the only thing guys think about is sex and will literally stick their junk in anything (and i mean anything). they don't seem to care that they had sex with the notorious gross slutty girl who's been with dozens of other guys aging from 16-25. they're just satisfied.

with me, though, i don't want that reputation. it's hard enough going to a school of 600 students in total and hearing everyday about who hooked up with who. i don't want to have a reputation or be linked with any girl who is a slut. all my guy friends are always like "oh come on man go hook up with her. she wants you." and i'm just like dude i barely know the girl, she's not at all a least bit attractive, and i don't want to have that reputation.

i feel like guys my age who do quote "sleep around" are just lazy and will literally take whatever they can get.

good for you man. serious. :clap: :clap:

PearlOfAGirl · January 2010

Starfall wrote:

I don't enjoy sleeping around, period. My penis does not dictate how I should live my life.

I remember the one time I slept with some random woman I'd met that night, I woke up the next day feeling ... dirty, almost...like I had been emotionally or psychically drained. So never again. Every one since then I'd been really close to, friends or more serious relationships.

As for average looking men being better in bed... I feel that it would be self-serving of me to comment one way or the other, so I'll pass.

Since I'll be divorced soon, and having been with only one man for many years. It sounds so refreshing to hear that some men do have respect for women as well as themselves...
:thumbup: :clap: :clap: :clap: :thumbup:

DonJon · January 2010

My perspective on this.......

The last long term relationship I had was 5 years and I reckon I cheated on her with at least 10 other girls/ladies. At this stage I was aged in my mid 20's.

I to this day feel so incredibly guilty about this its not funny (5 years after breaking up). Maybe its an age thing I dont know but back then Id 'pick up' anywhere. Nowadays it hardly registers to me that there are single women in a bar/pub etc and I literally need a female to take her skirt off in front of me before I know she is interested.

In the 5 years Ive been single Ive had minimal action.....I tend to think I beat myself up about the cheating so much it changed my outlook/attitude. Weird hey!!!!!!!!!

I used to always be happy to have a few on the side. Now I just want one loving woman

Ill never cheat again

the wolf · January 2010

DonJon wrote:

My perspective on this.......

The last long term relationship I had was 5 years and I reckon I cheated on her with at least 10 other girls/ladies. At this stage I was aged in my mid 20's.

I to this day feel so incredibly guilty about this its not funny (5 years after breaking up). Maybe its an age thing I dont know but back then Id 'pick up' anywhere. Nowadays it hardly registers to me that there are single women in a bar/pub etc and I literally need a female to take her skirt off in front of me before I know she is interested.

In the 5 years Ive been single Ive had minimal action.....I tend to think I beat myself up about the cheating so much it changed my outlook/attitude. Weird hey!!!!!!!!!

I used to always be happy to have a few on the side. Now I just want one loving woman

Ill never cheat again

hey, at least you learned from it yeah ? no use in beating yourself up over it now.

good luck man. it will happen.

ZiggyStar · January 2010

DonJon wrote:

My perspective on this.......

The last long term relationship I had was 5 years and I reckon I cheated on her with at least 10 other girls/ladies. At this stage I was aged in my mid 20's.

I to this day feel so incredibly guilty about this its not funny (5 years after breaking up). Maybe its an age thing I dont know but back then Id 'pick up' anywhere. Nowadays it hardly registers to me that there are single women in a bar/pub etc and I literally need a female to take her skirt off in front of me before I know she is interested.

In the 5 years Ive been single Ive had minimal action.....I tend to think I beat myself up about the cheating so much it changed my outlook/attitude. Weird hey!!!!!!!!!

I used to always be happy to have a few on the side. Now I just want one loving woman

Ill never cheat again

Nawwww DonJon......give me a hug! :P I just spent 2 weeks touring with you in Nov/Dec and you fucking rock....when you find that one loving woman, she's going to be a fucking lucky chick! Seriously....

....but if she doesn't let you do the next tour with me, I may be forced to bash her....just giving you the heads up now!

Black-12 · January 2010

norm wrote:

ya know, it isn't like these guys sleep with other guys

there are plenty of women who like meaningless sex, no? :think:

Sometimes Norm, That is what college was for...

rhcpjam1029 · January 2010

the wolf wrote:

good for you man. serious. :clap: :clap:

haha and to you too my friend.

and scb...don't worry about it. well done with this one.

