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  • markymark550markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,174
    eyedclaar wrote:
    Not that you've said anything bad here or anything, but for some reason I'm glad my SO doesn't post in the pit.
    I think everyone's significant other should be forced to post here. I think it would drastically limit the number of threads with people complaining about their significant other. Wait a minute....that would make this place more boring than a conference of librarians....
  • curmudgeonesscurmudgeoness Brigadoon, foodie capital Posts: 3,991
    Go for it! He's 27, not 18 or 19. Besides, were your genders reversed, and you were a 39-year-old guy dating a younger woman, I doubt that you would give the age difference much thought.
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    comebackgirl wrote:
    Yeah...I thought it would have been for me too...but I guess you don't really know until it happens. Then again I was married at 22 and wasn't the typical 22 year old either...so I know it's possible to be mature and have a mature relationship at that age...which I had to remind myself of to erase some of my skepticism

    of course love can change all...if i happen to meet "the girl" and she was 10+ years younger i'd adjust.....much like you have with tim....but if i were looking for a gf i would probably look for someone closer in age....:)
  • meisteredermeistereder Posts: 1,577
    I am the younger man in my relatiionship. I am 34 and my girlfriend is 42, so that's not huge but I have usually been in the opposite situation.

    I like it. I find we are way more in sync than any other relationship I have been in.
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  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    cutback wrote:
    of course love can change all...if i happen to meet "the girl" and she was 10+ years younger i'd adjust.....much like you have with tim....but if i were looking for a gf i would probably look for someone closer in age....:)
    I completely understand. I never imagined I would fall in love with someone that much younger...or that it would work...and neither did he - so it definitely caught us both off guard. I'm just glad neither one of us ruled it out just based on the number
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  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    comebackgirl wrote:
    It's all stuff we've talked about a million times anyway...and sometimes it can surprisingly make it easier to talk about stuff.


    Well that's good. My wife would tell everyone that I'm really a nice person and I can't have that. I have a reputation to maintain.
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  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    eyedclaar wrote:
    Well that's good. My wife would tell everyone that I'm really a nice person and I can't have that. I have a reputation to maintain.
    haha - well your secret is safe ;)
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  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    Go for it! Why not?

    I've noticed that a lot of finely seasoned women ;) are interested in me. At first my friends and I sort of joked about it, now it has become an indisputable fact. Half of my friends' mothers thinks I'm cute, attractive, even hot... some told me 'if only they were a little bit younger' and some even said 'if only they weren't married' :eek: A lady even started rubbing my leg on the train... That was weird.
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    eyedclaar wrote:
    Well that's good. My wife would tell everyone that I'm really a nice person and I can't have that. I have a reputation to maintain.

    don't worry...we all know you're a prick ;)
  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    cutback wrote:
    don't worry...we all know you're a prick ;)

    Thank god someone has been paying attention.
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  • AnnaMelindaAnnaMelinda Posts: 331
    I say go for it...

    But just remember... if you stay together... when he is 35 and can MOST LIKELY date 27 year old chicks... you'll be 47.... almost 50.
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  • lalalalaaaaaaaalalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    Collin wrote:
    Go for it! Why not?

    I've noticed that a lot of finely seasoned women ;) are interested in me. At first my friends and I sort of joked about it, now it has become an indisputable fact. Half of my friends' mothers thinks I'm cute, attractive, even hot... some told me 'if only they were a little bit younger' and some even said 'if only they weren't married' :eek: A lady even started rubbing my leg on the train... That was weird.
    I'd bust out the cougar repellent if I were you, crackerjack. They're a shifty, devil brigade...
  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    Dont Do It!
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  • Inhiding230Inhiding230 Posts: 362
    I have come to realize that age is just a number. I am 41, he is 28. We have been together for over 4 years and living together for 3 years. At first we discussed the age thing a lot because we were worried that it may be an issue, but we both agree it is not.

    Neither of us have experienced this kind of happiness in a relationship before and age really does not get in the way for us. Not to mention our sex life is amazing...... :D He really is an old soul, is a homebody and very responsible and mature. Most people who meet us or know us, don't even realize there is an age difference unless we mention it. We have the same taste in movies, most music, and the same sick sense of humor and we laugh a lot together. He adores me and makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. There isn't a thing he wouldn't do for me and vice versa. What can be wrong with a relationship like that ? :)

    Go for it and don't worry about the age - don't ignore it though and definitely discuss it with him if things look to becoming more serious.
  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    In all seriousness. I wouldn't go too much younger then my age. I actually would prefer my age or up to 10 years older. I need someone who have sown their wild oats and are out of their angsty tme.
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  • harmless_little_f***harmless_little_f*** Posts: 8,005
    libragirl wrote:
    In all seriousness. I wouldn't go too much younger then my age. I actually would prefer my age or up to 10 years older. I need someone who have sown their wild oats and are out of their angsty tme.

