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  • PJ_Soul said:

    And again.. The mods have no more power over the situation than you!! I agree whole heartedly with Hugh on this.. He is 100% right.

    Yes they do. They can call the police/hospital and give their name, address etc.

    People are bringing up that they are having suicidal thoughts.
    They need immediate physical help.
    911
    If people called 911 with every suicidal thought they had, 911 would cease to function. Some people struggle with suicidal thoughts for days, weeks, years, every day. That doesn't actually necessarily mean that they are about to kill themselves. Most people with a suicidal thought never try it.
    It's okay to reach out online (this person was more asking for advice about antidepressants anyway!). Of course everyone should seek out as much help as they can. Talking to other who might understand or have some knowledge is one of the options available to them. The OP is also seeing a therapist, has a prescription, and said he was discussing this with doctors. Talking to us here is just another way that he's trying to help himself. I really don't understand how you're not in support of that.
    The OP also didn't threaten suicide here. I would agree that is someone comes here and actually says they're going to commit suicide, we all need to jump into action the best we can. But OP actually stated that while he has thoughts about it, he couldn't do that to his son, which to me is him saying he specifically plans NOT to make an attempt.
    well said.

    This is not well said at all.
    This is pure quack advice and is dangerous.
    None of you are professionals to make a diagnosis that they won't commit suicide.

  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Posts: 49,954
    Wtf are you talking about? I think every single person here just gave some opinions, shared some knowledge, lent some support, and wrapped it up by reiterating to the OP that he needs to talk about it with his therapist and doctor.
    I think you're really off-base here in the way you're viewing the entire conversation.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJfanwillneverleave1PJfanwillneverleave1 Posts: 12,885
    edited May 2015
    PJ_Soul said:

    Wtf are you talking about? I think every single person here just gave some opinions, shared some knowledge, lent some support, and wrapped it up by reiterating to the OP that he needs to talk about it with his therapist and doctor.
    I think you're really off-base here in the way you're viewing the entire conversation.

    And every persons advice is not professional. This "amateur diagnosis and support is extremely dangerous"

    Take a walk, read a book, listen to music, do some exercise?


    edit - I am not off-base at all considering the OP understood the message I was conveying.
    Post edited by PJfanwillneverleave1 on
  • PJfanwillneverleave1PJfanwillneverleave1 Posts: 12,885
    edited May 2015
    edit - double post
    Post edited by PJfanwillneverleave1 on
  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Posts: 49,954

    PJ_Soul said:

    Wtf are you talking about? I think every single person here just gave some opinions, shared some knowledge, lent some support, and wrapped it up by reiterating to the OP that he needs to talk about it with his therapist and doctor.
    I think you're really off-base here in the way you're viewing the entire conversation.

    And every persons advice is not professional. This "amateur diagnosis and support is extremely dangerous"

    Take a walk, read a book, listen to music, do some exercise?


    edit - I am not off-base at all considering the OP understood the message I was conveying.
    As far as I know, no ones advice here is professional. But I don't think the OP was looking for professional opinions.
    I do still think you're off-base. From what I gather, the OP got some ideas here and will discuss further with professionals. This seems like a successful thread (aside from the "shut it down" posts).
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul said:

    PJ_Soul said:

    Wtf are you talking about? I think every single person here just gave some opinions, shared some knowledge, lent some support, and wrapped it up by reiterating to the OP that he needs to talk about it with his therapist and doctor.
    I think you're really off-base here in the way you're viewing the entire conversation.

    And every persons advice is not professional. This "amateur diagnosis and support is extremely dangerous"

    Take a walk, read a book, listen to music, do some exercise?


    edit - I am not off-base at all considering the OP understood the message I was conveying.
    As far as I know, no ones advice here is professional. But I don't think the OP was looking for professional opinions.
    I do still think you're off-base. From what I gather, the OP got some ideas here and will discuss further with professionals. This seems like a successful thread (aside from the "shut it down" posts).
    If anyone is off-base it is someone saying they have suicidal thoughts. That should not be met with non-professional advice.
  • PJ_Soul said:

    PJ_Soul said:

    Wtf are you talking about? I think every single person here just gave some opinions, shared some knowledge, lent some support, and wrapped it up by reiterating to the OP that he needs to talk about it with his therapist and doctor.
    I think you're really off-base here in the way you're viewing the entire conversation.

