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Ernie Vedder said:10 months sober!0
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Nancy...wow0
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njnancy said:lastexitlondon said:I've just found this page and over the last few nights ive read from the start eagerly waiting to see where everyone is at today. This thread has made me realise I have a problem. Of what level im just not sure but i asked for help today because of this thread. Thank you.
I just had my sober anniversary on November 13th - it's been 21 years and 3 weeks of total sobriety - not just alcohol but any mood altering substance. I'm a coffee junkie now, you can't make me stop drinking my coffee - it's like air to me. And I also have been a smoker for a long time, but I am 5 months without a cigarette - last one I had was beginning of July. I am using a vape thingy, but the craving is basically gone. They absolutely add crap to make your more addicted to the cigarettes. I've gone out at 3am to get a pack. But the vape is just menthol and nicotine and I'm going to switch to non -nicotine vaping soon. I hardly use it though, much different than my obsession with cigarettes for more years than I'd like to admit.
I can't tell you exactly what changed my wanting to be be sober to just not wanting to drink one day. It happened just like that. One day I woke up and it was gone. I have had a lot of loss in my life so I have my problems with God as my higher power. I don't see how he could take my siblings from me and from their families. I can't make peace with it. My father died, at 67, less than a month after I stopped drinking for real. It was my first immediate family death and it was painful, but I didn't think of drinking. It had been taken from. I know it sounds crazy but it's true. I have never wanted to drink in all these years. I have wanted to escape, after a shitty day, week, year and I realize I can't go have a glass of wine with the girls or whatnot. I don't think I've ever just had a glass of anything, from the very beginning. I loved it, and I never wanted to stop. I have coping mechanisms and sleep is my escape when things get really intense - when I wake up from a nap I'm in a different state of mind.
And the first time my one on one therapist suggested I attend an AA meeting, I almost lost my mind. Why would I go talk to alcoholics? I wasn't like them! I just had some problems and I didn't need to hear what they had to say because I had a pre-conceived idea of what kinds of people were alcoholics and I was just a problem drinker. Several rehabs and years later and it was AA that saved my life. I finally decided to give it my all and see what happened - went everyday, sometimes twice a day - that was my homebase because it was safe and the people were just like me, not what I'd imagined. They understood me cause they were going through the same thing. It felt good to have other people say things and I'd realize that I did the same thing. I wasn't alone - I had people who knew me better than I knew myself.
I was a hard case and many thought I wouldn't make it, but here I am. And here you are. You might be surprised at who you bump into at a meeting, if you choose to go. Just keep coming back here and letting us know what's up with you. I don't want you to feel alone, cause you're not.
Nancy
I have done my first sober week for i don't know how long. I am scared and like you i love drinking but it doesn't love me. So i have managed a week and i onow i won't drink tomorrow either. That s all i know but i really hope i can go further. Because its caused me no end of health problems
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lastexitlondon said:njnancy said:lastexitlondon said:I've just found this page and over the last few nights ive read from the start eagerly waiting to see where everyone is at today. This thread has made me realise I have a problem. Of what level im just not sure but i asked for help today because of this thread. Thank you.
I just had my sober anniversary on November 13th - it's been 21 years and 3 weeks of total sobriety - not just alcohol but any mood altering substance. I'm a coffee junkie now, you can't make me stop drinking my coffee - it's like air to me. And I also have been a smoker for a long time, but I am 5 months without a cigarette - last one I had was beginning of July. I am using a vape thingy, but the craving is basically gone. They absolutely add crap to make your more addicted to the cigarettes. I've gone out at 3am to get a pack. But the vape is just menthol and nicotine and I'm going to switch to non -nicotine vaping soon. I hardly use it though, much different than my obsession with cigarettes for more years than I'd like to admit.
I can't tell you exactly what changed my wanting to be be sober to just not wanting to drink one day. It happened just like that. One day I woke up and it was gone. I have had a lot of loss in my life so I have my problems with God as my higher power. I don't see how he could take my siblings from me and from their families. I can't make peace with it. My father died, at 67, less than a month after I stopped drinking for real. It was my first immediate family death and it was painful, but I didn't think of drinking. It had been taken from. I know it sounds crazy but it's true. I have never wanted to drink in all these years. I have wanted to escape, after a shitty day, week, year and I realize I can't go have a glass of wine with the girls or whatnot. I don't think I've ever just had a glass of anything, from the very beginning. I loved it, and I never wanted to stop. I have coping mechanisms and sleep is my escape when things get really intense - when I wake up from a nap I'm in a different state of mind.
And the first time my one on one therapist suggested I attend an AA meeting, I almost lost my mind. Why would I go talk to alcoholics? I wasn't like them! I just had some problems and I didn't need to hear what they had to say because I had a pre-conceived idea of what kinds of people were alcoholics and I was just a problem drinker. Several rehabs and years later and it was AA that saved my life. I finally decided to give it my all and see what happened - went everyday, sometimes twice a day - that was my homebase because it was safe and the people were just like me, not what I'd imagined. They understood me cause they were going through the same thing. It felt good to have other people say things and I'd realize that I did the same thing. I wasn't alone - I had people who knew me better than I knew myself.
