online dating?

eeriepadave

mca47 wrote:

eeriepadave wrote:

Well so i a girl from POF. We talked and chatted for awhile. Decided to meet last night. We went to this Italian restaurant. Started off well, talked and whatnot. Then we ordered drinks and our food. After that she excused herself to go to the bathroom. a few minutes later I get a text from her (although I think it was meant for someone else) saying "dork but nice" and I'll call you later. I though ok kidna weird, not sure if she thought i was a dork or what. So about 10 minutes later she still ahsn't returned. I text her and say are you ok? no response. 5 minutes after that i text her again and say the dinner is here. Still no response, so I'm thinking she stood me up. few minutes later she texts me and says she had a panic attack and will be right out. I said ok. She still never returned i then text her and say are you sure you are ok, anything i can do? she responds and says i'm sorry i had to leave i spazed and had a panic attack. you're a nice guy. i have issues, had nothing to do with you, etc... I was a little shocked, the date seemed to be going pretty well. She was ok looking, pretty average. I still wanted to finish the date and see if there might be a connection. so we might be going out again :?

Dude, don't go out with her again. She called you a dork and stood you up. She sounds like she has some serious issues!


By the way, did you still sit there and eat dinner alone? What did you do with her food?

yes i ate alone :( , i took her food home and had it for lunch.

We'll see what happens. She said maybe at a bar or cafe would be better. I don't know.

morello

^^^ No way dude! Don't see her again! Glad you ate her meal but hell, she stood you up, bailed on you in a bizarre way & you'd see her again!?!??!? :nono: :fp: Run while you still can I say! Sure, everyone deserves a 2nd chance but WTF!?!?!?

Digital Twilight

She said she had a panic attack but it sounds like she realised her mistake (she sent the text to you and not her friend) and she couldn't face up to it.

SD48277

eeriepadave wrote:

Well so i a girl from POF. We talked and chatted for awhile. Decided to meet last night. We went to this Italian restaurant. Started off well, talked and whatnot. Then we ordered drinks and our food. After that she excused herself to go to the bathroom. a few minutes later I get a text from her (although I think it was meant for someone else) saying "dork but nice" and I'll call you later. I though ok kidna weird, not sure if she thought i was a dork or what. So about 10 minutes later she still ahsn't returned. I text her and say are you ok? no response. 5 minutes after that i text her again and say the dinner is here. Still no response, so I'm thinking she stood me up. few minutes later she texts me and says she had a panic attack and will be right out. I said ok. She still never returned i then text her and say are you sure you are ok, anything i can do? she responds and says i'm sorry i had to leave i spazed and had a panic attack. you're a nice guy. i have issues, had nothing to do with you, etc... I was a little shocked, the date seemed to be going pretty well. She was ok looking, pretty average. I still wanted to finish the date and see if there might be a connection. so we might be going out again :?

It's nice that you want to give her the benefit of the doubt (as well as a second chance), but I just want to point out that she does/did say "I have issues." :think: Shouldn't this be a red flag? Did you suggest the second date, or did she? If she did, I would say give her a second chance (maybe she really did have a panic attack and feels bad). You seem like a nice guy...don't waste your time on someone who seems like a flake.

Mamasan23

morello wrote:

^^^ No way dude! Don't see her again! Glad you ate her meal but hell, she stood you up, bailed on you in a bizarre way & you'd see her again!?!??!? :nono: :fp: Run while you still can I say! Sure, everyone deserves a 2nd chance but WTF!?!?!?

THIS!!! Dave you're a super sweet guy but run away from this girl. I'm telling you, just move on. Sorry it didn't work out :(

Jason P

eeriepadave wrote:

Well so i a girl from POF. We talked and chatted for awhile. Decided to meet last night. We went to this Italian restaurant. Started off well, talked and whatnot. Then we ordered drinks and our food. After that she excused herself to go to the bathroom. a few minutes later I get a text from her (although I think it was meant for someone else) saying "dork but nice" and I'll call you later. I though ok kidna weird, not sure if she thought i was a dork or what. So about 10 minutes later she still ahsn't returned. I text her and say are you ok? no response. 5 minutes after that i text her again and say the dinner is here. Still no response, so I'm thinking she stood me up. few minutes later she texts me and says she had a panic attack and will be right out. I said ok. She still never returned i then text her and say are you sure you are ok, anything i can do? she responds and says i'm sorry i had to leave i spazed and had a panic attack. you're a nice guy. i have issues, had nothing to do with you, etc... I was a little shocked, the date seemed to be going pretty well. She was ok looking, pretty average. I still wanted to finish the date and see if there might be a connection. so we might be going out again :?