    Hmm.. might you be making some assumptions about younger men?

    The only wild oats I'm involved with I eat for breakfast. And I quite fancy having an allotment one day.

    And I don't recall ever having an 'angsty time' above the age of 18.
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  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    harmless_little_f*** wrote:

    And I don't recall ever having an 'angsty time' above the age of 18.

    Ummmm.... And I thought my short term memory was swiss cheese.
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  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    harmless_little_f*** wrote:
    Hmm.. might you be making some assumptions about younger men?

    The only wild oats I'm involved with I eat for breakfast. And I quite fancy having an allotment one day.

    And I don't recall ever having an 'angsty time' above the age of 18.

    ha..yeah an assumption based on experience. Some people never get over their angst or maybe it's immaturity..but anyway no younger guys I don't care if they are dynamos in the sack.
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  • LONGRDLONGRD Posts: 6,036
    libragirl wrote:
    In all seriousness. I wouldn't go too much younger then my age. I actually would prefer my age or up to 10 years older. I need someone who have sown their wild oats and are out of their angsty tme.
    where does a 26-year-old male stand in your case?

    would you want to do something like that?
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  • LONGRDLONGRD Posts: 6,036
    libragirl wrote:
    ha..yeah an assumption based on experience. Some people never get over their angst or maybe it's immaturity..but anyway no younger guys I don't care if they are dynamos in the sack.
    oh damn, guess that answered my question above. :(
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  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    libragirl wrote:
    ha..yeah an assumption based on experience. Some people never get over their angst or maybe it's immaturity..but anyway no younger guys I don't care if they are dynamos in the sack.
    It depends on the guy. There are men in their 40's who haven't gotten over their angst. Maturity isn't always related to age...
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  • urbanhippieurbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    libragirl wrote:
    In all seriousness. I wouldn't go too much younger then my age. I actually would prefer my age or up to 10 years older. I need someone who have sown their wild oats and are out of their angsty tme.
    I probably would have said all of this before I met my boyfriend. Especially having children and having just left a 15 year marriage.

    My point is, you don't choose who you fall in love with and setting parameters using age, status, income or anything else seems to be denying yourself the widest possible chance of happiness.
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  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    comebackgirl wrote:
    It depends on the guy. There are men in their 40's who haven't gotten over their angst. Maturity isn't always related to age...

    Yeah I knew someone was going to mention that point. That is very true. If there was an immature guy in his 40s I would find him.
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  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    urbanhippie wrote:
    I probably would have said all of this before I met my boyfriend. Especially having children and having just left a 15 year marriage.

    My point is, you don't choose who you fall in love with and setting parameters using age, status, income or anything else seems to be denying yourself the widest possible chance of happiness.

    meh..don't mind me Im very jaded and have a deep dissatisfaction with the oppposite sex right now. So yes everything I say will be negative in that regard.
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  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    urbanhippie wrote:

    My point is, you don't choose who you fall in love with and setting parameters using age.


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  • urbanhippieurbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    comebackgirl wrote:
    It depends on the guy. There are men in their 40's who haven't gotten over their angst. Maturity isn't always related to age...
    Too true. My ex was older than me and so full of issues and problems that even with the best will in the world, I gave up trying to fight them.
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  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    libragirl wrote:
    Yeah I knew someone was going to mention that point. That is very true. If there was an immature guy in his 40s I would find him.
    shhhhhh! Don't jinx yourself!
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  • RygarRygar Posts: 8,689
    eyedclaar wrote:
    Ah yes, the Alabama state motto.
    hahahaha
  • LONGRDLONGRD Posts: 6,036
    comebackgirl wrote:
    It depends on the guy. There are men in their 40's who haven't gotten over their angst. Maturity isn't always related to age...
    Can you define "maturity"?
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  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    eyedclaar wrote:
    Ah yes, the Alabama state motto.
    :D

    If I go any younger I just may have to move there :p
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
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