Why Do Some People Say, “Church Sucks!”

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edited January 2007 in A Moving Train
Question from a blogger this morning. Thought this group would have some good information for him...

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  • JulienJulien Posts: 2,457
    Church sucks because it doesn't give any answer...
    It's old-fashioned and doens't attract young people like me...
    I don't agree with many things Church says about condoms, gays, priest's mariage, etc. etc.
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  • JamalJamal Posts: 2,115
    Church is okay for the rather naive

    I mean, if you like dogma's and people in funny robes telling you what to do...

    this goes for all religions
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  • geez, I mean you go to church for more then a decade, hate it every time and then one day realise that it has no relevence to you at all.
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    Whatever floats your boat. The church's opinions differ a lot from mine and add to that the dogma...
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  • Here's the original post...
    That’s a good question. I would like to honestly know why a person does not have any interest in attending or associating in any way with organized religion….no matter what the flavor. I would like for other bloggers to help me in finding out the, no doubt the many, reasons why so many people have no desire to attend church. You can post your results on this article, you can cut and paste this to your blog, you can create your own survey, but please share your results with me.

    Why do this survey you ask? Another good question. I think that we, those in church, should care about what people are thinking and how all people perceive the church. I think that the church must adapt to the needs of those people around them. I think we can easily, at best, develop blindspots and at worst grow complacent and uncaring.

    If you don’t attend church won’t you please share you honest reasons on this post? If you do attend church and have a blog, would you please put a link on your blog to this post for the unchurched to share their thoughts with me? Thanks!

    Thought that might help put the question in context.
  • inmytreeinmytree Posts: 4,741
    I choose not to attend church because I don't:

    -believe...
    -see the benefit...


    I would rather drink coffee and watch the tube/read the paper...if that makes me "ingorant", so be it...it's my choice and no one elses...

    of course there are the "open-minded" who sit back and judge....:rolleyes:
  • Religion sucks

    Church is boring, but sometimes funny.
  • miller8966miller8966 Posts: 1,450
    Im a big fan of going to church....helps teach moral values in people today.
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  • CosmoCosmo Posts: 12,225
    Here is my response... you've probably heard it all before.
    ...
    Well… it’s not the ‘Church’ so much as the hypocricy of some of the people inside (including Church leaders) that made me look for God elsewhere. I mean, I’m sure they’re nice people and stuff, but it’s the whole “Here’s what I say… (it ain’t what I do)” thing that turned me away.
    I’m talking about Christianity, because that is the prominent religion in America and the one I know the most about. I know enough Catholics who have either warned me or have shown me the trappings of that religion… so, I’m not going to step on that landmine. I don’t know enough about Islam or Judaism to make a fair assessment… and those off-shoot religions like Hare Krishna or Scientology… who am I kidding? I’m not going to shave my head and play a tamborine at the airport or have enough money to reach the higher rankings in those religions.
    The problem I have with Christianity isn’t Christ… it’s Christians. It’s like they get a ‘Get Out Of Hell’ Free Card that they play. Jesus forgives you… so, go ahead and be a dick to people. Example: If it’s ‘Thou Shalt Not Steal’… then don’t lie and cheat on your taxes, regardless of how you justify it. Cheating is cheating and you know it and so does Jesus. Don’t ask for His forgiveness in January and file a false claim in April. The answer to me seems quite simple… don’t do crappy stuff and you won’t have to keep asking Him for His forgiveness.
    Now, I know ALL Christians do not this… but, it just seems to me that if Christians as a whole were more ‘Christ-like’… less concerned about what other people are doing or believing and concentrated more on what Jesus said at the Sermon at the Mount… then, maybe I’d give up the Sunday morning NFL.
    Til then… if religion fits your needs… then, good for you, may you find peace with that. As for me… I’ll find God in my own way. I’ve been shown too many dead ends by religion… I think, that for me… personally… I’m better off on my own path.
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  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    We sure have a bunch of close-minded....and therefore ignorant people on this board with regard to the subject of religion.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

    Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    Cosmo wrote:
    Here is my response... you've probably heard it all before.
    ...
    Well… it’s not the ‘Church’ so much as the hypocricy of some of the people inside (including Church leaders) that made me look for God elsewhere. I mean, I’m sure they’re nice people and stuff, but it’s the whole “Here’s what I say… (it ain’t what I do)” thing that turned me away.
    I’m talking about Christianity, because that is the prominent religion in America and the one I know the most about. I know enough Catholics who have either warned me or have shown me the trappings of that religion… so, I’m not going to step on that landmine. I don’t know enough about Islam or Judaism to make a fair assessment… and those off-shoot religions like Hare Krishna or Scientology… who am I kidding? I’m not going to shave my head and play a tamborine at the airport or have enough money to reach the higher rankings in those religions.
    The problem I have with Christianity isn’t Christ… it’s Christians. It’s like they get a ‘Get Out Of Hell’ Free Card that they play. Jesus forgives you… so, go ahead and be a dick to people. Example: If it’s ‘Thou Shalt Not Steal’… then don’t lie and cheat on your taxes, regardless of how you justify it. Cheating is cheating and you know it and so does Jesus. Don’t ask for His forgiveness in January and file a false claim in April. The answer to me seems quite simple… don’t do crappy stuff and you won’t have to keep asking Him for His forgiveness.
    Now, I know ALL Christians do not this… but, it just seems to me that if Christians as a whole were more ‘Christ-like’… less concerned about what other people are doing or believing and concentrated more on what Jesus said at the Sermon at the Mount… then, maybe I’d give up the Sunday morning NFL.
    Til then… if religion fits your needs… then, good for you, may you find peace with that. As for me… I’ll find God in my own way. I’ve been shown too many dead ends by religion… I think, that for me… personally… I’m better off on my own path.

