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  • Dylan Stone
    Dylan Stone Posts: 1,145
    catch22 wrote:
    1. it is WAY easier for a girl to get laid. period. so the wife would have 10 times as many opportunities as we did. if guys had as many opportunities as any reasonably attractive woman does, they'd all cheat. but we have to make the moves most of the time, so cheating is just too much work and too dangerous. not so for a woman. so a freak in bed is a dangerous bet, because not only is she as horny and wild as we are, she can act on that much more easily than we can. makes our position very precarious.

    2. it is much harder to please women sexually, and if she's as freaky in bed and eager for new things as a guy, she's going to find them and quite possibly find a guy to leave us for. women are all pretty much the same for sex, like dante says in clerks. we might stray, but we'll come back. but as i said earlier, if the woman is a freak in bed and strays and finds a guy who can one-up her man, then she's going to leave the guy in the cold.

    I find that logic totally skewed.

    BECAUSE.... Most all women have a freaky side. They are just waiting for the right man to bring it out.

    If the sex is hum drum for you...

    It is for them too.

    Women with hum drum sex lives end up cheating and/or leaving.

    Sexually satisfied women much more likely to

    1. Not stray

    and

    2. Stay.
  • catch22
    catch22 Posts: 1,081
    GTFLYGIRL wrote:
    I find that logic totally skewed.

    of course it is. i'm not saying it makes sense. i'm just explaining why guys get nervous about committing to girls that seem as horny and sex addicted as we are ;) because we know what we're capable of and we sure as hell don't want to marry someone who is the same! we know we're not a safe bet :)
    and like that... he's gone.
  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    catch22 wrote:
    precisely for the reasons you listed. we know how much we want to bang other girls, and it's spooky to think she might be as tempted as we are for 2 reasons:

    1. it is WAY easier for a girl to get laid. period. so the wife would have 10 times as many opportunities as we did. if guys had as many opportunities as any reasonably attractive woman does, they'd all cheat. but we have to make the moves most of the time, so cheating is just too much work and too dangerous. not so for a woman. so a freak in bed is a dangerous bet, because not only is she as horny and wild as we are, she can act on that much more easily than we can. makes our position very precarious.

    2. it is much harder to please women sexually, and if she's as freaky in bed and eager for new things as a guy, she's going to find them and quite possibly find a guy to leave us for. women are all pretty much the same for sex, like dante says in clerks. we might stray, but we'll come back. but as i said earlier, if the woman is a freak in bed and strays and finds a guy who can one-up her man, then she's going to leave the guy in the cold.

    guys know deep down we are animals. if we have a woman who might be as bad as we are, that's not a reassuring thought. we only stay faithful because we're afraid of your anger, and we know that even if she cheated, we'd somehow end up the bad guy for it in any argument. ;) we're outgunned!


    i strongly disagree
    but that's nothing new :)
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  • Dylan Stone
    Dylan Stone Posts: 1,145
    catch22 wrote:
    of course it is. i'm not saying it makes sense. i'm just explaining why guys get nervous about committing to girls that seem as horny and sex addicted as we are ;) because we know what we're capable of and we sure as hell don't want to marry someone who is the same! we know we're not a safe bet :)

    Yeah... but the chick who isn't getting what she really wants deep down (all the pun in the world INTENDED)... well there's a good chance she will eventually realize that and cheat and/or split. Probably both.... cheat with the guy that can really do it for her and then leave the guy for THAT guy.

    So what makes you guys think that a sexually SATISFIED woman is more likely to cheat than an UNSATISFIED woman?

    The woman that loves to fuck you more than life itself is more than likely going to stick to you better than the one who is close to indifferent about fucking you!

    Men=silly. :rolleyes:
  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    seriously, some of you folks slay me with your thoughts on this stuff.
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  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    Sex is the foundation of most adult relationships. If it's humdrum and boring then it's usually down to lack of effort and imagination from BOTH parties. I think that some men are too eager to blame this on their partners. They need to take the initiative to change things themselves. Surprise your ladies boys :)
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  • catch22
    catch22 Posts: 1,081
    GTFLYGIRL wrote:
    Yeah... but the chick who isn't getting what she really wants deep down (all the pun in the world INTENDED)... well there's a good chance she will eventually realize that and cheat and/or split. Probably both.... cheat with the guy that can really do it for her and then leave the guy for THAT guy.

    So what makes you guys think that a sexually UNSATISFIED woman is more likely to cheat than a SATISFIED woman?

    The woman that loves to fuck you more than life itself is more than likely going to stick to you better than the one who is close to indifferent about fucking you!