    And every persons advice is not professional. This "amateur diagnosis and support is extremely dangerous"

    Take a walk, read a book, listen to music, do some exercise?


    edit - I am not off-base at all considering the OP understood the message I was conveying.
    As far as I know, no ones advice here is professional. But I don't think the OP was looking for professional opinions.
    I do still think you're off-base. From what I gather, the OP got some ideas here and will discuss further with professionals. This seems like a successful thread (aside from the "shut it down" posts).
    If anyone is off-base it is someone saying they have suicidal thoughts. That should not be met with non-professional advice.
    so this is what you say if a friend confides in you they are having suicidal thoughts?

    pjfanwillneverleave: "shut up! I don't want to hear it! go seek help!"

    no one is claiming to be a pro. only an ear. and giving advice to talk to their doctor. this is how empathetic humans operate.

    as someone who has suffered from mental illness and suicidal thoughts for nearly 20 years, I'm glad no one I have ever confided in has ever taken your approach. it's robotic and completely devoid of any humanity.



    new album "Cigarettes" out Spring 2025!

    www.headstonesband.com




  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Posts: 49,954
    edited May 2015
    ^^ Agreed. Actually, I think the reaction is downright bizarre.

    PJfan, I'm not sure you're appreciating just how helpful sharing and talking can be when it comes to depression.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul said:

    PJ_Soul said:

    Wtf are you talking about? I think every single person here just gave some opinions, shared some knowledge, lent some support, and wrapped it up by reiterating to the OP that he needs to talk about it with his therapist and doctor.
    I think you're really off-base here in the way you're viewing the entire conversation.

    And every persons advice is not professional. This "amateur diagnosis and support is extremely dangerous"

    Take a walk, read a book, listen to music, do some exercise?


    edit - I am not off-base at all considering the OP understood the message I was conveying.
    As far as I know, no ones advice here is professional. But I don't think the OP was looking for professional opinions.
    I do still think you're off-base. From what I gather, the OP got some ideas here and will discuss further with professionals. This seems like a successful thread (aside from the "shut it down" posts).
    If anyone is off-base it is someone saying they have suicidal thoughts. That should not be met with non-professional advice.
    so this is what you say if a friend confides in you they are having suicidal thoughts?

    pjfanwillneverleave: "shut up! I don't want to hear it! go seek help!"

    no one is claiming to be a pro. only an ear. and giving advice to talk to their doctor. this is how empathetic humans operate.

    as someone who has suffered from mental illness and suicidal thoughts for nearly 20 years, I'm glad no one I have ever confided in has ever taken your approach. it's robotic and completely devoid of any humanity.

    My humanity is providing an immediate professional interference to people with such thoughts.



  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Posts: 49,954
    But people are allowed to both talk to professionals, and share with friends, family, or those who may have been through the same thing, right?? Saying that people who are struggling with severe depression should ONLY be talking to professionals... well, honestly, I think that if someone with severe depression actually took that advice, their condition would get worse, not better.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul said:

    PJ_Soul said:

    Wtf are you talking about? I think every single person here just gave some opinions, shared some knowledge, lent some support, and wrapped it up by reiterating to the OP that he needs to talk about it with his therapist and doctor.
    I think you're really off-base here in the way you're viewing the entire conversation.

    And every persons advice is not professional. This "amateur diagnosis and support is extremely dangerous"

    Take a walk, read a book, listen to music, do some exercise?


    edit - I am not off-base at all considering the OP understood the message I was conveying.
    As far as I know, no ones advice here is professional. But I don't think the OP was looking for professional opinions.
    I do still think you're off-base. From what I gather, the OP got some ideas here and will discuss further with professionals. This seems like a successful thread (aside from the "shut it down" posts).
    If anyone is off-base it is someone saying they have suicidal thoughts. That should not be met with non-professional advice.
    so this is what you say if a friend confides in you they are having suicidal thoughts?

    pjfanwillneverleave: "shut up! I don't want to hear it! go seek help!"

    no one is claiming to be a pro. only an ear. and giving advice to talk to their doctor. this is how empathetic humans operate.

    as someone who has suffered from mental illness and suicidal thoughts for nearly 20 years, I'm glad no one I have ever confided in has ever taken your approach. it's robotic and completely devoid of any humanity.

