How To Know He's A Keeper?

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  • Whizbang wrote:
    yes, there is....

    gargantuan or "hung like a china mule" are minimum requirements. :p
    *gulp*
  • Wasn't it something about "comparable to a tractor exhaust pipe"?

    my goodness...I think that definitely exceeds porn star qualifications.
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  • I'm a keeper.

    That's great.. I can keep me. :)
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  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    I'm a keeper.

    That's great.. I can keep me. :)

    :eek:
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • OttOtt Posts: 403
    I wanna shake
    I wanna wind out
    I wanna leave
    This mind and shout

    I've lived
    All this life
    Like an ocean
    In disguise
    I don't live for
    Ever
    You can't keep
    Me here

    I wanna race
    With the sundown
    I want a last breath
    I don't let out

    Forgive
    Every being
    The bad feelings
    It's just me
    I won't wait
    For answers
    You can't keep
    Me here

    I wanna rise
    And say goodnight
    Wanna take
    A look on the other side

    I've lived
    All those lives
    It's been wonder
    Full at night
    I will live for
    Ever
    You can't keep
    Me here
    'Give me some music; music, moody food/ of us that trade in love'
    -Shakespeare
  • Whizbang wrote:
    :eek:

    Why the shock?
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

    - the great Sir Leo Harrison
  • Progress is not made by everyone joining some new fad,
    and reveling in it's loyalty. It's made by forming coalitions
    over specific principles, goals, and policies.

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  • edvedder913edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    PJaddicted wrote:
    I have no idea.....I've been married to mine for 25 years....and now think....it is luck. How did I know how hard he would work or what kind of father he would be or if I would be able to stay in love with him for a lifetime when I was so young? If you see red flags, you will never be able to change him, so you either don't commit or plan on accepting him for who he is 100%. So many of my friends and family have all divorced, even when you thought they were a great match....I really don't know why some make it and others don't. Maybe it is the the fact that most couples who do make it, totally accept the other person for who they are, are able to say they are sorry and forgive each other when needed and they have fun together.

    Good luck

    oxc

    That was a conclusion I recently came to. Some of the men my friends married many thought would be HORRIBLE father's, and they turned out to be great. You never know, it's all a risk and luck - and also working on the relationship :)
  • prismprism Posts: 2,440
    sponger wrote:
    I'm going to disagree with that just one more time. It's either your way of countering my point of view, or you're really just that unaware of what goes on in the world.

    Do you really think that most emotionally balanced women actually leave marriages with men who turn out to be jackasses? You have got to be kidding. The exact opposite is more along the lines of the truth, and it is one of the sad commentaries of human history.

    you are the one that said that it's women that are emotionally unbalanced that will leave a relationship with a jackass. and that women that are emotionally balanced stick with the marriage/relationship with a jackass.





    sponger wrote:
    By that rationale, you imply that women who are in emotionally and/or physically abusive relationships are simply the coarse, mean, disturbed women that you seem to understand so well. If I didn't know any better, I'd say that's not only closed-minded, but disturbingly sexist in a way. "Those women deserve it," is basically what you're saying.

    where did I say any such thing? I'm not coarse, mean nor am I disturbed, nor are any of my friends or anyone that I associate with, so I'm not getting where you can say that i seem to understand them so well. I was simply saying that if you want to be a coarse, mean, asshole and treat women like shit then expect the same treatment in return if you want her to stick around.

    no where did i even imply that women that are in emotionally and/or physically abusive relationships are only those that are course, mean and disturbed. way to twist my words into something I did not say or imply. no woman, no matter her emotionally stability or lack thereof deserves to be emotionally or physically abused. period.


    sponger wrote:
    The truth is that most women would rather endure a lifetime of that abuse than risk being single again. This is especially true if children are involved, or if the man was the principle bread-winner, and too many other reasons to mention. And that's not including the stigma that single women face as they themselves get older.

