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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,760
    JWPearl said:

    Didnt work for me, i found only liars and creeps and the one nice guy i did meet whom became my fiance, died, so im against it unless you know the person somehow first or through a friend

    You mean you don't want to do it yourself, not that you're against others doing it, right? Because since you know that people actually have found love this way (or have just made good friends this way!), surely you couldn't be against that.
    A lot of people have developed lifelong relationships with people they met online (now actually carrying out a relationship exclusively online is another story).... you do have to be cautious and smart about it of course, just like with people you meet anywhere else. Everyone was a stranger you didn't know at some point, so not knowing someone can't be a reason not to ever get to know them...
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  • JWPearl
    JWPearl Posts: 19,893
    yes I don't like it for myself unless I know the person or if they are the same club as me you could say, others can do what they like, it's not like I can't find out about a person...but it's more that the person can change because there are no friendly bonds surrounding yourselves and I don't really like that
  • Sonja_S
    Sonja_S Vienna Posts: 444
    I think online dating is as hit and miss as everything else, so why not?

    I know a few couples who met online, most of them married with children by now. One friend who met her hubby through an online dating site always says 'Girls, buy yourselves a guy, I can only recommend it'. My experiences are a bit different unfortunately.

    I had the brilliant idea of registering at OK Cupid. When I met up with a guy from there, I got the impression that he had a ghost writer. No trace of the funny guy I chatted with for 2 months and he was really rude to the waiter in the Irish pub we agreed to meet in after we were unable to find a sports bar where we could watch my Blue Jays beat his Orioles. After lecturing me on the importance of Excel pivot tables and how music, movies and especially exercise were unnecessary and should best be disposed of, he decided what we would do for our second date next Sunday. We had to work on the comprehension of 'there will be no second date' for a few minutes after that which still didn't keep him from sending messages and calling.

    I deleted my profile after that. Que sera, sera and all that jazz.
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  • MayDay10
    MayDay10 Posts: 11,862
    As someone with no cards in the game, I would say it is asinine for someone single and looking to "not" have some irons in the fire online... Are you kidding me? You have a vetting process, you get to have a little banter where you send electronic messages with little to no pressure, then you get to meet with a bit of a head start.

    Way better than just the traditional way. like 1,000,000 better.
  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,498
    Annafalk said:

    HesCalledDyer said:

    I tried online dating for a while a few years back and at the time I thought it was pretty intimidating. As I get older, I've realized it's not really intimidating; I just don't know how to talk to women anymore. :-B

    She is probably just as shy as you are, talk about whatever. When meeting a new person there must be tons of questions you can ask.
    Like have you been here before? What do work with? Where are you from? Do you have any plans for your life? Special interests, hobbies? What kind of food do you like? Have you owned many cars? TV shows you like? movies, theater ?

    It's probably better to listen more than to talk though, it's always very lovely when someone is interested in
    what you have to say. :) good luck !
    I'm an excellent listener, the problem is they don't talk. And I don't know how to talk to people that don't communicate. It's kinda like that Weezer song, the world has turned and left me here. I just really don't know how to connect to people anymore. The last two girls I dated broke up with me by text message. Text message! I go on dates and sit there and watch them check their phones every 45 seconds. Actual face to face communication just doesn't seem to happen much anymore, and when I attempt it, they look at me like I'm some weirdo. I don't have much in common with people like that, which is pretty much everyone here in the States nowadays.
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  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    HesCalledDyer said:


    I'm an excellent listener, the problem is they don't talk. And I don't know how to talk to people that don't communicate. It's kinda like that Weezer song, the world has turned and left me here. I just really don't know how to connect to people anymore. The last two girls I dated broke up with me by text message. Text message! I go on dates and sit there and watch them check their phones every 45 seconds. Actual face to face communication just doesn't seem to happen much anymore, and when I attempt it, they look at me like I'm some weirdo. I don't have much in common with people like that, which is pretty much everyone here in the States nowadays.

    Go to a pre-party (and a post-party, if there is one). It is very easy to talk with people at these things. I'm a socially-awkward introvert, and even I found it easy.
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  • Annafalk
    Annafalk Sweden Posts: 4,004
    edited October 2014
    HesCalledDyer said:

    Annafalk said:

    HesCalledDyer said:

    I tried online dating for a while a few years back and at the time I thought it was pretty intimidating. As I get older, I've realized it's not really intimidating; I just don't know how to talk to women anymore. :-B

    She is probably just as shy as you are, talk about whatever. When meeting a new person there must be tons of questions you can ask.
    Like have you been here before? What do work with? Where are you from? Do you have any plans for your life? Special interests, hobbies? What kind of food do you like? Have you owned many cars? TV shows you like? movies, theater ?

