Creepy/Weird guy at the gym

oftenreading

Thoughts_Arrive said:

whispering hands said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

whispering hands said:

whispering hands said:

Just gotta ask.. what in God's great green earth happened to you in life that made you live like this ??? In many ways you remind me of a Chihuahua. I envision that you sit shivering with nervous energy. Energy fed by emotional monstrosities that exist only in your over active imagination.

I see10,000 + posts and wonder.. are all of them akin to this? Are they all excuses for why you can't live your life like a calm and confident person should?
I wonder what the hell had to happen to you, to make you so terrified of your own shadow. Because I lived through 7 YEARS of legitimate and ACTUAL TORTURE.. as a child.. and while I started out as an adult just like you.. afraid of everything.. I eventually learned that what happened in life was beyond my control.. but how I reacted to it, and what I made of it was entirely up to me. You can't seem to grasp this, which begs the question.. what the hell happened to you?!?! Just can't seem to understand how you just can't get it.. It baffles me that you have survived this long as you are.. I can't imagine a life more miserable than yours.. Not only do you fear everyone and everything.. but you seem to fear solutions as well. There's always a reason they won't work.. 10,000 posts about how
Life scares you.. Really?? You need to seriously change Drs. The one you have is doing you NO justice what so ever.. I just have to ask.. what happened??

Maybe you really should try Pot.. it might help you find the umbrella that will keep you out of the rainstorm you insist on living in?

Maybe you should try being a nicer person instead of a bully.

Does this mean I'll get my
Own thread authored by you? How come you can tell me to stick
It, but you can't do that in person, concerning someone that you feel poses threat, but just not enough for you tell someone that he is giving you the creeps?? I think you're just mad cause I called you out on your pity party. But..what do I know about you, oh yeah.. only what you post on here; posts which paint very sad pictures of you. Just calling it as I see it.. Am I a jerk? Yeah. But an honest one. The truth hurts.. that's why so many people lie.

I really do hope you find the answer that someone offers that will not be met by driveled excuses, and is executed. I hope you finally find SOMETHING that warrants joy in your life. If what you post is how you actually live.. then, that is sad. Just something that has carried over from thread to thread.

Yeah I am a sad, pathetic individual.
Maybe I should end my life.

Talk of suicide is not something to throw around lightly. If you are having thoughts about suicide, you need to get support and help elsewhere than this forum. It's out there, no matter where you live; please access it. If you are not, as your later post seems to suggest, then please do not joke about it. And don't impute thoughts or motives to others that may be completely inaccurate.

Thoughts_Arrive

oftenreading said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

whispering hands said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

whispering hands said:

whispering hands said:

Just gotta ask.. what in God's great green earth happened to you in life that made you live like this ??? In many ways you remind me of a Chihuahua. I envision that you sit shivering with nervous energy. Energy fed by emotional monstrosities that exist only in your over active imagination.

I see10,000 + posts and wonder.. are all of them akin to this? Are they all excuses for why you can't live your life like a calm and confident person should?
I wonder what the hell had to happen to you, to make you so terrified of your own shadow. Because I lived through 7 YEARS of legitimate and ACTUAL TORTURE.. as a child.. and while I started out as an adult just like you.. afraid of everything.. I eventually learned that what happened in life was beyond my control.. but how I reacted to it, and what I made of it was entirely up to me. You can't seem to grasp this, which begs the question.. what the hell happened to you?!?! Just can't seem to understand how you just can't get it.. It baffles me that you have survived this long as you are.. I can't imagine a life more miserable than yours.. Not only do you fear everyone and everything.. but you seem to fear solutions as well. There's always a reason they won't work.. 10,000 posts about how
Life scares you.. Really?? You need to seriously change Drs. The one you have is doing you NO justice what so ever.. I just have to ask.. what happened??

Maybe you really should try Pot.. it might help you find the umbrella that will keep you out of the rainstorm you insist on living in?

Maybe you should try being a nicer person instead of a bully.

Does this mean I'll get my
Own thread authored by you? How come you can tell me to stick
It, but you can't do that in person, concerning someone that you feel poses threat, but just not enough for you tell someone that he is giving you the creeps?? I think you're just mad cause I called you out on your pity party. But..what do I know about you, oh yeah.. only what you post on here; posts which paint very sad pictures of you. Just calling it as I see it.. Am I a jerk? Yeah. But an honest one. The truth hurts.. that's why so many people lie.

I really do hope you find the answer that someone offers that will not be met by driveled excuses, and is executed. I hope you finally find SOMETHING that warrants joy in your life. If what you post is how you actually live.. then, that is sad. Just something that has carried over from thread to thread.

Yeah I am a sad, pathetic individual.
Maybe I should end my life.

Talk of suicide is not something to throw around lightly. If you are having thoughts about suicide, you need to get support and help elsewhere than this forum. It's out there, no matter where you live; please access it. If you are not, as your later post seems to suggest, then please do not joke about it. And don't impute thoughts or motives to others that may be completely inaccurate.

That's the gist of what whispering hands is saying, that my life is so pathetic and sad that how I have survived this long is baffles him/her.
Pretty much saying go end yourself as your life is not worth living.
I am not feeling suicidal, just hurt at such hurtful words.

jnimhaoileoin

You do realise you are being extremely judgemental right? Suggesting that he is a psycho and off his head on drugs. Also, a nasty look isn't going to kill you. If that's the price to pay for him leaving you in peace, I think it's worth it don't you?

