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ecdanc said:benjs said:ecdanc said:mickeyrat said:oftenreading said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:dignin said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:i have read what was written. no point was missed. people here need to come to the realization that just because I disagree with you, doesn't mean a point was missed, or, as dignin so elegantly put it, as usual, is "fucking weak".
second, i guess we can tell all those people out there transitioning at age 17, 22, 35, 47, and 69, that they are well behind the curve of modern 3 year olds.
I think this and similar posts show a lack of understanding of what ecdanc is proposing. He's not talking about raising the child in a gender neutral fashion forever, just until the child starts to express/generate their own gender identity, at which point they will raise the child congruent with that gender (presumably while trying to avoid gender stereotypes). All the talk about the child or its little compatriots being "confused" by the lack of gender expectations misses the point, which is that infants and toddlers and preschoolers generally aren't confused by this, or more precisely, they are as confused by this as they are by pretty much everything else, because it's all new and they are just trying to absorb it all. There isn't really any bullying at this age, at least for anything other than "I want that toy so I'm going to take it". By the time the kids reach the age where bullying about perceived differences starts, the child will be expressing their gender identity already.
Those people of 17, 22, 35 or 69 that you're using as examples - they're exactly the ones that would have benefited from this approach. They wouldn't have had to struggle for years or decades with incongruencies between their assigned gender and the gender they perceive themselves to be.you my friend are a far better advocate for these and other issues....I feel spoken to. Engaged with.Not spoken at.thank you.
Thanks, oftenreading.
FWIW, I wanted to mention that while I clearly have no passion for the way you debate/discuss on here, I find it really admirable how you're raising your child to be gender-neutral until they present their own gender to you as parents; that's a major commitment to letting your child walk their own walk.'05 - TO, '06 - TO 1, '08 - NYC 1 & 2, '09 - TO, Chi 1 & 2, '10 - Buffalo, NYC 1 & 2, '11 - TO 1 & 2, Hamilton, '13 - Buffalo, Brooklyn 1 & 2, '15 - Global Citizen, '16 - TO 1 & 2, Chi 2
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ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:
I think some of y'all take this toddler gender business way too seriously. Some parents give their boys toy trucks to play with and girls dolls (I'm a guy and as an infant, I had both)- so what? Some do the opposite. So what? I know a woman who lived next door to a famous drummer who has a son who wanted to wear a pink dress to school the first day he ever went to school. So what? (I though that was funny as hell- cute!) They are infants. They don't give two shits about this stuff. Jesus, just let them be kids.For infants, take seriously:Loving themGood nutritionSafe and clean environmentThe health of the planet (they will inherit this ailing earth)For infants, don't take serious:Gender issues. Infants don't give two shits about gender issues.dignin said:brianlux said:
I think some of y'all take this toddler gender business way too seriously. Some parents give their boys toy trucks to play with and girls dolls (I'm a guy and as an infant, I had both)- so what? Some do the opposite. So what? I know a woman who lived next door to a famous drummer who has a son who wanted to wear a pink dress to school the first day he ever went to school. So what? (I though that was funny as hell- cute!) They are infants. They don't give two shits about this stuff. Jesus, just let them be kids.
The way I see it, the parents being neutral and raising their kids with no pressure to be one or the other are being less serious. Is that how you feel?
I'm only going to talk about the subject. Not in a hurry to get banned.Your infant will inherit the earth. It's you who would do well to be concerned about the planet. It's yours and my responsibility to do what we can to help lesson our negative impact on environment for their sake. And I never even reproduced, so you parents especially might want to be concerned about the state of the planet.I'm very concerned and this place give me good reason to be concerned. I'm fairly certain this is a forum on which people are generally more environmentally concerned than the average person posting on the internet. And yet, even here, look at the concern level of climate change compared to gender issue:All Thing Transgender Related thread:Amount of time it has been on AMT: Less than one month.Number of responses: 876The all-purpose, heavy duty Global Warming/ Climate Change thread:Amount of time it has been on AMT: 8 monthsNumber of responses: 226Yeah, that concerns me very, very much.
