Does anyone else hate dating???

AmentsChick

Dating SUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCKS.

AmentsChick

Zanne wrote:

I think you hit the nail on the head comparing dating to job interviews. I'm not a fan of dating... or job interviews.

I agree that it is kind of like a job interview...and I handle myself pretty well in interviews...but dating, not so much...I tend to be quiet and shy when I'm nervous...or overcompensate by talking way too much. :( No wonder I'm single.

AmentsChick

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I actually went on a date once and the guy was just like "you're not interested in me, are you?" and I was like, "no not really." and we just ended it there.

If only it could always be that simple. Wouldn't that make life alot easier?

AmentsChick

lksammkt wrote:

The last date I went on the guy straight out told me that he didn’t like black people. (He wasn’t that nice in putting it though) He than asked me if that was a deal breaker. Yep the check came very shortly after that.

Exactly...my very next words would be "Check please".

patrickredeyes

Yup dating sucks.

iamsampj

AmentsChick wrote:

I agree that it is kind of like a job interview...and I handle myself pretty well in interviews...but dating, not so much...I tend to be quiet and shy when I'm nervous...or overcompensate by talking way too much. :( No wonder I'm single.

oh...i do the same thing! i tend to ramble a lot when i get nervous...want to avoid awkward silences. i'm sure guys think i'm a bit strange?! i haven't been on a "date" in six months....though i'm fine with that. i'd rather avoid all of the bs that goes along with dating. just be upfront with your intentions, and spare misleading people. makes things easier!

GreenTeaDisease

is there a way to get a boyfriend without dating? I was thinking this morning that I wouldn't mind a boyfriend at the moment, but dating blah.

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

is there a way to get a boyfriend without dating? I was thinking this morning that I wouldn't mind a boyfriend at the moment, but dating blah.

Nah not really... unless you want a husband in which case you could become a muslim and you'll have a husband in no time

Danimal

I think dating is kinda fun. I just don't usually do the "standard date" like going out to dinner. I like to go out for drinks. That way if you know you really are not compatable right off the bat you can just finish your drink and bid the person a good night. With dinner you have to get through the entire meal.....and that is UNCOMFORTABLE.

Dinners at nice restaurants should come later in the relationship anyway. (Sorry if this seems cheap but it's just how I feel)

Heineken Helen

Danimal wrote:

I think dating is kinda fun. I just don't usually do the "standard date" like going out to dinner. I like to go out for drinks. That way if you know you really are not compatable right off the bat you can just finish your drink and bid the person a good night. With dinner you have get through the entire meal.....and that is UNCOMFORTABLE.

Dinners at nice restaurants should come later in the relationship anyway. (Sorry if this seems cheap but it's just how I feel)

Nope, not cheap but it makes sense... total sense. 'Dating' doesn't really happen like that over here. Ya usually just arrange to go for drinks and maybe something to eat LATER if it went well and you're both completely hammered . Dinner is WAY too much pressure. At least if your drink date isn't going well, you can make excuses after 1 or 2 or try and socialise 'accidentally' or start including the barman in your conversation or something. If you know from the beginning at dinner that it's not going well, you're stuck with him for maybe an hour and a half :eek:

nfanel

AmentsChick wrote:

I agree that it is kind of like a job interview...and I handle myself pretty well in interviews...but dating, not so much...I tend to be quiet and shy when I'm nervous...or overcompensate by talking way too much. :( No wonder I'm single.

i have to agree....it's not fun....unless it's someone i'm really excited about - which is rare - and then i end up getting nervous and dorky.

TrixieCat

When I was single I loved it.
And if I find myself single again, I will love it even more.

Heineken Helen

TrixieCat wrote:

When I was single I loved it.
And if I find myself single again, I will love it even more.

It can be excellent... the endless opportunities It's also fun to come up with different things to do rather than the pressurised one on one situations, there's plenty of fun stuff.

LikeAnOcean

So I actually talked to the girl today because we are going on a date tomorrow..

She sounds kind of slow.. not much to talk about..

Not my type..

Do I go on the date anyways???

I don't want to be mean nor make any judgements, but I'm already not liking the idea of spending time with her.

Should I just entertain her and explain I don't think thinks would work?

