I know this is a double standard but.....

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  • catch22catch22 Posts: 1,081
    maybe it's a young, single guy thing. i know my husband LOVES when i want to know what's on his mind...and vice versa. we both willingly ASK...and share. in fact, the other night this thread inspired a very inspired discussion. ;)

    someone earlier made mention...i think trailer? about being in a long, commited relationship being the most probable way for such exchanges to occur. i DO believe it is very possible with newer relationships, just depends on those involved...but i will say, overall...i agree. that well-established trust and intimacy.....and keeping up the variety.....just adds to more trust and intimacy...and sure, racy passion and fun. it really is a win-win situation, and amazing how much you can surprise yourself, and your partner...and how much 'new'..and exciting, fun things you can learn, share, experiement, etc...with someone sooo long a part of your life.

    btw - the title would not get one banned. whizbang is simply being appropriate in an ALL-ages forum and not putting a title easily looked up, and possibly ordered...in the hands of minors who really should not be reading, or accessing such. how novel, someone respecting the board guidelines eh? ;)

    that's probably a good point. might be easier to be that open in a longer-term relationship. in the new one, got to be careful you dont give the impression you're a pervert or ready to bolt the second something more promising comes along.

    if you or whiz sees this, mind pm'ing me that title? i'm curious, and have a borders coupon still ;)
    and like that... he's gone.
  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    Married should be able to sleep with other women.
    Just for the sex, hardcore sex with no strings.
    We are not built to only be with one girl. I am faithful and I always will be but FUCK!! Its hard man. (No pun intended).
    My wife is gonna whip my ass if she reads this.

    who says you can't? i'm sure there are some men who like to only fuck one woman, and i'm sure there are men who are like you....each to their own, so what you need to do is talk to your wife and explain to her that you need to do some swinging..........
  • audiodaveaudiodave Posts: 1,623
    I just want it to be okay to sleep with other women! LOL Isnt this what every guy wants? :D
    No. No it isn't. Believe it or not, some men actually have respect for women. A novel concept, I know.

    And before you jump to your defense by saying that you're joking, don't bother. We both know that you're serious about this, and while you may only be talking about it at the moment, if you really believe in this BS that you've written, you really can't be far away from acting on it.

    I wish I had the balls to do that. I tell you what, if I knew then what I know now, I would have cheated on every girlfriend I had and banged every girl that wanted me. Every single one.....BANG'EM ALL I SAY! B/c once your married, its all over. The same cereal forever. :( LOL Kidding..........

    kinda.

    So, cheating on your girlfriend takes balls does it? If you cheat on every girlfriend you have then you don't deserve the balls you were born with and should have them surgically removed. I'm sure the women you cheat on would like to get their hands on them (I know, you didn't cheat on them, but just saying you wish you had is disgusting enough). And if you cheat on EVERY girlfriend, and then get married, that means you cheated on the woman you married. Just because you have a piece of paper that says your married, all of a sudden it becomes wrong to cheat? A marriage certificate shouldn't be the reason you don't cheat. Love and respect for the woman you're with should, and you can have that without that little piece of paper. If you wanted to be able to sleep with a load of different women, why did you get married?

    I agree with chadwick. You can't have much respect for your wife to come on here and talk about this kind of thing. I'd be interested to see what she would say if she read it, or if she knew you thought you should be allowed to sleep with as many women as you want while she has to stay faithful.
    BUT, as a man I want many many women! Thats just what I want. I want you and her and her and her and her. Oh and that hotty from Texas! ;)
    Thats the way men are and if they say they don't they are totally full of shit!
    Sorry married women but your husband feels the same way.

    I love the way people think they can speak for an entire gender. You may want to fuck everything that moves, but not every man does. I'm not denying that some men MAY want this, but not all of them. Like I said earlier, some men have respect for women and for the relationship they are in. There's only one person here who is full of shit and that's you.

    Why should men be allowed to sleep with other women? Because they can have sex without forming an emotional attachment? You may be able to do so, but it doesn't mean all men are the same. And while some women may NOT be able to sleep with a man without forming an emotional attachment, i'm sure they are plenty of women who can do this.