I don't have time to count but look at the stats- the point I made is about what people are more concerned or interested in. I think that's very plane to see. Climate change involves less drama and is less sensationalist than gender issues. Our priorities leave me scratching my head.
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benjs said:ecdanc said:benjs said:ecdanc said:mickeyrat said:oftenreading said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:dignin said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:i have read what was written. no point was missed. people here need to come to the realization that just because I disagree with you, doesn't mean a point was missed, or, as dignin so elegantly put it, as usual, is "fucking weak".
second, i guess we can tell all those people out there transitioning at age 17, 22, 35, 47, and 69, that they are well behind the curve of modern 3 year olds.
I think this and similar posts show a lack of understanding of what ecdanc is proposing. He's not talking about raising the child in a gender neutral fashion forever, just until the child starts to express/generate their own gender identity, at which point they will raise the child congruent with that gender (presumably while trying to avoid gender stereotypes). All the talk about the child or its little compatriots being "confused" by the lack of gender expectations misses the point, which is that infants and toddlers and preschoolers generally aren't confused by this, or more precisely, they are as confused by this as they are by pretty much everything else, because it's all new and they are just trying to absorb it all. There isn't really any bullying at this age, at least for anything other than "I want that toy so I'm going to take it". By the time the kids reach the age where bullying about perceived differences starts, the child will be expressing their gender identity already.
Those people of 17, 22, 35 or 69 that you're using as examples - they're exactly the ones that would have benefited from this approach. They wouldn't have had to struggle for years or decades with incongruencies between their assigned gender and the gender they perceive themselves to be.you my friend are a far better advocate for these and other issues....I feel spoken to. Engaged with.Not spoken at.thank you.
Thanks, oftenreading.
FWIW, I wanted to mention that while I clearly have no passion for the way you debate/discuss on here, I find it really admirable how you're raising your child to be gender-neutral until they present their own gender to you as parents; that's a major commitment to letting your child walk their own walk.
"Children are not born with a gender identity they can express. They are assigned a gender at birth (or, often now, before birth). I’m purposely sidestepping “sex” here to focus on gender, but generally speaking the assigned gender aligns with the child’s genitals (penis = boy, etc.). Gender identity comes later—while there isn’t a great deal of research in this area, some experts suggest this happens as early as three years old. So, while I’m oversimplifying things slightly, a child will express their identity at the same age, regardless of whether they are assigned a gender at birth. Does that help make things clearer?"
Am I being argumentative, arrogant, and/or condescending there? Trolls, my friend.
And FWIW, thank you.0 -
brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:
I think some of y'all take this toddler gender business way too seriously. Some parents give their boys toy trucks to play with and girls dolls (I'm a guy and as an infant, I had both)- so what? Some do the opposite. So what? I know a woman who lived next door to a famous drummer who has a son who wanted to wear a pink dress to school the first day he ever went to school. So what? (I though that was funny as hell- cute!) They are infants. They don't give two shits about this stuff. Jesus, just let them be kids.For infants, take seriously:Loving themGood nutritionSafe and clean environmentThe health of the planet (they will inherit this ailing earth)For infants, don't take serious:Gender issues. Infants don't give two shits about gender issues.dignin said:brianlux said:
I think some of y'all take this toddler gender business way too seriously. Some parents give their boys toy trucks to play with and girls dolls (I'm a guy and as an infant, I had both)- so what? Some do the opposite. So what? I know a woman who lived next door to a famous drummer who has a son who wanted to wear a pink dress to school the first day he ever went to school. So what? (I though that was funny as hell- cute!) They are infants. They don't give two shits about this stuff. Jesus, just let them be kids.
The way I see it, the parents being neutral and raising their kids with no pressure to be one or the other are being less serious. Is that how you feel?
