Man I'm in a bind

Stone Is God

I love how AG's post got him reduced to an ignorant sexist. The whole point was he feels that he's probably better serving his family by making money to lift what might be a financial burden. He's just questioning if it's the correct move or not to benefit his child.

Amazing how people will twist words to make other people look bad.

You want to talk about being ignorant, not being open to the way other people think even when you don't agree or what they may be going through seems ignorant to me.

The Champ

Stone Is God wrote:

I love how AG's post got him reduced to an ignorant sexist. The whole point was he feels that he's probably better serving his family by making money to lift what might be a financial burden. He's just questioning if it's the correct move or not to benefit his child.

Amazing how people will twist words to make other people look bad.

You want to talk about being ignorant, not being open to the way other people think even when you don't agree or what they may be going through seems ignorant to me.

Correction, I think only Greentea is guilty of this..

genie

i'm kind of in a hurry, so i didn't read whole thread, but i haven't noticed anyone commenting on why it is that Acoustic_guy wants to work full time. Meaning both parents are going to be working full time, i mean are you guys in financial difficulty ( which of course is non of my business ), but if you're not then why go and work?? if it's for her tuition fees then i'm sure when she grows up she can take out a loan or go about it in a different way.

my bottom line is she will appreciate having her parents there spending time with her than any fucking nanny, day care centre, so choose wisely

JOEJOEJOE

Acoustic Guy:

I will break it down in language you understand:

You are not sexist, and the few people who have had a go at you are NUTS!

Ms. Haiku

meme wrote:

First of all, make sure it's a good place. Accreditation with the NAEYC means they are. Go check a few, go by recommendations by other parents. "almost 2" is a good age to start day care. She will most likely cry. What you can do is to go visit the center with her for a few times and show your enthusiasm for the toys, the kids the teacher. It is IMPERATIVE that you keep a positive attitude even while she cries. Make sure you keep the goodbyes neat and brief.

If it's not now, it's going to be when she is in kindergarten and her time would be better spent learning things than crying about daddy being away.

Good luck to you.

I used to work at a NAEYC accredited child care. Definitely the way to go, and make sure it is accredited within your state, too. Meme wrote some great stuff. Watch for the child/teacher ratio. I worked at one where a couple people had Master's degrees in early childhood education. I learned so much from them because they truly embraced the idea of children growing up, exploring, and being individuals - not a "group" of children. When the parents dropped them off, at first there was that time when the children had to get used to the parents leaving. After a while, the children took it as a matter of course and went straight to play.

genie

lay off the feminist bullshit, i've read his post and i didn't think he was sexist....and i'm a woman and a feminist at times!

Brain of J.Lo

genie wrote:

but if you're not then why go and work??

But the parent's quality of life is important, too. If he doesn't feel personally fulfilled by staying home, then maybe his whole family would be better off if he worked.

Just a thought.

I fully understand both sides of the daycare/stay-at-home parent debate.

genie

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

But the parent's quality of life is important, too. If he doesn't feel personally fulfilled by staying home, then maybe his whole family would be better off if he worked.

Just a thought.

I fully understand both sides of the daycare/stay-at-home parent debate.

fair enough, i don't know his situation and how he feels so i'm just giving him food for thought.

Brain of J.Lo

I have to agree that acoustic guy was not being sexist.

It can be difficult to assume a role in which you never imagined yourself. That extends to all aspects of life.

DOSW

acoustic guy wrote:

I was not saying it to be sexist. I don't agree with people who are sexist. If you can't understand what I'm saying then thats your problem not mine.
I believe that a woman can do everything a man can do.I don't think her place is in the kitchen by any means. But, I feel that a woman has a softer touch when it comes to raising a child. Is that wrong to say? I think I do a awesome job raising my daughter, but I know my wife would be better. She kicks ass at her job and I don't resent her for it in any way. I make my yearly salary in 6 months. I 'm cool with her working. I just want her to not have too. She would rather be a home aswell. Does that make her sexist? No.
Sorry, that how I feel.

Look. Sexism, like any other form of prejudice, comes in lots of different packages. It's more than just thinking that a woman should stay in the kitchen, just like how racism is so much more than just calling a person the n-word. Prejudice is about holding views which promote cultural falsehoods.

I'm not saying you're sexist. If you want to work so you can have more resources to provide for your daughter, that's fine. But that one sentence made it sound like you want to work because, as a man, you feel it's your duty to work and a woman's duty to take care of the kids. And yes, that is sexist. You might not have meant it that way, but that's how it sounded to some.