    I totally understand what you're saying here and agree with most of it. I was wondering where you found God, though, since you said it made you look elsewhere.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

    Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
  • CosmoCosmo Posts: 12,225
    know1 wrote:
    I totally understand what you're saying here and agree with most of it. I was wondering where you found God, though, since you said it made you look elsewhere.
    ...
    I see Him in the the peace I find in Nature and the wonder of the Universe. I don't think He gets a fair assessment in the Bible... all that stuff He does to people in the Old Testament... those are things Man would do to people... not God. I believe that the authors of the Bible strapped human traits, such as anger and rage to God. God isn't something to 'FEAR'.
    If you want to see the God I am talking about... go to the beach this evening, sit on the cool grey sand and watch the waves crashing in as the Sun sets... or get up early in the morning and watch the Sun rise over the desert... or sit beside a quite mountain lake and and listen to the wind blowing through the pines... that's my God. I find Him in His church... not in that building around the corner from my house.
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    Hail, Hail!!!
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    know1 wrote:
    We sure have a bunch of close-minded....and therefore ignorant people on this board with regard to the subject of religion.

    True and that goes both ways ;)
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
  • Went to church on Sunday, and thought it was pretty good. I like it when the pastor doesn't try to talk way over my head. Keep it simple. I'm there to learn about Jesus, and how the Bible describes him. I'm not really interested in your personal interpretation of the Bible, and Jesus. The way you see and identify with him might not be the way I do.
  • JaneNYJaneNY Posts: 4,438
    I went to church for 18 years, when I was home. I never really liked it but I had to go. Never really connected. The windows and statues were pretty, but I might as well have been at an antique show. I don't believe in the bible, so there wouldn't be any point for me to be at church anyway. I've never really felt part of the town I live in so I wouldn't want to encounter acquaintances at church either.
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  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    Cosmo wrote:
    ...
    I see Him in the the peace I find in Nature and the wonder of the Universe. I don't think He gets a fair assessment in the Bible... all that stuff He does to people in the Old Testament... those are things Man would do to people... not God. I believe that the authors of the Bible strapped human traits, such as anger and rage to God. God isn't something to 'FEAR'.
    If you want to see the God I am talking about... go to the beach this evening, sit on the cool grey sand and watch the waves crashing in as the Sun sets... or get up early in the morning and watch the Sun rise over the desert... or sit beside a quite mountain lake and and listen to the wind blowing through the pines... that's my God. I find Him in His church... not in that building around the corner from my house.

    I totally agree with what you're saying here and see God in all those things as well.

    People are imperfect. That applies to Christians and non-Christians alike. The thing is, people will point to an individual's imperfections and then apply that to the church as a whole.

    The interesting thing to me is - why don't people judge Nature's imperfections as harshly as they do man's?
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

    Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    Collin wrote:
    True and that goes both ways ;)

    I totally agree.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

    Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
  • CosmoCosmo Posts: 12,225
    know1 wrote:
    I totally agree with what you're saying here and see God in all those things as well.

    People are imperfect. That applies to Christians and non-Christians alike. The thing is, people will point to an individual's imperfections and then apply that to the church as a whole.

    The interesting thing to me is - why don't people judge Nature's imperfections as harshly as they do man's?
    ...
    Then, if you are not going to act (be) Christ-like... meaning, attempting to follow the guidence of Jesus' teachings... then, don't call yourself a 'Christian'. By calling yourself a Christian and continually breaking the laws of Christ and laying all of your crap on His back by whining about being an imperfect Human Being... you are just trying to cheat the system to justify your bad deeds.
    I'm human.. i know I'm not perfect and I know that I'm at fault. The only difference is... i'm taking responsibility and accountability for my own actions and refuse to place all of my poor decisions and choices on Jesus.
    ...
    As for Nature's imperfections... like what?
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  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    know1 wrote:
    The interesting thing to me is - why don't people judge Nature's imperfections as harshly as they do man's?

    Man can change and nature can't?
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  • hippiemomhippiemom Posts: 3,326
    know1 wrote:
    The interesting thing to me is - why don't people judge Nature's imperfections as harshly as they do man's?
    Why do people seem to think that humans exist outside of nature? Our imperfections ARE nature's imperfections.
    "Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity." ~ MLK, 1963
  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    Cosmo wrote:
    ...
    Then, if you are not going to act (be) Christ-like... meaning, attempting to follow the guidence of Jesus' teachings... then, don't call yourself a 'Christian'. By calling yourself a Christian and continually breaking the laws of Christ and laying all of your crap on His back by whining about being an imperfect Human Being... you are just trying to cheat the system to justify your bad deeds.
    I'm human.. i know I'm not perfect and I know that I'm at fault. The only difference is... i'm taking responsibility and accountability for my own actions and refuse to place all of my poor decisions and choices on Jesus.
    ...
    As for Nature's imperfections... like what?