I was a hard case and many thought I wouldn't make it, but here I am. And here you are. You might be surprised at who you bump into at a meeting, if you choose to go. Just keep coming back here and letting us know what's up with you. I don't want you to feel alone, cause you're not.
Nancy
I have done my first sober week for i don't know how long. I am scared and like you i love drinking but it doesn't love me. So i have managed a week and i onow i won't drink tomorrow either. That s all i know but i really hope i can go further. Because its caused me no end of health problems
I don't know if you are going to meetings but I really hope you are, or try one. It is scary and something you never imagined would be part of your life - and everyone sitting in that room feels the same way - please give meetings a chance. I am blessed to live in NJ right across from Manhattan, so there are multiple meetings of different sorts every night of the week close to my home. I hope you have that. I don't know if you have any friends or acquaintances that go to AA, but if you do, it would make it easier. That's all I say about meetings - the thing I dreaded saved my life and became a home for me.
Most important - keep talking to people and whatever you do, don't drink or use. I hope your health problems are recoverable with this move on your part. There is a lot of life to live and it is possible to have a good life without using. It's something I couldn't imagine but it's true. Shit will happen, but you will be able to deal with it with a clear mind and not using in order to self-medicate when shit gets tough.
Keep it up for you - you deserve to be healthy and hopeful! You are important and worthy - say positive things and reject the negative shit that wants you to feel worthless and use. If you feed the positive it will flourish - same with the negative - don't feed it. We can hate ourselves more than any other person can. So reject that bullshit and just be proud and make a list of what is good about you. And say one good thing to yourself in the mirror - change your thinking cause the old way will lead you right back to a drink - I know it well.
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The holidays are a stressful time. Bumping this thread for all who need the support.ELITIST FUK0
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10 days. My memory is fucked
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lastexitlondon said:10 days. My memory is fucked
you will soon begin to feel some things you used to numb with booze. it may feel intense. ride it out.
keep this phrase in mind... THIS TOO SHALL PASS
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I feel like i have dementia . Im really struggling so bad with physical symptoms . Thank you for replying
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lastexitlondon said:I feel like i have dementia . Im really struggling so bad with physical symptoms . Thank you for replying
if you become real concerned go to the doctor.
one thing we didnt ask was how much and how frequently you drank. and for how long.
its important. think you'd be past it by now, but a very real condition develops in some who are very far gone. Delerium Tremens. It can be fatal if untreated.
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Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '140 -
lastexitlondon said:I feel like i have dementia . Im really struggling so bad with physical symptoms . Thank you for replying
Congrats on how far you have come. Hang in there.Tom Brady & Donald Trump, BFF's
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I wasn't a very heavy drinker..i drank most days some beers or a bottle of wine. Over many years about 15 years drank most days. Something even if 2 beers . Never more than 3 beers and a bottle of wine at a time.
I think this maybe something else.
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Weekends definitely heavier.
this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -0 -
lastexitlondon said:I wasn't a very heavy drinker..i drank most days some beers or a bottle of wine. Over many years about 15 years drank most days. Something even if 2 beers . Never more than 3 beers and a bottle of wine at a time.
I think this maybe something else.
to others: do people detox slowly? as in, taper the booze off? or quit all at once? or is there medication to help your body through the initial detox phase?
I don't think it's the amount of booze you consume; it's the reason. my wife's aunt used to only have one drink per day, but she depended on it like a crutch, so she eventually went to AA.
but I'm sure the recoverers in this thread know way more than I would.Hugh Freaking Dillon is currently out of the office, returning sometime in the fall0 -
HughFreakingDillon said:lastexitlondon said:I wasn't a very heavy drinker..i drank most days some beers or a bottle of wine. Over many years about 15 years drank most days. Something even if 2 beers . Never more than 3 beers and a bottle of wine at a time.
I think this maybe something else.
to others: do people detox slowly? as in, taper the booze off? or quit all at once? or is there medication to help your body through the initial detox phase?
I don't think it's the amount of booze you consume; it's the reason. my wife's aunt used to only have one drink per day, but she depended on it like a crutch, so she eventually went to AA.
but I'm sure the recoverers in this thread know way more than I would.
only an expert of my own experience and what others have shared but it doesnt sound to me he absolutely requires medical intervention. in light of it being day 10.
his body has forgotten how to readily function without some measure of alcohol. its learning how to again.
he should be fine. but seriously dont hesitate to consult a doctor. no shame in it at all. better to feel foolish than risk it. can get over feeling foolish, dead or damaged not so much....
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Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '140 -
Approaching 3 weeks.
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Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '140 -
lastexitlondon said:Approaching 3 weeks.my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf0
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Yes all by my self
I don't see many other people so at the moment its ok but still hard. This sunday marks 3 weeks but i have a family dinner at which my brother and step dad both of which drink heavily will be drinking. But i am determined so far.
Still feeling confused so its probably not the drink. Im struggling with bordem and eating so much sweet stuff. But still going
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