Should this bother me, or am I overreacting?

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  • Kushikushun
    Kushikushun Posts: 1,263
    p.s. Eyedclaar has made about ten beautiful comments to use for my sig again...you should write poetry my man!
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  • jamie uk
    jamie uk Posts: 3,812
    He's flirting...she's flattered...don't be overly alarmed, but be wary.
    Get a sitter for the kids and take her out to dinner, or do something exciting. Pay her some attention, make her feel like your lover again...not just the wifey or the kids mum.
    I came, I saw, I concurred.....
  • dunkman
    dunkman Posts: 19,646
    to all the guys acting all cool and calm about this... please forward me your wife/girlfriends email address if its no big deal. :);)
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • jamie uk
    jamie uk Posts: 3,812
    dunkman wrote:
    nah, i'd do it for fucking free.. the inly reason he's back in touch is cos he still has feelings... no guy gets in touch with an ex... unless he's turned gay and is asking for wallpaper advice?

    Hey, if anyones giving wallpaper advice here, it's me okay?......ducky.
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  • jamie uk
    jamie uk Posts: 3,812
    dunkman wrote:
    to all the guys acting all cool and calm about this... please forward me your wife/girlfriends email address if its no big deal. :);)

    that's rich, I heard you sent your wife onto the porch, offering all kinds of favours in return for Benaroya Hall on vinyl.
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  • dunkman
    dunkman Posts: 19,646
    jamie uk wrote:
    that's rich, I heard you sent your wife onto the porch, offering all kinds of favours in return for Benaroya Hall on vinyl.

    yep... and i dont even have a record player.


    but if people are saying "hey its no big deal" then they're lying... or in denial.. ok, i'm not suggesting he decapitate her or anything.. but i'd definitely be asking about the email... suggesting she stop as it's hurtful, etc... but i wouldnt come on here and go "no big deal".


    imo ;)
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • TrixieCat
    TrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    dunkman wrote:
    yep... and i dont even have a record player.


    but if people are saying "hey its no big deal" then they're lying... or in denial.. ok, i'm not suggesting he decapitate her or anything.. but i'd definitely be asking about the email... suggesting she stop as it's hurtful, etc... but i wouldnt come on here and go "no big deal".


    imo ;)
    Unless she solicited the original contact then there really is no big deal going on here.
    Should she discontinue these emails? Yes. Or the op has a problem.
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  • jamie uk
    jamie uk Posts: 3,812
    dunkman wrote:
    yep... and i dont even have a record player.


    but if people are saying "hey its no big deal" then they're lying... or in denial.. ok, i'm not suggesting he decapitate her or anything.. but i'd definitely be asking about the email... suggesting she stop as it's hurtful, etc... but i wouldnt come on here and go "no big deal".


    imo ;)

    I agree amigo, if you see my 1st post here...although my advice was maybe slightly more operational than yours....if not as much fun :D

    and anyway, I'm guessing Mrs Dunk will not be called upon at home for sometime unless the England score changes drastically during the 2nd half...you know how Englands glory can make you 'wilt' ;):D
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  • Fighting Hellfish
    Fighting Hellfish Posts: 3,175
    dunkman wrote:
    your wife's email address?



    ok that was low :o

    sorry,

    nah, i'd do it for fucking free.. the inly reason he's back in touch is cos he still has feelings... no guy gets in touch with an ex... unless he's turned gay and is asking for wallpaper advice?


    well, I certainli set you up for that one.
  • jamie uk
    jamie uk Posts: 3,812
    TrixieCat wrote:
    Unless she solicited the original contact then there really is no big deal going on here.
    Should she discontinue these emails? Yes. Or the op has a problem.

    I don't think any of us are concerned that she's doing anything wrong .....it's his motives we're suspicious of :o
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  • locked
    locked Boston Posts: 4,048
    dunkman wrote:
    to all the guys acting all cool and calm about this... please forward me your wife/girlfriends email address if its no big deal. :);)

    my thoughts exactly....!

    He wants to F# your wife dude!!!!

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  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    Fighting Hellfish wrote:
    she knows. she knows me well enough to know how I would feel about something like this. She also knows how much it would bother her if the situations were reversed.

