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CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
edited August 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
last thursday night I was out getting fairly wasted and I met this guy and he's still popping into my mind. he gave me his B-card, and even though I think he actually gave me his card in case I wanted to actually buy his product, I kinda decided to email him and sort of ask him just because I never do stuff like that and I need to challenge myself.

so the run-down is it's been about 5 days, I don't expect the guy to actually respond...first question is what do I say? second question is if you received an email from someone you met in a bar and didn't want to see again, would you write back and turn them down or just ignore it? (this is mostly a question for the guys). I'm hoping he just ignors it.

thanks!
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  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    if you dont want to see him or have anything to do with him have the courtesy to tell him.
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • NY PJ1NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    CityMouse wrote:
    last thursday night I was out getting fairly wasted and I met this guy and he's still popping into my mind. he gave me his B-card, and even though I think he actually gave me his card in case I wanted to actually buy his product, I kinda decided to email him and sort of ask him just because I never do stuff like that and I need to challenge myself.

    so the run-down is it's been about 5 days, I don't expect the guy to actually respond...first question is what do I say? second question is if you received an email from someone you met in a bar and didn't want to see again, would you write back and turn them down or just ignore it? (this is mostly a question for the guys). I'm hoping he just ignors it.

    thanks!


    i would write back and say " leave me the kcuf alone"
  • saveuplifesaveuplife Posts: 1,173
    CityMouse wrote:
    last thursday night I was out getting fairly wasted and I met this guy and he's still popping into my mind. he gave me his B-card, and even though I think he actually gave me his card in case I wanted to actually buy his product, I kinda decided to email him and sort of ask him just because I never do stuff like that and I need to challenge myself.

    so the run-down is it's been about 5 days, I don't expect the guy to actually respond...first question is what do I say? second question is if you received an email from someone you met in a bar and didn't want to see again, would you write back and turn them down or just ignore it? (this is mostly a question for the guys). I'm hoping he just ignors it.

    thanks!


    What "exactly" did you say in the email? This info will help for me to give you a better answer of what he'll do.
  • Comatose11Comatose11 Posts: 77
    How drunk was he?
    I'll end up alone like I began...
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    catefrances wrote:
    if you dont want to see him or have anything to do with him have the courtesy to tell him.

    no I would like to see him, but I don't expect him to want to see me.
  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    What Did The Email Say?
    Nice to know you.
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    saveuplife wrote:
    What "exactly" did you say in the email? This info will help for me to give you a better answer of what he'll do.

    no I haven't said anything, that's why I was asking what I should say. I'm thinking 2 sentences- one pointed out who I was and then another saying we should hang out or something.
  • NY PJ1NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    Comatose11 wrote:
    How drunk was he?


    haha
  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    CityMouse wrote:
    no I would like to see him, but I don't expect him to want to see me.
    With that thinking of course he wouldn't want to hang out with you.
    People like to be with confident people.
    It is fine to be humble, but the self degradation is a complete turn off to alot of people.
    Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
    And I don't feel right when you're gone away
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    Comatose11 wrote:
    How drunk was he?

    ehhh not very I don't think.
    I was though, unfortunately. I don't think I made the greatest impression.
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    TrixieCat wrote:
    With that thinking of course he wouldn't want to hang out with you.
    People like to be with confident people.
    It is fine to be humble, but the self degradation is a complete turn off to alot of people.

    well it's just because I was kinda drunk and I don't think I made a very good impression.
  • saveuplifesaveuplife Posts: 1,173
    CityMouse wrote:
    no I haven't said anything, that's why I was asking what I should say. I'm thinking 2 sentences- one pointed out who I was and then another saying we should hang out or something.



    Yes. Say something like....

    "Hey (insert name),

    I really enjoyed talking the other night at (insert bar)'s. It was a good time. I was wondering whether you'd be up for doing something again.

    Let me know.

    (your name)"

    ***Also, if you were there with friends, it would be very good to mention them in the email. For instance, instead of "it was a good time" put "my friends and I had a great time at (bar), to bad we didn't get to hang out longer". I don't know why but mentioning friends that makes it alot less forward, and makes someone in your situation seem more approachable.

    If he doesn't respond in 3 business days, he's not going to.
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    CityMouse wrote:
    no I would like to see him, but I don't expect him to want to see me.

    oh for fucks sake... you people shit me to tears. if you want to see him, tell him for fucks sake.

    you know i aint even gonna apologise for my tersenesss. i am so tired of the vascillating that goes on when it comes to people and how they feel about someone else and the umming and aahing about whether or not they should tell the other person what the fuck have you got to lose?. all we have is NOW. just act, dont think.
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • Comatose11Comatose11 Posts: 77
    catefrances wrote:
    oh for fucks sake... you people shit me to tears. if you want to see him, tell him for fucks sake.

    you know i aint even gonna apologise for my tersenesss. i am so tired of the vascillating that goes on when it comes to people and how they feel about someone else. all we have is NOW. just act, dont think.


