Creepy/Weird guy at the gym

Amongst the Ani

Thoughts_Arrive said:

So the other day I walked into the room with bikes, rower, air walkers and he was going hard on the rower talking aggressively to himself as if in a heated confrontation with someone, he was saying "you say that about my cousin huh?" and he repeated it a few times whilst pulling the cord hard and looking directly in front at the mirror then he got up and walked out. I managed to sneak past him and get on my bike. He didn't see me thankfully.
I turned to the lady behind me on a air walker and asked wtf happened there, she said he talks to himself.
Very disturbing. He was so angry.
I wasn't sure if I should report it to the gym staff. I didn't see him after that.

We all have different motivation at the gym to use when we need a boost. Dude just wanted to push himself a little harder and if that is what works for him then no one should have an issue. At this point it seems like you are obsessing about him. I would just let it be, do your workout and not worry what others are doing unless they are causing issues directly to you.

F Me In The Brain

Thoughts_Arrive said:

So the other day I walked into the room with bikes, rower, air walkers and he was going hard on the rower talking aggressively to himself as if in a heated confrontation with someone, he was saying "you say that about my cousin huh?" and he repeated it a few times whilst pulling the cord hard and looking directly in front at the mirror then he got up and walked out. I managed to sneak past him and get on my bike. He didn't see me thankfully.
I turned to the lady behind me on a air walker and asked wtf happened there, she said he talks to himself.
Very disturbing. He was so angry.
I wasn't sure if I should report it to the gym staff. I didn't see him after that.

This sounds like.....being at a gym.
If this unnerves you I dont think you are going to be comfortable at a gym. The grunting, posing, self motivating grumbler guy seems like a certain percentage of weight lifting guys.
I'm sorry but even the idea of reporting this is crazy to me.

hedonist

I talk to myself at work sometimes...and have been bracing myself for a talking-to from HR

Really, heed the advice of the two above me, and the plethora of suggestions in this thread.

FIND A WAY! Through, around or over.

F Me In The Brain

hedonist said:

I talk to myself at work sometimes...and have been bracing myself for a talking-to from HR

Really, heed the advice of the two above me, and the plethora of suggestions in this thread.

FIND A WAY! Through, around or over.

Someone talked smack on your cousin?
"You said that about my cousin?!! Take that, tax form! Take that!!"

whispering hands

Halifax2TheMax said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Creepy/Weird that always tries to chat with me comes and uses the treadmill next to me at the gym when there are 10 other treadmills to choose from and tries to have a chat with me. "Do you like Football (Aussie Rules)/Soccer?" (I lied and said NO to both sports questions to try and end the conversation) "Do you watch Married at first sight?" "Fucking Lesbians they make me sick" "I've been here for 4 hours, you know, to get the blood up"

That was some of what went on the other day.
I was alone in the treadmill room in the gym and he comes next to me. He also kept checking out my screen to see what pace I was running and at the end of his run he said he could do better, like as if he was competing with me.
Previously he always says hi and wants to chat, he does this to other people to.

Should I be worried? Report him to management?

Is his name Ani?

This made me laugh. If Ani is flying
To AU to work out, he totally
Out-creeps the Treadmill Stalker at TA's gym.

My suggestion, is if that guy starts trying to talk to you.. go find another treadmill.

Thoughts_Arrive

Amongst the Ani said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

So the other day I walked into the room with bikes, rower, air walkers and he was going hard on the rower talking aggressively to himself as if in a heated confrontation with someone, he was saying "you say that about my cousin huh?" and he repeated it a few times whilst pulling the cord hard and looking directly in front at the mirror then he got up and walked out. I managed to sneak past him and get on my bike. He didn't see me thankfully.
I turned to the lady behind me on a air walker and asked wtf happened there, she said he talks to himself.
Very disturbing. He was so angry.
I wasn't sure if I should report it to the gym staff. I didn't see him after that.

We all have different motivation at the gym to use when we need a boost. Dude just wanted to push himself a little harder and if that is what works for him then no one should have an issue. At this point it seems like you are obsessing about him. I would just let it be, do your workout and not worry what others are doing unless they are causing issues directly to you.

He was saying it in a psycho way.
I don't think this is normal behaviour, I've been to gym before and never seen this and my friends seem to think he is disturbed.

Thoughts_Arrive

F Me In The Brain said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

So the other day I walked into the room with bikes, rower, air walkers and he was going hard on the rower talking aggressively to himself as if in a heated confrontation with someone, he was saying "you say that about my cousin huh?" and he repeated it a few times whilst pulling the cord hard and looking directly in front at the mirror then he got up and walked out. I managed to sneak past him and get on my bike. He didn't see me thankfully.
I turned to the lady behind me on a air walker and asked wtf happened there, she said he talks to himself.
Very disturbing. He was so angry.
I wasn't sure if I should report it to the gym staff. I didn't see him after that.

This sounds like.....being at a gym.
If this unnerves you I dont think you are going to be comfortable at a gym. The grunting, posing, self motivating grumbler guy seems like a certain percentage of weight lifting guys.
I'm sorry but even the idea of reporting this is crazy to me.

