PJ fans in 12 step Recovery

i shit and i stink

riffrandall wrote:

I knew I re-upped my membership for some reason, not just for tickets either.
Never seen a thread like this one, but I'm sooo super grateful to see this one on here today. I've been in the program about 9 months, but am still working on getting my 90 day chip. I'll get there. I just have to surrender at some point.

As soon as I got sober, I swear my world completely changed, mostly for the very good, but I've also dealt with some overwhelming loss. An uncle, my grandmother, a good friend committed suicide, then I lost my godfather verrrry suddenly & now my best friend's mom just died. It would be SO EASY to sit at some bar and feel sorry for myself and get shit faced, but I know that won't help. Be gone, self pity. (Easier said than done.)
My friend needs me to be there for him this weekend and beyond & I won't do anyone any favors by being drunk.

Really glad I stumbled onto this thread. Every reminder helps. Thanks..

Hi, great to have another new 'face' here.

The activity here comes and goes but, like AA, it is always here

locked

locked wrote:

a great post from ellie about her first AA meeting:

http://www.onecraftymother.com/2010/03/ ... three.html

For anyone who has followed my friend Ellie's thread on sobriety , a repeat of her appearance on Oprah is on today at 4pm est (abc)..

sorry for the late notice!

Heatherj43

locked wrote:

locked wrote:

a great post from ellie about her first AA meeting:

http://www.onecraftymother.com/2010/03/ ... three.html

For anyone who has followed my friend Ellie's thread on sobriety , a repeat of her appearance on Oprah is on today at 4pm est (abc)..

sorry for the late notice!

Wow! Thats a nice blog about the first meeting. I will always remember mine. I was angry, scared, sick and tired, etc. I went on my own, no threats.
I remember thinking how they were all worse than me. I always thought that when I was using too. I always used less than the people around me so I wouldn't be as bad. Someone told me I wasn't there be accident. I thought , "well I am". I wasn't. I needed to be there worse than I knew.
Its ture about no one ending up at a meeting by accident.
I am going to watch Oprah now. Thanx

locked

locked wrote:

locked wrote:

a great post from ellie about her first AA meeting:

http://www.onecraftymother.com/2010/03/ ... three.html

For anyone who has followed my friend Ellie's thread on sobriety , a repeat of her appearance on Oprah is on today at 4pm est (abc)..

sorry for the late notice!

she was the last 15 minutes of the hour segment..

mickeyrat

i shit and i stink wrote:

riffrandall wrote:

I knew I re-upped my membership for some reason, not just for tickets either.
Never seen a thread like this one, but I'm sooo super grateful to see this one on here today. I've been in the program about 9 months, but am still working on getting my 90 day chip. I'll get there. I just have to surrender at some point.

As soon as I got sober, I swear my world completely changed, mostly for the very good, but I've also dealt with some overwhelming loss. An uncle, my grandmother, a good friend committed suicide, then I lost my godfather verrrry suddenly & now my best friend's mom just died. It would be SO EASY to sit at some bar and feel sorry for myself and get shit faced, but I know that won't help. Be gone, self pity. (Easier said than done.)
My friend needs me to be there for him this weekend and beyond & I won't do anyone any favors by being drunk.

Really glad I stumbled onto this thread. Every reminder helps. Thanks..

Hi, great to have another new 'face' here.

The activity here comes and goes but, like AA, it is always here

Welcome , welcome. Coffee's over there!!!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

megatron

i had a pint :oops:

mickeyrat

So , a test of sorts is coming up.Wanting to hang out with some fellow fans , vast majority of which will be drinking and trying to find a way to be helpful. Thinking voluteering for a wishlist event would fill the bill.

locked

mickeyrat wrote:

So , a test of sorts is coming up.Wanting to hang out with some fellow fans , vast majority of which will be drinking and trying to find a way to be helpful. Thinking voluteering for a wishlist event would fill the bill.

I'll be at Hartford and Boston shows and pre-parties..

Does that help any?

Scotty

mickeyrat

locked wrote:

mickeyrat wrote:

So , a test of sorts is coming up.Wanting to hang out with some fellow fans , vast majority of which will be drinking and trying to find a way to be helpful. Thinking voluteering for a wishlist event would fill the bill.

I'll be at Hartford and Boston shows and pre-parties..

Does that help any?

Scotty

strangely yes. another alky is attending in another city. Whats your phone # in case?