I'm only going to talk about the subject. Not in a hurry to get banned.Your infant will inherit the earth. It's you who would do well to be concerned about the planet. It's yours and my responsibility to do what we can to help lesson our negative impact on environment for their sake. And I never even reproduced, so you parents especially might want to be concerned about the state of the planet.I'm very concerned and this place give me good reason to be concerned. I'm fairly certain this is a forum on which people are generally more environmentally concerned than the average person posting on the internet. And yet, even here, look at the concern level of climate change compared to gender issue:All Thing Transgender Related thread:Amount of time it has been on AMT: Less than one month.Number of responses: 876The all-purpose, heavy duty Global Warming/ Climate Change thread:Amount of time it has been on AMT: 8 monthsNumber of responses: 226Yeah, that concerns me very, very much.
I don't have time to count but look at the stats- the point I made is about what people are more concerned or interested in. I think that's very plane to see. Climate change involves less drama and is less sensationalist than gender issues. Our priorities leave me scratching my head.0 -
brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:
I think some of y'all take this toddler gender business way too seriously. Some parents give their boys toy trucks to play with and girls dolls (I'm a guy and as an infant, I had both)- so what? Some do the opposite. So what? I know a woman who lived next door to a famous drummer who has a son who wanted to wear a pink dress to school the first day he ever went to school. So what? (I though that was funny as hell- cute!) They are infants. They don't give two shits about this stuff. Jesus, just let them be kids.For infants, take seriously:Loving themGood nutritionSafe and clean environmentThe health of the planet (they will inherit this ailing earth)For infants, don't take serious:Gender issues. Infants don't give two shits about gender issues.dignin said:brianlux said:
I think some of y'all take this toddler gender business way too seriously. Some parents give their boys toy trucks to play with and girls dolls (I'm a guy and as an infant, I had both)- so what? Some do the opposite. So what? I know a woman who lived next door to a famous drummer who has a son who wanted to wear a pink dress to school the first day he ever went to school. So what? (I though that was funny as hell- cute!) They are infants. They don't give two shits about this stuff. Jesus, just let them be kids.
The way I see it, the parents being neutral and raising their kids with no pressure to be one or the other are being less serious. Is that how you feel?
I'm only going to talk about the subject. Not in a hurry to get banned.Your infant will inherit the earth. It's you who would do well to be concerned about the planet. It's yours and my responsibility to do what we can to help lesson our negative impact on environment for their sake. And I never even reproduced, so you parents especially might want to be concerned about the state of the planet.I'm very concerned and this place give me good reason to be concerned. I'm fairly certain this is a forum on which people are generally more environmentally concerned than the average person posting on the internet. And yet, even here, look at the concern level of climate change compared to gender issue:All Thing Transgender Related thread:Amount of time it has been on AMT: Less than one month.Number of responses: 876The all-purpose, heavy duty Global Warming/ Climate Change thread:Amount of time it has been on AMT: 8 monthsNumber of responses: 226Yeah, that concerns me very, very much.
I don't have time to count but look at the stats- the point I made is about what people are more concerned or interested in. I think that's very plane to see. Climate change involves less drama and is less sensationalist than gender issues. Our priorities leave me scratching my head.fully half of the posts in this thread are useless to the overall topic and conversation imo. some of which I own too so I'm not slinging mud just to sling it.I had hoped for better discourse though. We've seen its possible ........
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I have had a 90-95% quality level on my posts in this thread. I am proud to say.
my board average is 63%."Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"0 -
Spiritual_Chaos said:I have had a 90-95% quality level on my posts in this thread. I am proud to say.
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cincybearcat said:Spiritual_Chaos said:I have had a 90-95% quality level on my posts in this thread. I am proud to say.
my board average is 63%."Mostly I think that people react sensitively because they know you’ve got a point"0 -
brianlux said:I changed it to "some people" so no one will think I'm talking about YOU. I'm not.This whole thread occupies way more space than I would really think is justifiable in a world with so many more pressing issues... like, your planet if being fucked and your kids will have to deal with that!0
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Spiritual_Chaos said:I have had a 90-95% quality level on my posts in this thread. I am proud to say.
