thanks love! My mom said crazy things when I was a teenager. Not the greatest time in a girls life to make weight comments. We'd all be out eating and everyone would order dessert and she'd cut me off, and say to the server, "she doesn't really need any of that" (!!!!!!!!!!!!) My mom always tried to make me diet and lose weight (I was pretty heavy for a teenager, like around 200lbs) but the pressure she put on me was too much, and I couldn't get a handle on it. I finally lost all the weight when I moved away from my family and could do it on my own, for me! It never helps to tell someone they are fat. People claim they are motivating people, but actually it was more like torture.
I would NEVER classify myself as small framed. I think I just have a small wrist, or a really long pinky finger (??)
It is so weird though how someone can be a totally different size, but be the same weight and height as someone else. It's all about where the weight is situated.
wow...that just breks my heart........:( *hugs*
glad you got out on your own and got yourself healthy for YOU....on your own terms. kudos!
me, i was always a skinny kid, but no one really tried to make me eat more either, which was good. my oldest sister was always a bit heavy, but i don't think any pressure was put on her either. my parents of course had their *issues* but in regards to body image and all that, they were good.
however, nowadays...tis difficult coming from an 'eat anything and always be thin' life....and yet, it no longer applies. hahahaha. damn willpower. working on it though! i think, slowly, i am getting more in the swing of that *balance*......still regress at times, and not where i'd like to be...but i KNOW when i DO reach my goal...i WILL be able to maintain it, and that to me is the hardest/best part.
I have seen photos of you...you are skinny as a rail.
lol at hearing yourself getting fatter.
you must have seen my Seattle photo from 2006. Stressed out and skinny as hell! I needed to put some back on.....but the other day at my sister's? damn......ugh, I just ate too much.
believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
im 15, weighed about 162lbs since i hit the 5 ft10 mark(7th grade)
but since a few months ago, ive been lifting every weekday and cycling on the weekends(trying out for football next year). ive lost some fat and gained a lot of muscle. can bench nearly twice as much as i could before i started. feels a lot easier to do other activities now too. im at 179 as of 5:30 today. gotta love teenage metabolism!
they call them fingers, but i never see them fing. oh, there they go
thanks love! My mom said crazy things when I was a teenager. Not the greatest time in a girls life to make weight comments. We'd all be out eating and everyone would order dessert and she'd cut me off, and say to the server, "she doesn't really need any of that" (!!!!!!!!!!!!) My mom always tried to make me diet and lose weight (I was pretty heavy for a teenager, like around 200lbs) but the pressure she put on me was too much, and I couldn't get a handle on it. I finally lost all the weight when I moved away from my family and could do it on my own, for me! It never helps to tell someone they are fat. People claim they are motivating people, but actually it was more like torture.
I would NEVER classify myself as small framed. I think I just have a small wrist, or a really long pinky finger (??)
It is so weird though how someone can be a totally different size, but be the same weight and height as someone else. It's all about where the weight is situated.
Oh my god GS!!! :eek: My Mum used to do that too!!
I can remember being at a progressive dinner once for my ballet school to raise money for costumes and I'd eaten small portions at each house, been really careful about my choices all evening. When we got to the house that was serving the dessert, I spent the longest time standing way back, trying to decide if I would have any or not and finally settled on a really tiny piece of pavlova that I was planning to only have a few mouthfuls of. It made me so nervous just going to the table to serve myself and I'd only just turned away to go find a seat when my mother darted across from the other side of the room, screaming "NO!" at me, snatched up my plate and effectively made me wish I was dead because all eyes in the room were now upon us. And that's not the only time she did it either. Needless to say we've since had some very long discussions about how her efforts and the help of a few other situations in my life set me up for a long battle with bulimia and other disordered eating. They really don't understand the power they hold I think, or the consequences of the things they say and do. I was constantly put on diets, not anyone else in the house, just me. AND I wasn't even overweight. Took me ages to realize she was projecting. Yeah, I'm sorry you had to play that game, it's no fun.
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wow...that just breks my heart........:( *hugs*
glad you got out on your own and got yourself healthy for YOU....on your own terms. kudos!
me, i was always a skinny kid, but no one really tried to make me eat more either, which was good. my oldest sister was always a bit heavy, but i don't think any pressure was put on her either. my parents of course had their *issues* but in regards to body image and all that, they were good.
however, nowadays...tis difficult coming from an 'eat anything and always be thin' life....and yet, it no longer applies.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
you must have seen my Seattle photo from 2006. Stressed out and skinny as hell! I needed to put some back on.....but the other day at my sister's? damn......ugh, I just ate too much.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
but since a few months ago, ive been lifting every weekday and cycling on the weekends(trying out for football next year). ive lost some fat and gained a lot of muscle. can bench nearly twice as much as i could before i started. feels a lot easier to do other activities now too. im at 179 as of 5:30 today. gotta love teenage metabolism!
Oh my god GS!!! :eek: My Mum used to do that too!!
I can remember being at a progressive dinner once for my ballet school to raise money for costumes and I'd eaten small portions at each house, been really careful about my choices all evening. When we got to the house that was serving the dessert, I spent the longest time standing way back, trying to decide if I would have any or not and finally settled on a really tiny piece of pavlova that I was planning to only have a few mouthfuls of. It made me so nervous just going to the table to serve myself and I'd only just turned away to go find a seat when my mother darted across from the other side of the room, screaming "NO!" at me, snatched up my plate and effectively made me wish I was dead because all eyes in the room were now upon us.
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