Breaking up.......

BrinkofForever

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soulsinging

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

i have people to spill my guts to just not in real life, its not hard for me to speak my mind, or let them know how im feeling, i know a few depressed people shame just not in real life:(

maybe you should go see a psychiatrist. this doesn't sound normal. or they can put you into a group setting. or maybe try co-dependents anonymous. you'll either get over the crippling need to have someone else to feel ok with you, or you'll find an equally desperate chick to rebound with.

Gossard_Is_God

soulsinging wrote:

maybe you should go see a psychiatrist. this doesn't sound normal. or they can put you into a group setting. or maybe try co-dependents anonymous. you'll either get over the crippling need to have someone else to feel ok with you, or you'll find an equally desperate chick to rebound with.

Ive been offered therapy i just dont want to go through with it, and the only think im desperate about is gettin her back, and I dont do rebounds.

yosi1

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

I dont really have anyone I can talk to, no one knows i feel like this.I havnt left the house not even my room for days. Not even a wrestle would cheers me up rigfht nowe.

From my experience, the most important and helpful thing for me was just spending time with other people. I know its hard, but just being around other people, just in a social setting will distract you and make things easier. The more you are alone with yourself, the more times you will go over and over, analyzing everything that happened. This is not a good place to be.
Even if you can't talk to someone else about what's going on, its just important to be around other people.
I hope that things start to get better for you soon.

Heineken Helen

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

Ive been offered therapy i just dont want to go through with it, and the only think im desperate about is gettin her back, and I dont do rebounds.

Ya know there's nothing wrong with therapy? I'm sure we'd all rather NOT go but if you're waking up every day crying, what harm can it do? Nobody needs to know. I went to family therapy before (only a few sessions) thinking it was a bit gay and American but it really really helped. I wouldn't just write it off so quickly.

Gossard_Is_God

Heineken Helen wrote:

Ya know there's nothing wrong with therapy? I'm sure we'd all rather NOT go but if you're waking up every day crying, what harm can it do? Nobody needs to know. I went to family therapy before (only a few sessions) thinking it was a bit gay and American but it really really helped. I wouldn't just write it off so quickly.

I just dont see how it can help :( what can I say..Im diabetic, im depressed, ive just lost my girlfriend, thats it:(

yosi1

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

I just dont see how it can help :( what can I say..Im diabetic, im depressed, ive just lost my girlfriend, thats it:(

I know it sounds stupid, but sometimes talking things out with someone else can really just help the healing process. To be honest, I've been to a couple of shrinks before, and its never really helped me that much, and so I can understand why you'd be skeptical. But, on the other hand, both my parents are shrinks (psychologist and social worker), and from what they've spoken about, they have really helped a lot of people out of depression.
The thing is, you have to want to get help for it to work.

Heineken Helen

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

I just dont see how it can help :( what can I say..Im diabetic, im depressed, ive just lost my girlfriend, thats it:(

Well you'd be surprised... I was completely against going too although I had absolutely no choice in the matter if I wanted to stay out of jail :rolleyes:

But I was really really surprised, my sister too, we both came away feeling much more normal and understanding that there was a good chance we WEREN'T to blame

What ya got to lose? You're feeling sorry for yourself, we've all been there. I suppose it's not a nice place to be but sometimes we need a good cry and that gets it out of our system. If it's not working, it DOES help to talk about it. I think that's where women are luckier in that respect. We'll talk about our problems to anyone who'll listen, no matter how mundane they are. Men don't normally have that priviledge :( .

Gossard_Is_God

Heineken Helen wrote:

Well you'd be surprised... I was completely against going too although I had absolutely no choice in the matter if I wanted to stay out of jail :rolleyes:

But I was really really surprised, my sister too, we both came away feeling much more normal and understanding that there was a good chance we WEREN'T to blame

What ya got to lose? You're feeling sorry for yourself, we've all been there. I suppose it's not a nice place to be but sometimes we need a good cry and that gets it out of our system. If it's not working, it DOES help to talk about it. I think that's where women are luckier in that respect. We'll talk about our problems to anyone who'll listen, no matter how mundane they are. Men don't normally have that priviledge :( .