my board average is 63%.0 -
brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:ecdanc said:brianlux said:
I think some of y'all take this toddler gender business way too seriously. Some parents give their boys toy trucks to play with and girls dolls (I'm a guy and as an infant, I had both)- so what? Some do the opposite. So what? I know a woman who lived next door to a famous drummer who has a son who wanted to wear a pink dress to school the first day he ever went to school. So what? (I though that was funny as hell- cute!) They are infants. They don't give two shits about this stuff. Jesus, just let them be kids.For infants, take seriously:Loving themGood nutritionSafe and clean environmentThe health of the planet (they will inherit this ailing earth)For infants, don't take serious:Gender issues. Infants don't give two shits about gender issues.dignin said:brianlux said:
I think some of y'all take this toddler gender business way too seriously. Some parents give their boys toy trucks to play with and girls dolls (I'm a guy and as an infant, I had both)- so what? Some do the opposite. So what? I know a woman who lived next door to a famous drummer who has a son who wanted to wear a pink dress to school the first day he ever went to school. So what? (I though that was funny as hell- cute!) They are infants. They don't give two shits about this stuff. Jesus, just let them be kids.
The way I see it, the parents being neutral and raising their kids with no pressure to be one or the other are being less serious. Is that how you feel?
I'm only going to talk about the subject. Not in a hurry to get banned.Your infant will inherit the earth. It's you who would do well to be concerned about the planet. It's yours and my responsibility to do what we can to help lesson our negative impact on environment for their sake. And I never even reproduced, so you parents especially might want to be concerned about the state of the planet.I'm very concerned and this place give me good reason to be concerned. I'm fairly certain this is a forum on which people are generally more environmentally concerned than the average person posting on the internet. And yet, even here, look at the concern level of climate change compared to gender issue:All Thing Transgender Related thread:Amount of time it has been on AMT: Less than one month.Number of responses: 876The all-purpose, heavy duty Global Warming/ Climate Change thread:Amount of time it has been on AMT: 8 monthsNumber of responses: 226Yeah, that concerns me very, very much.
I don't have time to count but look at the stats- the point I made is about what people are more concerned or interested in. I think that's very plane to see. Climate change involves less drama and is less sensationalist than gender issues. Our priorities leave me scratching my head.0 -
Spiritual_Chaos said:cincybearcat said:Spiritual_Chaos said:I have had a 90-95% quality level on my posts in this thread. I am proud to say.
my board average is 63%.
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I wonder what, if any , accommodations will be made once he reaches prison. Would assume he starts out in a juvenile facility intil 18.......16-Year-Old Pleads Guilty to Murder in Colorado School Shooting https://nyti.ms/3898e0t
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you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
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another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '140 -
ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:science is not a social construct. science is testable and provable truths. all knowledge is based on science and the scientific method.
Are you suggesting there was no knowledge before the scientific method?
And how do you establish these tests and proofs?
it was "oooh oooh OOOH".
What I'm about to say is tongue-in-cheek, but there's a real point in here, as well: are you really comfortable defending science as the definitive source of knowledge if it's something a baby can do?
I know a few naturalists and a population geneticist and they would laugh at what you are saying and tell you to drink a beer, burn one, put down the philosophy books and get your hands dirty lolMonkey Driven, Call this Living?0 -
rgambs said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:science is not a social construct. science is testable and provable truths. all knowledge is based on science and the scientific method.
Are you suggesting there was no knowledge before the scientific method?
And how do you establish these tests and proofs?
it was "oooh oooh OOOH".
What I'm about to say is tongue-in-cheek, but there's a real point in here, as well: are you really comfortable defending science as the definitive source of knowledge if it's something a baby can do?
I know a few naturalists and a population geneticist and they would laugh at what you are saying and tell you to drink a beer, burn one, put down the philosophy books and get your hands dirty lol
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ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:science is not a social construct. science is testable and provable truths. all knowledge is based on science and the scientific method.
Are you suggesting there was no knowledge before the scientific method?
And how do you establish these tests and proofs?
it was "oooh oooh OOOH".
Perhaps we're beginning to see why Simon Young, (potentially fake) PhD compared science to religion.
Edit - if that were the case, then when the construct changes, the science would have to change. Yet that's not the case.
