open relationships
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recipe for disaster.....or doable with the right couple/open minds?
thoughts?
just a conversation starter for a grey monday afternoon...........;)
thoughts?
just a conversation starter for a grey monday afternoon...........;)
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Let's just breathe...
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but in a good way or a bad way?
and really...how bad, is it good?
just playing devil's advocate.
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(I added a lot there didn't I)? :cool:
It's just all kinds of a bad idea.
Just not worth it.
excellent answer.
It just seems so complicated to me.
do ya really think one truly needs to be emotionless really? i mean, seriously.....can one not seperate sex and love? obviously, it is the norm NOT to do such, so stands to reason that there's overall a good reason for it not being the 'norm'...but truly....i think some couples could handle it, enjoy it, maybe even thrive? dunno. serious amount of trust, and dare i say trust in your bond/love to do so though. probably why for most, "all kinds of a bad idea."
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
Funnily enough, that's what my boyfriend says about me.
*Edit* (That wasn't meant to sound as self depracating as it did. More of a joke).
That's my hard earned wisdom
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I know that personally I could not be in an open relationship.
I'm the jealous type, wouldn't be able to handle my woman with another man. Now if I was optioned to be with other women, then I might be down for it, ONLY for the sex but then again I might become emotionally connected with the new person too. So I'll just say no to void the troubles.
Yeah, basically it's a no do for me.
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Also, I don't think it's something you'd wanna try to add into a relationship that's already been exclusive for a long time. You won't grow stronger as a couple by sleeping with other people.
I think it's just a simple issue of sacrifice, and focusing on what's most important to you. People get bored with having the same sex partner for a long time so they wanna have sex with different people, but at the same time, they want the security of having someone who's always there for them in other ways besides sex. Typically, you can't have both, so you should just pick one.
just don't come home afterwards
I guess if both parties agree to it, it can work
Are we talking swinging or just open as in I met some guy at the bar and now I can't walk straight
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hahahahaha....awesome advice!
as to your Q, i don't know. i am not actually looking for 'advice'....just curious what people may think. does it make a difference in your mind if it's swinging or a guy-at-the-bar-can't-walk-straight scenario?
how about an added twist: what about if the love of your life, your best friend couldn't perform sexually anymore...and gave you permission for casual sex? or, what if it actually turned him/her on? i am thinking along the lines of that great film breaking the waves.
good answers thus far, those that delved into some what-ifs and whys of it, both good and bad........
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as in my bedroom door is always open
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I think it makes a difference for if it was a swinging relationship or open
The swinging is usually done together as a couple, but opne to me is like i said more random and a personal decision...which I would not like
The other question about not being able to perform would be a tough one
I saw that scenario on that HBO show where the guy would go to the Moonlight Bunny Ranch because his wife so sick and couldnt perform and she gave him permission
The one scenario I cannot figure out is a guy who likes to watch his wife get railed by some dude :eek:
The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill
A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
damn girl pretty wild convo for a monday morn....:eek:
i think there are rare people that can do this but i think most people would eventually want just one lover....:)
as for the twist....if i became a paraplegic after i was married, i wouldn't have a problem if my wife found someone to "satisfy" her.....i'd probably hate it, but my problems shouldn't prevent her from living a full life.....:)
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The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill
A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
i try.
was discussing the flick breaking the waves....and let's face it, it IS a pretty damn interesting convo b/c really, how many truly DO live such a lifestyle, and/or pull it off, are happy? dunno. doesn't get much talk in normal convo, so figured it was perfect abnormal convo for the AET.
in the flick i reference, he had a bad acident, and HE actually asks her to go off and be with other men...that HE wants to know all about it. it's actually an act of love, in the film anyway.
in real life....takes all kinds, eh? if it makes you happy....both of you...whether swinging, random hook-ups for one/both, whatever blows your hair back......no harm, no foul. to some degree, i would think...wow, what a strong/commited relationship....to be able to find that balance. i do agree with the overall assessment, VERY few could handle it.
phantom...i am curious, why is that scenario so *off* to you? wouldn't it just be another sort of sexual fantasy/fetish? sure...again...maybe not it for MOST, but none the less.....
btw - cutback, does it really have to be that dramatic? parapalegic? what about if you just can't get it going?
oooooooooooooooo...another thought!
wouldn't it be *better* than the countless relationships fractured/damaged by infidelity? hmmmmm...i wonder. obviously there ARE relationships that manage to be faithful for life...but there also obviously are many that are not. thoughts spin round my head........
there's a Q to ponder! can't say i could answer either really......but i'll think about it.
and yes, slow day thus far, hahaha. the calm before the storm to be sure!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
me?!?! no way!!....;)
haha!
i don't click links at work, but i can see by quoting, good stuff!
and of course, i certainly didn't mean *you*...but the hypothetical you.
i also added more food for thought to the post. haha.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
I never heard of that movie....sounds interesting
Not sure if I could handle my wife going out to be with another guy...I think i would rather be alone or try to find someone who can be with me minus the sex...not an easy thing to do
I guess I dont like the whole watching my wife with another guy thing because it is not a turn on for me at all ! I'm sure some people enjoy it like you said a "fantasy or fetish" but I would not want to see it
Now my wife with another woman.....different story
The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill
A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
oh i hear ya...i don't think most would like it at all, let alone be turned on. but they are out there! haha.
and see, men love the idea of a woman with a woman, but really......wouldn't you have the same concerns...she might fall in love, etc? why is that so different?
btw - you don't have to watch, maybe she'd just come and tell you about it...as a form of foreplay?
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
Well that was disappointing.
EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009