I don't think pretending to be in a fight with someone not in the room is being at a gym.

Amongst the Ani

Thoughts_Arrive said:

F Me In The Brain said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

So the other day I walked into the room with bikes, rower, air walkers and he was going hard on the rower talking aggressively to himself as if in a heated confrontation with someone, he was saying "you say that about my cousin huh?" and he repeated it a few times whilst pulling the cord hard and looking directly in front at the mirror then he got up and walked out. I managed to sneak past him and get on my bike. He didn't see me thankfully.
I turned to the lady behind me on a air walker and asked wtf happened there, she said he talks to himself.
Very disturbing. He was so angry.
I wasn't sure if I should report it to the gym staff. I didn't see him after that.

This sounds like.....being at a gym.
If this unnerves you I dont think you are going to be comfortable at a gym. The grunting, posing, self motivating grumbler guy seems like a certain percentage of weight lifting guys.
I'm sorry but even the idea of reporting this is crazy to me.

I don't think pretending to be in a fight with someone not in the room is being at a gym.

We all have our outlets. I don't speak or make noises in the gym while lifting but I know I have an angry face in while there. I use the gym to keep my temperament balanced. It is an outlet for different emotions and a way to turn those emotions into something positive in my life. A way to keep myself at peace with my life. I don't condone him disturbing others at the gym but you shouldn't persecute him because you just don't want to ignore him. 10C is a therapy place for a lot us. It wouldn't be right for someone to persecute you here because you chose to experience things differently than they chose and use it for different things. Just like on the boards, people should participate where they want and ignore the rest. If the guy comes up and engages you again that is different. He may be weird, but that doesn't mean people should try and get him kicked out of the place.

Thoughts_Arrive

Amongst the Ani said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

F Me In The Brain said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

So the other day I walked into the room with bikes, rower, air walkers and he was going hard on the rower talking aggressively to himself as if in a heated confrontation with someone, he was saying "you say that about my cousin huh?" and he repeated it a few times whilst pulling the cord hard and looking directly in front at the mirror then he got up and walked out. I managed to sneak past him and get on my bike. He didn't see me thankfully.
I turned to the lady behind me on a air walker and asked wtf happened there, she said he talks to himself.
Very disturbing. He was so angry.
I wasn't sure if I should report it to the gym staff. I didn't see him after that.

This sounds like.....being at a gym.
If this unnerves you I dont think you are going to be comfortable at a gym. The grunting, posing, self motivating grumbler guy seems like a certain percentage of weight lifting guys.
I'm sorry but even the idea of reporting this is crazy to me.

I don't think pretending to be in a fight with someone not in the room is being at a gym.

We all have our outlets. I don't speak or make noises in the gym while lifting but I know I have an angry face in while there. I use the gym to keep my temperament balanced. It is an outlet for different emotions and a way to turn those emotions into something positive in my life. A way to keep myself at peace with my life. I don't condone him disturbing others at the gym but you shouldn't persecute him because you just don't want to ignore him. 10C is a therapy place for a lot us. It wouldn't be right for someone to persecute you here because you chose to experience things differently than they chose and use it for different things. Just like on the boards, people should participate where they want and ignore the rest. If the guy comes up and engages you again that is different. He may be weird, but that doesn't mean people should try and get him kicked out of the place.

That is why I didn't report him, whilst his behaviour in talking to an imaginary person is disturbing, he wasn't bothering anyone.
But when he gets close to me in an empty room of machines that is something else.

mookeywrench

So the wierd guy is the one talking to himself? Or the one who spends two weeks obsessing over the guy who talks to himself?

Thoughts_Arrive

mookeywrench said:

So the wierd guy is the one talking to himself? Or the one who spends two weeks obsessing over the guy who talks to himself?

Whatever. I'm concerned for my safety.

Halifax2TheMax

Burp

whispering hands

Just gotta ask.. what in God's great green earth happened to you in life that made you live like this?? In many ways you remind me of a Chihuahua. I envision that you sit shivering with nervous energy. Energy fed by emotional monstrosities that exist only in your over active imagination.

I see10,000 + posts and wonder.. are all of them akin to this? Are they all excuses for why you can't live your life like a calm and confident person should?
I wonder what the hell had to happen to you, to make you so terrified of your own shadow. Because I lived through 7 YEARS of legitimate and ACTUAL TORTURE.. as a child.. and while I started out as an adult just like you.. afraid of everything.. I eventually learned that what happened in life was beyond my control.. but how I reacted to it, and what I made of it was entirely up to me. You can't seem to grasp this, which begs the question.. what the hell happened to you?!?! Just can't seem to understand how you just can't get it.. It baffles me that you have survived this long as you are.. I can't imagine a life more miserable than yours.. Not only do you fear everyone and everything.. but you seem to fear solutions as well. There's always a reason they won't work.. 10,000 posts about how
Life scares you.. Really?? You need to seriously change Drs. The one you have is doing you NO justice what so ever.. I just have to ask.. what happened??

whispering hands

whispering hands said:

Just gotta ask.. what in God's great green earth happened to you in life that made you live like this ??? In many ways you remind me of a Chihuahua. I envision that you sit shivering with nervous energy. Energy fed by emotional monstrosities that exist only in your over active imagination.