Actually just found out today who is attending with me. Fellow alky and a good friend to boot. So I'm covered.

almostgone27

Anybody going to either MSG show? I'm coming in from Phoenix and would love to meet up with some fellow AA's. Been sober 5.5 mo's. My family lives in Jersey so I'll be in the area until monday morning. BTW this is a rad thread. Feel free to pm me...

i shit and i stink

just discovered speaker tapes, a great way to get some of the program in English for me. Listened to Bill's speech on the day Bob died and was pretty choked by the end of it. Just hearing Bill's voice, having heard his name a thousand times in the last few months, was so great. I could have spent that hour watching TV or doing nothing or drinking... where would that have got me?

mickeyrat

Hmmm, 4 years ago today I KNEW it was done. Felt it with every fiber of my being. Just DONE.Over.
Still need to get the help I need on a daily basis, but now I ask without hesitation.
what a wonderful way to live!!

Had the opportunity to walk down "memory lane" as it were the past couple of days.
The nature of my job is to travel the city.
Friday , I drove down the street where I had my last , and just yesterday I drove down High Street ,here in Columbus and passed the park bench I slept on when first living on the streets.

Good time for reflection.

i shit and i stink

mickeyrat wrote:

Hmmm, 4 years ago today I KNEW it was done. Felt it with every fiber of my being. Just DONE.Over.
Still need to get the help I need on a daily basis, but now I ask without hesitation.
what a wonderful way to live!!

Had the opportunity to walk down "memory lane" as it were the past couple of days.
The nature of my job is to travel the city.
Friday , I drove down the street where I had my last , and just yesterday I drove down High Street ,here in Columbus and passed the park bench I slept on when first living on the streets.

Good time for reflection.

4 years. congrats! That is brilliant.

I heard a good one today. Friend of mine once heard in a meeting: "If I wasn't an alcoholic, I'd drink every day"

mickeyrat

i shit and i stink wrote:

mickeyrat wrote:

Hmmm, 4 years ago today I KNEW it was done. Felt it with every fiber of my being. Just DONE.Over.
Still need to get the help I need on a daily basis, but now I ask without hesitation.
what a wonderful way to live!!

Had the opportunity to walk down "memory lane" as it were the past couple of days.
The nature of my job is to travel the city.
Friday , I drove down the street where I had my last , and just yesterday I drove down High Street ,here in Columbus and passed the park bench I slept on when first living on the streets.

Good time for reflection.

4 years. congrats! That is brilliant.

I heard a good one today. Friend of mine once heard in a meeting: "If I wasn't an alcoholic, I'd drink every day"

HAHAHAHA!!!! yeah me too.

locked

heard another one too:

"Feelings are not Facts"...

so true!

mickeyrat

wow , what a show.

Had zero problems at the preparty , being literally surrounded by people drinking. And at the show some fan was enjoying some fine smelling bud. Still zero thoughts in that direction.
Rocked my ass off!!!! And I remember what happened!!!!!
For the rest of you waiting to hit your show(s), Have a great time. You're in for a ride.

locked

mickeyrat wrote:

wow , what a show.

Had zero problems at the preparty , being literally surrounded by people drinking. And at the show some fan was enjoying some fine smelling bud. Still zero thoughts in that direction.
Rocked my ass off!!!! And I remember what happened!!!!!
For the rest of you waiting to hit your show(s), Have a great time. You're in for a ride.

sobriety rocks...

pass it on..!

I've been going to shows sober since 2005..!

The Juggler

what constitues having a problem with alcohol in your mind? i realize it's different per person. but at what point do you think the line is crossed?

just curious...

DreamOfAngels

Ok. Here's a question for those stronger than I... I was insane on Thursday night after finding out I won the lottery for front row center between Ed and Stone in Columbus. I was asked the question "if Ed hands you his wine - are you going to drink it?"

Wow... now that's a question. I flip-flopped back and forth on my answer and had great rationalization for either the yes or no answer. Now it is 4 days after the show and I'm still stumped as to what I would do if he would have given me the wine. Thankfully, he started it at the end of the row vs. in the center so I never saw it.

I never liked wine so would taking a drink be harmless? Would it be insane to make an exception to drinking like this? I've never made any exceptions since I quit about 3 1/2 years ago. Are there ever acceptable moments? or am I just crazy for thinking that if I had made this exception it wouldn't have been a big deal. I know that if he were drinking Crown... now that would be a different story - I know not to touch that

Just curious if you have ever thought about this and what your thought process would be. Thanks for sharing.

mickeyrat

The Jeagler wrote:

what constitues having a problem with alcohol in your mind? i realize it's different per person. but at what point do you think the line is crossed?

just curious...

really , I suppose it's different for each person. For me, from THE VERY FIRST time I drank , I could NOT get enough. Can probably count one one hand the times I drank "socially". And half of those times I had "other" things on my mind.

How I drank was this, to drink as much as I possibly could once I started. AND I always started.

If you are truly interested Jeags(just for info sake) pm me.