OK il guess il go book a session to see how it is, I must be a woman too then coz il talk to anyone that will listen. oh no

soulsinging

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

Ive been offered therapy i just dont want to go through with it, and the only think im desperate about is gettin her back, and I dont do rebounds.

then you're fucked man. suck it up, swallow your pride, and get some help. depression isn't something to play around with and there is no shame in getting help with it. she's not coming back man. you're going to make yourself as miserable a piece of shit as me if you keep believing that and staying in contact with her. everyone does rebounds. you need to regain your confidence and realize this girls is not venus or the blessed mother mary. she's a girl. a great one, no doubt, and one you loved, but she is not the be all and end all of your existence.

soulsinging

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

OK il guess il go book a session to see how it is, I must be a woman too then coz il talk to anyone that will listen. oh no

yeah, you are ya pansy

im just messing. go into it with an open mind. even if it doesn't pan out, be willing to be honest and to listen. it's a rough thing to go through but i was also in very dire straits when my last ex ripped my heart out last spring. i'd not have survived if i didn't have some sort of therapy. i mean that. depression is not something to take lightly. your thinking can get very screwy and you don't realize how far off the beam you are.

soulsinging

Heineken Helen wrote:

Well you'd be surprised... I was completely against going too although I had absolutely no choice in the matter if I wanted to stay out of jail :rolleyes:

this, i've got to hear... im going to ask you after you've gotten bombed at lolla. that's how i ended up dealing with my mental health issues. though i still had to spend some time in jail

Heineken Helen

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

OK il guess il go book a session to see how it is, I must be a woman too then coz il talk to anyone that will listen. oh no

well no, not quite, you said you won't talk to anyone in 'real life', just here. Here helps but it's also good to have someone in 'real life' too

Just go to 3 sessions... don't give up after 1. If you still feel it's useless after 3, then I'll believe ya and leave ya alone . I'm glad you're deciding to go for it. What harm can it do?

Soulsinging, I'll have no problem telling ya ... it's just something I won't mention here.

korby

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

I just dont see how it can help :( what can I say..Im diabetic, im depressed, ive just lost my girlfriend, thats it:(

i feel for you man. i havnt eaten a meal in 1-2 maby 3 days. i guess things work themseves out blabla, write a country song. fuck i dunno man. i think were in the same shit

soulsinging

Heineken Helen wrote:

well no, not quite, you said you won't talk to anyone in 'real life', just here. Here helps but it's also good to have someone in 'real life' too

Just go to 3 sessions... don't give up after 1. If you still feel it's useless after 3, then I'll believe ya and leave ya alone . I'm glad you're deciding to go for it. What harm can it do?

Soulsinging, I'll have no problem telling ya ... it's just something I won't mention here.

hit me with a pm then... we can swap police stories.

korby

soulsinging wrote:

then you're fucked man. suck it up, swallow your pride, and get some help. depression isn't something to play around with and there is no shame in getting help with it. she's not coming back man. you're going to make yourself as miserable a piece of shit as me if you keep believing that and staying in contact with her. everyone does rebounds. you need to regain your confidence and realize this girls is not venus or the blessed mother mary. she's a girl. a great one, no doubt, and one you loved, but she is not the be all and end all of your existence.

i thought she was. i hope my dad gets over here soon with food. im starving

soulsinging

korby wrote:

i thought she was. i hope my dad gets over here soon with food. im starving

yeah, i've been there. but reality has a way of changing that. with your age thing... how old are you that you're into a girl 10 years younger? odds aren't good on that if she's still in college.

Gossard_Is_God

Heineken Helen wrote:

well no, not quite, you said you won't talk to anyone in 'real life', just here. Here helps but it's also good to have someone in 'real life' too

Just go to 3 sessions... don't give up after 1. If you still feel it's useless after 3, then I'll believe ya and leave ya alone . I'm glad you're deciding to go for it. What harm can it do?

Soulsinging, I'll have no problem telling ya ... it's just something I won't mention here.

I said I DONT have anyone to talk to not WONT. Id rather have someone to talk to in reallife whos going through the same thing than a shrink, wouldnt have a problem with that:)

korby

ok. heres the thing

your buddys tell u they seen a duck in your property. but I never see it. and she says she didnt see it. and none of her girlfriends seen it. but my best pals do. and I get home early one day to see this duck flying away from your nieghborhood. and I start noticing duck prints. and she still says theres nothing on the property. then you LOOSE it . and she tells you your crazy, depressed, paranoid,whatever. so do all her galfriends. so tell me. do you think there was a duck ?

or am i crazy,schitzoid out of my mind?

Heineken Helen

Gossard_Is_God wrote:

I said I DONT have anyone to talk to not WONT. Id rather have someone to talk to in reallife whos going through the same thing than a shrink, wouldnt have a problem with that:)

Well yeh that's true... but do you have someone going through the same thing?

Korby :eek: what if there IS a duck? Also, could your friends be playing a joke on ya?