    You, and by the look of it a lot of other people, may seem to think this is a harmless and fun thread, but I think it's very disrespectful to your wife and your marriage to come onto a message board and post this kind of thing. Cover it up by saying you're joking if you must, but I don't buy it. I only hope that Mrs acoustic guy decides to take a look on the PJ forums and see just what her husband has been saying.
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  • catch22catch22 Posts: 1,081
    audiodave wrote:
    No. No it isn't. Believe it or not, some men actually have respect for women. A novel concept, I know.

    And before you jump to your defense by saying that you're joking, don't bother. We both know that you're serious about this, and while you may only be talking about it at the moment, if you really believe in this BS that you've written, you really can't be far away from acting on it.

    So, cheating on your girlfriend takes balls does it? If you cheat on every girlfriend you have then you don't deserve the balls you were born with and should have them surgically removed. I'm sure the women you cheat on would like to get their hands on them (I know, you didn't cheat on them, but just saying you wish you had is disgusting enough). And if you cheat on EVERY girlfriend, and then get married, that means you cheated on the woman you married. Just because you have a piece of paper that says your married, all of a sudden it becomes wrong to cheat? A marriage certificate shouldn't be the reason you don't cheat. Love and respect for the woman you're with should, and you can have that without that little piece of paper. If you wanted to be able to sleep with a load of different women, why did you get married?

    I agree with chadwick. You can't have much respect for your wife to come on here and talk about this kind of thing. I'd be interested to see what she would say if she read it, or if she knew you thought you should be allowed to sleep with as many women as you want while she has to stay faithful.

    I love the way people think they can speak for an entire gender. You may want to fuck everything that moves, but not every man does. I'm not denying that some men MAY want this, but not all of them. Like I said earlier, some men have respect for women and for the relationship they are in. There's only one person here who is full of shit and that's you.

    Why should men be allowed to sleep with other women? Because they can have sex without forming an emotional attachment? You may be able to do so, but it doesn't mean all men are the same. And while some women may NOT be able to sleep with a man without forming an emotional attachment, i'm sure they are plenty of women who can do this.

    You, and by the look of it a lot of other people, may seem to think this is a harmless and fun thread, but I think it's very disrespectful to your wife and your marriage to come onto a message board and post this kind of thing. Cover it up by saying you're joking if you must, but I don't buy it. I only hope that Mrs acoustic guy decides to take a look on the PJ forums and see just what her husband has been saying.

    wow. somebody's either married and hasn't been laid in a long time, or has a bad case of 'just friends' syndrome! :)
    and like that... he's gone.
  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    YOU PEOPLE ARE FUCKING HIGH!
    FUCKING NUTS AND HIGH!
    I COULD GIVE TWO SHITS ON HOW YOU JUDGE ME. FUCK YOU. HAHAHA!
    There is no backpeddling here. Never once! I always try to joke and keep it light b/c its a fun room USUALLY! You women and Chadwick (who probably could never get a girl if he tried so he teams up with the women b/c he has no fucking balls) turned this into a serious thread.
    Go back and read my first post. The discussion I wanted to have was silly and fun not really saying I was gonna screw around. Thats not backpeddleing thats the truth assholes and you had to fucking ruin it.
    You people need to come to grips with your own insecurities and get a fucking life.
    Hahahaha the shit some of you write on here is funny as hell.
    sad fuckers ahahahahahaha sad.
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  • audiodaveaudiodave Posts: 1,623
    catch22 wrote:
    wow. somebody's either married and hasn't been laid in a long time, or has a bad case of 'just friends' syndrome! :)

    Not so, in either case, trust me.
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  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    audiodave wrote:
    No. No it isn't. Believe it or not, some men actually have respect for women. A novel concept, I know.

    And before you jump to your defense by saying that you're joking, don't bother. We both know that you're serious about this, and while you may only be talking about it at the moment, if you really believe in this BS that you've written, you really can't be far away from acting on it.