    My humanity is providing an immediate professional interference to people with such thoughts.



    so next time your neighbour's house is on fire, by all means tell them to call the fire department, and even in the meantime, that you are not able to help them.

    new album "Cigarettes" out Spring 2025!

    www.headstonesband.com




  • PJ_Soul said:

    ^^ Agreed. Actually, I think the reaction is downright bizarre.

    PJfan, I'm not sure you're appreciating just how helpful sharing and talking can be when it comes to depression.

    it's someone who would rather sweep it under the rug rather than see it and deal with it.

    new album "Cigarettes" out Spring 2025!

    www.headstonesband.com




  • PJ_Soul said:

    But people are allowed to both talk to professionals, and share with friends, family, or those who may have been through the same thing, right?? Saying that people who are struggling with severe depression should ONLY be talking to professionals... well, honestly, I think that if someone with severe depression actually took that advice, their condition would get worse, not better.

    When a condition turns into having suicidal thoughts it is beyond unprofessional help.
  • PJ_Soul said:

    PJ_Soul said:

    Wtf are you talking about? I think every single person here just gave some opinions, shared some knowledge, lent some support, and wrapped it up by reiterating to the OP that he needs to talk about it with his therapist and doctor.
    I think you're really off-base here in the way you're viewing the entire conversation.

    And every persons advice is not professional. This "amateur diagnosis and support is extremely dangerous"

    Take a walk, read a book, listen to music, do some exercise?


    edit - I am not off-base at all considering the OP understood the message I was conveying.
    As far as I know, no ones advice here is professional. But I don't think the OP was looking for professional opinions.
    I do still think you're off-base. From what I gather, the OP got some ideas here and will discuss further with professionals. This seems like a successful thread (aside from the "shut it down" posts).
    If anyone is off-base it is someone saying they have suicidal thoughts. That should not be met with non-professional advice.
    so this is what you say if a friend confides in you they are having suicidal thoughts?

    pjfanwillneverleave: "shut up! I don't want to hear it! go seek help!"

    no one is claiming to be a pro. only an ear. and giving advice to talk to their doctor. this is how empathetic humans operate.

    as someone who has suffered from mental illness and suicidal thoughts for nearly 20 years, I'm glad no one I have ever confided in has ever taken your approach. it's robotic and completely devoid of any humanity.

    My humanity is providing an immediate professional interference to people with such thoughts.



    so next time your neighbour's house is on fire, by all means tell them to call the fire department, and even in the meantime, that you are not able to help them.

    Why would I do that?
    That is an odd request for me to do.
  • callencallen Posts: 6,388
    Suicide is a very serious thing and we don't have the training or knowledge to help unless someone is professionally trained on train which may be the case I do t know.

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  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Posts: 49,954
    edited May 2015

    PJ_Soul said:

    But people are allowed to both talk to professionals, and share with friends, family, or those who may have been through the same thing, right?? Saying that people who are struggling with severe depression should ONLY be talking to professionals... well, honestly, I think that if someone with severe depression actually took that advice, their condition would get worse, not better.

    When a condition turns into having suicidal thoughts it is beyond unprofessional help.
    That is a pretty fucked up opinion, sorry. I think you are just lacking in understanding when it comes to depression and suicidal thoughts. Actually I don't think so. I know so.
    And again, the person in question IS seeing professional help. You keep ignoring that. But what you call unprofessional help is ALSO very helpful to people with depression. Having the professional help and the personal/personable help together is absolutely best. Also, having suicidal thoughts is NOT necessarily the same as being suicidal, just so you know (I think I already said that and you already ignored it, but just thought I'd reiterate).
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul said:

    PJ_Soul said:

    But people are allowed to both talk to professionals, and share with friends, family, or those who may have been through the same thing, right?? Saying that people who are struggling with severe depression should ONLY be talking to professionals... well, honestly, I think that if someone with severe depression actually took that advice, their condition would get worse, not better.

