Breaking up.......

present_tense
present_tense Posts: 121
edited April 2012 in All Encompassing Trip
Hey there folks

I hate to make posts like this, but at the same time, I love hearing what you ladies and gents have to say.

I broke up with my girlfriend three weeks ago. We dated for about a year. Ive never been in love with someone like i was with her. We ended on good terms. There were too many conflicting things that just wouldnt make us work, specifically our age difference. Anyway. Im looking forward to being single, and cant wait to see what the future has in store, good or bad. For the most part im doing good, but there are days when I miss her so badly. I know ill always remember her and what we had till the day I die, but Im just curious, how long does it take for all these feelings to slowly dicipate, so I can think of her and just remember the good times, and not miss her so much? I know time heals a lot, but this is driving me a bit nuts.
the oceans made me, but who came up with love?
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  • korby
    korby Posts: 298
    i hate4 your words

    I HATE THEM .

    thats my 2 cents. im numb
    its ok
  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    present_tense wrote:
    Hey there folks

    I hate to make posts like this, but at the same time, I love hearing what you ladies and gents have to say.

    I broke up with my girlfriend three weeks ago. We dated for about a year. Ive never been in love with someone like i was with her. We ended on good terms. There were too many conflicting things that just wouldnt make us work, specifically our age difference. Anyway. Im looking forward to being single, and cant wait to see what the future has in store, good or bad. For the most part im doing good, but there are days when I miss her so badly. I know ill always remember her and what we had till the day I die, but Im just curious, how long does it take for all these feelings to slowly dicipate, so I can think of her and just remember the good times, and not miss her so much? I know time heals a lot, but this is driving me a bit nuts.

    Oh this is sad :(
    You can't put a specific time frame on things... its different for everybody..I read somewhere it takes about 1/2 the time you were together...

    Preoccupy yourself with other things to distract you and take your mind off it..

    It'll be ok. Hang in there.
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  • korby
    korby Posts: 298
    UUHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGGG

    wha
    its ok
  • present_tense
    present_tense Posts: 121
    korby wrote:
    i hate4 your words

    I HATE THEM .

    thats my 2 cents. im numb



    thanks
    the oceans made me, but who came up with love?
  • NothinGBetteRPJMaN
    NothinGBetteRPJMaN Posts: 530
    are you remaining friends? or just contacts? or completely out of each other's lives?

    Im sure that plays a part.

    It should hurt for awhile but when it starts to fade, it goes pretty quick for me once it starts to fade.

    My recent one I got over, although not 100% i dont think but maybe, 4-6 months later(depending at what point of the relationship you look at

    Hang in thurrrr pal
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  • The Champ
    The Champ Posts: 4,063
    Maybe you should live in the present tense, and fuck that ho...
    'I want to hurry home to you
    put on a slow, dumb show for you
    and crack you up
    so you can put a blue ribbon on my brain
    god I'm very, very frightening
    and I'll overdo it'
  • austin
    austin Posts: 10
    If you honestly love someone, the conflicts don't matter.
  • Daughter of Jeremy
    Daughter of Jeremy Up here in my tree Posts: 181
    The Champ wrote:
    Maybe you should live in the present tense, and fuck that ho...

    Is that literally, or figuratively speaking?!
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  • korby
    korby Posts: 298
    hes a literate
    its ok
  • somebodyelsessky2020
    somebodyelsessky2020 Posts: 1,178
    i just broke uo this past wednesday and feel both good and bad at different intervals of the day.
    Oh dear dad
    Can you see me now
    I am myself
    Like you somehow
    I'll ride the wave
    Where it takes me
    I'll hold the pain
    Release me
  • NothinGBetteRPJMaN
    NothinGBetteRPJMaN Posts: 530
    austin wrote:
    If you honestly love someone, the conflicts don't matter.

    i dont believe that crap
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  • present_tense
    present_tense Posts: 121
    somebodyelse'ssky wrote:
    i just broke uo this past wednesday and feel both good and bad at different intervals of the day.

    wow, yes, its just like that!! the day starts out good, then i have some severe nostalgia, then it gets good again, its like a freaking rollercoaster. ugh. Ah well, just gotta wait it out. Hey, thanks to those posting, I appreciate it. It helps knowing that other people have gone thru this stuff.
    the oceans made me, but who came up with love?
  • Herbo
    Herbo Posts: 63
    You need girlfreinds. Plural.
    That way you can just cut from the herd or add to it as you need to.

    but seriously..
    I lost my girl earlier this year.... It was like loosing an arm. It was a 15 yr relationship.

    In time the pain will go away, but you always wish you still had that hand.

    So now I see things slightly differently and live by these rules....

    Find em, feed em, fuckem, get em to clean the house, fuckem off.






    Its very empowering.
    Take a bottle drink it down..... pass it around !
  • vmfury
    vmfury Posts: 1,091
    Sometimes, you never fully get over a person, but, and I hate the cliche, time heals all wounds and at least makes it tolerable. I've had that feeling for a few years and it still isn't easy, but if you keep your distance and move on with your life, at some point, the missing the person part will lessen and eventually you'll find someone you can share your life with without the doubt and complications. You'll then look back and see it wasn't right for you, no matter how much you loved the person. As you've already figured out, "love" doesn't mean you're meant to be with someone. Finding out who you are is an exilharating experience and being single is actually a really great thing, especially if you're happy with YOU. Hang in there. It DOES get better.

    p.s. I'd be careful with "rebounds". Those girls will only end up getting hurt if you go that route and it's simply a way of numbing yourself of your feelings. Give your heart time to recover and you won't break anyone else's in the process. The emotions of others aren't something that should ever be toyed with or used for personal gain.
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  • present_tense
    present_tense Posts: 121
    wow, thanks a lot, you guys/gals have really helped me, more then you know.
    the oceans made me, but who came up with love?
  • peeps
    peeps Posts: 79
    fuck her sister.
  • pearljamharmony
    pearljamharmony Posts: 120
    breaking up is hard to do, but my guess is a year and a half
  • Gossard_Is_God
    Gossard_Is_God Posts: 1,031
    I know how you feel, I broke up with my girlfriend a couple days go and have been in tears ever since, non stop throughout the day, and as you say remebering the good times makes it harder, makes you cry harder, im crying as a i write this, my eyes are red raw, I too havnt felt so much for anyone as much as her, it hurts, we also ended on good terms and are gonna remain friends, its gonna take a long time to get over her, but i still want her in my life. We just gotta hang in there
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  • present_tense
    present_tense Posts: 121
    Gossard_Is_God wrote:
    I know how you feel, I broke up with my girlfriend a couple days go and have been in tears ever since, non stop throughout the day, and as you say remebering the good times makes it harder, makes you cry harder, im crying as a i write this, my eyes are red raw, I too havnt felt so much for anyone as much as her, it hurts, we also ended on good terms and are gonna remain friends, its gonna take a long time to get over her, but i still want her in my life. We just gotta hang in there


    Glad to know im not alone!!! True, I guess we just hang in there with hope that the pain goes away
    the oceans made me, but who came up with love?
  • Gossard_Is_God
    Gossard_Is_God Posts: 1,031
    present_tense wrote:
    Glad to know im not alone!!! True, I guess we just hang in there with hope that the pain goes away

    Yeah, its gonna be hard for me coz i suffer with depression and my mind is very frail at the moment, and im over sensitive, but still gotta try hang in there
    Pearl Jam - London Astoria 20/4/06....One hell of a night :)

    Reading 2006 - WOOOOW!!!!!

    Paris 2006 - Fucking amazing

    Wembley 2007 :D

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