    Good point. We aren't in high school anymore...... Are we?
    I'll end up alone like I began...
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    catefrances wrote:
    oh for fucks sake... you people shit me to tears. if you want to see him, tell him for fucks sake.

    you know i aint even gonna apologise for my tersenesss. i am so tired of the vascillating that goes on when it comes to people and how they feel about someone else and the umming and aahing about whether or not they should tell the other person what the fuck have you got to lose?. all we have is NOW. just act, dont think.

    well I am going to tell him. I've just never done it before!
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    TrixieCat wrote:
    With that thinking of course he wouldn't want to hang out with you.
    People like to be with confident people.
    It is fine to be humble, but the self degradation is a complete turn off to alot of people.

    oh fuck trix... so so true. i am fabulous and you better be on board with that otherwise fuck off and dont waste my time. :)

    ps. just quietly girl... the more i read your posts the more i respect you. not that i didnt respect you before. ;):)
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    CityMouse wrote:
    well I am going to tell him. I've just never done it before!

    Citymouse write this:

    Hey so-and-so,
    We met briefly at (fill in the name of the bar you met at) last week.
    I am going there tonite (or tomorrow or whenever) with my girlfriend. Maybe we will see you there.
    ~you
    Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
    And I don't feel right when you're gone away
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    CityMouse wrote:
    well I am going to tell him. I've just never done it before!

    well suck it up and know that you are a beautiful being. the first
    step is always the most difficult. you cant die wishing youd acted.
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    catefrances wrote:
    well suck it up and know that you are a beautiful being. the first
    step is always the most difficult. you cant die wishing youd acted.

    yeah I am going to do it. at least I think he doesn't think I'm hideous or something because unbeknownst to me, the reason he joined us was because my stupid friends went over and said "my friend over there thinks you're cute and wants to know if you're single" and he came over a while later.

    Trixie- I don't really have any plans with my friends coming up- do you really think that's the best thing? should I make plans with them?
  • Comatose11Comatose11 Posts: 77
    CityMouse wrote:
    yeah I am going to do it. at least I think he doesn't think I'm hideous or something because unbeknownst to me, the reason he joined us was because my stupid friends went over and said "my friend over there thinks you're cute and wants to know if you're single" and he came over a while later.

    Trixie- I don't really have any plans with my friends coming up- do you really think that's the best thing? should I make plans with them?


    Are you kidding me? You're in!! If he didn't think the same, he wouldn't have come over. Well, I wouldn't anyways.....
    I'll end up alone like I began...
  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Comatose11 wrote:
    Are you kidding me? You're in!! If he didn't think the same, he wouldn't have come over. Well, I wouldn't anyways.....
    exactly! and he gave you his business card. Take a chance. Let him know you enjoyed meeting him and want to know if he's interested in meeting up again.
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • Black DiamondBlack Diamond Posts: 25,107
    comebackgirl wrote:
    exactly! and he gave you his business card. Take a chance. Let him know you enjoyed meeting him and want to know if he's interested in meeting up again.
    As I guy, he is probably wondering if you got the card and why didn't you call.

    He is gonna get over that quickly though. So I wouldn't take too long if you want to go out with him
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  • Comatose11Comatose11 Posts: 77
    Also, if you get to talking, tell him that it's cheesy as shit to give out a business card to someone you are interested in (if that was his intention)

    Whatever happened to waking up with someones name scrawled on your back in lipstick.............. no romance anymore.......
    I'll end up alone like I began...
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    Black Diamond wrote:
    As I guy, he is probably wondering if you got the card and why didn't you call.

    He is gonna get over that quickly though. So I wouldn't take too long if you want to go out with him

    right. I'm gonna do it today. I was in montreal the whole weekend for the EV shows.
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    Comatose11 wrote:
    Are you kidding me? You're in!! If he didn't think the same, he wouldn't have come over. Well, I wouldn't anyways.....

    well yeah but then I think I acted dorky or annoying or stupid or something once I was talking to him because...well I think I had something like 6 or 7 drinks by that point.
  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Black Diamond wrote:
    As I guy, he is probably wondering if you got the card and why didn't you call.

    He is gonna get over that quickly though. So I wouldn't take too long if you want to go out with him
    I agree. If too much time goes by it starts feeling like games are being played.
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • TrailerTrailer Posts: 1,431
    just write what Trixie wrote
    Whoa, chill bro... you know you can't raise your voice like that when the lion's here.
  • riffrandallriffrandall Posts: 685
    If he was that interested he would've asked for your number & would've called by now.
    "If you're looking for someone to pull you out of that ditch, you're out of luck."
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    riffrandall wrote:
    If he was that interested he would've asked for your number & would've called by now.

    As I said I don't think he is.
  • Comatose11Comatose11 Posts: 77
    CityMouse wrote:
    As I said I don't think he is.

    Guys can be shy too. I'd hate to see you both miss oout on an opportunity just because you are both afraid to call.

    What's the worst that could happen?
    I'll end up alone like I began...
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