    When a condition turns into having suicidal thoughts it is beyond unprofessional help.
    Also, having suicidal thoughts is NOT necessarily the same as being suicidal, just so you know (I think I already said that and you already ignored it, but just thought I'd reiterate).
    Stop with this dangerous quackery.
  • oftenreadingoftenreading Posts: 12,845
    So just out of interest I googled "help with suicidal thoughts". As expected, a whole host of resources came up, so I looked through a couple. What do you know, this phrase sticks out as being potentially relevant here:

    "Don’t keep these suicidal feelings to yourself:
    Many of us have found that the first step to coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings is to share them with someone we trust. It may be a friend, a therapist, a member of the clergy, a teacher, a family doctor, a coach, or an experienced counselor at the end of a helpline. Find someone you trust and let them know how bad things are. Don’t let fear, shame, or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. Just talking about how you got to this point in your life can release a lot of the pressure that’s building up and help you find a way to cope."


    The link is here, for those who want to look further. There is a lot of good sense on this page.

    http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm

    No to belabour the point, but they are clear that sharing these feelings is important, and it doesn't necessarily matter who you share them with as long as it is someone you feel comfortable talking to. Yes, finding a doctor or therapist is important, and yes, if someone is thinking of acting then it is an emergency. Finding another way to communicate doesn't replace this, it complements it.
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • PJfanwillneverleave1PJfanwillneverleave1 Posts: 12,885
    edited May 2015

    So just out of interest I googled "help with suicidal thoughts". As expected, a whole host of resources came up, so I looked through a couple. What do you know, this phrase sticks out as being potentially relevant here:

    "Don’t keep these suicidal feelings to yourself:
    Many of us have found that the first step to coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings is to share them with someone we trust. It may be a friend, a therapist, a member of the clergy, a teacher, a family doctor, a coach, or an experienced counselor at the end of a helpline. Find someone you trust and let them know how bad things are. Don’t let fear, shame, or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. Just talking about how you got to this point in your life can release a lot of the pressure that’s building up and help you find a way to cope."


    The link is here, for those who want to look further. There is a lot of good sense on this page.

    http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm

    No to belabour the point, but they are clear that sharing these feelings is important, and it doesn't necessarily matter who you share them with as long as it is someone you feel comfortable talking to. Yes, finding a doctor or therapist is important, and yes, if someone is thinking of acting then it is an emergency. Finding another way to communicate doesn't replace this, it complements it.

    Your googled advice on this is not welcome anywhere.
    Post edited by PJfanwillneverleave1 on
  • oftenreadingoftenreading Posts: 12,845

    So just out of interest I googled "help with suicidal thoughts". As expected, a whole host of resources came up, so I looked through a couple. What do you know, this phrase sticks out as being potentially relevant here:

    "Don’t keep these suicidal feelings to yourself:
    Many of us have found that the first step to coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings is to share them with someone we trust. It may be a friend, a therapist, a member of the clergy, a teacher, a family doctor, a coach, or an experienced counselor at the end of a helpline. Find someone you trust and let them know how bad things are. Don’t let fear, shame, or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. Just talking about how you got to this point in your life can release a lot of the pressure that’s building up and help you find a way to cope."


    The link is here, for those who want to look further. There is a lot of good sense on this page.

    http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm

    No to belabour the point, but they are clear that sharing these feelings is important, and it doesn't necessarily matter who you share them with as long as it is someone you feel comfortable talking to. Yes, finding a doctor or therapist is important, and yes, if someone is thinking of acting then it is an emergency. Finding another way to communicate doesn't replace this, it complements it.

    Your googled advice on this is not welcome anywhere.
    You sure are full up with snarkiness on this topic, PJfan, I'll grant you that. I gather speed....
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • So just out of interest I googled "help with suicidal thoughts". As expected, a whole host of resources came up, so I looked through a couple. What do you know, this phrase sticks out as being potentially relevant here:

    "Don’t keep these suicidal feelings to yourself:
    Many of us have found that the first step to coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings is to share them with someone we trust. It may be a friend, a therapist, a member of the clergy, a teacher, a family doctor, a coach, or an experienced counselor at the end of a helpline. Find someone you trust and let them know how bad things are. Don’t let fear, shame, or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. Just talking about how you got to this point in your life can release a lot of the pressure that’s building up and help you find a way to cope."


