Cancer, and me.

lastexitlondon

I cant comprehend this. This is devastating.  My friend. 

lastexitlondon

Beyond brave.  Inspirational to me. Always a kind word for me . Im forever grateful 

mfc2006

She was such an amazing person & will be sorely missed. Damn.

MayDay10

so sorry to hear this.  Very sad.  My thoughts are with her loved ones.  

Poncier

mickeyrat said:

well fuck.

That pretty much sums it up.

Damn we knew this was coming but didn't think it was so soon.
So sorry for Dan and the loss he is dealing with.
Another great PJ community member taken far too soon. Sad beyond words.

Thanks oftenreading for delivering the devastating news, it couldn't have been an easy task

Asterisk on the Street

So sad to read this. My thoughts are with her family and friends.

Spunkie

...so make the most of this dance and don't ask why....

Merkin Baller

West Coast Dreamgirl said:

I'm so sorry for the loss to her nearest and dearest and for us. Absolutely gutted.

Likewise... I feel selfish even talking about "our" loss as it's nothing compared to her husband's or anyone else who knew her in real life, but it IS a loss for this community... and a big one at that. 

oftenreading

This morning I received a request from Dan to post this on his behalf. With tears, here are Dan's words about Hedo. 

My dearest Melina. We met by chance in 1998 when you joined the Synergy message board to learn more about the band Pearl Jam.  (I wish I had kept all our posts and direct messages.) We quickly became the best of friends, each day looking forward to the other's posts.  What intriguing story or humorous post is waiting for us.  You had a true talent with words and it matched up perfectly with me.

We went on to share our life story with each other, and quickly that our future would be together, even though we were 2500 miles apart.

This was just the first time you saved my life.  I was in a miserable place and had resigned myself to the fact that I would be alone the rest of my life.  You always said that was your mindset, too.  Two souls who had given up on relationships, came together.

We then spent thousands of dollars on long distance calls, using every form of media to talk to each other... leading to me and you finally meeting and spending our first 2 weeks together.

In those two weeks I learned what a soulmate was and that I had now found mine.  In those two weeks, we knew there was no going back... We knew this was our future together.

It took us until 9/11/2001 to realize we needed to make this happen sooner rather than later.  Nothing was going to stop us from being together, so I packed everything I owned into the back of my truck, quit my job and headed to LA, headed to my soulmate.

We spent the next 20 years loving and taking care of each other.  You went on to save my life multiple times.  When I was out of work and thinking this city beat me, you supported me and kept me pushing.  When I fell ill and was just hours away from dying.  Whenever I was down, you and your beautiful smile were always there to comfort me.

You met my mother in 2008, and you knew just how much she was a part of me.  She saw how happy you made me, she saw that my family was complete, now with you.

A little over 2 years later, my mother, who had many health issues, passed away.  But to this day, I don't think she would have left if she didn't know her children were in good hands.

That was a tough loss, but with you by my side I was able to pick myself up and move on.

The struggles never ceased.  But through them all we leaned on each other.  We made a great team, and whatever we wanted to do, we accomplished it.

My dearest Melina, we are one!  Every single day that I stay here waiting to be reunited with you, I will cherish our memories.  I will never forget what we did and how we did it.

You are the most beautiful, the most sincere, the most loving and caring person in the whole world!  I will forever love you with all my heart!

Thank you for all of that, every minute that you gave to me.  Thank you, my love!  Your smile makes me happy!

Halifax2TheMax

I don’t have words, just tears.

Purple Fairy Tree

Merkin Baller said:

West Coast Dreamgirl said:

I'm so sorry for the loss to her nearest and dearest and for us. Absolutely gutted.

Likewise... I feel selfish even talking about "our" loss as it's nothing compared to her husband's or anyone else who knew her in real life, but it IS a loss for this community... and a big one at that. 

Exactly I think it's just shock. I know she went quiet, them posted the other day. I didn't realise she had so little time left. I messaged her a few days ago and she messaged back. It's like waking up to a warped reality. 

mickeyrat

channeling Chadwick....

this is a real kick in balls, full of shit and piss.

yes/no?

deadendp

oftenreading said:

This morning I received a request from Dan to post this on his behalf. With tears, here are Dan's words about Hedo. 

My dearest Melina. We met by chance in 1998 when you joined the Synergy message board to learn more about the band Pearl Jam.  (I wish I had kept all our posts and direct messages.) We quickly became the best of friends, each day looking forward to the other's posts.  What intriguing story or humorous post is waiting for us.  You had a true talent with words and it matched up perfectly with me.

We went on to share our life story with each other, and quickly that our future would be together, even though we were 2500 miles apart.

This was just the first time you saved my life.  I was in a miserable place and had resigned myself to the fact that I would be alone the rest of my life.  You always said that was your mindset, too.  Two souls who had given up on relationships, came together.