    You've just spent post after post demonstrating your obliviousness to those certain realities of people and relationships. It's too unreal.

    you couldn't be anymore off the mark if you were trying to be. I was in a four year relationship with my kids Dad where after 2 plus years he became emotionally and physically abusive. it took over a year to put together a plan to take my kids and leave him. that's why I said an emotionally balanced woman will leave an asshole at the earliest opportunity. for most women in an abusive realtionship it can't/doesn't happen immediately. she has to have the emotional where withall to have the strength to devise a plan to leave and to carry it out successfully.

    for you to say that most women would rather endure a lifetime of abuse than risk being single again is just absurd. there are very few women that are like that. it is especially true that if there are children involved that she knows that those kids are all the more reason to get the hell away from her abuser; not stick around so that the kids can see if next time that Daddy hits Mommy will be the time that Daddy ends up murdering Mommy.

    how much time have you spent volunteering in a domestic violence shelter? I don't know about you but when I did I never told a women she couldn't take care of herself and her kids because her husband was the principle bread-winner. that and she might be faced with a social stigma(what is this, the 1950's?) as she gets older if she becomes single again. what I did tell them was "hey, I didn't have much money. i had to cross an international border with two kids on a bus. I didn't know a soul in this entire State and all of my family and friends were 3000 miles away. but I found the strength to do it because i owed it to myself and my kids to leave and never go back. and that if I could do it than anyone could." and I did raise two sucessful kids by myself. if that makes me emotionally unbalanced than that makes you fucked in the head.


    so i'm certainly not oblivious to the realities of people and relationships. and i'm sure not going to give any credit to your assertion that woman like assholes and like to be treated like shit because hey, it sure beats being single.







    genie wrote:
    my point is: some women are stable when they get into a relationship, and then after being manipulated, controlled, and threatened they become fearful and afraid to leave their boyfriend. and i will also say they become used to being controlled by someone, if that control is taken away they are left with fear of unknown.

    having been in the sitution in the past the fear of the unknown is much better than the constant fear of being manipulated, controlled, and threatened and abused. the thing is that a woman will find the emotional balance to to take enough control back in order that she can make a plan to leave and follow through with it. that in no way says that if a woman is emotionally unbalanced that she shouldn't make every effort to leave, though she may need more support in the way of friends, family, the police, the court system and social services. plus, no woman should be be made to feel that she is weak or incapable of having control for asking for help to leave and stay out of going back to an abusive relationship.
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  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    Why the shock?

    I didn't know someone with that criteria existed!!! ;) soooooo.....what's your 10C number????? :D

    Happy New Year to you!!!!!
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • Whizbang wrote:
    I didn't know someone with that criteria existed!!! ;) soooooo.....what's your 10C number????? :D

    Happy New Year to you!!!!!

    They don't exist..... in the 10c!

    (I'm not in the 10c.. never felt I wanted to spend the money and being from the UK, the benefits weren't enough - I already get disabled seats to shows.)

    Happy New Year indeed :D
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  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    prism wrote:


    having been in the sitution in the past the fear of the unknown is much better than the constant fear of being manipulated, controlled, and threatened and abused. the thing is that a woman will find the emotional balance to to take enough control back in order that she can make a plan to leave and follow through with it. that in no way says that if a woman is emotionally unbalanced that she shouldn't make every effort to leave, though she may need more support in the way of friends, family, the police, the court system and social services. plus, no woman should be be made to feel that she is weak or incapable of having control for asking for help to leave and stay out of going back to an abusive relationship.

    erm, yeah it all true.but before they get all this support emotionally balanced women who became imotionally unbalanced need some time to get strong and escape the relationship.
    Also Prism and Sponger i think you fighting over nothing :o hopefully on this New Years Day you can kiss and make up ;):) hehe actually no it's all up to you two.

    I tell you who is real asshole and that's my ex boyfriend!! can't believe i had to see his arrogant face on a New Years Eve
  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    g under p wrote:
    This can be true in that I work as a nurse with a couple that have been married for 67 years. The husband has always told me he pictured growing old with his wife whom he married back in 1940.

