How To Know He's A Keeper?

Jeanie

RolandTD20Kdrummer wrote:

It's really easy, after you get a good nibble just give the rod a tug...

Ok....I gotta stop now...

haha!!

Aaaah! So that's what I'm doing wrong!

genie

what a load of bollocks to entertain females in their boring dull lives.jee....like a woman can't figure out for herself what's best for her or not :rolleyes:

but hey women like that kind of shit....spending days on end guess on a flower petals "he loves me"/"he loves me not" :rolleyes:

btw, couldn't read whole way through that article, cause i got really bored

genie

prism wrote:

I know what a nice, decent girl is. some of them that I know are married and some of them are single and choose to stay that way rather than suffer a relationship with an asshole.

wow... did you just show how much you are off. if a woman IS emotionally balanced and is married to a jackass she'll leave him at the earliest opportunity. it's the women that are emotionally UNbalanced that will stick around to put up with an asshole's behavior. an emotionally balanced women would have the self-esteem not to stick around and she'd know that it's okay to leave the asshole behind and that it's much more probable that she'll be happier on her own

so in other words some women are already emotionaly imbalanced before they enter into a relationship?
I still don't know to this day what love is, but i however experienced myself ignoring all the facts staring into my face, because i liked that person a lot. i just ignored them, because i wanted to be with him.
so, imagine what if this guy abuses me physically and then says sorry....would i not want to forgive? and ignore the first time it happened?

well me presonality i am assuming i'll be strong enough to walk away in the first sign of trouble....but not everyone is like that. plus i'm moving moving away from my point

my point is: some women are stable when they get into a relationship, and then after being manipulated, controlled, and threatened they become fearful and afraid to leave their boyfriend. and i will also say they become used to being controlled by someone, if that control is taken away they are left with fear of unknown.

GreenTeaDisease

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

Agreed.

That cheeseburger remark was some world-class douchebaggery. :rolleyes:

absolute douchebaggery. didn't you know that all single women are fat slobs with poor eating habits?

Ms. Haiku

If he's sexy in the kitchen he's a keeper. Some men, the way they roll up their sleeves, and dig into the euphoria that is cooking just make me happy happy happy.

GreenTeaDisease

Ms. Haiku wrote:

If he's sexy in the kitchen he's a keeper. Some men, the way they roll up their sleeves, and dig into the euphoria that is cooking just make me happy happy happy.

haha wow I never thought of that but it does sound good. especially the rolling up of the sleeves part.

lalalalaaaaaaaa

g under p wrote:

How to know he's a keeper?

Any of you ladies out there knows if he's a keeper or not?

Peace

Isn't there just some minimum size requirement or something? They have laws like this for fish, so I assume there's something for men as well.

Whizbang

genie wrote:

what a load of bollocks to entertain females in their boring dull lives.jee....like a woman can't figure out for herself what's best for her or not :rolleyes:

but hey women like that kind of shit....spending days on end guess on a flower petals "he loves me"/"he loves me not" :rolleyes:

btw, couldn't read whole way through that article, cause i got really bored

seriously....it was like daytime TV as of the first paragraph. Sadly there are women AND men who get wrapped up in those kinds of articles.

Whizbang

Saturnal wrote:

Isn't there just some minimum size requirement or something? They have laws like this for fish, so I assume there's something for men as well.

yes, there is....

gargantuan or "hung like a china mule" are minimum requirements.

GreenTeaDisease

Whizbang wrote:

seriously....it was like daytime TV as of the first paragraph. Sadly there are women AND men who get wrapped up in those kinds of articles.

yes there are absolutely men who get into those articles...my ex-boyfriend is obsessed with them! but they are all such crap. I tend to read them for entertainment, but they make me want to throw up! all that "relationship advice" from books and magazines is a load of bullshit.

lalalalaaaaaaaa

Whizbang wrote:

yes, there is....

gargantuan or "hung like a china mule" are minimum requirements.

*gulp*

RolandTD20Kdrummer

Wasn't it something about "comparable to a tractor exhaust pipe"?

my goodness...I think that definitely exceeds porn star qualifications.

harmless_little_f***

I'm a keeper.

That's great.. I can keep me.

Whizbang

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

I'm a keeper.

That's great.. I can keep me.

:eek:

Ott

I wanna shake
I wanna wind out
I wanna leave
This mind and shout

I've lived
All this life
Like an ocean
In disguise
I don't live for
Ever
You can't keep
Me here

I wanna race
With the sundown
I want a last breath
I don't let out

Forgive
Every being
The bad feelings
It's just me
I won't wait
For answers
You can't keep
Me here

I wanna rise
And say goodnight
Wanna take
A look on the other side

I've lived
All those lives
It's been wonder
Full at night
I will live for
Ever
You can't keep
Me here

harmless_little_f***

Whizbang wrote:

:eek:

Why the shock?

