lump on your lymph node? updated: it's cancer.

Cinnamon Girl

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

The Dr. told him that this is mostly seen in smokers though my dad quit right before I was born, 28 yrs ago.

Exact same with my Dad (in-law). He quit 20ish years ago! It's just terrible because you can get so resentful of these "lucky" people who smoke their entire lives and don't ever get sick. Not helpful, but normal feelings I guess.

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

They played it down and kept saying things will be ok, I am thinking positive that they are... but if the Dr. referred them to an Oncologist already I think it's more serious then they let on.

They're sending him to the Oncologist because it's cancerous. No matter how serious it is he will be referred to an Oncologist. So please don't let that fact convince you that it's any worse than their letting on.

The most difficult part of these kind of situations is trying to not let your emotions overwhelm you. Unfortunately, this is a very shitty problem with, most likely, a solution. The treatment is getting from A to B.

Hopefully the tumor is contained and treatable.

Your parents sound like great people and I'm sure they'll do whatever it takes to beat this!

Poncier

^Yeah, referral to an oncologist is SOP for any cancer patient, it has nothing to do with the seriousness. They'll know more after the next tests, especially the PET scan.
Keep positive, many forms of cancer are treatable these days, hopefully your Dad's was found early.

PJaddicted

Hugs to you. So sorry that you and your family have now had your life turned upside down because of that horrible disease. Please know that there are so many treatment options available and it is no longer a death sentence. Stay strong and focused and help your dad fight this with all he has.

Lizard

{{hugs}}
I send good vibes to your dad and pray things work out well.

THEY WILL.

take care.

CHANGEinWAVES

Thanks everyone.

It's squamis (sp?) Cell cancer... And he does need radiation on the tumor. The dr. also said that, that is not the point of origin and they need to find out where it started. His appointment for the oncologist is wednesday... Let's hope this is easily curable.

Cinnamon Girl

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

Thanks everyone.

It's squamis (sp?) Cell cancer... And he does need radiation on the tumor. The dr. also said that, that is not the point of origin and they need to find out where it started. His appointment for the oncologist is wednesday... Let's hope this is easily curable.

:(
Do you know when he starts treatment?

CHANGEinWAVES

Cinnamon Girl wrote:

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

Thanks everyone.

It's squamis (sp?) Cell cancer... And he does need radiation on the tumor. The dr. also said that, that is not the point of origin and they need to find out where it started. His appointment for the oncologist is wednesday... Let's hope this is easily curable.

:(
Do you know when he starts treatment?

I think he'll find out next week from the oncologist. He did say that he doesn't want chemo if it comes down to that. We figured we wouldn't argue with him yet, and only will IF it comes to that.

Cinnamon Girl

The chemo was really hard on my Dad....so I can understand him not wanting it. Hopefully the radiation will kill all the cells.

LONGRD

Sorry to hear that. I loss my step-dad, who was like a father to me, to cancer from a lifetime of heavy heavy smoking.

My boss went through Chemo for a different type of cancer and he turned out alright. He said it was a rough ordeal though as he loss a lot of weight through it.

CHANGEinWAVES

So my mom asked me to tell my ex.... His reply : "I'm sorry to hear that".... I really wasn't expecting to hear back but I don't think my parents will like hearing that that's all he has to say.

Cinnamon Girl

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

So my mom asked me to tell my ex.... His reply : "I'm sorry to hear that".... I really wasn't expecting to hear back but I don't think my parents will like hearing that that's all he has to say.

Will he contact them, you think?

CHANGEinWAVES

Cinnamon Girl wrote:

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

So my mom asked me to tell my ex.... His reply : "I'm sorry to hear that".... I really wasn't expecting to hear back but I don't think my parents will like hearing that that's all he has to say.

Will he contact them, you think?

It would be a nice gesture and the 'man I married' would of done that... But this one... I doubt it.

Back_Pedal

Best of luck to your dad, your family, and you!

kcherub

Been thinking about you, and what to say to you! As a cancer survivor, I feel for you guys right now! The emotions are all over the place, and ALL of them are normal!

