Does anyone else hate dating???

PJPixie

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

I love women. Dating's just a word for being with women. If you love a woman properly, dating should be fine.

Yours sincerely,

Captain Sex

Word!! Dating isn't so bad. I like making new friends and even if it's not a love connection, I like to make the best of it and at least have a new friend.
I've done the internet dating thing and I honestly have met some great people. I've fallen in love with one of them, it didn't work but I can honestly say to this day, we are great friends. It's easy to weed out the crazy ones. First instincts are amazing.

GreenTeaDisease

PJPixie wrote:

Word!! Dating isn't so bad. I like making new friends and even if it's not a love connection, I like to make the best of it and at least have a new friend.
I've done the internet dating thing and I honestly have met some great people. I've fallen in love with one of them, it didn't work but I can honestly say to this day, we are great friends. It's easy to weed out the crazy ones. First instincts are amazing.

I agree! I like dating. I've met some really good people doing online dating. I was with one person from online dating for almost a year, but then I moved over 700 miles away. I just don't like how you have to walk on eggshells...it shouldn't be like that.

Ahnimus

prism wrote:

that's alright, if she has half-a-brain she'll know that you're bullshitting her anyway, even if you talk to each other for hours everyday for years on end

Say what? Is this a reference to something else?

I'm bad with women to be honest. I'm getting shit from my friend, ex-girlfriend, now for breaking up with her almost immediately after having sex.

Tek Money

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

I love women. Dating's just a word for being with women. If you love a woman properly, dating should be fine.

Yours sincerely,

Captain Sex

I like this.

Dating isn't horrible. It's better than not getting any.

prism

Ahnimus wrote:

Say what? Is this a reference to something else?

I'm bad with women to be honest. I'm getting shit from my friend, ex-girlfriend, now for breaking up with her almost immediately after having sex.

nope, that's in reference to any man declaring his ever-lasting love and devotion to a woman

RolandTD20Kdrummer

I thought dating was the code word for f--king?

Although overrated depending on the person, it doesn't exactly suck...well sometimes but it's the good kind of suck...

Ahnimus

Wow, the shit we go through just to remain friends after dating. I always find out that I'm a fucking asshole, even though I don't feel like one.

I went out of town for a week and wanted a break to assess the relationship. I got fucked over by greyhound and ended up back in London after midnight, there was no way I could get home, because I was broke and buses were out of service for the night. I was about to call up the girlfriend, even though I'd decided to break up with her, I was inbetween a rock and a hard place. It turns out she had waited at the bus station for me and was already there. So she gave me a ride home and naturally came in for a bit. Some how we ended up having sex and immediately I realized my terrible mistake and confessed to her at that moment. Well holy shit, what a bad fucking idea that was.

DaytimeDilemma

Ahnimus wrote:

Wow, the shit we go through just to remain friends after dating. I always find out that I'm a fucking asshole, even though I don't feel like one.

I went out of town for a week and wanted a break to assess the relationship. I got fucked over by greyhound and ended up back in London after midnight, there was no way I could get home, because I was broke and buses were out of service for the night. I was about to call up the girlfriend, even though I'd decided to break up with her, I was inbetween a rock and a hard place. It turns out she had waited at the bus station for me and was already there. So she gave me a ride home and naturally came in for a bit. Some how we ended up having sex and immediately I realized my terrible mistake and confessed to her at that moment. Well holy shit, what a bad fucking idea that was.

I know you said you were bad with women, but that's horrible dude.



I mean she picked you up at the fucking bus station.

RolandTD20Kdrummer

Ahnimus wrote:

Wow, the shit we go through just to remain friends after dating. I always find out that I'm a fucking asshole, even though I don't feel like one.

I went out of town for a week and wanted a break to assess the relationship. I got fucked over by greyhound and ended up back in London after midnight, there was no way I could get home, because I was broke and buses were out of service for the night. I was about to call up the girlfriend, even though I'd decided to break up with her, I was inbetween a rock and a hard place. It turns out she had waited at the bus station for me and was already there. So she gave me a ride home and naturally came in for a bit. Some how we ended up having sex and immediately I realized my terrible mistake and confessed to her at that moment. Well holy shit, what a bad fucking idea that was.

That's when you say "ahh fuck it"...but you already did.

Travelar

Ugggg.. Dating. I'm thirty-something now. I'm single. All my friends are married. There are all of these expectations from society and it just isn't working for me. I keep meeting fucked up women who aren't worth my time.

Lately I feel like I'm just going through the motions of dating. Should I give up? I certainly enjoy time to myself and don't need to date, but it does have certain advantages.

harmless_little_f***

Ahnimus wrote:

Wow, the shit we go through just to remain friends after dating. I always find out that I'm a fucking asshole, even though I don't feel like one.