    Men=silly. :rolleyes:

    that's the point. guys know no one woman will ever totally satisfy them and they'll always wonder about other girls. so a girl as horny as us is a risk because are we won't always satisfy her forever. it's human nature. the difference is, it's more work for a guy to cheat and you could end up with a chick who gets possessive and wrecks your marriage. women can wave their finger and find a guy to fuck them. so it's a huge risk with a high-libido woman. one bad week on your part and you could lose her forever. a lot of pressure to always have the a-game. thus, safer to have a girl who is just grateful to have the week off.
    and like that... he's gone.
  • eyedclaar
    eyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    urbanhippie wrote:
    Sex is the foundation of most adult relationships. If it's humdrum and boring then it's usually down to lack of effort and imagination from BOTH parties. I think that some men are too eager to blame this on their partners. They need to take the initiative to change things themselves. Surprise your ladies boys :)

    For the record, don't tie a spider to your junk and try to act out any Miss Muffet fantasies. That didn't go over well at all.
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  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    eyedclaar wrote:
    For the record, don't tie a spider to your junk and try to act out any Miss Muffet fantasies. That didn't go over well at all.
    :eek:
    I said surprise her. Not scar her for life! :p
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  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    urbanhippie wrote:
    Surprise your ladies boys :)

    that's the thing right there.
    boys trying to surprise, ect, ect, their ladies.
    men?

    hhmm interesting isn't?
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  • saveuplife
    saveuplife Posts: 1,173
    Anyone else think that there's a slight difference between men's desires for sexual variety and womens? I think men, on average, have a bit higher desire for sexual variety. This is probably due to conditioning over the past 1000 years or so. Up until recently, women have been the family types, while men hunt/gather/provide. With this conditioning in mind, it makes sense that women are more content when they find one person who can F their brains out, while men want to find another and another.

    Most of the women in this thread keep saying the same thing:

    1. Change up your love life to spice it up
    2. The reason you may want it elsewhere may be due to your own bedroom abilities (look in the mirror)
    3. If you really want that, tell them

    This is all true, I suppose. But, maybe, just maybe, it's because men just want variety... plain and simple. It's not the love making itself. It's not the woman's fault. It's not the man's fault. It just is what it is.
  • catch22
    catch22 Posts: 1,081
    saveuplife wrote:
    Anyone else think that there's a slight difference between men's desires for sexual variety and womens? I think men, on average, have a bit higher desire for sexual variety. This is probably due to conditioning over the past 1000 years or so. Up until recently, women have been the family types, while men hunt/gather/provide. With this conditioning in mind, it makes sense that women are more content when they find one person who can F their brains out, while men want to find another and another.

    Most of the women in this thread keep saying the same thing:

    1. Change up your love life to spice it up
    2. The reason you may want it elsewhere may be due to your own bedroom abilities (look in the mirror)
    3. If you really want that, tell them

    This is all true, I suppose. But, maybe, just maybe, it's because men just want variety... plain and simple. It's not the love making itself. It's not the woman's fault. It's not the man's fault. It just is what it is.

    don't you dare say this. women hate to hear that it might be more than just trying a new position or a new outfit. sometimes we want a new face, body, and... other stuff. nothing personal ladies. it's evolution baby. they like to think they can keep us faithful just by buying a new pair of lingerie.

    as to surprising your girl, in my experience they hate this. they act like you're a pervert.
    and like that... he's gone.
  • iluvcats
    iluvcats Posts: 5,153
    saveuplife wrote:
    But, maybe, just maybe, it's because men just want variety... plain and simple. It's not the love making itself. It's not the woman's fault. It's not the man's fault. It just is what it is.

    Is that why so many men are musicians? My friend said that all musicians fool around.
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  • saveuplife
    saveuplife Posts: 1,173
    catch22 wrote:
    don't you dare say this. women hate to hear that it might be more than just trying a new position or a new outfit. sometimes we want a new face, body, and... other stuff. nothing personal ladies. it's evolution baby. they like to think they can keep us faithful just by buying a new pair of lingerie.

    as to surprising your girl, in my experience they hate this. they act like you're a pervert.

    Well, they are right. Men are perverts. Let's be honest here.
  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    catch22 wrote:
    sometimes we want a new face, body, and... other stuff.
    Sometimes girls want this too. And in my experience, most girls like surprises :)
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  • SENROCK
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    catch22 wrote:
    as to surprising your girl, in my experience they hate this. they act like you're a pervert.
    maybe it depends how you presented such acts. :D
    and nice pearl jam reference in there ;)
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  • iluvcats
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    urbanhippie wrote:
    Sometimes girls want this too. And in my experience, most girls like surprises :)

    like for your man to wear an eddie vedder mask during sex?
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  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    ahhhhh...stereotypes are fun. :)


    GTFgirl....excellent points, all round. thank you.
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  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    iluvcats wrote:
    like for your man to wear an eddie vedder mask during sex?
    I haven't asked......yet....
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  • acoustic guy
    acoustic guy Posts: 3,770
    15 pages? Get some sex yourselves will ya people? Wow lol
    Its funy how i never said anything here in a serious way and never got to personal about my personal sex life, yet many people in here have all the answers for me and they have already judged me......soooo fucking funny.
    Or maybe just sad. But like one of yuo said earlier, it is a fun topic to discuss since its no treally obout me anymore.
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