Ha! I'm the one who said that about Cali guys. What I meant was California is the only place I've ever lived where guys got queer about not being called by a girl. Like they actually got offended by it. I had one stalker in my life & it was in California. So I'm biased.
Boston dudes are way different. They have this sense of entitlement that girls are falling all over them & they give the idea that they want to be chased, but it's bullshit. If I know my city- and I think I know it pretty well- this guy hands out business cards to every girl who says hi to him, waits for an email and then forwards it to his buddies and tries to fit "sleeping with this chick before I never call her again" in between "Pats home opener tailgate."
THAT'S why in this city you have to let them come to you.
eh I think every girl has run into guys like this in any city. I don't *think* this guy was much like that. of course he could be, but he wasn't a cheeseball. I've run into guys like this but I've also had guys that followed me around like a puppy dog the minute I showed interest. I think dating in boston is perhaps I bit more weird than other places, but I don't think all the guys are like what you described.
And I realize it makes me sound like some bitter girl but really I'm not at all... just seen a lot that's all...
Really all I mean is if sending an email in any way takes you out of your comfort zone, I say skip it. No need to add any more angst onto whatever else you have going on at the moment.
"If you're looking for someone to pull you out of that ditch, you're out of luck."
Really all I mean is if sending an email in any way takes you out of your comfort zone, I say skip it. No need to add any more angst onto whatever else you have going on at the moment.
life is pretty boring if you always stay in your comfort zone.
And I realize it makes me sound like some bitter girl but really I'm not at all... just seen a lot that's all...
Really all I mean is if sending an email in any way takes you out of your comfort zone, I say skip it. No need to add any more angst onto whatever else you have going on at the moment.
I'm actually trying to do it because it is out of my comfort zone
I'm actually trying to do it because it is out of my comfort zone
someone asked for a hot poker???
you are a girl, so I am going to make a total exception for you...
get off of your ass and hit the send button, you freakin' twat! do it do it do it DO IT. gawdammit...do you want to be a lump all of your life? waiting for something to happen TO you instead of creating your path? don't be a lump! come on citymouse...don't be a freakin' LUMP...just freakin send the freakin email already FUCK. for the love of all things you hold dear just do it. and stop sniveling...
sorry had to stop there - because right about then I would tell you to lick my heel...and that would just be awkward.
IF YOU WANT A PLATE OF MY BEEF SWELLINGTON, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY THE COVERCHARGE.
you are a girl, so I am going to make a total exception for you...
get off of your ass and hit the send button, you freakin' twat! do it do it do it DO IT. gawdammit...do you want to be a lump all of your life? waiting for something to happen TO you instead of creating your path? don't be a lump! come on citymouse...don't be a freakin' LUMP...just freakin send the freakin email already FUCK. for the love of all things you hold dear just do it. and stop sniveling...
sorry had to stop there - because right about then I would tell you to lick my heel...and that would just be awkward.
She said twat ..lol...
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
um I don't really want to think about it. but the last (of 2.5) sentence was "I thought I'd see if you felt like getting together some time this week."
um I don't really want to think about it. but the last (of 2.5) sentence was "I thought I'd see if you felt like getting together some time this week."
ok...but what the hell am I supposed to do then? I can't say "sometime" because that's not specific enough (I've read you shouldn't do that) but I can't ask someone out for a weekend, and I'm out next tuesday through saturday!
ugh...maybe there's a reason I've never done this before.
um I don't really want to think about it. but the last (of 2.5) sentence was "I thought I'd see if you felt like getting together some time this week."
Uh oh:eek:
Whoa, chill bro... you know you can't raise your voice like that when the lion's here.
um I don't really want to think about it. but the last (of 2.5) sentence was "I thought I'd see if you felt like getting together some time this week."
well done!
(see, I believe in giving praise. )
you don't feel weird do you? because it is a totally normal part of human contact...well, the human contact that includes a pretty fast modem, internet connection
IF YOU WANT A PLATE OF MY BEEF SWELLINGTON, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY THE COVERCHARGE.
you don't feel weird do you? because it is a totally normal part of human contact...well, the human contact that includes a pretty fast modem, internet connection
Yeah, it's completely different from when I dated. I can't figure if it is easier or harder. Picking up the phone was always difficult but seems more like contact.
My wife and I met just before the internet craze and I can't imagine going through that now.
shit yeah, I did - hey CHAMP! how the hell didn't you get roped into this one earlier? are you like actually livin' a life?????
(kisses)
Yeah, I'm trying ..and as we've all learned throughout the years..there really is no helping the thread starter..lol..but nice try..
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
you don't feel weird do you? because it is a totally normal part of human contact...well, the human contact that includes a pretty fast modem, internet connection
I guess I feel a little weird, because it hasn't been part of my normal lifestyle or something I've seen a lot of- asking out people you meet at bars that is. but now it's over, and I can forget about it. unless for some reason he wants to go out and then I have to freak out again because I haven't been on a first date since 2006 .
