Breaking up.......

korby

how young is too much younger for a man to date. when he is ready to start dating again

cuz i was thinking about 10 years younger than me

Gossard_Is_God

korby wrote:

how young is too much younger for a man to date. when he is ready to start dating again

cuz i was thinking about 10 years younger than me

Within reason age never matters, if you like the person you go for it

korby

i think im over it. i know its been a short time. but i have a new love interest. Jessica Bersaigi

Gossard_Is_God

korby wrote:

i think im over it. i know its been a short time. but i have a new love interest. Jessica Bersaigi

Well its good to see someone who can get over it quickly....!!!

Heineken Helen

Well like everyone said you can't put a timeframe on it... it all depends on what happens now! I guess a couple of months MINIMUM but if you're the kinda person to stay stuck in the past and not try to move on you could be talking about a year or two

Any of my relationships have only been a few months but they still took a while to get over. The last one, we pretty much cut all contact when it ended and I think that hurt even more knowing I'd probably never see him again. The one before that, we stayed friends, but I don't think that was good for him as he couldn't really move on.

dunkman

i'm great at break-ups... but then i only truly love myself... and i cant break up with myself


i'm going to treat myself to some lovin tonight

harmless_little_f***

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

Yeah, its gonna be hard for me coz i suffer with depression and my mind is very frail at the moment, and im over sensitive, but still gotta try hang in there

I remember briefly meeting you at Brixton Academy (hope I've got the right person!); you seemed like a great bloke and I'm sorry to hear about this. Just want to say I have been where you are now (at least twice), have survived and come out smiling. So I promise you will too; it doesn't seem like it now, but hang on in there. I'm here if you want to chat or anything.

rockford

I broke up with a girl who I deeply loved about three weeks ago now. It's 3:50AM, and I still can't sleep... This still happens to me most nights. My appetite is back, and I spend less time weaping, but this is still a terrible thing to go through.

Anyway, my heart is there with you, friend.

korby

geez, im going throught the same thing. i havnt slept in days and or eaten. but i got family coming soon to help.

i really want to say more on the topic. its troubling to say the least. i just dont know what to do. do i take her back and forgive her. or move on. nevermind she still hasnt told her family the trueth about our break up yet

korby

so i am still awake. and reeling. i sent her a long letter expressing some of my feelings. fuck what im i gonna do. this is brutal

vmfury

korby wrote:

so i am still awake. and reeling. i sent her a long letter expressing some of my feelings. fuck what im i gonna do. this is brutal

I'm sorry you're feeling badly. That type of pain is horrible. It seems you have only two choices: A. forgive her and work it out or B. move on and work toward getting over it which means you must distance yourself. You need to figure out just how important she is to you and whether or not you want to be without her. It's easy to fall back into the familiar when you don't want to feel the sadness and pain of losing someone. If she isn't right for you, the best thing you can do is let go and deal with the pain. It WILL pass.

korby

thats what im feeling. and the fact i am still awake at this hour proves i havnt made any conclusions yet. i need closure first .before ican move on or forgive

Gossard_Is_God

korby wrote:

so i am still awake. and reeling. i sent her a long letter expressing some of my feelings. fuck what im i gonna do. this is brutal

Brutal is right, I cant believe it, the minute I wake up, im crying. Im getting worse

dunkman

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

Brutal is right, I cant believe it, the minute I wake up, im crying. Im getting worse

go see someone, a friend or a family member... it will get easier dude...

i'll let you beat me at a wrestle if it'll cheer ye up!!!

Gossard_Is_God

dunkman wrote:

go see someone, a friend or a family member... it will get easier dude...

i'll let you beat me at a wrestle if it'll cheer ye up!!!

I dont really have anyone I can talk to, no one knows i feel like this.I havnt left the house not even my room for days. Not even a wrestle would cheers me up rigfht nowe.

Heineken Helen

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

I dont really have anyone I can talk to, no one knows i feel like this.I havnt left the house not even my room for days. Not even a wrestle would cheers me up rigfht nowe.

Well that's not good :( there has to be ONE person you can tell? I know it's probably tougher for guys to speak their mind... but at least spill it here or send me a pm if you don't want it being so public. It's too hard to go through alone.

Gossard_Is_God

Heineken Helen wrote:

Well that's not good :( there has to be ONE person you can tell? I know it's probably tougher for guys to speak their mind... but at least spill it here or send me a pm if you don't want it being so public. It's too hard to go through alone.

i have people to spill my guts to just not in real life, its not hard for me to speak my mind, or let them know how im feeling, i know a few depressed people shame just not in real life:(

soulsinging

present_tense wrote:

Hey there folks

I hate to make posts like this, but at the same time, I love hearing what you ladies and gents have to say.

I broke up with my girlfriend three weeks ago. We dated for about a year. Ive never been in love with someone like i was with her. We ended on good terms. There were too many conflicting things that just wouldnt make us work, specifically our age difference. Anyway. Im looking forward to being single, and cant wait to see what the future has in store, good or bad. For the most part im doing good, but there are days when I miss her so badly. I know ill always remember her and what we had till the day I die, but Im just curious, how long does it take for all these feelings to slowly dicipate, so I can think of her and just remember the good times, and not miss her so much? I know time heals a lot, but this is driving me a bit nuts.

im a year out from my last relationship of very similar circumstances. about a year of dating, very much in love, but our age difference was a problem (i was older). we didnt end on good terms though. but the feelings have mostly dissipated. i think of her now and again and miss her occasionally, but that's about as far as it goes. so id say a year at most and you should be good. from what i've heard, a good rule of thumb is half the time you were dating. and if you ended on good terms then maybe it will be sooner. just dont talk to her for a good long while. a solid 6 months or so. otherwise you will be shocked by how much you suddenly care when you hear she's with someone else.

soulsinging

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

but i still want her in my life.

terrible idea man. TERRIBLE. you're going to drag it out and make yourself totally fucking miserable. cut off contact until you're fucked two other women. it sounds harsh, but it's true. we all need to rebound. you hook up with 2 other girls and realize you've still got it and can meet women and have them like you and there will no doubt be others who will probably make you as happy or happier as the ex. everyone needs to do this. women do it, men do it. go out there, stop talking to your ex, and find yourself back to back flings. then you're allowed to talk to the ex. but only then.

soulsinging

korby wrote:

how young is too much younger for a man to date. when he is ready to start dating again

cuz i was thinking about 10 years younger than me

if you're 23, then her being 10 years younger is too young. if you're 28, you need to nail as many 18 year olds as you can while you can still get ass that hot.