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Is 35 or 40 too old to have kids?

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  • MattCameronKicksButtMattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    I think it's after 40 that women start having problems with carrying children. (I could be wrong though).

    What does good health care have to do with it?
  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    Why? What does being able to afford good healthcare come into play? Not trying to be difficult or anything, but if you are healthy at 40, there is no problem having a kid. Is it then OK being 25 but not in great health and having a kid if you don't have good healthcare?
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    tish wrote:
    I mean, I just figure it's game over at 35 unless you can afford really good health care. That number is like doomsday.

    um, everyone who's having a kid should have really good health care.

    there's no "doomsday number." Obviously it is different for every individual. some people pop out kids perfectly fine when they're 40. Other people are at high risk at 35.
  • pj10alive42pj10alive42 Posts: 381
    tish wrote:
    I mean, I just figure it's game over at 35 unless you can afford really good health care. That number is like doomsday.

    My mother gave birth to me when she was 41 and I cant honestly answer that question. I think I may be retarded, but nobody wants to tell me.
    I'm trying to drink away the part of the day I cannot sleep away...
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    MattCameronKicksButt wrote:
    I think it's after 40 that women start having problems with carrying children. (I could be wrong though).

    What does good health care have to do with it?


    after 30 you get tested for Downs and other such bad stuff..

    health care means a lot more in the US than here Kelis.. we get it free here.. but in the US you have to pay for it?!??
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • HawkshoreHawkshore Posts: 2,155
    pj10alive42 wrote:
    My mother gave birth to me when she was 41 and I cant honestly answer that question. I think I may be retarded, but nobody wants to tell me.

    The first step is always recognizing you have a problem ....your on your way! :)
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  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    dunkman wrote:
    health care means a lot more in the US than here Kelis.. we get it free here.. but in the US you have to pay for it?!??
    True.. forgot about that.
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    pj10alive42 wrote:
    My mother gave birth to me when she was 41 and I cant honestly answer that question. I think I may be retarded, but nobody wants to tell me.

    i'll tell you. you are retarded. :p:D
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  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    dunkman wrote:
    after 30 you get tested for Downs and other such bad stuff..

    health care means a lot more in the US than here Kelis.. we get it free here.. but in the US you have to pay for it?!??

    usually yes you have to pay for health care (insurance or out of pocket), but there are many nuances. I think for any pregnant woman there is adequate care provided for by some means. Plenty of low income women who may not have insurance receive prenatal care.
  • pj10alive42pj10alive42 Posts: 381
    catefrances wrote:
    i'll tell you. you are retarded. :p:D

    Fuck...now I gotta call my mom.
    I'm trying to drink away the part of the day I cannot sleep away...
  • MattCameronKicksButtMattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    dunkman wrote:
    after 30 you get tested for Downs and other such bad stuff..

    health care means a lot more in the US than here Kelis.. we get it free here.. but in the US you have to pay for it?!??

    Fair enough on the second point. (F*n weird country) :) but I was tested for all kinds of things when I was pregnant. (Including a risk of down syndrome).

    What kind of weird country do you Americans live in??? These thing should be free in AMERICA!!! :rolleyes:

    (Okay. You're right, dunkman).
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    usually yes you have to pay for health care, but there are many nuances. I think for any pregnant woman there is adequate care provided for by some means. Plenty of low income women who may not have insurance receive prenatal care.

    all my children were born within the public health system here in australia and though i may be biased they are all fabulous. i walked out of the hospital with treasure and paid not a cent for it.


    ALL HAIL A SOCIALISED HEALTH SYSTEM!!!! :D:D
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  • MattCameronKicksButtMattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    Hawkshore wrote:
    The first step is always recognizing you have a problem ....your on your way! :)

    Why do you think you're retarded?
  • SpunkieSpunkie Posts: 6,676
    dunkman wrote:
    after 30 you get tested for Downs and other such bad stuff..

    health care means a lot more in the US than here Kelis.. we get it free here.. but in the US you have to pay for it?!??

    Hell, I'm Canadian otherwise known as: WeAllFair.
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    MattCameronKicksButt wrote:
    Fair enough on the second point. (F*n weird country) :) but I was tested for all kinds of things when I was pregnant. (Including a risk of down syndrome).