Yeah, it's completely different from when I dated. I can't figure if it is easier or harder. Picking up the phone was always difficult but seems more like contact.
My wife and I met just before the internet craze and I can't imagine going through that now.
I can't do phones, I get too nervous. Never like phones. I'm glad I've got the email option.
i would write back and say " leave me the kcuf alone"
No offense, but someone should warn this guy just in case he writes back..or at least advise him to wear a protective helmet as he'll sure to be banging his head against the wall in no time ..
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
I guess I feel a little weird, because it hasn't been part of my normal lifestyle or something I've seen a lot of- asking out people you meet at bars that is. but now it's over, and I can forget about it. unless for some reason he wants to go out and then I have to freak out again because I haven't been on a first date since 2006 .
we will jump that little road bump when we get there...but since it's been 2 years, first thing is first...check your closet for good date clothes...and then throw out anything that you think of as good date clothes since you have been up on blocks for 2 years....good underwear is the base that totally gives you a boost of self confidence, don't underestimate the mental power that wearing a good bra will give a woman.
next...we deal with conversation...
IF YOU WANT A PLATE OF MY BEEF SWELLINGTON, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY THE COVERCHARGE.
No offense, but someone should warn this guy just in case he writes back..or at least advise him to wear a protective helmet as he'll sure to be banging his head against the wall in no time ..
any chance I am given to domme up - I take. very self satisfying.
and ahem Thread integrity!!!
we will jump that little road bump when we get there...but since it's been 2 years, first thing is first...check your closet for good date clothes...and then throw out anything that you think of as good date clothes since you have been up on blocks for 2 years....good underwear is the base that totally gives you a boost of self confidence, don't underestimate the mental power that wearing a good bra will give a woman.
next...we deal with conversation...
haha I was just thinking that I'd really need a big trip to the ol' underwear store.
and yeah I have no good date clothes. my jeans all look like I snagged them from jeff ament's closet.
haha I was just thinking that I'd really need a big trip to the ol' underwear store.
and yeah I have no good date clothes. my jeans all look like I snagged them from jeff ament's closet.
JEANS!!! argh - girl we need to work on you and fast!!!
Jeans are for when you are hangin' out...you should give a prospected partner at least ONE good "date" type of evening before you revert to jeans...just like they should wear a nice outfit at least once in a while...it keeps you thinkin linear.
now remember when getting a bra - the straps should not be doing any of the work!!! and get the size that fits - who CARES what the tag says.
IF YOU WANT A PLATE OF MY BEEF SWELLINGTON, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY THE COVERCHARGE.
JEANS!!! argh - girl we need to work on you and fast!!!
Jeans are for when you are hangin' out...you should give a prospected partner at least ONE good "date" type of evening before you revert to jeans...just like they should wear a nice outfit at least once in a while...it keeps you thinkin linear.
now remember when getting a bra - the straps should not be doing any of the work!!! and get the size that fits - who CARES what the tag says.
hmmm...I've always worn dark "going out" jeans out on dates. I feel like I'm trying too hard in a skirt. this is boston, your feet stick to the floor in all the bars.
'I want to hurry home to you
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
hmmm...I've always worn dark "going out" jeans out on dates. I feel like I'm trying too hard in a skirt. this is boston, your feet stick to the floor in all the bars.
yeah I really need new bras, date or not!
NOW we are talking...
I love bras. wearing a really good one will be a bit of an ego boost (not like THAT) more like pretty for myself, you know? but it has to be fully functioning...that is comfort is high on priority lists.
a nice pencil skirt would do well for you - length would have to be adjusted according to your height, but it is nice and polished without it being trampy (unless it is seriously too tight) and it should be as comfortable as dark jeans would be. Also with the shoe/feet thing - don't wear sandals - even heeled ones, those are hard to walk on a sticky floor. try something that has a ankle buckle (they are in this season anyway) and go with a serviceable chunk Square heel...not a wedge! a square heel.
IF YOU WANT A PLATE OF MY BEEF SWELLINGTON, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO PAY THE COVERCHARGE.
JEANS!!! argh - girl we need to work on you and fast!!!
Jeans are for when you are hangin' out...you should give a prospected partner at least ONE good "date" type of evening before you revert to jeans...just like they should wear a nice outfit at least once in a while...it keeps you thinkin linear.
now remember when getting a bra - the straps should not be doing any of the work!!! and get the size that fits - who CARES what the tag says.
I'm going to have to agree with this... jeans are kind of like cell phones, not first date material.
Also-
where are you hanging out that your feet stick to the floor??
Might be time to upgrade..
"If you're looking for someone to pull you out of that ditch, you're out of luck."
