I know this is a double standard but.....

saveuplife wrote:

The last two pages are entirely too serious. The guy is obviously not going to cheat on his wife. He's just like "ALL" other guys. Yes, even the magical guys that some of you lady jammers married. We are all human. We all have desires (even if they are well hidden). And when a guy sees a hot chick walking down the street, he may think to himself.... wow I'd like to do her. That doesn't mean he would. Girls, obviously, may think the same.

Bottom line, if he was presented with an open invite from his wife to bang any chicka he wanted, I'm betting he wouldn't. I know that I wouldn't. But, that doesn't mean I (he) don't think it would be fun (hence the point of the thread). I think it would have a cost (hurting my wife) and that cost is not worth it.

From the way I took the thread, he was jokingly saying he thinks it would be good to allow this. Then a bunch of people got their collective panties in a bunch. It's not for real, he didn't do anything, so please settle. This is not a law that's being passed through congress.... it's a f'ing message board. So, you have nothing to worry about. Chillax.

You're taking this way too seriously. Relax...

A lot of guys marry women that don't really LOVE sex...

Because they are not the ones you marry.

Why? Because the men are too insecure to believe that the women who REALLY love sex would ever be faithful to them... because they are not secure enough with their own manhood. They don't believe a sexually charged woman could ever really be satisfied by them and keep just coming back to them for more and more and more...

They want a woman that they think will "always be there" for them and in turn wind up with a woman who is not really "there for them"? in one of the most important ways of all.

If you want a woman who can get REALLY freaky with you...why wouldn't you marry one of those?

This baffles me.

I think i answered my question a few lines up.

However... i still find the phenomenon amazing.

Collin wrote:

Calmer than you are.

Impressive retort.

saveuplife wrote:

Impressive retort.

Actually it was pretty good if he's quoting what I think he's quoting.

decides2dream wrote:

huh?
i am as relaxed as could be.
and what exactly in my post required a thesaurus?

this whole thread is messing around...and that's cool. just don't get your panties in a bunch if some of us enjy discussing it seriously.


it does indeed go both ways.

awesome

and yep, i didn't see one speck of your message that required such a book
as a thesaurus to help guide your wording.

GTFLYGIRL wrote:

A lot of guys marry women that don't really LOVE sex...

Because they are not the ones you marry.

Why? Because the men are too insecure to believe that the women who REALLY love sex would ever be faithful to them... because they are not secure enough with their own manhood. They don't believe a sexually charged woman could ever really be satisfied by them and keep just coming back to them for more and more and more...

They want a woman that they think will "always be there" for them and in turn wind up with a woman who is not really "there for them"? in one of the most important ways of all.

If you want a woman who can get REALLY freaky with you...why wouldn't you marry one of those?

This baffles me.

I think i answered my question a few lines up.

However... i still find the phenomenon amazing.

this is remarkable insight! Well done!

Trailer wrote:

iluvcats!! I haven't seen you around here in a little while.. hope everything's good!:D

yes everything is fine, thank you.

Collin wrote:

Of course I'm quoting what you think I'm quoting, unless you think I'm quoting something I'm not quoting...

Still water runs deep, my friend. Still water runs deep....

GTFLYGIRL wrote:

A lot of guys marry women that don't really LOVE sex...

Because they are not the ones you marry.

Why? Because the men are too insecure to believe that the women who REALLY love sex would ever be faithful to them... because they are not secure enough with their own manhood. They don't believe a sexually charged woman could ever really be satisfied by them and keep just coming back to them for more and more and more...

They want a woman that they think will "always be there" for them and in turn wind up with a woman who is not really "there for them"? in one of the most important ways of all.

If you want a woman who can get REALLY freaky with you...why wouldn't you marry one of those?

This baffles me.

I think i answered my question a few lines up.

However... i still find the phenomenon amazing.

precisely for the reasons you listed. we know how much we want to bang other girls, and it's spooky to think she might be as tempted as we are for 2 reasons:

1. it is WAY easier for a girl to get laid. period. so the wife would have 10 times as many opportunities as we did. if guys had as many opportunities as any reasonably attractive woman does, they'd all cheat. but we have to make the moves most of the time, so cheating is just too much work and too dangerous. not so for a woman. so a freak in bed is a dangerous bet, because not only is she as horny and wild as we are, she can act on that much more easily than we can. makes our position very precarious.

2. it is much harder to please women sexually, and if she's as freaky in bed and eager for new things as a guy, she's going to find them and quite possibly find a guy to leave us for. women are all pretty much the same for sex, like dante says in clerks. we might stray, but we'll come back. but as i said earlier, if the woman is a freak in bed and strays and finds a guy who can one-up her man, then she's going to leave the guy in the cold.

guys know deep down we are animals. if we have a woman who might be as bad as we are, that's not a reassuring thought. we only stay faithful because we're afraid of your anger, and we know that even if she cheated, we'd somehow end up the bad guy for it in any argument. we're outgunned!

catch22 wrote:

precisely for the reasons you listed. we know how much we want to bang other girls, and it's spooky to think she might be as tempted as we are for 2 reasons:

1. it is WAY easier for a girl to get laid. period. so the wife would have 10 times as many opportunities as we did. if guys had as many opportunities as any reasonably attractive woman does, they'd all cheat. but we have to make the moves most of the time, so cheating is just too much work and too dangerous. not so for a woman. so a freak in bed is a dangerous bet, because not only is she as horny and wild as we are, she can act on that much more easily than we can. makes our position very precarious.

2. it is much harder to please women sexually, and if she's as freaky in bed and eager for new things as a guy, she's going to find them and quite possibly find a guy to leave us for. women are all pretty much the same for sex, like dante says in clerks. we might stray, but we'll come back. but as i said earlier, if the woman is a freak in bed and strays and finds a guy who can one-up her man, then she's going to leave the guy in the cold.

guys know deep down we are animals. if we have a woman who might be as bad as we are, that's not a reassuring thought. we only stay faithful because we're afraid of your anger, and we know that even if she cheated, we'd somehow end up the bad guy for it in any argument. we're outgunned!

Just 'cos a women is a freak in the bedroom, does that make her more likely to stray from a commited relationship? I'm not sure thats true. If a woman is going to stray 'cos of sex, then she was gonna do it anyway.