    So, cheating on your girlfriend takes balls does it? If you cheat on every girlfriend you have then you don't deserve the balls you were born with and should have them surgically removed. I'm sure the women you cheat on would like to get their hands on them (I know, you didn't cheat on them, but just saying you wish you had is disgusting enough). And if you cheat on EVERY girlfriend, and then get married, that means you cheated on the woman you married. Just because you have a piece of paper that says your married, all of a sudden it becomes wrong to cheat? A marriage certificate shouldn't be the reason you don't cheat. Love and respect for the woman you're with should, and you can have that without that little piece of paper. If you wanted to be able to sleep with a load of different women, why did you get married?

    I agree with chadwick. You can't have much respect for your wife to come on here and talk about this kind of thing. I'd be interested to see what she would say if she read it, or if she knew you thought you should be allowed to sleep with as many women as you want while she has to stay faithful.



    I love the way people think they can speak for an entire gender. You may want to fuck everything that moves, but not every man does. I'm not denying that some men MAY want this, but not all of them. Like I said earlier, some men have respect for women and for the relationship they are in. There's only one person here who is full of shit and that's you.

    Why should men be allowed to sleep with other women? Because they can have sex without forming an emotional attachment? You may be able to do so, but it doesn't mean all men are the same. And while some women may NOT be able to sleep with a man without forming an emotional attachment, i'm sure they are plenty of women who can do this.

    You, and by the look of it a lot of other people, may seem to think this is a harmless and fun thread, but I think it's very disrespectful to your wife and your marriage to come onto a message board and post this kind of thing. Cover it up by saying you're joking if you must, but I don't buy it. I only hope that Mrs acoustic guy decides to take a look on the PJ forums and see just what her husband has been saying.

    Bahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha give me a break please hahahahahaha!
    Of course I wan tto sleep with many women and want it to be okay. How does that mean I have or will? I am saying it in a lite manner goober hahahaha! Man this is toooooo much. I can't stop laughing at my desk ahahahahahahaha!
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  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    YOU PEOPLE ARE FUCKING HIGH!
    FUCKING NUTS AND HIGH!
    I COULD GIVE TWO SHITS ON HOW YOU JUDGE ME. FUCK YOU. HAHAHA!
    There is no backpeddling here. Never once! I always try to joke and keep it light b/c its a fun room USUALLY! You women and Chadwick (who probably could never get a girl if he tried so he teams up with the women b/c he has no fucking balls) turned this into a serious thread.
    Go back and read my first post. The discussion I wanted to have was silly and fun not really saying I was gonna screw around. Thats not backpeddleing thats the truth assholes and you had to fucking ruin it.
    You people need to come to grips with your own insecurities and get a fucking life.
    Hahahaha the shit some of you write on here is funny as hell.
    sad fuckers ahahahahahaha sad.

    just great. I find your threads amusing and now you are going to get banned.
    Just my prediction.
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  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    iluvcats wrote:
    just great. I find your threads amusing and now you are going to get banned.
    Just my prediction.
    Why? I should not get banned. People not agreeing with me should not get me banned. I have been hearing shit in here for a few days now. I am just fighting back. Chadwick keeps saying "fuck him" about me so WTF?
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  • AllieAllie Posts: 2,908
    Married should be able to sleep with other women.
    Just for the sex, hardcore sex with no strings.
    We are not built to only be with one girl. I am faithful and I always will be but Its hard man. (No pun intended).
    My wife is gonna whip my ass if she reads this.

    this is the 1st post, AG. Nothing in it comes across as light hearted or joking. If you were 'joking' you should say LOL or have smilies or whatnot. Then you proceed to talk about why you want to do so and spill personal details about your wife.

    and now you don't like it when people call you out on it.
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  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    Allie wrote:
    this is the 1st post, AG. Nothing in it comes across as light hearted or joking. If you were 'joking' you should say LOL or have smilies or whatnot. Then you proceed to talk about why you want to do so and spill personal details about your wife.

    and now you don't like it when people call you out on it.
    Call me on it all you want. ;):):D hows that for smiles?
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  • catch22 wrote:
    wow. somebody's either married and hasn't been laid in a long time, or has a bad case of 'just friends' syndrome! :)

    wow... that's quite something to say to someone you don't know.

    Here, ask yourself, if you'd been on this board more than a month, would you really be saying that?

