Man I'm in a bind

in_hiding79

noisy mind wrote:

i don't know if this has been covered. i fell asleep 6 times through the first 8 pages of this thread.

LOL

I thought it was because I'm heavily medicated, but I fell asleep too..wtf is wrong with this thread?

Acoustic wanted some friendly advice about leaving his little girl at a daycare while he took a full time job that will help his family financially! When did it become him being a sexist....?!?!?!?! I applaud him for keeping so cool and obvioulsy being a "great" father. Good luck in finding that daycare dude...:D

Some of you people are weird...!

SPEEDY MCCREADY

in_hiding79 wrote:

LOL

I thought it was because I'm heavily medicated, but I fell asleep too..wtf is wrong with this thread?

Acoustic wanted some friendly advice about leaving his little girl at a daycare while he took a full time job that will help his family financially! When did it become him being a sexist....?!?!?!?! I applaud him for keeping so cool and obvioulsy being a "great" father. Good luck in finding that daycare dude...:D

Some of you people are weird...!

some people here are weird????

99% of the people on this board are fucking weird.....hehehehe

in_hiding79

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

some people here are weird????

99% of the people on this board are fucking weird.....hehehehe

99.9 % of the people on here are weird, mkay?

noisy mind

in_hiding79 wrote:

99.9 % of the people on here are weird, mkay?

i'm just glad to be in the 0.01% of the sane portion

SPEEDY MCCREADY

noisy mind wrote:

i'm just glad to be in the 0.01% of the sane portion

heheheheheheheehehehehe...................

chiquimonkey

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

some people here are weird????

99% of the people on this board are fucking weird.....hehehehe

i think that number is low

dawng

acoustic guy wrote:

okay so some of you know I own business. Well its seasonal from April through October. The rest of the year i take care of my daughter b/c my wife works full time. Its hard being Mr. mom everyday as the man of the house. It can be hard accepting that roll but its for my daughter so its gotta be done.

So I have been looking for a full time job year around also. Now I have a chance to take pretty good job but I don't have anybody to watch my daughter. she is almost 2 and I am worried about taking her to daycare. I'm worried she will freak out when I leave her all alone. I can't imigine her being a alone and crying.

What to do??????

I couldn't read the whole thread - it seemed to be going a bit far off topic. But I wanted you to know that there are more 'untraditional' families like your own. My husband has been a stay-at-home dad for 7 years now. There are occasions when he wishes he was able to work and 'provide' for the family - but when we really sit down and talk about it, we both realize that this is what is best for OUR family - and that he is providing so much more staying home.

Having made the decision for one of us to stay home, when our first was about 3 years, we realized that she really needed more time with other children, so she entered a preschool for a couple hours a day. My husband was able to get some 'adult' time and she was able to get some play time. She cried the first few times, but not for long. One great thing about the preschool that both of our kids went to was that they had a two-way mirror where parents could observe the classroom at any time (without the knowledge of the children or teachers) so my husband and I were able to drop in at any point to check on the kids. And it was quite amazing - as soon as we left the room it only took a couple minutes before they were done crying/being sad (it often took me longer to stop!) When our son started going - there were many times when he wouldn't even say goodbye sometimes he'd be so into playing as soon as he walked in!

Sorry for the book. My advice, talk to your wife and family, and don't let anyone tell you what is right or what is the 'norm' - just do what you feel is right.

in_hiding79

*dawn* wrote:

I couldn't read the whole thread - it seemed to be going a bit far off topic. But I wanted you to know that there are more 'untraditional' families like your own. My husband has been a stay-at-home dad for 7 years now. There are occasions when he wishes he was able to work and 'provide' for the family - but when we really sit down and talk about it, we both realize that this is what is best for OUR family - and that he is providing so much more staying home.

