Is 35 or 40 too old to have kids?

Jeanie

small town beck wrote:

Thanks, J. Given that I am not really traditional it is one thing I would like to do the old fashioned way. Meet a boy, make love like crazy, shack up and have us some babies : D

I understand. I've spent a lot of time trying to find someone that I could perfect the art of bumping uglies with! AND that would be a good life partner and father. I know tis not vital to everyone and that's ok, but it's always been the way I want it to happen too.

pj10alive42

Jeanie wrote:

I understand. I've spent a lot of time trying to find someone that I could perfect the art of bumping uglies with! AND that would be a good life partner and father. I know tis not vital to everyone and that's ok, but it's always been the way I want it to happen too.

Well hello there.

Jeanie

pj10alive42 wrote:

Well hello there.

You're on a bloody roll tonight, ain't ya love?

LikeAnOcean

Not 35, not at all.. I would say after 40 you might run into problems.

comebackwoman

I read recently that the healthiest age for the woman to have a baby is368 and the healthiest age for the baby is 34...don't remember who did that study so I don't know how credible the stats are...but seems as though lots of women are having babies in their mid to late 30's without too many problems.

sponger

I read a stat not too long ago which said that after age 30 the chances of conceiving a child with autism goes up.

prism

comebackgirl wrote:

I read recently that the healthiest age for the woman to have a baby is368 and the healthiest age for the baby is 34...don't remember who did that study so I don't know how credible the stats are...but seems as though lots of women are having babies in their mid to late 30's without too many problems.

hmmm....anyone else thinks that 368 might just be a tiny bit old to be birthin' a baby?




the chances of getting knocked up do start to decline around age 27 (unless of course you're my mother or my sister or my cousin)

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/chronicle/archive/2002/04/30/MN182697.DTL

sweetpotato

MattCameronKicksButt wrote:

I think it's after 40 that women start having problems with carrying children. (I could be wrong though).

What does good health care have to do with it?

i had my first child at 31 and my second at 43. both were w/o complications. i depends on the health of the mother, not only her age.

pjfan31

My mum had me at 40. I was an accident, but I wish she was younger so we could have more yeaars together etc because I love her to death.

PJaddicted

I know several people who in the last year gave birth to beautiful very healthy babies.....and were all over the age of 40. They are women who are in great shape and most had careers first, family second. They all have tons of money, so can give their kids the best.

I am very happy that all mine were born by the time I was 34....I'm so tired now!

oxc

catefrances

PJaddicted wrote:

I know several people who in the last year gave birth to beautiful very healthy babies.....and were all over the age of 40. They are women who are in great shape and most had careers first, family second. They all have tons of money, so can give their kids the best.

I am very happy that all mine were born by the time I was 34....I'm so tired now!

oxc

love is free.

mdigenakis

tish wrote:

I mean, I just figure it's game over at 35 unless you can afford really good health care. That number is like doomsday.

no it's not.

Indian Summer

Birth Complications as well as birth defects go up quite a bit after 35 (which is classified as Advanced Maternal Age). And these rates go up even more after age 40.....there's something like a 1 in 4 chance of Downs Syndrome after age 40.
It's also statistically better to have your first child by age 30 as well.

Brain of J.Lo

Indian Summer wrote:

Birth Complications as well as birth defects go up quite a bit after 35 (which is classified as Advanced Maternal Age). And these rates go up even more after age 40.....there's something like a 1 in 4 chance of Downs Syndrome after age 40.

Not quite that high...

http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/downsyndrome/l/bldownssyn.htm

pineapplesandwaves

Indian Summer wrote:

Birth Complications as well as birth defects go up quite a bit after 35 (which is classified as Advanced Maternal Age). And these rates go up even more after age 40.....there's something like a 1 in 4 chance of Downs Syndrome after age 40.
It's also statistically better to have your first child by age 30 as well.

I posted this earlier in the thread:

For instance, the odds of having Down syndrome [approximately]:

- 1 in a 1200 at age 20
- 1 in 700 at 30
- 1 in 300 at 35
- 1 in 100 at 40
- 1 in 30 at 45

Also, the older you are, the more likely there are to be problems during the pregnancy, including a higher risk of miscarriage and stillbirth, and the higher the likelihood of requiring a c-section.

Ms. Haiku

tish wrote:

I mean, I just figure it's game over at 35 unless you can afford really good health care. That number is like doomsday.

No, no, no! I'm almost 40, and I think I can have kids if I'm in a position to have them. I think it's a fallacy that people are less healthy as they age. I'm definitely more healthy the older i get. Also, if I ever get pregnant I plan on giving birth in a bathtub or outside. You don't need tubes, medications, or even doctors unless you have an ongoing medical issue. I am considered "high risk" for complications according to the medical community, and I disagree. OOOOOOH, I just get so mad the amount of fear the medical community and the "biological clock" bullshit community has passed on to women over the past 20 years.

Menopause would stop the ability to have a child, but not much else.

Indian Summer

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

Not quite that high...

http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/downsyndrome/l/bldownssyn.htm

Where's the background info on that study? my wifey says those stats are too low.

Indian Summer

Ms. Haiku wrote:

No, no, no! I'm almost 40, and I think I can have kids if I'm in a position to have them. I think it's a fallacy that people are less healthy as they age. I'm definitely more healthy the older i get. Also, if I ever get pregnant I plan on giving birth in a bathtub or outside. You don't need tubes, medications, or even doctors unless you have an ongoing medical issue. I am considered "high risk" for complications according to the medical community, and I disagree. OOOOOOH, I just get so mad the amount of fear the medical community and the "biological clock" bullshit community has passed on to women over the past 20 years.

Menopause would stop the ability to have a child, but not much else.

:rolleyes: it's not about how healthy you are, its about the age or your uterus!

Brain of J.Lo

Indian Summer wrote:

Where's the background info on that study? my wifey says those stats are too low.

I don't know. I'm not a medical researcher, and don't have time to become one today.

But I found the same stats over and over when I did a quick google search.

catefrances

Ms. Haiku wrote:

No, no, no! I'm almost 40, and I think I can have kids if I'm in a position to have them. I think it's a fallacy that people are less healthy as they age. I'm definitely more healthy the older i get. Also, if I ever get pregnant I plan on giving birth in a bathtub or outside. You don't need tubes, medications, or even doctors unless you have an ongoing medical issue. I am considered "high risk" for complications according to the medical community, and I disagree. OOOOOOH, I just get so mad the amount of fear the medical community and the "biological clock" bullshit community has passed on to women over the past 20 years.

Menopause would stop the ability to have a child, but not much else.

i so agree. i had my first child at 21 and it was without doubt the single worse hospital experience of my life. i had my youngest child at 34 and it was a breeze. and such a contrast. no drugs. just walking around at home watching dawson's creek and buffy until i thought it necessary to go to hospital. before i knew it i had the perfect little girl. again. the older i get, the wiser i get when it comes to my body and what it is capable of. heck the next time i have a child im having it at home.