    The link is here, for those who want to look further. There is a lot of good sense on this page.

    http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm

    No to belabour the point, but they are clear that sharing these feelings is important, and it doesn't necessarily matter who you share them with as long as it is someone you feel comfortable talking to. Yes, finding a doctor or therapist is important, and yes, if someone is thinking of acting then it is an emergency. Finding another way to communicate doesn't replace this, it complements it.

    Your googled advice on this is not welcome anywhere.
    You sure are full up with snarkiness on this topic, PJfan, I'll grant you that. I gather speed....
    Once and for all...
  • oftenreadingoftenreading Posts: 12,845
    I hardly believe....
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • I hardly believe....

    Finally your shades (on your avatar) are raised.
  • oftenreadingoftenreading Posts: 12,845
    (You ) saw things so much clearer (when the x x's on your eyes were removed)
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • (You ) saw things so much clearer (when the x x's on your eyes were removed)

    That's me squinting to see because you are so far behind in my RVM.
  • oftenreadingoftenreading Posts: 12,845
    Ah - running away, are you?
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • Ah - running away, are you?

    No,
    My side mirror says objects are closer than they may appear.
  • WhatYouTaughtMeWhatYouTaughtMe Posts: 4,957
    edited May 2015

    So just out of interest I googled "help with suicidal thoughts". As expected, a whole host of resources came up, so I looked through a couple. What do you know, this phrase sticks out as being potentially relevant here:

    "Don’t keep these suicidal feelings to yourself:
    Many of us have found that the first step to coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings is to share them with someone we trust. It may be a friend, a therapist, a member of the clergy, a teacher, a family doctor, a coach, or an experienced counselor at the end of a helpline. Find someone you trust and let them know how bad things are. Don’t let fear, shame, or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. Just talking about how you got to this point in your life can release a lot of the pressure that’s building up and help you find a way to cope."


    The link is here, for those who want to look further. There is a lot of good sense on this page.

    http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm

    No to belabour the point, but they are clear that sharing these feelings is important, and it doesn't necessarily matter who you share them with as long as it is someone you feel comfortable talking to. Yes, finding a doctor or therapist is important, and yes, if someone is thinking of acting then it is an emergency. Finding another way to communicate doesn't replace this, it complements it.

    Your googled advice on this is not welcome anywhere.
    Trolling a thread like this one is ridiculous. Perhaps you should look into some professional help of your own.
    Post edited by WhatYouTaughtMe on
  • So just out of interest I googled "help with suicidal thoughts". As expected, a whole host of resources came up, so I looked through a couple. What do you know, this phrase sticks out as being potentially relevant here:

    "Don’t keep these suicidal feelings to yourself:
    Many of us have found that the first step to coping with suicidal thoughts and feelings is to share them with someone we trust. It may be a friend, a therapist, a member of the clergy, a teacher, a family doctor, a coach, or an experienced counselor at the end of a helpline. Find someone you trust and let them know how bad things are. Don’t let fear, shame, or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. Just talking about how you got to this point in your life can release a lot of the pressure that’s building up and help you find a way to cope."


    The link is here, for those who want to look further. There is a lot of good sense on this page.

    http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm

    No to belabour the point, but they are clear that sharing these feelings is important, and it doesn't necessarily matter who you share them with as long as it is someone you feel comfortable talking to. Yes, finding a doctor or therapist is important, and yes, if someone is thinking of acting then it is an emergency. Finding another way to communicate doesn't replace this, it complements it.

    Your googled advice on this is not welcome anywhere.
    Trolling a thread like this is ridiculous. Perhaps you should look into some professional help of your own.
    Are you being sarcastic?
    Your first post in this thread is an attack?
  • oftenreadingoftenreading Posts: 12,845

    Ah - running away, are you?

    No,
    My side mirror says objects are closer than they may appear.
    The truth is always closer that it appears.
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
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