    Anyone who's spent anything more than a couple of months on here know that Dave and myself are together. We're not married and certainly not just friends.

    Do some research before you write sweeping posts in future.
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  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    Allie wrote:
    this is the 1st post, AG. Nothing in it comes across as light hearted or joking. If you were 'joking' you should say LOL or have smilies or whatnot. Then you proceed to talk about why you want to do so and spill personal details about your wife.

    and now you don't like it when people call you out on it.
    It also does not say I am a cheater does it?
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  • saveuplifesaveuplife Posts: 1,173
    saveuplife wrote:
    From the way I took the thread, he was jokingly saying he thinks it would be good to allow this. Then a bunch of people got their collective panties in a bunch. It's not for real, he didn't do anything, so please settle. This is not a law that's being passed through congress.... it's a f'ing message board. So, you have nothing to worry about. Chillax.

    Please chill out people. And stop judging the OP.
  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    YOU PEOPLE ARE FUCKING HIGH!
    FUCKING NUTS AND HIGH!
    I COULD GIVE TWO SHITS ON HOW YOU JUDGE ME. FUCK YOU. HAHAHA!
    There is no backpeddling here. Never once! I always try to joke and keep it light b/c its a fun room USUALLY! You women and Chadwick (who probably could never get a girl if he tried so he teams up with the women b/c he has no fucking balls) turned this into a serious thread.
    Go back and read my first post. The discussion I wanted to have was silly and fun not really saying I was gonna screw around. Thats not backpeddleing thats the truth assholes and you had to fucking ruin it.
    You people need to come to grips with your own insecurities and get a fucking life.
    Hahahaha the shit some of you write on here is funny as hell.
    sad fuckers ahahahahahaha sad.

    well then, answer me did you try out swinging? you never know this could be the start of greater things, i.e you both might discover your dark fetish fantasies ;)
  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    saveuplife wrote:
    Please chill out people. And stop judging the OP.
    Thaks for saying that but let them say what they want. If by saying this crap to me helps them with their own demons then by all means let it fly. They must be dealing with being dumped or sheated on one time in their lives and they need to trash me I guess. Why? no idea but I like this board and the peole here for the most part and if it helps them more then a shrink does then by all means let it fly people. ;)
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  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Call me on it all you want. ;):):D hows that for smiles?
    Well this is a topic that's definitely gonna hit a nerve. Like I said before - thoughts are just thoughts and I think what matters is what you do. You may know without a doubt that you would never cheat on your wife, but other people on here may not know you that well, and they may have had very different experiences than you have - so yeah - people are definitely gonna react to what you said about wishing you had cheated in the past, etc. However, I don't think you should be debated or judged - debating the topic is a whole other story.
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  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    genie wrote:
    well then, answer me did you try out swinging? you never know this could be the start of greater things, i.e you both might discover your dark fetish fantasies ;)
    I am not into that. That is not a marriage. Way fucking funny that you think I would be into that b/c of me saying men should be able to have many women. Hahaha! WTF? Twisted thoughts in your head people.
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  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    Thaks for saying that but let them say what they want. If by saying this crap to me helps them with their own demons then by all means let it fly. They must be dealing with being dumped or sheated on one time in their lives and they need to trash me I guess. Why? no idea but I like this board and the peole here for the most part and if it helps them more then a shrink does then by all means let it fly people. ;)

    bad publicity can be a good publicity too
  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    saveuplife wrote:
    Please chill out people. And stop judging the OP.
    Agreed. And stop judging anyone on this thread or their experiences, current relationship status, etc. Let's stick to the topic, cause it's an interesting one and leave the personal judgment out of it.
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    However, I don't think you should be debated or judged - debating the topic is a whole other story.
    I agree.
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  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    genie wrote:
    bad publicity can be a good publicity too
    LOL hell yea, I have not seen you here in a while. How are things Jenie?
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  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    I am not into that. That is not a marriage. Way fucking funny that you think I would be into that b/c of me saying men should be able to have many women. Hahaha! WTF? Twisted thoughts in your head people.

