Should this bother me, or am I overreacting?

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  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    SENROCK! wrote:
    thats hott.

    Well it's true. And then I'd grab my woman by her hair and drag her back to the ol' cave and remind her why she fell for me in the first place! Afterwards, I'd draw a picture of my spent lady and my slain foe on the wall with a piece of charcoal to remind me of the day's activities.
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  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    So...fill us in..what is going on in the household?
    Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
    And I don't feel right when you're gone away
  • eyedclaar wrote:
    Well it's true. And then I'd grab my woman by her hair and drag her back to the ol' cave and remind her why she fell for me in the first place! Afterwards, I'd draw a picture of my spent lady and my slain foe on the wall with a piece of charcoal to remind me of the day's activities.

    And who says romance is dead. LOL.
    I'll ride the wave where it takes me.
  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    And who says romance is dead. LOL.

    I am a sappy romantic. Guilty as charged.
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  • My ? is,how did the ex get your wifes e-mail address.?
    The bus came by and I got on!!!!!
  • thru a professional networking website. he obviously sought her out.
  • TrixieCat wrote:
    So...fill us in..what is going on in the household?


    Not a whole lot to update on. It seems the e-mails have stopped, but I can't say for sure, as i haven't checked her e-mail. And even if I did, anything could be deleted. But she hasn't brought the laptop to work the last few days, and hasn't used the computer at home, so I guess it stopped.
  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    Today I remembered a statistic which I heard a few years back. It said that according to a study conducted by psychologists, a woman's level of self-esteem dramatically increases when she is being courted by multiple suitors.

    So, tell her she's beautiful, buy her some flowers, and cook dinner.
  • sponger wrote:
    Today I remembered a statistic which I heard a few years back. It said that according to a study conducted by psychologists, a woman's level of self-esteem dramatically increases when she is being courted by multiple suitors.

    So, tell her she's beautiful, buy her some flowers, and cook dinner.

    I believe that to be absolutely true. But isnt that the case for men as well.
    Giving eachother compliments and being attentive, sweet and very interested (in multple ways) is a great antitode for cheating...! No experience with it, but then again my relationship has been going smoothly super great for over 9 years now.
    Why not be mediocre and be the best at it that you can be?
  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    I believe that to be absolutely true. But isnt that the case for men as well.
    Giving eachother compliments and being attentive, sweet and very interested (in multple ways) is a great antitode for cheating...! No experience with it, but then again my relationship has been going smoothly super great for over 9 years now.

    Yes men are susceptible to flattery, but I don't think men harbor the need to feel "wanted" to the extent that women do.
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    I believe that to be absolutely true. But isnt that the case for men as well.
    Giving eachother compliments and being attentive, sweet and very interested (in multple ways) is a great antitode for cheating...! No experience with it, but then again my relationship has been going smoothly super great for over 9 years now.


    weird thing is... women need to feel loved to have sex... and men need sex to feel loved... how did we ever start? :D
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • So my wife is on this website, LinkedIn, She gets an e-mail from an ex boyfriend from her college days, 11 years ago. She shows me the first e-mail, saying she couldn't believe it. So I figure she'll put a quick kibosh on this, especially considering this guy cheated on her. Well last night I grab the laptop to check some baseball scores, and her e-mail is open to an e-mail from this guy. Friendly chit chat, she tells him "it really was great to hear from you". Even tells him that it's not weird that he emails her out of the blue, which he admitted, especially since he's married and he knows that sh'es married. It happens again tonight. Another e-mail exchange. I'm really mad about this.

    First off, I would never consider chatting up an ex-girlfriend. It would be disrespectful to my wife. especially an ex who cheated on me. Lt alone leave it open ona computer I use all the time.

    Second, with her work schedule, and 2 kids under 2 1/2, we don't have much time for each other. Yet she finds time catch up with some asshole who cheated on her

    This has me really up in arms. I slept on the couch last night, and will do so again tonight. It's something I would never even think about doing to her. i have an ex GF named Pam. When we were first dating, and then married, she didn't like it when I would ask her to hand me the cooking spray Pam. She thinks I'm being ridiculous, and I think she should have some self respect, and tell this ass to fuck off, and that he blew it by cheating on her.



    You should be mad. I would be fucking mad. Its not right that shes emailing an ex bf. Tell her it bothers you and if she keeps on, look up some of your old gf on myspace and show her the emails
    I'll be back
  • lockedlocked Boston Posts: 4,039
    Not with an ex boyfriend, she isn't. Some dude at work who comes over to watch the game with his wife is one thing, but someone who you have history with and had/have feelings for? No effing way.

    It is a big deal.

    game, set, match..
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  • lockedlocked Boston Posts: 4,039
    Not a whole lot to update on. It seems the e-mails have stopped, but I can't say for sure, as i haven't checked her e-mail. And even if I did, anything could be deleted. But she hasn't brought the laptop to work the last few days, and hasn't used the computer at home, so I guess it stopped.

    they are texting eachother by cell phone on which hotel room to use next...

    have you read her cell phone call list lately?

    Check conversations over 3 minutes long..
    "This here's a REQUEST!"
    EV intro to Chloe Dancer / Crown of Thorns
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  • polarispolaris Posts: 3,527
    i read pages 1 and 9 ... so apologize if my comments are redundant ...

    but, i think this isn't the basis of a healthy relationship (trust and communication) of which there is neither ...

    two people reconnecting over years can simply mean that during their time together they bonded in a good way ... sure, he cheated on her but she's moved on ... it doesn't mean you can't care for someone once your relationship ends ...

    12 years is a long time - people mature and grow ... if your wife is considering cheating on you then your relationship isn't as solid as you thought and vice-versa ... being angry at her for talking with an old friend is ridiculous in my mind ... if you trust your partner - you trust her wholeheartedly not conditionally ... same goes with communication - it's not an irish thing, it's a man thing ... keep emotions to ourselves ... well, it doesn't work in the end ...

    talking is waaaaaaaaay better ...

    anyways - if this was me, it wouldn't bother me one bit ...
  • meme wrote:
    Wow... I positively think it's not a big deal. I think it's you being disrespectful for assuming things about her. You really need to talk calmly like grownups :)

    Best of luck to you. Sounds like it's time to get to feelings talk :)


    agreed.

    i see nothing wrong with it, at all. however, if it is an issue for YOU...you need to reveal that calmly and respectfully. we all have our own irrational piccadillos, and if you feel strongly about it, i would think your wife would respect your wishes. however, catching up with an old flame is really.....nothing.


    oh and just an aside:
    dunkman wrote:
    weird thing is... women need to feel loved to have sex... and men need sex to feel loved... how did we ever start? :D



    this is utter bullshit. it sounds all pretty but it ain't the truth, not by a long shot....for many women, and for men for that matter.
    Stay with me...
    Let's just breathe...


    I am myself like you somehow


  • she is your wife not his ..talk with her if you do not feel good on this
    be pation ..she loves you you love her ..think about it
  • KushikushunKushikushun Posts: 1,263
    sponger wrote:
    Yes men are susceptible to flattery, but I don't think men harbor the need to feel "wanted" to the extent that women do.

    I dont believe that at ALL!!
    Why not be mediocre and be the best at it that you can be?
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