I didn't say it was a product of the social construct, I said it is a social construct. If I wanted to be more precise, I'd say it's a "discourse," but I'm using that word in a highly specific way, so I've tried to avoid it for clarity.
And, umm...science has changed a shit ton, so....yeah.
Now you answer. Could trans rights affect the first law of thermodynamics? Will that law no longer be true if trans athletes get to compete against cis woman? Let's bring it all back to the beginning here.Monkey Driven, Call this Living?0 -
ecdanc said:rgambs said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:science is not a social construct. science is testable and provable truths. all knowledge is based on science and the scientific method.
Are you suggesting there was no knowledge before the scientific method?
And how do you establish these tests and proofs?
it was "oooh oooh OOOH".
What I'm about to say is tongue-in-cheek, but there's a real point in here, as well: are you really comfortable defending science as the definitive source of knowledge if it's something a baby can do?
I know a few naturalists and a population geneticist and they would laugh at what you are saying and tell you to drink a beer, burn one, put down the philosophy books and get your hands dirty lol
I'm a pretty good cook, I still use recipes from top chefs. I used to do my own taxes, I never thought of myself as an economist. I am pretty insightful with the emotions of my friends and family, I don't claim to be a psychiatrist.Monkey Driven, Call this Living?0 -
rgambs said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:science is not a social construct. science is testable and provable truths. all knowledge is based on science and the scientific method.
Are you suggesting there was no knowledge before the scientific method?
And how do you establish these tests and proofs?
it was "oooh oooh OOOH".
Perhaps we're beginning to see why Simon Young, (potentially fake) PhD compared science to religion.
Edit - if that were the case, then when the construct changes, the science would have to change. Yet that's not the case.
I didn't say it was a product of the social construct, I said it is a social construct. If I wanted to be more precise, I'd say it's a "discourse," but I'm using that word in a highly specific way, so I've tried to avoid it for clarity.
And, umm...science has changed a shit ton, so....yeah.
Now you answer. Could trans rights affect the first law of thermodynamics? Will that law no longer be true if trans athletes get to compete against cis woman? Let's bring it all back to the beginning here.0 -
rgambs said:ecdanc said:rgambs said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:science is not a social construct. science is testable and provable truths. all knowledge is based on science and the scientific method.
Are you suggesting there was no knowledge before the scientific method?
And how do you establish these tests and proofs?
it was "oooh oooh OOOH".
What I'm about to say is tongue-in-cheek, but there's a real point in here, as well: are you really comfortable defending science as the definitive source of knowledge if it's something a baby can do?
I know a few naturalists and a population geneticist and they would laugh at what you are saying and tell you to drink a beer, burn one, put down the philosophy books and get your hands dirty lol
I'm a pretty good cook, I still use recipes from top chefs. I used to do my own taxes, I never thought of myself as an economist. I am pretty insightful with the emotions of my friends and family, I don't claim to be a psychiatrist.
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ecdanc said:rgambs said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:mrussel1 said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:HughFreakingDillon said:ecdanc said:gimmesometruth27 said:science is not a social construct. science is testable and provable truths. all knowledge is based on science and the scientific method.
Are you suggesting there was no knowledge before the scientific method?
And how do you establish these tests and proofs?
it was "oooh oooh OOOH".
Perhaps we're beginning to see why Simon Young, (potentially fake) PhD compared science to religion.
Edit - if that were the case, then when the construct changes, the science would have to change. Yet that's not the case.
I didn't say it was a product of the social construct, I said it is a social construct. If I wanted to be more precise, I'd say it's a "discourse," but I'm using that word in a highly specific way, so I've tried to avoid it for clarity.
And, umm...science has changed a shit ton, so....yeah.
Now you answer. Could trans rights affect the first law of thermodynamics? Will that law no longer be true if trans athletes get to compete against cis woman? Let's bring it all back to the beginning here.
I grew tired of philosophy in my teens, it's a big circle-jerk that leads nowhere. It can be a ton of fun to run in circles, but that gets old. Ontology and epistemology are the most classic examples of intellectualism put to no use at all.Monkey Driven, Call this Living?0
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