I am assuming your Dad will have a PET scan to determine where that little bugger came from. Let's hope that the radiaion does the trick. I am 18 months out from chemo, and I have to say--I DON'T want to do it again, but it was not 1/4 as bad as I was expecting. I was never sick (i.e. vomiting), gained weight rather than lost it (steriods, ick), and went back to my store on the 10th day after treatment. I also have a husband, an 8-year old son, and about 15 pets. I know lots of women (mostly women, as they are more likely to have breast cancer) who have gone back to work within a few days. My absence was self-imposed, as the steriods made me crazy insane and I have a hard enough time dealing with customers as it is!

So, just in case chemo is needed, it is doable. Hit with every gun they offer, so that he doesn't ever have to go through this again!!! I think most people are terrified of being sick, but the meds they give you now to prevent it have almost (I say, "almost) eradicated it. The worst part for me was actually being bald for six months. Getting bald was fun--maybe I'll post the video if I can ever change my freakin' signature.

Hang in there! It's a shitty road, but you will all get through it! I have faith that he will be just fine!!!

pearljgirl2010

hey mama....I'm thinking about you and your family--sending a big, Janet-sized hug your way

CHANGEinWAVES

He's seeing the Oncologist tomorrow and has more biopsies on his tongue and larinix (??) on Monday.
My mom's a mess and my dad's scared. I think I'm just trying to not think about it, but it's always there in the back of my mind.

My dad thinks he can cure it with his diet... he's been eating nothing but veggies, which makes me more scared cause he's lost a lot of weight already. He's a little guy and getting littler every time I see him.

I'm grateful for this board and the people I've met here, since it's the only support I have at this moment. All my "friends" have decided they can't help me and I haven't hear from them, or when I do they glaze over it or ignore it. Being alone at this point sucks......

pearljgirl2010

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

He's seeing the Oncologist tomorrow and has more biopsies on his tongue and larinix (??) on Monday.
My mom's a mess and my dad's scared. I think I'm just trying to not think about it, but it's always there in the back of my mind.

My dad thinks he can cure it with his diet... he's been eating nothing but veggies, which makes me more scared cause he's lost a lot of weight already. He's a little guy and getting littler every time I see him.

I'm grateful for this board and the people I've met here, since it's the only support I have at this moment. All my "friends" have decided they can't help me and I haven't hear from them, or when I do they glaze over it or ignore it. Being alone at this point sucks......

ahhhh, I'm sorry this is happening. of course it's scary, but things wil lbe ok.

you're not alone-you lots of people who love you and who are there for you if and when you need them.

norm

CHANGEinWAVES wrote:

He's seeing the Oncologist tomorrow and has more biopsies on his tongue and larinix (??) on Monday.
My mom's a mess and my dad's scared. I think I'm just trying to not think about it, but it's always there in the back of my mind.

My dad thinks he can cure it with his diet... he's been eating nothing but veggies, which makes me more scared cause he's lost a lot of weight already. He's a little guy and getting littler every time I see him.

I'm grateful for this board and the people I've met here, since it's the only support I have at this moment. All my "friends" have decided they can't help me and I haven't hear from them, or when I do they glaze over it or ignore it. Being alone at this point sucks......

hang in there....the scariest part is not knowing....it's strange but once we knew what my mom had and how they were going to treat it that i went from nervous to all business mode...meaning let's treat this crap and get rid of it and move on

and your friends don't really sound like friends, imo :(

Enkidu

I'm sending good thoughts your way, too. It's always weird how some people react to bad news - illness, losing a job, etc. Almost as if it's contagious. Which - duh - it isn't. But you've obviously got a lot of support here on the board which is great. And I hope that helps.

Cinnamon Girl

I know it feels like you're alone, but you're not. Sometimes friends are afraid to bring up difficult topics because they're worried it will make it harder for you. I'm sure that your friends are worried about you and are thinking of your situation. I know I am. I'm so so sorry that you and your parents have to go through this, but try to take it one day at a time.

Make sure your dad's getting lots of protein to keep him going!

(hugs)