We then spent thousands of dollars on long distance calls, using every form of media to talk to each other... leading to me and you finally meeting and spending our first 2 weeks together.

In those two weeks I learned what a soulmate was and that I had now found mine.  In those two weeks, we knew there was no going back... We knew this was our future together.

It took us until 9/11/2001 to realize we needed to make this happen sooner rather than later.  Nothing was going to stop us from being together, so I packed everything I owned into the back of my truck, quit my job and headed to LA, headed to my soulmate.

We spent the next 20 years loving and taking care of each other.  You went on to save my life multiple times.  When I was out of work and thinking this city beat me, you supported me and kept me pushing.  When I fell ill and was just hours away from dying.  Whenever I was down, you and your beautiful smile were always there to comfort me.

You met my mother in 2008, and you knew just how much she was a part of me.  She saw how happy you made me, she saw that my family was complete, now with you.

A little over 2 years later, my mother, who had many health issues, passed away.  But to this day, I don't think she would have left if she didn't know her children were in good hands.

That was a tough loss, but with you by my side I was able to pick myself up and move on.

The struggles never ceased.  But through them all we leaned on each other.  We made a great team, and whatever we wanted to do, we accomplished it.

My dearest Melina, we are one!  Every single day that I stay here waiting to be reunited with you, I will cherish our memories.  I will never forget what we did and how we did it.

You are the most beautiful, the most sincere, the most loving and caring person in the whole world!  I will forever love you with all my heart!

Thank you for all of that, every minute that you gave to me.  Thank you, my love!  Your smile makes me happy!

Well shit. Standing at work with tears pouring down my face. 

Much love to you, D. 

lastexitlondon

💔

JPPJ84

Beautiful words! I hope Dan can hold on to the memories 

pjhawks

I don't know why I clicked on this thread just now but something led me to it.  Didn't know or interaction with Hedo here but still felt tears coming to my eyes reading the last two pages. Seemed like a great person.   RIP and fuck cancer.

Purple Fairy Tree

oftenreading said:

This morning I received a request from Dan to post this on his behalf. With tears, here are Dan's words about Hedo. 

My dearest Melina. We met by chance in 1998 when you joined the Synergy message board to learn more about the band Pearl Jam.  (I wish I had kept all our posts and direct messages.) We quickly became the best of friends, each day looking forward to the other's posts.  What intriguing story or humorous post is waiting for us.  You had a true talent with words and it matched up perfectly with me.

We went on to share our life story with each other, and quickly that our future would be together, even though we were 2500 miles apart.

This was just the first time you saved my life.  I was in a miserable place and had resigned myself to the fact that I would be alone the rest of my life.  You always said that was your mindset, too.  Two souls who had given up on relationships, came together.

We then spent thousands of dollars on long distance calls, using every form of media to talk to each other... leading to me and you finally meeting and spending our first 2 weeks together.

In those two weeks I learned what a soulmate was and that I had now found mine.  In those two weeks, we knew there was no going back... We knew this was our future together.

It took us until 9/11/2001 to realize we needed to make this happen sooner rather than later.  Nothing was going to stop us from being together, so I packed everything I owned into the back of my truck, quit my job and headed to LA, headed to my soulmate.

We spent the next 20 years loving and taking care of each other.  You went on to save my life multiple times.  When I was out of work and thinking this city beat me, you supported me and kept me pushing.  When I fell ill and was just hours away from dying.  Whenever I was down, you and your beautiful smile were always there to comfort me.

You met my mother in 2008, and you knew just how much she was a part of me.  She saw how happy you made me, she saw that my family was complete, now with you.

A little over 2 years later, my mother, who had many health issues, passed away.  But to this day, I don't think she would have left if she didn't know her children were in good hands.

That was a tough loss, but with you by my side I was able to pick myself up and move on.

The struggles never ceased.  But through them all we leaned on each other.  We made a great team, and whatever we wanted to do, we accomplished it.

My dearest Melina, we are one!  Every single day that I stay here waiting to be reunited with you, I will cherish our memories.  I will never forget what we did and how we did it.

You are the most beautiful, the most sincere, the most loving and caring person in the whole world!  I will forever love you with all my heart!

Thank you for all of that, every minute that you gave to me.  Thank you, my love!  Your smile makes me happy!

Lovely words and story about Melina. I'm sorry for your loss and it sounds like you made each other really happy. She'll be dearly missed. 

Poncier

Oh Dan, such beautiful words. I hope you find comfort and peace.

Loujoe

So brave and kind to share her experience with us. Sorry for the loss. She will continue to shine inside a lot of people.
Love you all.
Sucks.

GlowGirl

Thanks for sharing such a beautiful tribute, Dan.