How To Know He's A Keeper?

sponger

AmentsChick wrote:

I'll admit I was making a generalization, but so were you.

I did no such thing.

AmentsChick

sponger wrote:

I did no such thing.

I'm not going to get into a pissing match with you. I will admit there are probably good men left out there, but I'm still looking for mine...and the looking (and not finding) is frustrating.

GreenTeaDisease

prism wrote:

this is how a woman knows:

if he's a keeper he's already taken and kept by his wife/s.o.


single keepers don't exist beyond around the age of 30

:(

well, as my friend says "my future husband is currently unhappily married." If a guy gets married as young as his twenties, there's a good chance it was a mistake and he'll be divorced by the time the good women are ready to get married anyway.

sponger

AmentsChick wrote:

I'm not going to get into a pissing match with you. I will admit there are probably good men left out there,, but I'm still looking for mine...and the looking (and not finding) is frustrating.

Well maybe you should put down the double cheeseburger and spend some time at the gym for once.

ajedigecko

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

well, as my friend says "my future husband is currently unhappily married." If a guy gets married as young as his twenties, there's a good chance it was a mistake and he'll be divorced by the time the good women are ready to get married anyway.

interesting.....i dated my wife through high school, through college, and have been married for 12 years. she is my best friend and we share all the same interests, except she does not like to ride bicycle the way i like to ride. as an earlier poster commented on, "being 80 and just enjoying their company". that is a perfect statement.
so back to the original question of knowing when he/she is a "keeper"....you develop your own list of qualifications who you think you could spend the rest of your life with. if he/she does not meet a large percentage of the qualifications....failure.
so with that said....i am fortunate to have my wife. she exceeded my qualifications and i am still trying to meet hers.

GreenTeaDisease

AmentsChick wrote:

I'm not going to get into a pissing match with you. I will admit there are probably good men left out there,, but I'm still looking for mine...and the looking (and not finding) is frustrating.

why are you looking? Finding the "right" person isn't something that can be controled, it's luck. that's why you are frustrated. a vast majority of people who are "with" someone are just with them because they don't think it's right to be single. being single is quite natural and quite good. being with someone can be good to of course, but if it's not the "right" person then what's the point?

GreenTeaDisease

ajedigecko wrote:

interesting.....i dated my wife through high school, through college, and have been married for 12 years.

i didn't say it was a rule.

ajedigecko

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

i didn't say it was a rule.

i stand corrected...i did not see the phrase "a good chance" in the quote from your friend.

now that i have reread, i will agree with your friend.

ajedigecko

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

i didn't say it was a rule.

also......my wife loves your screen name.

sponger

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

why are you looking? Finding the "right" person isn't something that can be controled, it's luck. that's why you are frustrated. a vast majority of people who are "with" someone are just with them because they don't think it's right to be single. being single is quite natural and quite good. being with someone can be good to of course, but if it's not the "right" person then what's the point?

Exactly. People who are in relationships just have lower standards.

GreenTeaDisease

ajedigecko wrote:

also......my wife loves your screen name.

haha well tell her thanks. I wanted to be "green disease" but green for environment, not money, but how would people know that? and I was drinking green tea at the moment .

GreenTeaDisease

sponger wrote:

Exactly. People who are in relationships just have lower standards.

some of them do...

sponger

I used to work for a law firm in the finance department. My manager was woman who was in her early 30's.

About a year after I started working there, she was getting married. I went to her wedding.

One day she goes, "It was my goal to get married by 35."

She was so desperate to get married, in fact, she ended up marrying a guy who was jobless and didn't have his own car.

Now I hear he's a warehouse manager.

It's just that simple.

prism

sponger wrote:

being that I am over 30 and single.

sponger wrote:

Well maybe you should put down the double cheeseburger and spend some time at the gym for once.

now does anyone doubt why this dude is not a keeper and is still single?

SENROCK

given2fly78 wrote:

can you picture yourselves together when you are 80, sitting on your front porch, sipping ice tea, rocking in rocking chairs saying nothing at all - just enjoying each others company?

that is DEFINITELY the sign right there.

g under p

SENROCK! wrote:

that is DEFINITELY the sign right there.

This can be true in that I work as a nurse with a couple that have been married for 67 years. The husband has always told me he pictured growing old with his wife whom he married back in 1940.

Even with an occasional tiff between them they're pretty happy together after ALL these years.

I've done that same picture with my partner and THAT scenerio sits very well with me. Nice analogy.

Peace

sponger

prism wrote:

now does anyone doubt why this dude is not a keeper and is still single?

lol. You make it sound as though only those who are polite get married.

prism

sponger wrote:

lol. You make it sound as though only those who are polite get married.

however I know that men that behave like an asshole by make degrading, mean comments to a woman the way that you did don't get married. and if on the off chance that they are already married won't stay that way for very long...

Brain of J.Lo

prism wrote:

now does anyone doubt why this dude is not a keeper and is still single?

Agreed.

That cheeseburger remark was some world-class douchebaggery. :rolleyes:

Phantom Pain

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

well, as my friend says "my future husband is currently unhappily married." If a guy gets married as young as his twenties, there's a good chance it was a mistake and he'll be divorced by the time the good women are ready to get married anyway.

I got married at 30 and I'm a guy

My wife is 4 years younger then me

I think may have been married earlier in life if I met the right girl, but I hooked up with my wife by luck really when I was 28

There's no way to know what age is a good age, it depends on the couple