    It's probably better to listen more than to talk though, it's always very lovely when someone is interested in
    what you have to say. :) good luck !
    I'm an excellent listener, the problem is they don't talk. And I don't know how to talk to people that don't communicate. It's kinda like that Weezer song, the world has turned and left me here. I just really don't know how to connect to people anymore. The last two girls I dated broke up with me by text message. Text message! I go on dates and sit there and watch them check their phones every 45 seconds. Actual face to face communication just doesn't seem to happen much anymore, and when I attempt it, they look at me like I'm some weirdo. I don't have much in common with people like that, which is pretty much everyone here in the States nowadays.
    I think that girl was acting very rude looking at the phone on a date, don't seem like a nice person.
    I wonder where the best chances of meeting someone could be...couples I know have met their partner;
    On a massage course (many couples apparently met on that course)
    School reunion party
    Music festival (easy to find cool relaxed people)
    Online
    At work
    Through friends
    At a party
    A patient at work told me the cutest story, after a bus ride he helped a girl with her baggage from the bus he actually carried it all the way to her home, they had a nice walk and they actually ended up getting married later on. (This was about 70 years ago)

    Maybe it's a strange question but I wonder what do you normally do on a date?
    Do you only go out on restaurants or do you do any fun activitys, like miniature golf, bowling, laser dome, horse back riding etc.? I guess it's easier to make conversation depending on the circumstances.

    I really hope you find someone nice :)
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  • hrd2imgn
    hrd2imgn Southwest Burbs of Chicago Posts: 4,924
    Fifi_Ireland said:

    Anyone out there tried online dating?

    Just signed up and figured people might have some tips......yeah yeah maybe it is desperate but what the hell traditional methods arent working.......

    I married the woman of my dreams that I met on E-harmony, my sister met her husband on e-harmony as well.

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  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    OK so I feel like I messed up a little. I don't come here for advice much, if at all (and I mean PJ forums in general, not this thread). Anyway, is it right that I feel guilty for having a first date with two different ladies this week? It's not my normal MOA, I prefer dealing with one person at a time but ended up talking to two at once and figured I may as well see it through..
    I am seriously uncomfortable about it though lol.
  • badbrains
    badbrains Posts: 10,255
    Rygar said:

    OK so I feel like I messed up a little. I don't come here for advice much, if at all (and I mean PJ forums in general, not this thread). Anyway, is it right that I feel guilty for having a first date with two different ladies this week? It's not my normal MOA, I prefer dealing with one person at a time but ended up talking to two at once and figured I may as well see it through..
    I am seriously uncomfortable about it though lol.

    No harm In that rygar. Not like kreids running price or anything like that. Hahaha. Good luck!
  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    badbrains said:

    Rygar said:

    OK so I feel like I messed up a little. I don't come here for advice much, if at all (and I mean PJ forums in general, not this thread). Anyway, is it right that I feel guilty for having a first date with two different ladies this week? It's not my normal MOA, I prefer dealing with one person at a time but ended up talking to two at once and figured I may as well see it through..
    I am seriously uncomfortable about it though lol.

    No harm In that rygar. Not like kreids running price or anything like that. Hahaha. Good luck!
    LOL

    Thanks BB
  • badbrains
    badbrains Posts: 10,255
    Rygar said:

    badbrains said:

    Rygar said:

    OK so I feel like I messed up a little. I don't come here for advice much, if at all (and I mean PJ forums in general, not this thread). Anyway, is it right that I feel guilty for having a first date with two different ladies this week? It's not my normal MOA, I prefer dealing with one person at a time but ended up talking to two at once and figured I may as well see it through..
    I am seriously uncomfortable about it though lol.

    No harm In that rygar. Not like kreids running price or anything like that. Hahaha. Good luck!
    LOL

    Thanks BB
    You know you could be like messier during the 80's-90's and have one on each arm!
  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    edited November 2014
    Well if Messier did it...
    All I need are the cups and the cash.
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    So how did it go Rygar??
  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    First one is tonight, second one (more hopeful for that one) is tomorrow. I'll let you know!
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    Ok! Good vibes coming your way!
  • badbrains
    badbrains Posts: 10,255
    Rygar said:

    First one is tonight, second one (more hopeful for that one) is tomorrow. I'll let you know!

    Try not to think about the other date while on your first date cuz it'll show something is up and mite throw a bad vibe out. Women know bro, they have a weird extra sense in them. I know it'll be hard to but just go and enjoy yourself. Life's to young bro, and the habs sux =))
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    Rygar said:

    OK so I feel like I messed up a little. I don't come here for advice much, if at all (and I mean PJ forums in general, not this thread). Anyway, is it right that I feel guilty for having a first date with two different ladies this week? It's not my normal MOA, I prefer dealing with one person at a time but ended up talking to two at once and figured I may as well see it through..
    I am seriously uncomfortable about it though lol.

    playa
  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    norm said:

    Rygar said:

    OK so I feel like I messed up a little. I don't come here for advice much, if at all (and I mean PJ forums in general, not this thread). Anyway, is it right that I feel guilty for having a first date with two different ladies this week? It's not my normal MOA, I prefer dealing with one person at a time but ended up talking to two at once and figured I may as well see it through..
    I am seriously uncomfortable about it though lol.

    playa
    Lol no, that's the problem ;)
  • badbrains
    badbrains Posts: 10,255
    Rygar said:

    norm said:

    Rygar said:

    OK so I feel like I messed up a little. I don't come here for advice much, if at all (and I mean PJ forums in general, not this thread). Anyway, is it right that I feel guilty for having a first date with two different ladies this week? It's not my normal MOA, I prefer dealing with one person at a time but ended up talking to two at once and figured I may as well see it through..
    I am seriously uncomfortable about it though lol.

    playa
    Lol no, that's the problem ;)
    Look at this guy, smooth criminal. Playing all like "I'm shy, I don't know why I feel like this, this is so wrong, blah blah blah, shut up rygar! =)) oh and I forgot the "shy" emoticon. Hahaha

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