    thank you, i am twisted and said it in other threads before, and i'm only young too...however i've learned sometimes the things you think you'll never do/or never like........and then when you eventually experience them you find out that you enjoy those things.....i'm just giving you some kinky ideas that's all :D
  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    genie wrote:
    thank you, i am twisted and said it in other threads before, and i'm only young too...however i've learned sometimes the things you think you'll never do/or never like........and then when you eventually experience them you find out that you enjoy those things.....i'm just giving you some kinky ideas that's all :D
    I hope that does not mean drugs. Trust me, stay away. lol...but really.
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  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    LOL hell yea, I have not seen you here in a while. How are things Jenie?

    i'm ok, however it's genie not Jenie :) just been working like mad and going out like mad as well, i'm enjoying my day staying in at home today
  • catch22catch22 Posts: 1,081
    wow... that's quite something to say to someone you don't know.

    Here, ask yourself, if you'd been on this board more than a month, would you really be saying that?

    Anyone who's spent anything more than a couple of months on here know that Dave and myself are together. We're not married and certainly not just friends.

    Do some research before you write sweeping posts in future.

    man, i even put the smiley in and still people get all bent outta shape. i guess the "i respect women so much more than most guys" act does it for ya? ;)
    and like that... he's gone.
  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    catch22 wrote:
    man, i even put the smiley in and still people get all bent outta shape. i guess the "i respect women so much more than most guys" act does it for ya? ;)
    LMAO!
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  • acoustic guyacoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    genie wrote:
    i'm ok, however it's genie not Jenie :) just been working like mad and going out like mad as well, i'm enjoying my day staying in at home today
    hahaha sorry girl.
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  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    I hope that does not mean drugs. Trust me, stay away. lol...but really.

    nah, i'm wise enough to know not to fool around with any serious drugs, i was literally talking about sex and kinky things, because with sex you know whatever it is, it's not going to kill you but you also know that you wouldn't be into the sort of stuff that you're now if you hadn't had some kinky-minded exes. just saying my ex boyfriends had a bit of an impact into my sexuality, and i don't know whether to like them for that or not!
  • Acoustic guy - I'm not gonna call you an asshole or get insulting and personal, i'm just gonna give my opinion on this. You can say what you like but I can't let this go without getting my 2 cents in.

    I've read the posts that you've made in this thread. I'll admit, they've made my blood boil. I don't understand how you think you can speak for all men? :confused: I've known plenty of men who have been happily in relationships and/or married for years and not once even indulged the thought of fucking as many women as possible. Yes, amazingly enough, these people do exist.
    I know you're a hot blooded male or whatever :rolleyes: but posting about cheating on your wife on a public internet message board seems a little obnoxious. It's like taunting her without her knowing, like rubbing salt into the wound. Many women across the world are insecure enough about themselves without guys like you writing about how "as great as my wife is, I wanna bang me some new pussy huh huh huh...". Ask yourself, honestly how you think your wife would react if she read some of the things you've written?
    I'm not gonna accuse you of anything, at the end of the day, I don't know you apart from this internet persona you portray but I am gonna say that I'm disappointed that you think a subject like this can be "light hearted and funny". Many people's relationships are destroyed by things like this.
    I can honestly say that were Dave to write a thread like this and I found it, I would be devestated. I'd be asking many questions and my self esteem would hit rock bottom... you certainly wouldn't just be on the couch for a week.

    As for the men having hardcore no strings sex outside of marriage and women not? C'mon... I know you said double standards but fuck man, that's ridiculous. I can only assume that you said that because you know how you'd react if you found your wife having thoughts like this. You say you're a good husband but you post things like this? Not exactly 'good husband' material in my eyes... besides, shouldn't it be your wife who decides if you're a good husband or not?

    I'm hoping that you love your wife dearly and that you probably did write this thread as a joke but it now seems to me that you've said too much and you can't back track for fear of losing face. Now, I don't know if you wrote this because you're considering cheating on your wife or if you were just throwing an idea in the melting pot to see how people's would react... whichever it is, it's not funny.

    I can pretty much guess how you're gonna react, so laugh away. But at least i'm safe in the knowledge that I know I wouldn't post about my husband or marriage like this and that I have no issues within my relationship.

    I suggest you start talking to your wife.
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