    The key here is "attempting to follow" (your words). Attempting and succeeding are two different things. If someone is confessing their sins and asking for forgiveness, isn't that taking responsibility and accountability for their own actions? I think it's all about intent. It seems that you judge Christians with a different measure than you do non-Christians.

    Nature is filled with imperfections just like man is. After all, isn't man a part of nature. Animals, plants and organisms kill each other to survive. Volcanoes kill many things for no apparent reason. The sun can get so hot (or so cold) that very little can survive it in some places, etc., etc. We seem to be very accepting of those, but not accepting of man's.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

    Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    hippiemom wrote:
    Why do people seem to think that humans exist outside of nature? Our imperfections ARE nature's imperfections.

    Exactly. That was my point and why I find it curious that someone can see God in nature but not man. We'll all admire a pretty sunset and give credit to God, but what about the many days where it was too cloudy to see the sunset. If we would hold up the good things people do, and not dwell on the bad, perhaps it would be easier to accept each other and religion.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

    Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    know1 wrote:
    Exactly. That was my point and why I find it curious that someone can see God in nature but not man. We'll all admire a pretty sunset and give credit to God, but what about the many days where it was too cloudy to see the sunset. If we would hold up the good things people do, and not dwell on the bad, perhaps it would be easier to accept each other and religion.

    You lost me here. How do you view bad things?
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    know1 wrote:
    If we would hold up the good things people do, and not dwell on the bad, perhaps it would be easier to accept each other and religion.

    Could you clarify this statement. I interpret that to say that if a priest does a lot for the homeless, let's say, we should forget the children he molests? And I'm not baiting, but that is how I interpreted that.
  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    Collin wrote:
    You lost me here. How do you view bad things?

    I try not to view them.

    Cosmo said that people in church were too imperfect for him (I'm paraphrasing) and that he finds God in nature. I can understand that, but Nature definitely has its own imperfections and I find it curious that people (including myself) are so much more accepting of flaws in nature but not in other people.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

    Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    cutback wrote:
    Could you clarify this statement. I interpret that to say that if a priest does a lot for the homeless, let's say, we should forget the children he molests? And I'm not baiting, but that is how I interpreted that.

    I think that's generally what I'm saying, although you've taken it to the extreme, and I do not think we should overlook something as serious as child molestation.

    I think it's more that so many people often say that someone is a Christian but they do not act very Christ-like in certain ways - maybe they gossip or whatever. So the original person will point to that and say that there's no point in being a religious person.

    In other words, let's look at all the time a person spends volunteering at a charity for the disadvantaged, and not dwell on the fact that they might be petty or un Christ-like in some others.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

    Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
  • CollinCollin Posts: 4,931
    know1 wrote:
    I try not to view them.

    So the good things are god's work and the bad things aren't? Like a beautiful sunset is god's work but the the freezing cold that kills people every year is not? The tsunami's and hurricanes are not god's work either, but the grand canyon and the Niagara Falls are?
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  • know1 wrote:
    I think that's generally what I'm saying, although you've taken it to the extreme, and I do not think we should overlook something as serious as child molestation.

    I think it's more that so many people often say that someone is a Christian but they do not act very Christ-like in certain ways - maybe they gossip or whatever. So the original person will point to that and say that there's no point in being a religious person.

    In other words, let's look at all the time a person spends volunteering at a charity for the disadvantaged, and not dwell on the fact that they might be petty or un Christ-like in some others.

    Sorry to jump in, I'm not sure I agree with you here. Jesus' message was that you can do as much 'charity' as you want; it is good, but it is not the point ('The poor you will always have with you,' he said, or something like that). God looks at our hearts and our intentions for doing what we do, not the quality of our charity projects. If we're doing a million homeless projects, it doesn't mean jack if we're not trying to be Christ-like.

    To take the extreme situation as an example, a priest who is molesting children can give a million homeless people soup, but it won't put him right with God.
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

    - the great Sir Leo Harrison
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    know1 wrote:
    I think that's generally what I'm saying, although you've taken it to the extreme, and I do not think we should overlook something as serious as child molestation.

    I think it's more that so many people often say that someone is a Christian but they do not act very Christ-like in certain ways - maybe they gossip or whatever. So the original person will point to that and say that there's no point in being a religious person.

    In other words, let's look at all the time a person spends volunteering at a charity for the disadvantaged, and not dwell on the fact that they might be petty or un Christ-like in some others.
    Ok. And yes my example was extreme but that was off the top of my head.

    I could ignore the "un-Christ like" things religious people do if they could drop the righteousness. Just because you believe in a religion, it doesn't mean I'm wrong for not. No one is right.


    Except for Ed.:D
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