Dating as A PJ Fan

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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,766
    For my partner to not like the same music I like, that person would have to exclusively enjoy rap and country... and if that is the case there is no way I'd want to date them anyway. :lol:
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Dr. Delight
    Dr. Delight Posts: 11,210
    Back in the dating world myself. 
    Liking PJ has absolutely no bearing on whether I would like someone long term or not. Idc really what kind of music she likes or doesnt. Now if she wasnt a music fan at all, that might be a little odd, but again, not something that would prevent me from taking a serious interest in someone.
    Dating now is scary enough as it is.
    And so you see, I have come to doubt
    All that I once held as true
    I stand alone without beliefs
    The only truth I know is you.
  • jnimhaoileoin
    jnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    edited November 2017
    Personally I don't think I'd care what kind of music they like, as long as they didn't make me listen to anything I didn't like :smile: Obviously it would be nice to share something like that but there are far more important things, like politics and general morals and principles
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,766
    edited November 2017
    I am just too into music to date someone who isn't a music fan too. We'd have two separate lives then (in the bad way, not the good way). Plus I would definitely want to travel for shows with my partner; it would be nice to share at least some of those experiences (doesn't have to be PJ at all), and I would want to go to a lot of concerts in my spare time. A guy who isn't a music fan and into doing those things as well probably wouldn't be too excited about spending our money like that. :lol:

    Even if I wasn't obsessed, I would never even consider a person who doesn't like music at all. I find that way too weird. It's like dating someone who claims to dislike animals.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • BLACK35
    BLACK35 Hanover, Ontario Posts: 22,980
    I just converted my wife into a PJ fan, she knew a couple of the hits, but that was it. Then I took her to her 1st show in '05 and now she can't wait for the next tour to happen. I find as each new tour since '05 arrives, it's now how many shows can we see now lol. I probably just got lucky 
    2005 - London
    2009 - Toronto
    2010 - Buffalo
    2011 - Toronto 1&2
    2013 - London, Pittsburgh, Buffalo
    2014 - Cincinnati, St. Louis, Detroit
    2016 - Ft. Lauderdale, Miami, Ottawa, Toronto 1
    2018 - Fenway 1&2
    2022 - Hamilton, Toronto
    2023 - Chicago 1&2
    2024 - Las Vegas 1&2
  • Dr. Delight
    Dr. Delight Posts: 11,210
    ^^
    Good point on the travelling issue. But it also might be a good way to give each other some space and do things on your own. Of course it is fun to experience music together, especially when its mutually loved.
    And so you see, I have come to doubt
    All that I once held as true
    I stand alone without beliefs
    The only truth I know is you.
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,766
    edited November 2017
    Dr. Delight said:
    ^^
    Good point on the travelling issue. But it also might be a good way to give each other some space and do things on your own. Of course it is fun to experience music together, especially when its mutually loved.
    I'm all for space and doing things on my own (it's actually why I'm single!), but if I were crazy enough to get into a relationship, haha, my love of music is something I would need to share with my partner, at least a fair bit of the time - it's not like I would require we attend every single show together or anything level-5 clinger, lol, but it would have to be a common addiction. If I didn't share that love there would just be a big void between us. It's too big a part of my life and too great a source of joy to not share with my S.O. I'd rather be single forever than separate that part of my life from my loved one. Plus, a couple would need to have a fair bit of money for one to be travelling for concerts, the other to perhaps travel alone for something else, and then, presumably, try to find time and money to travel together as well. I just don't see how that would work in a normal budget for two people who work full time, lol.
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    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • rgambs
    rgambs Posts: 13,576
    My wife and I have very compatible, nearly identical taste in music.  There's nothing either of us likes that the other doesn't.  Of course, within that massive range, we have our own tendancies and preferences.
    It's pretty awesome.
    When I discover a song I like, I can't wait to share it with her.
    When I discover a song I think she will really dig, I'm double excited.  
    I'm usually right on the money too, but after more than half your life with someone, you should be able to hear with their ears and see with their eyes.
    Monkey Driven, Call this Living?
  • Dr. Delight
    Dr. Delight Posts: 11,210
    PJ_Soul said:
    Dr. Delight said:
    ^^
    Good point on the travelling issue. But it also might be a good way to give each other some space and do things on your own. Of course it is fun to experience music together, especially when its mutually loved.
    I'm all for space and doing things on my own (it's actually why I'm single!), but if I were crazy enough to get into a relationship, haha, my love of music is something I would need to share with my partner, at least a fair bit of the time - it's not like I would require we attend every single show together or anything level-5 clinger, lol, but it would have to be a common addiction. If I didn't share that love there would just be a big void between us. It's too big a part of my life and too great a source of joy to not share with my S.O. I'd rather be single forever than separate that part of my life from my loved one. Plus, a couple would need to have a fair bit of money for one to be travelling for concerts, the other to perhaps travel alone for something else, and then, presumably, try to find time and money to travel together as well. I just don't see how that would work in a normal budget for two people who work full time, lol.
    Word up, A.
    And so you see, I have come to doubt
    All that I once held as true
    I stand alone without beliefs
    The only truth I know is you.
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    As long as she's no shorter than 6 feet.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • jnimhaoileoin
    jnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    As long as she's no shorter than 6 feet.
    Eh?
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    jnimhaoileoin said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    As long as she's no shorter than 6 feet.
    Eh?
    Hurts my neck to always look down 
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • MayDay10
    MayDay10 Posts: 11,865
    not a deal breaker.  thats silly
  • jnimhaoileoin
    jnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    jnimhaoileoin said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    As long as she's no shorter than 6 feet.
    Eh?
    Hurts my neck to always look down 
    Seriously? Well good luck with that, I believe the average height for women is about 5'4 :tongue:
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    jnimhaoileoin said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    jnimhaoileoin said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    As long as she's no shorter than 6 feet.
    Eh?
    Hurts my neck to always look down 
    Seriously? Well good luck with that, I believe the average height for women is about 5'4 :tongue:
    I'm half joking, I am open to any height. But gee does it hurt my neck talking to very short people.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    https://youtu.be/8bfyS-S-IJs

    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    DK, :angry:

    With love,
    A 5'3-1/2" person =)

    Music (PJ, specifically) was my and my husband's initial bond.  And as was mentioned earlier, the sharing of new stuff is fun for us.  It doesn't always take but when it does, fantastico!

    We all have certain wants / requirements but with them come compromises, or that motherfucker, "toleration".  Certain bands is small potatoes to me if a true connection is there.
  • northerndragon
    northerndragon Posts: 9,851
    Loving the same music is great but nobody wants to talk about the downside. 
    Do you know how expensive it is to be with a fellow PJ fan? There isn't anyone there to question the buying of yet another vinyl, poster, trip to shows, etc.
    Nope just a partner in crime. Costs a fucking fortune. =)
    Anything you lose from being honest
    You never really had to begin with.


    Sometimes it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    northerndragon said:
    Loving the same music is great but nobody wants to talk about the downside. 
    Do you know how expensive it is to be with a fellow PJ fan? There isn't anyone there to question the buying of yet another vinyl, poster, trip to shows, etc.
    Nope just a partner in crime. Costs a fucking fortune. =)
    A PJ couple would definitely struggle to save up to buy a home.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • ratmando
    ratmando Outside of Portland, or somewhere like that Posts: 347
    It was expensive going to one concert :)
    When I hear music, I fear no danger. I am invulnerable. I see no foe. I am related to the earliest times, and to the latest.

    Henry David Thoreau

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