And I'm saying this as a man myself.

acoustic guy

genie wrote:

i'm kind of in a hurry, so i didn't read whole thread, but i haven't noticed anyone commenting on why it is that Acoustic_guy wants to work full time. Meaning both parents are going to be working full time, i mean are you guys in financial difficulty ( which of course is non of my business ), but if you're not then why go and work?? if it's for her tuition fees then i'm sure when she grows up she can take out a loan or go about it in a different way.

my bottom line is she will appreciate having her parents there spending time with her than any fucking nanny, day care centre, so choose wisely

We get buy financially, We live well but we live above and beyond our means. I want more things for my family then just getting by. We are good but I want to get them more, yakknow.

The Champ

failedpersephone wrote:

oh my. . . his wife is the primary 'bread winner" and that can be a burden when there is a small child at home...for either parent to have to leave the home to make the bulk of the living it is a heartbreak. he was simply stating that. He didn't say that "Because she was a woman she wanted to be at home" that was YOU who said that...you make so many chip on your shoulder inferences that it is unbelievable. once again, He was saying that he felt like he needed to lift some of the burden from his wife since technically the MONEY part of their partnership is only seasonal for him. and seriously - this is the most sexist thing you have heard?? do you have nosebleeds from being up on high??



he said that his mother and his mother in law does this...remember you took umbrage at that earlier - he was "spoiled" remember???


okay the gypsy thread is not this thread. a person can have multiple facets...i can't even begin to write everything I can think of with this section of your misguided post. seriously - your sniffling hand clasped style of "hoping" for his daughter's sake is really insufferable...and by the way Acoustic Guy isn't your daddy - so maybe you should take your own advice about the therapy thread, and get your daddy aggressions out on someone else. this man was asking for help not condemnation.

Hello POT.

(sorry had to borrow that one again.)

Wait, where is the monkey loving in this post? Seriously though, he was only asking for help. How someone could be so wrapped up in themselves to fail the see this and/or purposely ignore just to attack is pathetic..

genie

acoustic guy wrote:

We get buy financially, We live well but we live above and beyond our means. I want more things for my family then just getting by. We are good but I want to get them more, yakknow.

well there is your choice whether you want to give attention and love to your kid or whether you want to buy some cool designer shoes or expensive toys. all up to you

acoustic guy

Stone Is God wrote:

I love how AG's post got him reduced to an ignorant sexist. The whole point was he feels that he's probably better serving his family by making money to lift what might be a financial burden. He's just questioning if it's the correct move or not to benefit his child.

Amazing how people will twist words to make other people look bad.

You want to talk about being ignorant, not being open to the way other people think even when you don't agree or what they may be going through seems ignorant to me.

You wrote my thoughts exactly. I was siting here thinking how to write it and then I read this.

Fucking people in here. Some of the women in here remind me of a sister I want to torture. Pin ya down and poke my finger at your forhead until ya cry.

How do ya lock a thread?

The Champ

JOEJOEJOE wrote:

Acoustic Guy:

I will break it down in language you understand:

You are not sexist, and the few people who have had a go at you are NUTS!

No shit..

Steve Dunne

AG listen up:


My kids go to daycare and many of the young women who watch the kids are hawt!!! Little man doesn't know how good he has it!

The above sentence is sexist, completely accurate, and should be taken with a grain of salt. or sugar. And at my age, checking out hot chicks for all of a couple of minutes before I have to drive the kids home, cook for them, do their laundry, bath them, and put them to bed is pretty freakin fine by me.

Danimal

acoustic guy wrote:

okay so some of you know I own business. Well its seasonal from April through October. The rest of the year i take care of my daughter b/c my wife works full time. Its hard being Mr. mom everyday as the man of the house. It can be hard accepting that roll but its for my daughter so its gotta be done.

So I have been looking for a full time job year around also. Now I have a chance to take pretty good job but I don't have anybody to watch my daughter. she is almost 2 and I am worried about taking her to daycare. I'm worried she will freak out when I leave her all alone. I can't imigine her being a alone and crying.

What to do??????

This post is COMPLETELY racist! I do not see any mention of Asians anywhere!

acoustic guy

genie wrote:

well there is your choice whether you want to give attention and love to your kid or whether you want to buy some cool designer shoes or expensive toys. all up to you

No no no. Okay IE

We have a third floor hat is incomplete, I wanna finish it for a play area.
We have a back yard that boarders up to woods, The house was new so its a raw. I want to finish it with a fence, grass, etc.. A place for my kids!
Fuck I'm done.

The Champ

DOSW wrote:

You might not have meant it that way, but that's how it sounded to some.

Some=two in this case..

DOSW

acoustic guy wrote:

Fucking people in here. Some of the women in here remind me of a sister I want to torture. Pin ya down and poke my finger at your forhead until ya cry.

I'm not a woman. I'll admit though that I am probably more sensitive than most people about these issues because it's a pretty big subject in some of my classes.