How To Know He's A Keeper?

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  • sponger
    sponger Posts: 3,159
    brainofPJ wrote:
    i am the better man...


    Right...because you're married. There seems to be a lot of that mentality going around.
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  • brainofPJ
    brainofPJ Posts: 2,361
    sponger wrote:
    Right...because you're married. There seems to be a lot of that mentality going around.


    ...words in my mouth...

    i'll let you continue to go at it with others because you clearly aren't worth my time.

    happy new year...


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  • prism
    prism Posts: 2,440
    sponger wrote:
    here are just a few of your misconceptions:

    married men had girls beating down their door before getting married

    anyone who posts something less than courteous online must be that way in person

    anyone who posts online must have trouble finding dates

    women know who the assholes are, and even when discovering such is the case, immediately run from said relationship

    way, way off.

    what you've posted in this thread hasn't been "less than courteous." it's been assinine and stupid. even if you only behave that way a tenth of the time in person it would be enough to keep any decent, nice girl away


    once a nice woman finds out (if it's not immediately apparent) that a guy is an asshole she won't stick around for long. now who's way, way off?
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  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    brainofPJ wrote:
    ...words in my mouth...

    i'll let you continue to go at it with others because you clearly aren't worth my time.

    happy new year...


    Sooo boPJ, 12 years is a long time these days to be married. :)

    Any tips?

    I was gonna ask wolfy too because she's been married for like FOREVER but I think she's gone to bed. :)
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  • brainofPJ
    brainofPJ Posts: 2,361
    turnedmyworldtoblack wrote:
    your location and the poster above yours flow nicely as i was listening to undone. it flowed exactly as i read it. that was some crazy ass timing


    oh yea, before i don't come back to this thread i wanted to comment on this...


    crazy ass timing indeed! :)


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  • prism
    prism Posts: 2,440
    sponger wrote:
    But you were quick to conclude that single people are in a way deserving of their situation because of their abrasive natures. Again, judgmental.

    no. I said that YOU are deserving of of your single situtation because of YOUR abrasive nature.

    I never said that it in any way applied to people that treat people with respect, kindness and courtesy.
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  • sponger
    sponger Posts: 3,159
    prism wrote:
    what you've posted in this thread hasn't been "less than courteous." it's been assinine and stupid. even if you only behave that way a tenth of the time in person it would be enough to keep any decent, nice girl away

    OK, now I'm just convinced that you just don't know what a nice, decent girl is...other than your sister.

    once a nice woman finds out (if it's not immediately apparent) that a guy is an asshole she won't stick around for long. now who's way, way off?


    I'm going to disagree with that just one more time. It's either your way of countering my point of view, or you're really just that unaware of what goes on in the world.

    Do you really think that most emotionally balanced women actually leave marriages with men who turn out to be jackasses? You have got to be kidding. The exact opposite is more along the lines of the truth, and it is one of the sad commentaries of human history.
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  • brainofPJ
    brainofPJ Posts: 2,361
    Jeanie wrote:
    Sooo boPJ, 12 years is a long time these days to be married. :)

    Any tips?

    I was gonna ask wolfy too because she's been married for like FOREVER but I think she's gone to bed. :)


    12 years?!

    ahh crap, my lies are catching up to me!!!

    nah, we haven't been married that long...just a couple of years. feels like longer though...in a good way :)


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  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    brainofPJ wrote:
    12 years?!

    ahh crap, my lies are catching up to me!!!

    nah, we haven't been married that long...just a couple of years. feels like longer though...in a good way :)


    Wait! Maybe it was me that read it wrong? :o It's also quite possible that I've confused you with someone else! :confused:

    But still I think even being willing to take the plunge these days is pretty amazing. I've always been far too chicken. Luckily for me, my uncle did say to me once that was probably because it simply wasn't the right person for me. I had trouble with that concept. You know? The "You'll just know" idea? But I think I get it now. I think you do just know and what you know is that this is the person that you want to try and make a life with. Least I think that's what will happen. :)
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  • prism
    prism Posts: 2,440
    sponger wrote:
    OK, now I'm just convinced that you just don't know what a nice, decent girl is...other than your sister.





    I'm going to disagree with that just one more time. It's either your way of countering my point of view, or you're really just that unaware of what goes on in the world.

    Do you really think that most emotionally balanced women actually leave marriages with men who turn out to be jackasses? You have got to be kidding. The exact opposite is more along the lines of the truth, and it is one of the sad commentaries of human history.

    I know what a nice, decent girl is. some of them that I know are married and some of them are single and choose to stay that way rather than suffer a relationship with an asshole.

    wow... did you just show how much you are off. if a woman IS emotionally balanced and is married to a jackass she'll leave him at the earliest opportunity. it's the women that are emotionally UNbalanced that will stick around to put up with an asshole's behavior. an emotionally balanced women would have the self-esteem not to stick around and she'd know that it's okay to leave the asshole behind and that it's much more probable that she'll be happier on her own
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  • Phantom Pain
    Phantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Jeanie wrote:
    Wait! Maybe it was me that read it wrong? :o It's also quite possible that I've confused you with someone else! :confused:

    But still I think even being willing to take the plunge these days is pretty amazing. I've always been far too chicken. Luckily for me, my uncle did say to me once that was probably because it simply wasn't the right person for me. I had trouble with that concept. You know? The "You'll just know" idea? But I think I get it now. I think you do just know and what you know is that this is the person that you want to try and make a life with. Least I think that's what will happen. :)

    Just stick with Lukin...Dog's are always happy to see ya

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  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    Just stick with Lukin...Dog's are always happy to see ya

    :p


    Well he sure is tonight! :p I just fed him two fresh lamb steaks! :D

    I don't wanna be married just for the sake of being married, but I do like the idea of having my own family, me, my significant other and Lukin! :D

    There's something about that sitting on the porch together in your rocking chairs when your teeth have all fallen out and everything's sagged north that really appeals to me! ;)
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  • RolandTD20Kdrummer
    RolandTD20Kdrummer Posts: 13,066
    Easy...

