stupid question

CityMouse

riffrandall wrote:

Ha! I'm the one who said that about Cali guys. What I meant was California is the only place I've ever lived where guys got queer about not being called by a girl. Like they actually got offended by it. I had one stalker in my life & it was in California. So I'm biased.

Boston dudes are way different. They have this sense of entitlement that girls are falling all over them & they give the idea that they want to be chased, but it's bullshit. If I know my city- and I think I know it pretty well- this guy hands out business cards to every girl who says hi to him, waits for an email and then forwards it to his buddies and tries to fit "sleeping with this chick before I never call her again" in between "Pats home opener tailgate."

THAT'S why in this city you have to let them come to you.

eh I think every girl has run into guys like this in any city. I don't *think* this guy was much like that. of course he could be, but he wasn't a cheeseball. I've run into guys like this but I've also had guys that followed me around like a puppy dog the minute I showed interest. I think dating in boston is perhaps I bit more weird than other places, but I don't think all the guys are like what you described.

riffrandall

Totally.

And I realize it makes me sound like some bitter girl but really I'm not at all... just seen a lot that's all...

Really all I mean is if sending an email in any way takes you out of your comfort zone, I say skip it. No need to add any more angst onto whatever else you have going on at the moment.

nfanel

riffrandall wrote:

Really all I mean is if sending an email in any way takes you out of your comfort zone, I say skip it. No need to add any more angst onto whatever else you have going on at the moment.

life is pretty boring if you always stay in your comfort zone.

CityMouse

riffrandall wrote:

Totally.

And I realize it makes me sound like some bitter girl but really I'm not at all... just seen a lot that's all...

Really all I mean is if sending an email in any way takes you out of your comfort zone, I say skip it. No need to add any more angst onto whatever else you have going on at the moment.

I'm actually trying to do it because it is out of my comfort zone

failedpersephone

CityMouse wrote:

I'm actually trying to do it because it is out of my comfort zone

someone asked for a hot poker???

you are a girl, so I am going to make a total exception for you...


get off of your ass and hit the send button, you freakin' twat! do it do it do it DO IT. gawdammit...do you want to be a lump all of your life? waiting for something to happen TO you instead of creating your path? don't be a lump! come on citymouse...don't be a freakin' LUMP...just freakin send the freakin email already FUCK. for the love of all things you hold dear just do it. and stop sniveling...

sorry had to stop there - because right about then I would tell you to lick my heel...and that would just be awkward.

The Champ

failedpersephone wrote:

someone asked for a hot poker???

you are a girl, so I am going to make a total exception for you...


get off of your ass and hit the send button, you freakin' twat! do it do it do it DO IT. gawdammit...do you want to be a lump all of your life? waiting for something to happen TO you instead of creating your path? don't be a lump! come on citymouse...don't be a freakin' LUMP...just freakin send the freakin email already FUCK. for the love of all things you hold dear just do it. and stop sniveling...

sorry had to stop there - because right about then I would tell you to lick my heel...and that would just be awkward.

She said twat ..lol...

CityMouse

aaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I did it! I pressed send!!! I can't believe I did it!!!!!!

my heart is freaking beating hard. how do people do this on a regular basis???

Black Diamond

CityMouse wrote:

aaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I did it! I pressed send!!! I can't believe I did it!!!!!!

What did you write?

failedpersephone

The Champ wrote:

She said twat ..lol...

shit yeah, I did - hey CHAMP! how the hell didn't you get roped into this one earlier? are you like actually livin' a life?????

(kisses)

CityMouse

Black Diamond wrote:

What did you write?

um I don't really want to think about it. but the last (of 2.5) sentence was "I thought I'd see if you felt like getting together some time this week."

Black Diamond

CityMouse wrote:

um I don't really want to think about it. but the last (of 2.5) sentence was "I thought I'd see if you felt like getting together some time this week."

Good for you!

Trailer

CityMouse wrote:

ok...but what the hell am I supposed to do then? I can't say "sometime" because that's not specific enough (I've read you shouldn't do that) but I can't ask someone out for a weekend, and I'm out next tuesday through saturday!

ugh...maybe there's a reason I've never done this before.

CityMouse wrote:

um I don't really want to think about it. but the last (of 2.5) sentence was "I thought I'd see if you felt like getting together some time this week."

Uh oh:eek:

CityMouse

Trailer wrote:

Uh oh:eek:

no see I said "this week."

failedpersephone

CityMouse wrote:

um I don't really want to think about it. but the last (of 2.5) sentence was "I thought I'd see if you felt like getting together some time this week."

well done!

(see, I believe in giving praise. )

you don't feel weird do you? because it is a totally normal part of human contact...well, the human contact that includes a pretty fast modem, internet connection

Black Diamond

failedpersephone wrote:

well done!

(see, I believe in giving praise. )

you don't feel weird do you? because it is a totally normal part of human contact...well, the human contact that includes a pretty fast modem, internet connection

Yeah, it's completely different from when I dated. I can't figure if it is easier or harder. Picking up the phone was always difficult but seems more like contact.

My wife and I met just before the internet craze and I can't imagine going through that now.

The Champ

failedpersephone wrote:

shit yeah, I did - hey CHAMP! how the hell didn't you get roped into this one earlier? are you like actually livin' a life?????

(kisses)

Yeah, I'm trying ..and as we've all learned throughout the years..there really is no helping the thread starter..lol..but nice try..

CityMouse

failedpersephone wrote:

well done!

(see, I believe in giving praise. )

you don't feel weird do you? because it is a totally normal part of human contact...well, the human contact that includes a pretty fast modem, internet connection

I guess I feel a little weird, because it hasn't been part of my normal lifestyle or something I've seen a lot of- asking out people you meet at bars that is. but now it's over, and I can forget about it. unless for some reason he wants to go out and then I have to freak out again because I haven't been on a first date since 2006 .

CityMouse

Black Diamond wrote:

Yeah, it's completely different from when I dated. I can't figure if it is easier or harder. Picking up the phone was always difficult but seems more like contact.

My wife and I met just before the internet craze and I can't imagine going through that now.

I can't do phones, I get too nervous. Never like phones. I'm glad I've got the email option.

The Champ

NY PJ1 wrote:

i would write back and say " leave me the kcuf alone"

No offense, but someone should warn this guy just in case he writes back..or at least advise him to wear a protective helmet as he'll sure to be banging his head against the wall in no time ..

failedpersephone

The Champ wrote:

Yeah, I'm trying ..and as we've all learned throughout the years..there really is no helping the thread starter..lol..but nice try..

any chance I am given to domme up - I take. very self satisfying.


and ahem Thread integrity!!!

CityMouse wrote:

I guess I feel a little weird, because it hasn't been part of my normal lifestyle or something I've seen a lot of- asking out people you meet at bars that is. but now it's over, and I can forget about it. unless for some reason he wants to go out and then I have to freak out again because I haven't been on a first date since 2006 .

we will jump that little road bump when we get there...but since it's been 2 years, first thing is first...check your closet for good date clothes...and then throw out anything that you think of as good date clothes since you have been up on blocks for 2 years....good underwear is the base that totally gives you a boost of self confidence, don't underestimate the mental power that wearing a good bra will give a woman.

next...we deal with conversation...