Having made the decision for one of us to stay home, when our first was about 3 years, we realized that she really needed more time with other children, so she entered a preschool for a couple hours a day. My husband was able to get some 'adult' time and she was able to get some play time. She cried the first few times, but not for long. One great thing about the preschool that both of our kids went to was that they had a two-way mirror where parents could observe the classroom at any time (without the knowledge of the children or teachers) so my husband and I were able to drop in at any point to check on the kids. And it was quite amazing - as soon as we left the room it only took a couple minutes before they were done crying/being sad (it often took me longer to stop!) When our son started going - there were many times when he wouldn't even say goodbye sometimes he'd be so into playing as soon as he walked in!

Sorry for the book. My advice, talk to your wife and family, and don't let anyone tell you what is right or what is the 'norm' - just do what you feel is right.

Awesome post Dawn!! I'm sure Acoustic guy will highly appreciate it!!

QuarterToTen

chiquimonkey wrote:

i think that number is low

i would not disagree

in_hiding79

noisy mind wrote:

i'm just glad to be in the 0.01% of the sane portion

hehehe

lol!!

Allie

I think most men feel like they have to be the 'breadwinner,' and support their family and especially their children. They're hardwired that way and also it's an ego thing as well, imo. Men don't want 'their women' supporting them?
correct me if I'm wrong, gentlemen

in_hiding79

Allie wrote:

I think most men feel like they have to be the 'breadwinner,' and support their family and especially their children. They're hardwired that way and also it's an ego thing as well, imo. Men don't want 'their women' supporting them?
correct me if I'm wrong, gentlemen

Sounds about right and there is nothing wrong with that either.....!!

LONGRD

Allie wrote:

I think most men feel like they have to be the 'breadwinner,' and support their family and especially their children. They're hardwired that way and also it's an ego thing as well, imo. Men don't want 'their women' supporting them?
correct me if I'm wrong, gentlemen

"Most men feel like they have to be the breadwinner"??? then why are there so many deadbeat dads out there.

It's not an ego or macho thing, it's more of pride and being proud men. Nothing wrong with that, a proud father is what a lot of kids like myself never had growing up. My father was a deadbeat, my mother played the role of both daddy & mommy.

So I see why A.G. feels like he needs to give more for his kid(s) but I think being there is great enough. Trust me, I wish my father was like A.G.

acoustic guy

LongRd. wrote:

"Most men feel like they have to be the breadwinner"??? then why are there so many deadbeat dads out there.

It's not an ego or macho thing, it's more of pride and being proud men. Nothing wrong with that, a proud father is what a lot of kids like myself never had growing up. My father was a deadbeat, my mother played the role of both daddy & mommy.

So I see why A.G. feels like he needs to give more for his kid(s) but I think being there is great enough. Trust me, I wish my father was like A.G.

If you ever need a strict talking too, or a beat down, please by all means let me know. I run right over
Kind words BTW.

LONGRD

acoustic guy wrote:

If you ever need a strict talking too, or a beat down, please by all means let me know. I run right over
Kind words BTW.

Oh believe me I got a fair share of ass-whooping from both mom and the school teachers. I went to school in Thailand, where I grew up til I was 10, and bamboo butt-spanking was a popular sport among the teachers :(

acoustic guy

LongRd. wrote:

Oh believe me I got a fair share of ass-whooping from both mom and the school teachers. I went to school in Thailand, where I grew up til I was 10, and bamboo butt-spanking was a popular sport among the teachers :(

Bamboo?? No shit?
Man I bet that hurt like a son of a bitch!
How horrible.
Growing up in Thailand must have been tuff.
Seems like a strict culture.

LONGRD

acoustic guy wrote:

Bamboo?? No shit?
Man I bet that hurt like a son of a bitch!
How horrible.
Growing up in Thailand must have been tuff.
Seems like a strict culture.

that was the 80's though, i hope they change their way of school discipline by now; i'm sure it still goes on inside the homes though. Whether you like it or not, it works in Asia. That's why most kids there will obey their parents and elderlies, and they are respectful.

I got so corrupted and spoiled when we moved to the U.S.