Bullet dodged. :geek:

I hope she ordered something good for left-overs the next day.

If you are looking for a car and the engine explodes in a ball of flames on the test drive, it's probably smart to look at another model.

norm

dave...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gFIAVAPDX0

comebackgirl

Mamasan23 wrote:

morello wrote:

^^^ No way dude! Don't see her again! Glad you ate her meal but hell, she stood you up, bailed on you in a bizarre way & you'd see her again!?!??!? :nono: :fp: Run while you still can I say! Sure, everyone deserves a 2nd chance but WTF!?!?!?

THIS!!! Dave you're a super sweet guy but run away from this girl. I'm telling you, just move on. Sorry it didn't work out :(

Agreed on all counts. You deserve better than that.

comebackgirl

norm wrote:

dave...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gFIAVAPDX0

Suziemay

Digital Twilight wrote:

She said she had a panic attack but it sounds like she realised her mistake (she sent the text to you and not her friend) and she couldn't face up to it.

This is what I'm thinking. Run the other way. Think about it, if that was how your first date went down, even if she was telling you the truth, do you really want to see where this will go? And if she was telling the truth, she should have called you and offered to pay for her half of dinner. Or something. I don't see any goodwill gesture on her part.

gimmesometruth27

i'm gonna go ahead and be a realist right here and say...

dating, online or otherwise, fucking sucks...

i have had my fill of online dating, nobody even reads my profile. they just look at my pics, see i am a decent lookin guy with zero baggage, and message me. as if a lot of them have a chance or something... :fp:

not to sound mean, but i know what i want. and the vast majority of the women that contact me, are not what i want.

at this point, i would rather be alone... at least when i am alone, only i can screw myself over. that way i don't have to become a victim of other people's drama, which happens to me all the time...

am i jaded?? yep, pretty much.

eeriepadave

Suziemay wrote:

Digital Twilight wrote:

She said she had a panic attack but it sounds like she realised her mistake (she sent the text to you and not her friend) and she couldn't face up to it.

This is what I'm thinking. Run the other way. Think about it, if that was how your first date went down, even if she was telling you the truth, do you really want to see where this will go? And if she was telling the truth, she should have called you and offered to pay for her half of dinner. Or something. I don't see any goodwill gesture on her part.

yeah i'm pretty sure that is exactly what happened. Not sure why cause it wasn't really bad.

Suziemay

eeriepadave wrote:

Suziemay wrote:

Digital Twilight wrote:

She said she had a panic attack but it sounds like she realised her mistake (she sent the text to you and not her friend) and she couldn't face up to it.

This is what I'm thinking. Run the other way. Think about it, if that was how your first date went down, even if she was telling you the truth, do you really want to see where this will go? And if she was telling the truth, she should have called you and offered to pay for her half of dinner. Or something. I don't see any goodwill gesture on her part.

yeah i'm pretty sure that is exactly what happened. Not sure why cause it wasn't really bad.

Probably a little immature. She probably spent the whole time in the bathroom texting her friend about her "mistake" and said friend told her to bolt. Don't spend anymore time or money with her, in my opinion!

PearlOfAGirl

I tried it once, and I'll NEVER do it again. Spoke with this guy, and actually met him once. Went to meet up to go mini golfing or bowling, or the movies. Made the mistake of going in his car. We were closer to where he lived. He didn't know where any of the above were. While asking some people; the dumb fuck hit a pole right down the length of his SUV right up to my window. Made the mistake of going to a bar, and then he wanted to bet while playing pool. He wanted a kiss if he won. I won a game and he of course beat me 2 out of 3. He was on the frigging attack. Hands all over me, lifting me up of the ground... We finally left, and he drove right by my car where I met him, then he gets out of the car, and opened my door. Thank God a couple of guys started walking towards us. All I could think is that I didn't want to get him mad. Then he drove me to the car. I got out and got into my car. I don't think I've ever driven as fast as I did......