    Even with an occasional tiff between them they're pretty happy together after ALL these years.

    I've done that same picture with my partner and THAT scenerio sits very well with me. Nice analogy.

    Peace
    dammmnnnnn 1940???? :eek: thats a LONG time to be married. :eek:
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  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    genie wrote:
    erm, yeah it all true.but before they get all this support emotionally balanced women who became imotionally unbalanced need some time to get strong and escape the relationship.
    Also Prism and Sponger i think you fighting over nothing :o hopefully on this New Years Day you can kiss and make up ;):) hehe actually no it's all up to you two.

    I tell you who is real asshole and that's my ex boyfriend!! can't believe i had to see his arrogant face on a New Years Eve
    maybe u should sing "SINCE YOUVE BEEN GONE" to him!!!! :D
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  • g under pg under p Surfing The far side of THE Sombrero Galaxy Posts: 18,199
    SENROCK! wrote:
    dammmnnnnn 1940???? :eek: thats a LONG time to be married. :eek:

    That Is a long timmmme, but when your wealthy as these folks being married that long appears to make it easier.

    Money matters in some of these marriages, I gather.

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  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    SENROCK! wrote:
    maybe u should sing "SINCE YOUVE BEEN GONE" to him!!!! :D

    by which artist?
  • intodeepintodeep Posts: 7,240
    g under p wrote:
    How to know he's a keeper?

    Any of you ladies out there knows if he's a keeper or not?

    Peace

    Interesting.

    I read all of those and for the most part they are true. I mean it goes both ways. A person is a keeper if you geniunly respect and enjoy each other.

    that said keep in mind people are human and no one is perfect.
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  • prism wrote:
    this is how a woman knows:

    if he's a keeper he's already taken and kept by his wife/s.o.


    single keepers don't exist beyond around the age of 30

    :(

    I disagree! I'm 36 and i found my keeper about 6 months ago. He's 35, and the greatest guy i've ever met. He's the one. I am sooooo lucky, and he feels the same way! Hope is not lost!
  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    genie wrote:
    by which artist?
    KELLY CLARKSON!!!!! dont discriminate just yet.....
    http://youtube.com/watch?v=cdxRS_GyBbM
    this song rules just for fun!!!! :D
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  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    SENROCK! wrote:
    KELLY CLARKSON!!!!! dont discriminate just yet.....
    http://youtube.com/watch?v=cdxRS_GyBbM
    this song rules just for fun!!!! :D

    keep this secret for me please,what i'm about to say into your ear ;) : I like Kelly's song "Never again" ! :o:o

    But if i were to sing any of these to him, he'd think i compeletly lost my marbles.....and i would not look cool at all! come to think of it, this last time i saw him i thought i was cool, but then i said something which i thought was alright, but he thought i was bitching, oh well at least i confused him. hehehe.
  • SENROCKSENROCK Posts: 10,736
    genie wrote:
    keep this secret for me please,what i'm about to say into your ear ;) : I like Kelly's song "Never again" ! :o:o

    But if i were to sing any of these to him, he'd think i compeletly lost my marbles.....and i would not look cool at all! come to think of it, this last time i saw him i thought i was cool, but then i said something which i thought was alright, but he thought i was bitching, oh well at least i confused him. hehehe.

    *whispers* k i wont tell ANNNNYONE. ;)
    me liking this song started out as a joke. Then one day.....i just started liking it ALLLLOT!!! i dont appreciate her trashing the guys house or anything but...i just like the tune of the song i guess! :D and come on, you've gotta be at least a LITTLE bit cool.....
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

    "Pearl Jam fans are obsessed, they'd see the boys in HELL if tickets were sold."-CROJAM95

    It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
  • nothingman44nothingman44 Posts: 1,495
    truthfully, i think that is all a bunch of bullshit.
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