Dr. Delight

It seems like every one of this users threads travels down this similar path...

Thoughts_Arrive

Dr. Delight said:

It seems like every one of this users threads travels down this similar path...

Not my fault people derail it with harsh posts.

jnimhaoileoin

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Dr. Delight said:

It seems like every one of this users threads travels down this similar path...

Not my fault people derail it with harsh posts.

Do you disagree that you are unfairly judging this man? From what you have said, he has thus far done no harm to you or anyone else. He has merely made you feel uncomfortable. If you feel unable to tell him this, then avoiding him seems the logical solution. I don't see what more needs to be done

Thoughts_Arrive

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

Dr. Delight said:

It seems like every one of this users threads travels down this similar path...

Not my fault people derail it with harsh posts.

Do you disagree that you are unfairly judging this man? From what you have said, he has thus far done no harm to you or anyone else. He has merely made you feel uncomfortable. If you feel unable to tell him this, then avoiding him seems the logical solution. I don't see what more needs to be done

What about when he told me he hates lesbians?
What kind of person makes such an outburst in a gym in such an angry way.
Personally, I think he is a meth user. It is a big issue in Australia. There is an epidemic of meth use.

jnimhaoileoin

Yes, that seems both unusual and objectionable. However, he is entitled to voice his opinion, just as you are entitled to either disagree or ignore him. You brought this to the forum to ask for advice, so you seem to feel the need to take some kind of action. Yet you also fear confrontation. This limits your options. I am also a non-confrontational person, hence my choice would be to distance myself. In the unlikely event that he follows you or confronts you, it is only at that point that you would need to consider further action.

Thoughts_Arrive

We weren't even talking about lesbians and he just randomly said it.
It came from nowhere.

jnimhaoileoin

Thoughts_Arrive said:

We weren't even talking about lesbians and he just randomly said it.
It came from nowhere.

So? Again, I don't see the problem. Yes it was weird but so what? People can be weird. People can also be ignored

Thoughts_Arrive

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

We weren't even talking about lesbians and he just randomly said it.
It came from nowhere.

So? Again, I don't see the problem. Yes it was weird but so what? People can be weird. People can also be ignored

What if someone I know is a lesbian? The guy is an idiot. He could offend someone. I was offended.

jnimhaoileoin

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

We weren't even talking about lesbians and he just randomly said it.
It came from nowhere.

So? Again, I don't see the problem. Yes it was weird but so what? People can be weird. People can also be ignored

What if someone I know is a lesbian? The guy is an idiot. He could offend someone. I was offended.

So be offended, that's fine too. Feel free to confront him about it if that's what you want to do. Otherwise you ignore him

jnimhaoileoin

Look, I really am trying to help you here but I don't know what you want.

Thoughts_Arrive

jnimhaoileoin said:

Look, I really am trying to help you here but I don't know what you want.

I was after advice and opinions. But that turned to attacks against me.

elvistheking44

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Look, I really am trying to help you here but I don't know what you want.

I was after advice and opinions. But that turned to attacks against me.

You were givin both, numerous times. You seem to be unable to take the advice or agree with opinions. Not sure what else you expect. Move on with your life.

jnimhaoileoin

Thoughts_Arrive said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Look, I really am trying to help you here but I don't know what you want.

I was after advice and opinions. But that turned to attacks against me.

You got a lot of advice and opinions. Some people expressed their opinions more strongly than others. This can happen, it's something it's wise to be prepared for when you ask for advice. Everyone here comes from different lives and backgrounds, if they choose to give you advice then they are trying to help you, even if you feel they're attacking you

Thoughts_Arrive

This is why I am worried and why I asked for advice. People that behave erratically can escalate to violence.

http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/masa-vukotic-was-stabbed-49-times-by-sean-price-20150817-gj0wni.html

http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/bourke-street-mall-incident-what-we-know-so-far-20170120-gtvg2x.html

jnimhaoileoin

Thoughts_Arrive said:

This is why I am worried and why I asked for advice. People that behave erratically can escalate to violence.

http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/masa-vukotic-was-stabbed-49-times-by-sean-price-20150817-gj0wni.html

http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/bourke-street-mall-incident-what-we-know-so-far-20170120-gtvg2x.html

I don't really see the connection between these incidents and a guy in the gym who made an offensive comment about lesbians. This far he has shown himself to be nothing more than homophobic. If you're going to start imagining violent murderers around every corner, you're going to live a very stressful and unhappy life

Thoughts_Arrive

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

This is why I am worried and why I asked for advice. People that behave erratically can escalate to violence.

http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/masa-vukotic-was-stabbed-49-times-by-sean-price-20150817-gj0wni.html

http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/bourke-street-mall-incident-what-we-know-so-far-20170120-gtvg2x.html

I don't really see the connection between these incidents and a guy in the gym who made an offensive comment about lesbians. This far he has shown himself to be nothing more than homophobic. If you're going to start imagining violent murderers around every corner, you're going to live a very stressful and unhappy life

You never know what this guy could be capable of, especially if he feels affronted by someone not wanting to talk to them.
That is why I am in a hard spot, my best option is to pretend to be his friend even though I don't want to.
If he asks me to hang out with him outside gym would be a disaster. I am usually afraid to say no and have often been friends with people so that they don't get angered at me.

jnimhaoileoin

Ok well I really don't think any of us can help you then. If you're willing to pretend to be friends with someone because you fear your rejection might incite a psychotic and murderous response, well I just don't know how to respond to that. I suspect my honest response would fall on deaf ears