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  • mindi
    mindi Posts: 1,862
    decides2dream wrote:
    what crazy talk.
    you mean you actually DISCUSS and share such thoughts with each other? wtf kinda aliens are you two?! ;)



    seriously....kudos to you both. being able to speak frankly about such things is paramount to happiness in a relationship imho. and to take it further...i don't think a marriage even needs the prerequisite of 'not meshing sexually'...to be open and/or receptive to the idea of sexual variety. all it truly requires is a strong belief in your love and commitment....and sure, the desire to try it out. definitely not for the faint of heart, but hell...i think the right couple, right circumstance...it could well be a PLUS. it ALL depends on your perspective...and absolutely, a JOINT decision. :)


    That is it exactly. We are committed and love each other deeply. We do not get along all the time, we do have a million disagreements. We were actually just discussing what others consider cheating, we consider "our" time. We both need to have our own time to be ourselves. He can't be dad/husband all the time and I can't be mom/wife all the time.
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  • Dylan Stone
    Dylan Stone Posts: 1,145
    catch22 wrote:
    am i one of the weirdo guys? what about it?

    Do you think you are? :rolleyes: ?
  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    mindi wrote:
    That is it exactly. We are committed and love each other deeply. We do not get along all the time, we do have a million disagreements. We were actually just discussing what others consider cheating, we consider "our" time. We both need to have our own time to be ourselves. He can't be dad/husband all the time and I can't be mom/wife all the time.


    EVERY couple...every relationship...is different. you cannot judge what you do not know or are not a part of, imo. i say, if it works for you and you both are HAPPY...than you do indeed have a successful relationship. just b/c it's not the 'norm'..or many others couldn't/wouldn't want the same...does not diminish what you share, and how you conduct your marriage...is yours. glad you both are happy. :)



    btw - it ain't cheatin' if you both know AND approve of it, eh? that's the whole point. :)
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  • mindi
    mindi Posts: 1,862
    decides2dream wrote:
    EVERY couple...every relationship...is different. you cannot judge what you do not know or are not a part of, imo. i say, if it works for you and you both are HAPPY...than you do indeed have a successful relationship. just b/c it's not the 'norm'..or many others couldn't/wouldn't want the same...does not diminish what you share, and how you conduct your marriage...is yours. glad you both are happy. :)



    btw - it ain't cheatin' if you both know AND approve of it, eh? that's the whole point. :)
    Oh and I so agree with this too! It does work for us. That is great, for us. Both parties do have to be on the same page.
    To 10c; "Your PJ tshirt should be tight enough to show you're a woman and loose enough to show you're a lady." - bionicamy
  • eyedclaar
    eyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    mindi wrote:
    Oh and I so agree with this too! It does work for us. That is great, for us. Both parties do have to be on the same page.

    So mindi, how you doin'?
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  • dunkman
    dunkman Posts: 19,646
    eyedclaar wrote:
    So mindi, how you doin'?

    it should be.. So mindi, who you doin?
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    mindi wrote:
    Oh and I so agree with this too! It does work for us. That is great, for us. Both parties do have to be on the same page.



    :D

    eyedclaar wrote:
    So mindi, how you doin'?


    :D


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  • mindi
    mindi Posts: 1,862
    dunkman wrote:
    it should be.. So mindi, who you doin?
    :D Just my husband recently.
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  • acoustic guy
    acoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    mindi wrote:
    We will always be together but we think it can work to have some all out wild sex with no strings attached with someone you aren't married to.
    Whats your number.........:cool:
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  • Dylan Stone
    Dylan Stone Posts: 1,145
    acoustic guy wrote:
    Whats your number.........:cool:

    oh come on now.

    you don't cheat and never will. ( :rolleyes: )

    why are you teasing the girl....
  • iluvcats
    iluvcats Posts: 5,153
    this is a dirty thread. When I joined this message board, I thought it was rated PG-13.

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  • MattCameronKicksButt
    MattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    So AG? Glad you started this thread? :p;)

    You're thinking about no strings attatched sex and instead you basicly get nagged at by a bunch of strangers. :D:)

    btw, I'm not taking sides, I hope your wife doesn't read this. (I) would be mighty pissed off! :)
  • in_hiding79
    in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    mindi wrote:
    :D Just my husband recently.


    Together forever and you both sleep around? :eek: That is an *open* marriage all right!!
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  • in_hiding79
    in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    acoustic guy wrote:
    Whats your number.........:cool:



    yeah right, like you wouldn't get scared and run the hell away from her....lol
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
  • acoustic guy
    acoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    in_hiding79 wrote:
    yeah right, like you wouldn't get scared and run the hell away from her....lol
    lol, The story about the chic I ran from is funny. Girls don't normally hit on guys the way guys hit on girls (normally). So one night I stopped by my local watering hole and I was wearing a suite. So I am drinking my beer talking to a friend and this pretty good looking girl is sitting next to me and says something about me looking damn good and that we should hang out that night. HOLY SHIT! If I was single, I would have tapped that ass, but instead I started to sweat, I chugged my beer and hit the road! lol
    Ahhhhh, I still think about that girl, I wonder how she is doing? :D
    Why did I get married? Oh yea I LOVE my wife. hehehe
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  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    acoustic guy wrote:
    Girls don't normally hit on guys the way guys do (normally).

    is this from personal experience?

    girls don't normally hit on guys the way guys do (normally)

    in your own personal opinion you're saying that

    guys hit on other guys differently than how girls hit on guys?

    am i understanding this correctly?
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  • acoustic guy
    acoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    chadwick wrote:
    acoustic guy wrote:
    Girls don't normally hit on guys the way guys do (normally).

    is this from personal experience?

    girls don't normally hit on guys the way guys do (normally)

    in your own personal opinion you're saying that

    guys hit on other guys differently than how girls hit on guys?

    am i understanding this correctly?
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  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    holy shit, this thread is still going?

    I agree, it got way too serious so I skipped a few of the pages. I may even be a bit guilty of taking it a bit too seriously but only because, as I've said, women are capable of thinking and behaving the same way. If you get to play, so do I....fair is fair.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • acoustic guy
    acoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    Whizbang wrote:
    so do I....fair is fair.

    You the heck are you "The Legend of Billy Jean"?
    LOL Anyone??? Anyone???
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  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    acoustic guy wrote:
    You the heck are you "The Legend of Billy Jean"?
    LOL Anyone??? Anyone???

    a legend...perhaps... ;) hehehe.....
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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