    Don't give me that 'Long Island Irish guy thing!'

    What we have here, my fellow Yankee fan, is a failure to communicate. You are assuming that she knows how you feel about this particular situation, you haven't discussed it.

    Keep us posted on how it goes. Good luck.
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  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    dunkman wrote:
    but if people are saying "hey its no big deal" then they're lying... or in denial.. ok, i'm not suggesting he decapitate her or anything.. but i'd definitely be asking about the email... suggesting she stop as it's hurtful, etc... but i wouldnt come on here and go "no big deal".

    lol...your wife sending emails shouldn't be hurtful to you if it's just a friendly exchange. If she's making fun of you or cyberin' w/ the dewd, that's different. But I don't think that's the case here...they're saying hi and catching up. She's probably not interested in any more than that. If she is interested in more, then so be it...accept it, divorce her, and move on.

    Point is, you can't control your wife's behavior, nor should you try to. Have some respect for her, let her do her thing even though you don't fully understand it, and let the chips fall where they may.
  • Poncier
    Poncier Posts: 17,933
    Fighting Hellfish wrote:
    my thinking goes like this----he's a guy and she's a girl. So of course he's trying to get it on. Guys don't "catch up" just to hear about your ex girlfriends job, and if her dog is still alive.
    I agree here...the dude's intentions are not likely honorable, hopefully your wife will soon come to realize this and cut the communication off.
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  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    Poncier wrote:
    I agree here...the dude's intentions are not likely honorable, hopefully your wife will soon come to realize this and cut the communication off.
    I agree, but why take it out on the wife? You married her, trust her a little bit. That isn't to say the OP shouldn't let his wife know how he feels, just do it nicely ;)
    Now if she gets a "hey, let's catch up over a cup o' coffee" email, and she actually entertains the idea, then get out the bag of oranges.
    As it is now it's just a pathetic attempt by the ex, who should be laughed at.
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    Rygar wrote:
    I agree, but why take it out on the wife? You married her, trust her a little bit. That isn't to say the OP shouldn't let his wife know how he feels, just do it nicely ;)
    Now if she gets a "hey, let's catch up over a cup o' coffee" email, and she actually entertains the idea, then get out the bag of oranges.
    As it is now it's just a pathetic attempt by the ex, who should be laughed at.
    exaaactly...if you trust your wife, then you should have no probs w/ emails.
  • Poncier
    Poncier Posts: 17,933
    Saturnal wrote:
    exaaactly...if you trust your wife, then you should have no probs w/ emails.
    Yeah, but I'd have a trust issue with the dude, and wouldn't want my wife to knowingly or unwittingly lead him to think he has any shot..I think that may be Hellfish's issue and I tend to agree...as many of us have said, we don't think the wife has any ill intentions, but we all suspect that the ex does (OK, we don't suspect, we know, cause he has a penis), and she isn't helping by responding to him.
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  • surfanddestroy
    surfanddestroy Posts: 2,786
    Wow, all this over an email, you may be married but she is still alowed to have a social life.
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  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    Poncier wrote:
    Yeah, but I'd have a trust issue with the dude, and wouldn't want my wife to knowingly or unwittingly lead him to think he has any shot..I think that may be Hellfish's issue and I tend to agree...as many of us have said, we don't think the wife has any ill intentions, but we all suspect that the ex does (OK, we don't suspect, we know, cause he has a penis), and she isn't helping by responding to him.
    I wouldn't trust the guy either, and I'm definitely not telling the OP to trust him.
  • lalalalaaaaaaaa
    lalalalaaaaaaaa Posts: 2,445
    Poncier wrote:
    Yeah, but I'd have a trust issue with the dude, and wouldn't want my wife to knowingly or unwittingly lead him to think he has any shot..I think that may be Hellfish's issue and I tend to agree...as many of us have said, we don't think the wife has any ill intentions, but we all suspect that the ex does (OK, we don't suspect, we know, cause he has a penis), and she isn't helping by responding to him.
    She isn't helping what exactly? Again, it doesn't matter what the ex's intentions are. You either trust your wife or you don't. The ex's intentions are irrelevant.

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