Open relationships

decides2dream

justam wrote:

Dreamy gal, obviously people will go to great lengths for people they love. Even agree to things that aren't fair, even live with anxiety and insecurity, all sorts of things...

You can idealize this kind of relationship, but in my experience and in my observation of several people who tried this, the core of this idea is inequality (because one party is usually given more freedom than the other) and there's pain involved.

I'm so sick of this topic though, and that's as much of a response as you'll get outta me.

well, that is quite inequal, and also their choice. sad, absolutely. i would never go along with anything like that for someone i love, unless i truly, fully agreed to it and wanted it...otherwise what's the point?. i also wouldn't qualify such a relationship as truly 'open' then...and also why i believe most cannot and do not want to have such relationships.


as to the rest, we all know different people and different experiences that obviously influence and shape our individual pov. i respect that. btw - i am not *idealizing* anything, at all....just a very different perspective is all. and this topic HAs come up in the past and there have ben positive experiences and stories.....just like completely monogamous relationships....and so it goes......

genie

justam wrote:

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I think you've got it wrong. That's the whole inequity of the thing. That main girlfriend is workin' harder than anyone to be the ideal gf.

what the hell, he told me i could see anyone i want and he meant it, be it man/woman whoever... there is no way i am going to try and be extra nice to him to be 'ideal gf'.
i realise that whenever i get involved with someone i try really hard to make things work, but i saw from the beginning that there is no future with this person.in some ways i'm glad i met him because it gave me a chance to look at myself and see what i want from life, i also discovered this really cool band Megadeth!
I've also realised that i shouldn't take every relationship that i get into seriously, and that as soon as i start to not like some things about a person i should end it there and then and move on. from now on i'll be more ruthless

genie

OffHeGoes29 wrote:

Just my experience and opinion....which means nothing to anyone but myself.

you are partly right cause the guy did have a nervous breakdown once. and every now and again behind his confident exterior i do notice this weak side in him. any who i'm drunk as i am trying to recover from a cold, so i am going to stop my bitching about this guy right now.

genie

OffHeGoes29 wrote:

Just my experience and opinion....which means nothing to anyone but myself.

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angie76

A normal relationship is hard enough, I wouldn't even attempt that arrangement.