    You take out a measuring tape and it it's a certain length you keep it....

    Oh wait, that's fishing

    nevermind
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  • Phantom Pain
    Phantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Jeanie wrote:
    Well he sure is tonight! :p I just fed him two fresh lamb steaks! :D

    I don't wanna be married just for the sake of being married, but I do like the idea of having my own family, me, my significant other and Lukin!

    There's something about that sitting on the porch together in your rocking chairs when your teeth have all fallen out and everything's sagged north that really appeals to me! ;)


    Damn !! That doggie is eating better then me

    Everything sagging North appeals to me too :p

    I know whatcha mean, it can get lonely in this world

    It was a shocker to everyone that I found a woman that would marry :eek:
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  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    RolandTD20Kdrummer wrote:
    Easy...

    You take out a measuring tape and it it's a certain length you keep it....

    Oh wait, that's fishing

    nevermind

    haha!! :D No wonder it's all going pear shaped for me then, I have NO CLUE about fishing!!! :D
    NOPE!!!

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  • prism
    prism Posts: 2,440
    RolandTD20Kdrummer wrote:
    Easy...

    You take out a measuring tape and it it's a certain length you keep it....

    Oh wait, that's fishing

    nevermind

    awwww...do the ladies continue to toss you back? ;)
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  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    Phantom Pain wrote:
    Damn !! That doggie is eating better then me

    Everything sagging North appeals to me too : p

    I know whatcha mean, it can get lonely in this world

    It was a shocker to everyone that I found a woman that would marry : eek:


    Well only coz I wanna defrost the fridge!! :D And it's so hot I couldn't be stuffed cooking them for myself. He's good like that! A living breathing garbage disposal unit! ;)

    See? Now that's the thing, I've really never had any desire to get married, oh well a couple of times there when I was young and stupid and hadn't outgrown my romantic notions yet, but I know I'll be perfectly ok and happy enough if I never marry. Sure it'll get lonely there if I live long and everyone else has dropped off but that could happen anyway, even if I did get married and I lost my husband. Women seemingly living longer than fellas on average and all. I guess the idea of sharing with someone, having a best friend, someone I can truly be myself around, that appeals to me. Sharing my life with someone. Learning all that stuff that long term couples know. I mean I've learned some of it in relationships in the past, but I pretty much know how to do single successful and happy and lately I dunno, I guess I just think marriage might be nice. :)

    But I'm sure, like you, that quite a few people around me will probably keel over and die from the shock if I ever do marry! :D My brother in particular would have to eat a fair bit of crow and I could thoroughly enjoy watching that! (whilst I'm happily sagging north on the rocking chairs with the hubby of course!) ;)
    NOPE!!!

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    Hold on to the thread
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  • sponger
    sponger Posts: 3,159
    prism wrote:
    I know what a nice, decent girl is. some of them that I know are married and some of them are single and choose to stay that way rather than suffer a relationship with an asshole.

    wow... did you just show how much you are off. if a woman IS emotionally balanced and is married to a jackass she'll leave him at the earliest opportunity. it's the women that are emotionally UNbalanced that will stick around to put up with an asshole's behavior. an emotionally balanced women would have the self-esteem not to stick around and she'd know that it's okay to leave the asshole behind and that it's much more probable that she'll be happier on her own


    By that rationale, you imply that women who are in emotionally and/or physically abusive relationships are simply the coarse, mean, disturbed women that you seem to understand so well. If I didn't know any better, I'd say that's not only closed-minded, but disturbingly sexist in a way. "Those women deserve it," is basically what you're saying.

    The truth is that most women would rather endure a lifetime of that abuse than risk being single again. This is especially true if children are involved, or if the man was the principle bread-winner, and too many other reasons to mention. And that's not including the stigma that single women face as they themselves get older.

    You've just spent post after post demonstrating your obliviousness to those certain realities of people and relationships. It's too unreal.
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  • RolandTD20Kdrummer
    RolandTD20Kdrummer Posts: 13,066
    prism wrote:
    awwww...do the ladies continue to toss you back? ;)


    on my back yes... sometimes I toss on theirs..

    uh oh.... I just went there :D
    Progress is not made by everyone joining some new fad,
    and reveling in it's loyalty. It's made by forming coalitions
    over specific principles, goals, and policies.

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  • RolandTD20Kdrummer
    RolandTD20Kdrummer Posts: 13,066
    Jeanie wrote:
    haha!! :D No wonder it's all going pear shaped for me then, I have NO CLUE about fishing!!! :D

    It's really easy, after you get a good nibble just give the rod a tug...

    Ok....I gotta stop now... :D
    Progress is not made by everyone joining some new fad,
    and reveling in it's loyalty. It's made by forming coalitions
    over specific principles, goals, and policies.

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