_ · January 2010

HeartShapedBox wrote:

Starfall wrote:

I don't enjoy sleeping around, period. My penis does not dictate how I should live my life.

I remember the one time I slept with some random woman I'd met that night, I woke up the next day feeling ... dirty, almost...like I had been emotionally or psychically drained. So never again. Every one since then I'd been really close to, friends or more serious relationships.

As for average looking men being better in bed... I feel that it would be self-serving of me to comment one way or the other, so I'll pass.

Since I'll be divorced soon, and having been with only one man for many years. It sounds so refreshing to hear that some men do have respect for women as well as themselves...
:thumbup: :clap: :clap: :clap: :thumbup:

I wholeheartedly agree! We need more men like Starfall and the wolf and rhcpjam1029 around here!

:thumbup:

Drowned Out · January 2010

scb wrote:

And I can't help but wonder if men (and I use that term loosely) REALLY derive as much pleasure from meaningless sex as they act like they do.

scb wrote:

it's the men, not the women, who are in pursuit of all this meaningless sex and who are advising other men that it's valuable. You hardly hear women giving that kind of advice.

I think it would be more appropriate to say that women "have" meaningless sex than that they "like" it. Just because they give in to men's advances, doesn't mean they really like it - certainly not enough to make it a life's pursuit.

scb wrote:

(I wonder, too, if some women picked this idea of making up for lost time up from male culture.)

scb wrote:

I could just do a better job myself without some hairy, sweaty man to please.)

wow. a perfectly timed norm quote from a while back fits well here:
"soulsinging where are you???"

At least you thru this in:

scb wrote:

These are all just total generalizations, of course, and I'm sure there are outliers on both sides.

you were just accused of...err....misterogyny just yesterday (two threads on the train)...you seemed to imply an anti-male sentiment in the male prostitution thread (which I tried to clarify and you ignored). Now this?
I think its ironic that you always seem to be championing female sexual health, and defending female sexual choice, yet your posts seem to have this undercurrent of negativity and pessimism towards men. I mean...the whole premise of this thread is...what? Your inclination to think that if men say we enjoy sleeping around, we must be lying?....we don't REALLY enjoy it because you don't enjoy it?

Anyway - I can't answer your thread until you define 'sleeping around'. How many women should I have nailed in the four years since my divorce in order to qualify as someone who sleeps around?
Remember, I'm a guy, so the number should be substantially higher than it would be for you

norm · January 2010

Black-12 wrote:

norm wrote:

ya know, it isn't like these guys sleep with other guys

there are plenty of women who like meaningless sex, no? :think:

Sometimes Norm, That is what college was for...

sometimes?? besides drinking and drugs, what else is college for? :? :P

norm · January 2010

Drowned Out wrote:

"soulsinging where are you???"

i think he let his membership lapse

but you're doing fine filling in!

:shock:

ZiggyStar · January 2010

Drowned Out wrote:

Remember, I'm a guy, so the number should be substantially higher than it would be for you

hahaha!!

I like this guy!! :thumbup:

ZiggyStar · January 2010

scb wrote:

I think it would be more appropriate to say that women "have" meaningless sex than that they "like" it. Just because they give in to men's advances, doesn't mean they really like it - certainly not enough to make it a life's pursuit.

Because we "give in" to men's advances?! WTF? And we have sex but it doesn't mean we like it!? You're making women sound like weak, brainless fuckwits.

Sometimes I'm embarrassed to be female.....seriously.....I hate being lumped in a group with other females....I should have been born a man.

DonJon · January 2010

ZiggyStar wrote:

DonJon wrote:

My perspective on this.......

The last long term relationship I had was 5 years and I reckon I cheated on her with at least 10 other girls/ladies. At this stage I was aged in my mid 20's.

I to this day feel so incredibly guilty about this its not funny (5 years after breaking up). Maybe its an age thing I dont know but back then Id 'pick up' anywhere. Nowadays it hardly registers to me that there are single women in a bar/pub etc and I literally need a female to take her skirt off in front of me before I know she is interested.

In the 5 years Ive been single Ive had minimal action.....I tend to think I beat myself up about the cheating so much it changed my outlook/attitude. Weird hey!!!!!!!!!