I was already set up to meet someone my sister's husband knew the next day. Met him, went out for a year, and I'm in no damn hurry to date anytime soon. Totally lost my trust in men....

Digital Twilight

PearlOfAGirl wrote:

I tried it once, and I'll NEVER do it again. Spoke with this guy, and actually met him once. Went to meet up to go mini golfing or bowling, or the movies. Made the mistake of going in his car. We were closer to where he lived. He didn't know where any of the above were. While asking some people; the dumb fuck hit a pole right down the length of his SUV right up to my window. Made the mistake of going to a bar, and then he wanted to bet while playing pool. He wanted a kiss if he won. I won a game and he of course beat me 2 out of 3. He was on the frigging attack. Hands all over me, lifting me up of the ground... We finally left, and he drove right by my car where I met him, then he gets out of the car, and opened my door. Thank God a couple of guys started walking towards us. All I could think is that I didn't want to get him mad. Then he drove me to the car. I got out and got into my car. I don't think I've ever driven as fast as I did......

I was already set up to meet someone my sister's husband knew the next day. Met him, went out for a year, and I'm in no damn hurry to date anytime soon. Totally lost my trust in men....

Maybe it's your taste in men you shouldn't trust

decides2dream

i have NO idea how to do regular, in-life dating. i think if i ever found myself trying to date on-line, i would be in far worse shape. that said, my oldest sister met her current beau (basically her third husband tho they both have given up on marriage) via online dating, and my bro-in-law met his wife via an online dating/meet-up activity thing, so i say if youre open to it - who knows? good things can happen anytime, anywhere.

PJPixie

decides2dream wrote:

i have NO idea how to do regular, in-life dating. i think if i ever found myself trying to date on-line, i would be in far worse shape. that said, my oldest sister met her current beau (basically her third husband tho they both have given up on marriage) via online dating, and my bro-in-law met his wife via an online dating/meet-up activity thing, so i say if youre open to it - who knows? good things can happen anytime, anywhere.

Hi D2D Been a long time girl! Miss you!

eeriepadave

I think i've given up on online dating and dating in general. Was chatting with this one girl and we seemed to get along fine decided to meet and everything went well. she said she wanted to meet again and so i text and call her and no response back. It has to be me. I tend to give off weird/awkward vibes when I meet people in person. I'm fine online but in person I guess not :( . That's about the 5th time online that this has happened. Also has happened on the boards as well. Met 3 women from here (just as friends) and everyhting seemed to go ok but when i tried to contact them again they ignored me. :roll: Must be me.

gimmesometruth27

eeriepadave wrote:

I think i've given up on online dating and dating in general. Was chatting with this one girl and we seemed to get along fine decided to meet and everything went well. she said she wanted to meet again and so i text and call her and no response back. It has to be me. I tend to give off weird/awkward vibes when I meet people in person. I'm fine online but in person I guess not :( . That's about the 5th time online that this has happened. Also has happened on the boards as well. Met 3 women from here (just as friends) and everyhting seemed to go ok but when i tried to contact them again they ignored me. :roll: Must be me.

dude, it's not you. we are all awkward.

the real explanation is simple... people are fucked up.

nobody knows what they want in someone they want to date. and when they find what they do want, they don't snatch it up for some reason. they keep looking for the next great person to date. they leave their profiles open waiting for someone else or someone better to contact them. i don't know whether it is for the attention, out of boredom, or whatever...

when i meet a great person online, i deactivate my profile out of respect. not everyone is like me i guess....that is the problem with meeting women online. online, people can play and pretend to be whoever they want to be. because they can, and people like you and i would never know the difference....they can misrepresent themselves. in 2009 and most of 2010 i was royally fucked over by someone on here. like totally screwed over. she does not post here anymore, so i am ok bringing it up. just keep in mind, people you meet online may not always be who they seem, and that is transparent and obvious when you meet in person.