I went out of town for a week and wanted a break to assess the relationship. I got fucked over by greyhound and ended up back in London after midnight, there was no way I could get home, because I was broke and buses were out of service for the night. I was about to call up the girlfriend, even though I'd decided to break up with her, I was inbetween a rock and a hard place. It turns out she had waited at the bus station for me and was already there. So she gave me a ride home and naturally came in for a bit. Some how we ended up having sex and immediately I realized my terrible mistake and confessed to her at that moment. Well holy shit, what a bad fucking idea that was.

You were fucked over by a greyhound?

:eek:

A Patton Fan

PJPixie wrote:

Word!! Dating isn't so bad. I like making new friends and even if it's not a love connection, I like to make the best of it and at least have a new friend.
I've done the internet dating thing and I honestly have met some great people. I've fallen in love with one of them, it didn't work but I can honestly say to this day, we are great friends. It's easy to weed out the crazy ones. First instincts are amazing.

Agree!

Heineken Helen

LikeAnOcean wrote:

No. Not yet. She found me online. She was obviously do some searches... She does sound very insecure and lack confidence. Almost painfully desperate. She's a cute looking girl though.

Is this the same girl you spoke about months ago? Seriously, I would give that one a miss

GreenTeaDisease

TrAvELAr wrote:

Ugggg.. Dating. I'm thirty-something now. I'm single. All my friends are married. There are all of these expectations from society and it just isn't working for me. I keep meeting fucked up women who aren't worth my time.

Lately I feel like I'm just going through the motions of dating. Should I give up? I certainly enjoy time to myself and don't need to date, but it does have certain advantages.

I just read this awesome book called Singled Out by Bella DePaulo. You should pick it up. It's all about these "expectations" you mention-how in american society, not only are single valued less and marriage/romantic relationships are played up to be more important than they are, but we are also discriminated against by the tax law, the housing market, and all kinds of businesses.

wavescamecrashing

dating is cool as long as you both are clear about what you want from it.

dating is kinda bad when this doesnt happen...

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I'm on a major dating hiatus at the moment, mostly because I just don't feel comfortable with how I look right now, I just had a 9-month relationship that kinda fizzeled out, and I don't really feel like doing the match.com thing anymore, so I don't really know where to meet men. But I don't hate dating- I actually like the excitement of not knowing what's going to happen. But I've decided that I'm not going to do any of that dating bullshit anymore when I do start dating again. I'm turning 30 soon and I've realized that crap is just not worth it. Last night my friend was asking me for advice- she's been dating this guy for like over a month, maybe 2, and she's all nervous because she doesn't want him to think she's pressuring him into "meeting her friends" if she invites him to go to brunch with us tomorrow. Like that's just the kind of stuff I don't want to deal with anymore. If I'm seeing someone, I don't want to be nervous to say, "hey we're getting brunch, want to come?"

Absolutely... I used to hate dating til I stopped dating according to 'the rules'. It's much more fun when you don't follow the rules.... whoever came up with the dating rules was on drugs!

SPEEDY MCCREADY

TrAvELAr wrote:

Ugggg.. Dating. I'm thirty-something now. I'm single. All my friends are married. There are all of these expectations from society and it just isn't working for me. I keep meeting fucked up women who aren't worth my time.

Lately I feel like I'm just going through the motions of dating. Should I give up? I certainly enjoy time to myself and don't need to date, but it does have certain advantages.

ALL....and i mean ALL MY FRIENDS got married between the ages of 25-30.....it was as if they were on a fucking mission......

many ended up divorced...
some are on their 2nd marriage.....
some are on their 3rd marriage.........
most are miserable......
few are truly happy........

there is nothing wrong with staying single......and waiting for that special someone.......

as far as dating???? keep on dating....AND BANG THEM ALL!!!!!!!

Heineken Helen

Zanne wrote:

I think you hit the nail on the head comparing dating to job interviews. I'm not a fan of dating... or job interviews.

I have to say... if it feels like a job interview, it's not working out... I'd be making my excuses after a couple of drinks.

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

I have to say... if it feels like a job interview, it's not working out... I'd be making my excuses after a couple of drinks.

I actually went on a date once and the guy was just like "you're not interested in me, are you?" and I was like, "no not really." and we just ended it there.

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I agree! I like dating. I've met some really good people doing online dating. I was with one person from online dating for almost a year, but then I moved over 700 miles away. I just don't like how you have to walk on eggshells...it shouldn't be like that.

you don't have to walk on eggshells... it's only like that if that's the way you decide to go about it. You have to be yourself... the way I see it is that if I go out with a guy and I'm all nice and polite and all the things women are supposed to be, well he's not actually seeing ANY of the real me, so if he DOES wanna see me again, he actually wants to meet somebody who's not even me... so fuck that.