I used to always be happy to have a few on the side. Now I just want one loving woman

Ill never cheat again

Nawwww DonJon......give me a hug! :P I just spent 2 weeks touring with you in Nov/Dec and you fucking rock....when you find that one loving woman, she's going to be a fucking lucky chick! Seriously....

....but if she doesn't let you do the next tour with me, I may be forced to bash her....just giving you the heads up now!

I wont be marrying no women that doesnt let me drink beer, surf, follow Pearl Jam or done the odd scoobie

Yeah was telling my mates on the weekend that 2010 is the year for me to take the blinkers off and stop being standoffish towards chicks. Most of them have always said Ill meet Mrs glamour/intelligence and then they'd wanna leave their wives for mine :?

Maybe until this happens I should start sleeping around again

- get some practice in ya know 8-)

_ · January 2010

Drowned Out wrote:

scb wrote:

And I can't help but wonder if men (and I use that term loosely) REALLY derive as much pleasure from meaningless sex as they act like they do.

scb wrote:

it's the men, not the women, who are in pursuit of all this meaningless sex and who are advising other men that it's valuable. You hardly hear women giving that kind of advice.

I think it would be more appropriate to say that women "have" meaningless sex than that they "like" it. Just because they give in to men's advances, doesn't mean they really like it - certainly not enough to make it a life's pursuit.

scb wrote:

(I wonder, too, if some women picked this idea of making up for lost time up from male culture.)

scb wrote:

I could just do a better job myself without some hairy, sweaty man to please.)

wow. a perfectly timed norm quote from a while back fits well here:
"soulsinging where are you???"

At least you thru this in:

scb wrote:

These are all just total generalizations, of course, and I'm sure there are outliers on both sides.

you were just accused of...err....misterogyny just yesterday (two threads on the train)...you seemed to imply an anti-male sentiment in the male prostitution thread (which I tried to clarify and you ignored). Now this?
I think its ironic that you always seem to be championing female sexual health, and defending female sexual choice, yet your posts seem to have this undercurrent of negativity and pessimism towards men. I mean...the whole premise of this thread is...what? Your inclination to think that if men say we enjoy sleeping around, we must be lying?....we don't REALLY enjoy it because you don't enjoy it?

Anyway - I can't answer your thread until you define 'sleeping around'. How many women should I have nailed in the four years since my divorce in order to qualify as someone who sleeps around?
Remember, I'm a guy, so the number should be substantially higher than it would be for you

I think it's a legitimate question. A guy in another thread advised a younger guy to have sex with as many women as he could. I've heard that advice given multiple times on this board. Personally, I've found meaningless sex to be generally less physically pleasurable than meaningful sex. I wondered if the men giving this advice (or other men) ever felt the same way. I asked a simple question. The question was whether or not men enjoy sleeping around, not whether men who already said they enjoyed sleeping around were lying. Contrary to what you seem to believe, I don't stereotype all men based on the comments of a few. So the premise of this thread was to ask men how they feel, rather than making any assumptions. You'll note that several men have agreed with me.

As far as any undercurrent of negativity and pessimism toward men is concerned, I just report what I observe. Do you disagree? Have you seen as many posts of women telling younger women to sleep with as many men as they can as you've seen men giving that advice to other men?

You can define "sleeping around" as you'd like. Given the context, I obviously meant it to fall into the same category as the goal of having sex with as many women as possible, or sex purely for the sake of getting laid.

ZiggyStar · January 2010

DonJon wrote:

I wont be marrying no women that doesnt let me drink beer, surf, follow Pearl Jam or done the odd scoobie

And this is why I love you!

DonJon wrote:

Maybe until this happens I should start sleeping around again - get some practice in ya know 8-)

DJ, fuck around as much as you want while you can, I say! I've been fucking the same person for 11 years....get as many chicks in as you can, DonJon.....DO IT!!! Read my lips --- as -- many -- as -- you -- can -- while -- you -- can!

Good ones though....no shockers! You still need standards.

That's it -- tonight go find a chick, have sex and then report back here and tell us all whether you REALLY enjoyed it. 8-)

_ · January 2010

ZiggyStar wrote:

Sometimes I'm embarrassed to be female.

Hey! Finally something we can agree on!

Do men REALLY enjoy sleeping around?

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