i was on plenty of fish at one point. actually at several points.... :oops: :oops: it is cutthroat on there. there is like 50 dudes to every woman. and just when you are "in there" with a woman that seems to dig you, some other guy, that is better looking, has more money, has a better job, or whatever, swoops in like a pterdactyl and snatches her up and you never hear from her again. it is very, very hard to compete on a website like that. personally i do waaay better meeting people in person. i guess being in a band helps too sometimes...as well as being pretty hot....

my advice, if you choose to take it... is to get on some kind of pay dating site. everyone does pof because it is free, and frankly, you get what you pay for.... i have met a ton of duds on that site... if you are more discriminating, get on a pay site or join some adult activity group that goes out and does stuff like wine tasting or cooking, or golf or something.

keep your chin up.

you are too good of a dude to let these women bring you down. just tell yourself that they don't deserve you and that you are better off without them. most times, in my life, when women fuck off they are doing me a favor. don't let it get you down or get you frustrated. having ZERO expectations is the best way to approach it. if you have expectations, it is a recipe for heartbreak and disaster...

i am thinking, that when the time is right, your girl is gonna find you. i am not looking, and when i am not looking or when i have given up is when i get found... just be patient.

PJPixie

gimmesometruth27 wrote:

eeriepadave wrote:

I think i've given up on online dating and dating in general. Was chatting with this one girl and we seemed to get along fine decided to meet and everything went well. she said she wanted to meet again and so i text and call her and no response back. It has to be me. I tend to give off weird/awkward vibes when I meet people in person. I'm fine online but in person I guess not :( . That's about the 5th time online that this has happened. Also has happened on the boards as well. Met 3 women from here (just as friends) and everyhting seemed to go ok but when i tried to contact them again they ignored me. :roll: Must be me.

dude, it's not you. we are all awkward.

the real explanation is simple... people are fucked up.

nobody knows what they want in someone they want to date. and when they find what they do want, they don't snatch it up for some reason. they keep looking for the next great person to date. they leave their profiles open waiting for someone else or someone better to contact them. i don't know whether it is for the attention, out of boredom, or whatever...

when i meet a great person online, i deactivate my profile out of respect. not everyone is like me i guess....that is the problem with meeting women online. online, people can play and pretend to be whoever they want to be. because they can, and people like you and i would never know the difference....they can misrepresent themselves. in 2009 and most of 2010 i was royally fucked over by someone on here. like totally screwed over. she does not post here anymore, so i am ok bringing it up. just keep in mind, people you meet online may not always be who they seem, and that is transparent and obvious when you meet in person.

i was on plenty of fish at one point. actually at several points.... :oops: :oops: it is cutthroat on there. there is like 50 dudes to every woman. and just when you are "in there" with a woman that seems to dig you, some other guy, that is better looking, has more money, has a better job, or whatever, swoops in like a pterdactyl and snatches her up and you never hear from her again. it is very, very hard to compete on a website like that. personally i do waaay better meeting people in person. i guess being in a band helps too sometimes...as well as being pretty hot....

my advice, if you choose to take it... is to get on some kind of pay dating site. everyone does pof because it is free, and frankly, you get what you pay for.... i have met a ton of duds on that site... if you are more discriminating, get on a pay site or join some adult activity group that goes out and does stuff like wine tasting or cooking, or golf or something.

keep your chin up.

you are too good of a dude to let these women bring you down. just tell yourself that they don't deserve you and that you are better off without them. most times, in my life, when women fuck off they are doing me a favor. don't let it get you down or get you frustrated. having ZERO expectations is the best way to approach it. if you have expectations, it is a recipe for heartbreak and disaster...

i am thinking, that when the time is right, your girl is gonna find you. i am not looking, and when i am not looking or when i have given up is when i get found... just be patient.

yeah, what ^he^ said!

I just canceled my Match.com membership. I never ever log on and just didn't feel like going thru all that again.
I went on a few good dates.........