I'm seriously going out with her just because.. Should be interesting.

Phantom Pain

I sure do !

That's why I got Married !

vital5

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

is there a way to get a boyfriend without dating? I was thinking this morning that I wouldn't mind a boyfriend at the moment, but dating blah.

um.. i've had a few gf's without having to date them first.... :eek: some were for quite a while... hmmmm

dunkman

dating is a predominantly North American thing.

all that getting to base shit as well... i have no idea how that works.. but over here if i had a date with a girl, which meant that i paid for a meal, drinks, whatever i'd be hoping for more than a quick grope of a boob... if she gave me a slight peck on the cheek then thats when calls would be unanswered, texts never replied to.. £70 for a night out and a peck on the cheek?!?!? i could have had 11 lapdances for that... and still have enough left for a kebab on the way home.

most couples over here meet during a night-out... usually they are both drunk... usually they do stuff to each other.

americans have the dating system... the UK and Ireland have the alcohol system...

Hitch-Hiker

dunkman wrote:

americans have the dating system... the UK and Ireland have the alcohol system...

The system works.

genie

Cosmo wrote:

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The only part of dating that I like is the fucking part.

hehehe....i can't wait for it!! i'm seeing this guy and recently my excuse was that i'm not ready for it, but i am. it's ridiculous how strong my feelings are to have sex with him.....but i need to wait out a bit.....cause i'm a lady not a whore

genie

Heineken Helen wrote:

Nah not really... unless you want a husband in which case you could become a muslim and you'll have a husband in no time

genie

LikeAnOcean wrote:

So I actually talked to the girl today because we are going on a date tomorrow..

She sounds kind of slow.. not much to talk about..

Not my type..

Do I go on the date anyways???

I don't want to be mean nor make any judgements, but I'm already not liking the idea of spending time with her.

Should I just entertain her and explain I don't think thinks would work?

I'm seriously going out with her just because.. Should be interesting.

ah, just have sex with her!!

sorry, i can't stop thinking about sex

dunkman

genie wrote:

ah, just have sex with her!!

sorry, i can't stop thinking about sex

so there are women who think about sex?

vital5

genie wrote:

hehehe....i can't wait for it!! i'm seeing this guy and recently my excuse was that i'm not ready for it, but i am. it's ridiculous how strong my feelings are to have sex with him.....but i need to wait out a bit.....cause i'm a lady not a whore

ohhh.. now I know why you aren't having sex with me, you're pretending not to be a whore ... oh hi by the way.. i found you on the board

illegal pants

dunkman wrote:

dating is a predominantly North American thing.

all that getting to base shit as well... i have no idea how that works.. but over here if i had a date with a girl, which meant that i paid for a meal, drinks, whatever i'd be hoping for more than a quick grope of a boob... if she gave me a slight peck on the cheek then thats when calls would be unanswered, texts never replied to.. £70 for a night out and a peck on the cheek?!?!? i could have had 11 lapdances for that... and still have enough left for a kebab on the way home.

most couples over here meet during a night-out... usually they are both drunk... usually they do stuff to each other.

americans have the dating system... the UK and Ireland have the alcohol system...

what has Australia got? no wonder i'm doing it wrong

vital5

illegal_pants wrote:

what has Australia got? no wonder i'm doing it wrong

we have lap dances and kebabs.... who needs dating

illegal pants

vital5 wrote:

we have lap dances and kebabs.... who needs dating

damnit vital, it's a yiros!!!! but yes, the lapdance is alive

genie

dunkman wrote:

so there are women who think about sex?

yep, i'm disgusted with myself

genie

vital5 wrote:

ohhh.. now I know why you aren't having sex with me, you're pretending not to be a whore ... oh hi by the way.. i found you on the board ; )

Hi honey!! don't forget to make me some dinner when i come to yours this weekend also you said you weren't PJ fan

GreenTeaDisease

vital5 wrote:

um.. i've had a few gf's without having to date them first.... :eek: some were for quite a while... hmmmm

yeah I know people who have too. That's how it worked in college-people just somehow paired up instantly. but I never had a boyfriend in college. I've never been able to figure out how you do it.

GetALife

In the near future that might my feeling about dating...unless I don't get rid of my expectations towards them...