RolandTD20Kdrummer

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http://www.randonneurs.bc.ca/odds_and_ends/bike-shorts-should-be-black.html

edit: yeah I gotta get me one of these suits.... http://www.inrubber.com/zen2/index.php?main_page=index&cPath=11

edvedder913

PJaddicted wrote:

I have no idea.....I've been married to mine for 25 years....and now think....it is luck. How did I know how hard he would work or what kind of father he would be or if I would be able to stay in love with him for a lifetime when I was so young? If you see red flags, you will never be able to change him, so you either don't commit or plan on accepting him for who he is 100%. So many of my friends and family have all divorced, even when you thought they were a great match....I really don't know why some make it and others don't. Maybe it is the the fact that most couples who do make it, totally accept the other person for who they are, are able to say they are sorry and forgive each other when needed and they have fun together.

Good luck

oxc

That was a conclusion I recently came to. Some of the men my friends married many thought would be HORRIBLE father's, and they turned out to be great. You never know, it's all a risk and luck - and also working on the relationship

prism

sponger wrote:

I'm going to disagree with that just one more time. It's either your way of countering my point of view, or you're really just that unaware of what goes on in the world.

Do you really think that most emotionally balanced women actually leave marriages with men who turn out to be jackasses? You have got to be kidding. The exact opposite is more along the lines of the truth, and it is one of the sad commentaries of human history.

you are the one that said that it's women that are emotionally unbalanced that will leave a relationship with a jackass. and that women that are emotionally balanced stick with the marriage/relationship with a jackass.

sponger wrote:

By that rationale, you imply that women who are in emotionally and/or physically abusive relationships are simply the coarse, mean, disturbed women that you seem to understand so well. If I didn't know any better, I'd say that's not only closed-minded, but disturbingly sexist in a way. "Those women deserve it," is basically what you're saying.

where did I say any such thing? I'm not coarse, mean nor am I disturbed, nor are any of my friends or anyone that I associate with, so I'm not getting where you can say that i seem to understand them so well. I was simply saying that if you want to be a coarse, mean, asshole and treat women like shit then expect the same treatment in return if you want her to stick around.

no where did i even imply that women that are in emotionally and/or physically abusive relationships are only those that are course, mean and disturbed. way to twist my words into something I did not say or imply. no woman, no matter her emotionally stability or lack thereof deserves to be emotionally or physically abused. period.

sponger wrote:

The truth is that most women would rather endure a lifetime of that abuse than risk being single again. This is especially true if children are involved, or if the man was the principle bread-winner, and too many other reasons to mention. And that's not including the stigma that single women face as they themselves get older.

You've just spent post after post demonstrating your obliviousness to those certain realities of people and relationships. It's too unreal.

you couldn't be anymore off the mark if you were trying to be. I was in a four year relationship with my kids Dad where after 2 plus years he became emotionally and physically abusive. it took over a year to put together a plan to take my kids and leave him. that's why I said an emotionally balanced woman will leave an asshole at the earliest opportunity. for most women in an abusive realtionship it can't/doesn't happen immediately. she has to have the emotional where withall to have the strength to devise a plan to leave and to carry it out successfully.

for you to say that most women would rather endure a lifetime of abuse than risk being single again is just absurd. there are very few women that are like that. it is especially true that if there are children involved that she knows that those kids are all the more reason to get the hell away from her abuser; not stick around so that the kids can see if next time that Daddy hits Mommy will be the time that Daddy ends up murdering Mommy.

how much time have you spent volunteering in a domestic violence shelter? I don't know about you but when I did I never told a women she couldn't take care of herself and her kids because her husband was the principle bread-winner. that and she might be faced with a social stigma(what is this, the 1950's?) as she gets older if she becomes single again. what I did tell them was "hey, I didn't have much money. i had to cross an international border with two kids on a bus. I didn't know a soul in this entire State and all of my family and friends were 3000 miles away. but I found the strength to do it because i owed it to myself and my kids to leave and never go back. and that if I could do it than anyone could." and I did raise two sucessful kids by myself. if that makes me emotionally unbalanced than that makes you fucked in the head.


so i'm certainly not oblivious to the realities of people and relationships. and i'm sure not going to give any credit to your assertion that woman like assholes and like to be treated like shit because hey, it sure beats being single.

genie wrote:

my point is: some women are stable when they get into a relationship, and then after being manipulated, controlled, and threatened they become fearful and afraid to leave their boyfriend. and i will also say they become used to being controlled by someone, if that control is taken away they are left with fear of unknown.

having been in the sitution in the past the fear of the unknown is much better than the constant fear of being manipulated, controlled, and threatened and abused. the thing is that a woman will find the emotional balance to to take enough control back in order that she can make a plan to leave and follow through with it. that in no way says that if a woman is emotionally unbalanced that she shouldn't make every effort to leave, though she may need more support in the way of friends, family, the police, the court system and social services. plus, no woman should be be made to feel that she is weak or incapable of having control for asking for help to leave and stay out of going back to an abusive relationship.

Whizbang

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

Why the shock?

I didn't know someone with that criteria existed!!! soooooo.....what's your 10C number?????

Happy New Year to you!!!!!