    What kind of weird country do you Americans live in??? These thing should be free in AMERICA!!! :rolleyes:

    (Okay. You're right, dunkman).

    the truth is it's not really "free" anywhere. under any system trade offs are made. in canada for example people often have to wait for extensive periods to receive "free" care and often people such as the elderly are made to wait longer or are denied in favor of someone else.
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    pj10alive42 wrote:
    Fuck...now I gotta call my mom.

    dont bother... she already knows. :p:D:D
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  • SpunkieSpunkie Posts: 6,676
    edited October 2023
    MattCameronKicksButt wrote:
    Fair enough on the second point. (F*n weird country) but I was tested for all kinds of things when I was pregnant. (Including a risk of down syndrome).

    What kind of weird country do you Americans live in??? These thing should be free in AMERICA!!! :rolleyes:

    (Okay. You're right, dunkman).

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  • pj10alive42pj10alive42 Posts: 381
    catefrances wrote:
    dont bother... she already knows. :p:D:D

    Damn cate, you are ruthless...I like that.

    -Chuck
    I'm trying to drink away the part of the day I cannot sleep away...
  • HawkshoreHawkshore Posts: 2,155
    MattCameronKicksButt wrote:
    Why do you think you're retarded?


    :confused: I didn't think so....but maybe I’ am because I have no fuckin clue where your comment is coming from? :p
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  • MattCameronKicksButtMattCameronKicksButt Posts: 4,317
    tish wrote:
    Did you have a boy or girl? How old were you when pregnant. Please don't tell your kid I kicked the buttpoo out of you. :)

    I was 26. I didn't have to wait for anything.

    I did read today though, that my town has one of the best maternity care systems in England.
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    usually yes you have to pay for health care (insurance or out of pocket), but there are many nuances. I think for any pregnant woman there is adequate care provided for by some means. Plenty of low income women who may not have insurance receive prenatal care.

    in scotland all maternity care, both pre and post natal, is free
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • pj10alive42pj10alive42 Posts: 381
    Hawkshore wrote:
    :confused: I didn't think so....but maybe I’ am because I have no fuckin clue where your comment is coming from? :p

    She was asking me why I thought I was retarded...

    I guess it's because cate told me I am.
    I'm trying to drink away the part of the day I cannot sleep away...
  • pineapplesandwavespineapplesandwaves Posts: 584
    tish wrote:
    I mean, I just figure it's game over at 35 unless you can afford really good health care. That number is like doomsday.
    The odds of having a baby with genetic/chromosomal defects increases the older the mother is. 35+ plus becomes the at-risk age for these defects. For instance, the odds of having Down syndrome [approximately]:

    - 1 in a 1200 at age 20
    - 1 in 700 at 30
    - 1 in 300 at 35
    - 1 in 100 at 40
    - 1 in 30 at 45

    Also, the older you are, the more likely there are to be problems during the pregnancy, including a higher risk of miscarriage and stillbirth, and the higher the likelihood of requiring a c-section.
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  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    the truth is it's not really "free" anywhere. under any system trade offs are made. in canada for example people often have to wait for extensive periods to receive "free" care and often people such as the elderly are made to wait longer or are denied in favor of someone else.


    its free here.. i.e. a 17 year old girl ho has never worked will get the same cara nd attention a s a 31 year old solicitor..

    its 'free' in as much as its paid for by our taxes.. but its genius lies in the fact that its not exclusive to just those whocan afford it... the US has an unbelievably high death toll due to people who simply couldnt afford care.. meanwhile your govt has spent 60 trillion dollars on a war no-one gives a fuck about.
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    pj10alive42 wrote:
    Damn cate, you are ruthless...I like that.

    -Chuck


    you're just fortunate enough to have caught me in a 'happy' mood i guess. :D
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  • JeanieJeanie Posts: 9,446
    Seriously, if you can get pregnant and sustain a pregnancy and have the will and desire to do so then go for it I say, and I don't care if you're 50 or 15.
    NOPE!!!

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  • pj10alive42pj10alive42 Posts: 381
    catefrances wrote:
    you're just fortunate enough to have caught me in a 'happy' mood i guess. :D

    I feel so lucky

    ;)
    I'm trying to drink away the part of the day I cannot sleep away...
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    pj10alive42 wrote:
    She was asking me why I thought I was retarded...

    I guess it's because cate told me I am.


    oh yeah... i am the font of all knowledge. :rolleyes: :D
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  • pj10alive42pj10alive42 Posts: 381
    catefrances wrote:
    oh yeah... i am the font of all knowledge. :rolleyes: :D

    Whaaaat?

    Do those rolling eyes suggest that you're not...damn cate...and to think, I had big plans for us.
    I'm trying to drink away the part of the day I cannot sleep away...
  • catefrancescatefrances Posts: 29,003
    pj10alive42 wrote:
    I feel so lucky

    ;)

    i dont believe in luck.
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