I see10,000 + posts and wonder.. are all of them akin to this? Are they all excuses for why you can't live your life like a calm and confident person should?
I wonder what the hell had to happen to you, to make you so terrified of your own shadow. Because I lived through 7 YEARS of legitimate and ACTUAL TORTURE.. as a child.. and while I started out as an adult just like you.. afraid of everything.. I eventually learned that what happened in life was beyond my control.. but how I reacted to it, and what I made of it was entirely up to me. You can't seem to grasp this, which begs the question.. what the hell happened to you?!?! Just can't seem to understand how you just can't get it.. It baffles me that you have survived this long as you are.. I can't imagine a life more miserable than yours.. Not only do you fear everyone and everything.. but you seem to fear solutions as well. There's always a reason they won't work.. 10,000 posts about how
Life scares you.. Really?? You need to seriously change Drs. The one you have is doing you NO justice what so ever.. I just have to ask.. what happened??

Maybe you really should try Pot.. it might help you find the umbrella that will keep you out of the rainstorm you insist on living in?

F Me In The Brain

Someone was bound to lose their patience with the consistent asking for advice/not considering advice given.

Annafalk

I think you should write a rock song about "the creepy guy at the gym" it could be a big hit

Actually, I think you are doing the right thing avoiding this person. Maybe he is taking steroids or something that makes him act like this.

Thirty Bills Unpaid

Interesting thread.

Thoughts is obviously insecure. He's going to the gym to better his body, mind, and spirit. He's also seeking support on this forum. He's having trouble achieving both these pursuits because people just have to be people.

Thoughts... here's my take: that goofball is weird for sure, but I highly doubt you're his target. He's likely annoying the shit out of everyone. In fact, I guarantee it and not just in the gym... everywhere. Think of the poor women this f**king idiot tortures with his unwanted attention. He doesn't save his brand of weirdness for you- that's only your perception. These types of idiots are in every gym. They, unfortunately, are part of the experience.

Be friendly... but not overly friendly lest he want to hang out some time with you: head nods and small talk.

And you don't need to learn how to fight as a response to this guy's obnoxious behaviour. You're not going to be fighting anyone. Work out for health and confidence.

Thoughts_Arrive

whispering hands said:

Just gotta ask.. what in God's great green earth happened to you in life that made you live like this?? In many ways you remind me of a Chihuahua. I envision that you sit shivering with nervous energy. Energy fed by emotional monstrosities that exist only in your over active imagination.

I see10,000 + posts and wonder.. are all of them akin to this? Are they all excuses for why you can't live your life like a calm and confident person should?
I wonder what the hell had to happen to you, to make you so terrified of your own shadow. Because I lived through 7 YEARS of legitimate and ACTUAL TORTURE.. as a child.. and while I started out as an adult just like you.. afraid of everything.. I eventually learned that what happened in life was beyond my control.. but how I reacted to it, and what I made of it was entirely up to me. You can't seem to grasp this, which begs the question.. what the hell happened to you?!?! Just can't seem to understand how you just can't get it.. It baffles me that you have survived this long as you are.. I can't imagine a life more miserable than yours.. Not only do you fear everyone and everything.. but you seem to fear solutions as well. There's always a reason they won't work.. 10,000 posts about how
Life scares you.. Really?? You need to seriously change Drs. The one you have is doing you NO justice what so ever.. I just have to ask.. what happened??

One of the harshest posts I have read here.
You don't know a fucking thing about me, what I have been through in childhood.
How dare you speak about me like that.

Thoughts_Arrive

Thirty Bills Unpaid said:

Interesting thread.

Thoughts is obviously insecure. He's going to the gym to better his body, mind, and spirit. He's also seeking support on this forum. He's having trouble achieving both these pursuits because people just have to be people.

Thoughts... here's my take: that goofball is weird for sure, but I highly doubt you're his target. He's likely annoying the shit out of everyone. In fact, I guarantee it and not just in the gym... everywhere. Think of the poor women this f**king idiot tortures with his unwanted attention. He doesn't save his brand of weirdness for you- that's only your perception. These types of idiots are in every gym. They, unfortunately, are part of the experience.

Be friendly... but not overly friendly lest he want to hang out some time with you: head nods and small talk.

And you don't need to learn how to fight as a response to this guy's obnoxious behaviour. You're not going to be fighting anyone. Work out for health and confidence.

If you lived in my city this would be a cause for concern.
There have been people like this guy recently that have gone on to murder random innocent people on the street.
I am not insecure, just concerned that if I politely tell this guy I don't want to chat whilst working out that he will return with a knife and stab me or punch me out.

PJfanwillneverleave1

^^^
That's true.
Never thought of that.