so what you do in this situation

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  • harmless_little_f***
    harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    Derrick wrote:
    I suppose I should be offended. If you seriously have an issue, feel free to pm me. .

    I didn't say it to offend you. I've got better things to do. I did, however, wish to make a point, which I did.. no need for any PMs.
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    harmless_little_f*** wrote:
    Not a 'fact of life'. At all. Not every guy out there is so shallow.

    it's not really about guys being shallow, it's more of a general thing. Like you can't date if you don't have any clothes to wear and stuff. And like, once you *know* someone stuff like that doesn't matter as much, but when it comes to trying to meet people it does.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    hahaha I just realized that most of the people who replied to this are men...would the women have the same opinion?
  • harmless_little_f***
    harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    it's not really about guys being shallow, it's more of a general thing. Like you can't date if you don't have any clothes to wear and stuff. And like, once you *know* someone stuff like that doesn't matter as much, but when it comes to trying to meet people it does.

    That's why I don't go to bars to meet people. My wheelchair doesn't make for a good first impression (before you argue against that, I've got enough evidence). I find online is a good place to meet people.. then there's no physicality bullshit to get in the way. People get to know you on your own merits. But whatever... internet, bar... doesn't matter; you have to be open to the fact that many guys don't want a stick thin girl anyway.
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

    - the great Sir Leo Harrison
  • rearviewmiror
    rearviewmiror Posts: 894
    As a guy, I know that there are men on both sides of the attractive issue. To the point of the original post: If you never take the chance you'll never know if you'll click in any fashion.
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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    harmless_little_f*** wrote:
    That's why I don't go to bars to meet people. My wheelchair doesn't make for a good first impression (before you argue against that, I've got enough evidence). I find online is a good place to meet people.. then there's no physicality bullshit to get in the way.

    I wouldn't argue with that at all. I think online dating has it's huge merits when it comes to stuff like this.
    harmless_little_f*** wrote:
    you have to be open to the fact that many guys don't want a stick thin girl anyway.

    I agree with that and it's not really a concern because I could never be "stick thin" even if I were anorexic (underneath everything, I'm just huge and it's always going to be that way)...but looking out of shape is something I can't live with. I would never want to meet a guy and have his first impression of me be that I'm lazy and like to eat. I don't want *anyone's* first impression of me to be that. and right now if you look at me, that's going to be your first impression.
  • MattCameronKicksButt
    MattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    hahaha I just realized that most of the people who replied to this are men...would the women have the same opinion?

    I wouldn't go up to a strange guy either and I wouldn't have clue what to say.

    I'm glad I could be helpful. ;)
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    I've rarely just looked at some girl in a bar and started a random conversation...that's typically just too awkward for me. I usually wait for a natural exchange to happen.

    Consequently, I haven't picked up too many women from bars.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Saturnal wrote:
    I've rarely just looked at some girl in a bar and started a random conversation...that's typically just too awkward for me. I usually wait for a natural exchange to happen.

    Consequently, I haven't picked up too many women from bars.

    I think this raises another question, which is then, how do you meet people? Because I agree, I don't think a bar or any other random public place is likely.
    Personally I've always just been really bad at meeting people in general. I'm always the last to make friends in any new situation. And I never find myself around available men on top of it.
  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I think this raises another question, which is then, how do you meet people? Because I agree, I don't think a bar or any other random public place is likely.
    Personally I've always just been really bad at meeting people in general. I'm always the last to make friends in any new situation. And I never find myself around available men on top of it.
    I was/am always bad at meeting people, and ended up in a few work-related relationships, which was incredibly stupid ;)
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Rygar wrote:
    I was/am always bad at meeting people, and ended up in a few work-related relationships, which was incredibly stupid ;)

    luckily, I will not have that problem.
  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    luckily, I will not have that problem.
    I definitely wouldn't recommend it if you ever have the opportunity...
  • NY PJ1
    NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    Rygar wrote:
    I definitely wouldn't recommend it if you ever have the opportunity...


    i porked a few from my office a few years back
    and i dont recommend it
  • DaytimeDilemma
    DaytimeDilemma Posts: 2,008
    The internet has ruined everyone's social skills. This is the truth. I can't believe how many people here just don't understand the concept of speaking to the opposite sex. It's so weird. Our parents and our parents' parents never had Match.com or craigslist or whatnot. They got together through the oldest communication skill known to man, speech.


    For people older than 25, if this is a new concept to you...it's a bit sad.


    Sure, it's tough, but I mean the more you talk to people your chances only increase.
  • mookie9999
    mookie9999 Posts: 4,677
    DaytimeDilemma wrote:
    The internet has ruined everyone's social skills. This is the truth. I can't believe how many people here just don't understand the concept of speaking to the opposite sex. It's so weird. Our parents and our parents' parents never had Match.com or craigslist or whatnot. They got together through the oldest communication skill known to man, speech.


    For people older than 25, if this is a new concept to you...it's a bit sad.


    Sure, it's tough, but I mean the more you talk to people your chances only increase.

    Thank God for Craigslist! I can't tell you how embarrassing it was listening to my dad take out classified ads looking to join a "key party"!!! ;):D
    "The leads are weak!"

    "The leads are weak? Fuckin' leads are weak? You're Weak! I've Been in this business 15 years"

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  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    hahaha I just realized that most of the people who replied to this are men...would the women have the same opinion?


    I replied and I am WOMAN :)
  • mookie9999
    mookie9999 Posts: 4,677
    edvedder913 wrote:
    I am WOMAN :)

    Hear you roar! ;)
    "The leads are weak!"

    "The leads are weak? Fuckin' leads are weak? You're Weak! I've Been in this business 15 years"

    "What's your name?"

    "FUCK YOU! THAT"S MY NAME!"
  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    NY PJ1 wrote:
    i porked a few from my office a few years back
    and i dont recommend it


    I was seriously involved w/the President. Not recommended either....

    Thankfully it's a big company and he is in a differrent building. Although I do hear his voice via speaker phone coming from a few offices here.
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I think this raises another question, which is then, how do you meet people? Because I agree, I don't think a bar or any other random public place is likely.
    Personally I've always just been really bad at meeting people in general. I'm always the last to make friends in any new situation. And I never find myself around available men on top of it.
    Well, I'm not saying a bar is a bad place to meet people. I've met people that way...I just don't force it, that's all. There's a difference between walking up to some random person and saying "Hi I'm ____, what's up?" and waiting for a more appropriate time to start a convo.
  • NY PJ1
    NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    edvedder913 wrote:
    I was seriously involved w/the President. Not recommended either....

    Thankfully it's a big company and he is in a differrent building. Although I do hear his voice via speaker phone coming from a few offices here.


    yea i still work with one of the girls and its weird at times


    mostly my co-workers asking me dirty questions about her lol

    at the same time , whenever we have parties and dinner's i have to be careful because its always there ...waiting...watching :)

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