I love bras. wearing a really good one will be a bit of an ego boost (not like THAT) more like pretty for myself, you know? but it has to be fully functioning...that is comfort is high on priority lists.
a nice pencil skirt would do well for you - length would have to be adjusted according to your height, but it is nice and polished without it being trampy (unless it is seriously too tight) and it should be as comfortable as dark jeans would be. Also with the shoe/feet thing - don't wear sandals - even heeled ones, those are hard to walk on a sticky floor. try something that has a ankle buckle (they are in this season anyway) and go with a serviceable chunk Square heel...not a wedge! a square heel.
hmm I don't know about pencil skirts. I have a very round gut and a lot of curves. and I've always seen pencil skirts as very business-like. It's not very "me." Plus, don't they say on What Not to Wear that chunky women should wear things that flow away from the body?
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eh I think every girl has run into guys like this in any city. I don't *think* this guy was much like that. of course he could be, but he wasn't a cheeseball. I've run into guys like this but I've also had guys that followed me around like a puppy dog the minute I showed interest. I think dating in boston is perhaps I bit more weird than other places, but I don't think all the guys are like what you described.
And I realize it makes me sound like some bitter girl but really I'm not at all... just seen a lot that's all...
Really all I mean is if sending an email in any way takes you out of your comfort zone, I say skip it. No need to add any more angst onto whatever else you have going on at the moment.
I'm actually trying to do it because it is out of my comfort zone
you are a girl, so I am going to make a total exception for you...
get off of your ass and hit the send button, you freakin' twat! do it do it do it DO IT. gawdammit...do you want to be a lump all of your life? waiting for something to happen TO you instead of creating your path? don't be a lump! come on citymouse...don't be a freakin' LUMP...just freakin send the freakin email already FUCK. for the love of all things you hold dear just do it. and stop sniveling...
sorry had to stop there - because right about then I would tell you to lick my heel...and that would just be awkward.
She said twat
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
my heart is freaking beating hard. how do people do this on a regular basis???
Good for you!
Uh oh:eek:
no see I said "this week."
(see, I believe in giving praise.
you don't feel weird do you? because it is a totally normal part of human contact...well, the human contact that includes a pretty fast modem, internet connection
My wife and I met just before the internet craze and I can't imagine going through that now.
Yeah, I'm trying
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
I guess I feel a little weird, because it hasn't been part of my normal lifestyle or something I've seen a lot of- asking out people you meet at bars that is. but now it's over, and I can forget about it. unless for some reason he wants to go out and then I have to freak out again because I haven't been on a first date since 2006
I can't do phones, I get too nervous. Never like phones. I'm glad I've got the email option.
No offense, but someone should warn this guy just in case he writes back..or at least advise him to wear a protective helmet as he'll sure to be banging his head against the wall in no time
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
and ahem Thread integrity!!!
we will jump that little road bump when we get there...but since it's been 2 years, first thing is first...check your closet for good date clothes...and then throw out anything that you think of as good date clothes since you have been up on blocks for 2 years....good underwear is the base that totally gives you a boost of self confidence, don't underestimate the mental power that wearing a good bra will give a woman.
next...we deal with conversation...
you're in love with me, just admit it.
haha I was just thinking that I'd really need a big trip to the ol' underwear store.
and yeah I have no good date clothes. my jeans all look like I snagged them from jeff ament's closet.
And I don't feel right when you're gone away
Jeans are for when you are hangin' out...you should give a prospected partner at least ONE good "date" type of evening before you revert to jeans...just like they should wear a nice outfit at least once in a while...it keeps you thinkin linear.
now remember when getting a bra - the straps should not be doing any of the work!!! and get the size that fits - who CARES what the tag says.
hmmm...I've always worn dark "going out" jeans out on dates. I feel like I'm trying too hard in a skirt. this is boston, your feet stick to the floor in all the bars.
yeah I really need new bras, date or not!
put on a slow, dumb show for you
and crack you up
so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
god I'm very, very frightening
and I'll overdo it'
I love bras. wearing a really good one will be a bit of an ego boost (not like THAT) more like pretty for myself, you know? but it has to be fully functioning...that is comfort is high on priority lists.
a nice pencil skirt would do well for you - length would have to be adjusted according to your height, but it is nice and polished without it being trampy (unless it is seriously too tight) and it should be as comfortable as dark jeans would be. Also with the shoe/feet thing - don't wear sandals - even heeled ones, those are hard to walk on a sticky floor. try something that has a ankle buckle (they are in this season anyway) and go with a serviceable chunk Square heel...not a wedge! a square heel.
I'm going to have to agree with this... jeans are kind of like cell phones, not first date material.
Also-
where are you hanging out that your feet stick to the floor??
Might be time to upgrade..
hmm I don't know about pencil skirts. I have a very round gut and a lot of curves. and I've always seen pencil skirts as very business-like. It's not very "me." Plus, don't they say on What Not to Wear that chunky women should wear things that flow away from the body?
In my neighborhood
(which I think is also the neighborhood of the person I asked out)
guys like girls who would rather go to the neighborhood pub, don't they?