Question for the men

DS1119

_ wrote:

Have a mentioned that I'm really a pretty shy person? When I was a kid, I couldn't even get up the nerve to call & order a pizza. I wouldn't ask a saleslady in a store where the restroom was no matter how badly I had to go. That's how nervous I was about talking to people I didn't know. Since I've been older, I've managed to get through social situations largely with the help of liquid courage. Whoever thought middle-of-the-work-day coffee was the best event through which to meet up with people you barely know was a damn fool. I'd like to meet that guy right about now - and kick him in the nuts.

You'll do great. Try not to think about being nervous because that will only make you more nervous...trust me. Just laugh, have fun, enjoy the coffee and conversation. :thumbup:

81

stargirl69 wrote:

_ wrote:

Have a mentioned that I'm really a pretty shy person? When I was a kid, I couldn't even get up the nerve to call & order a pizza. I wouldn't ask a saleslady in a store where the restroom was no matter how badly I had to go. That's how nervous I was about talking to people I didn't know. Since I've been older, I've managed to get through social situations largely with the help of liquid courage. Whoever thought middle-of-the-work-day coffee was the best event through which to meet up with people you barely know was a damn fool. I'd like to meet that guy right about now - and kick him in the nuts.

:? Didn't go well then?

t minus 45 minutes

_

stargirl69 wrote:

_ wrote:

Have a mentioned that I'm really a pretty shy person? When I was a kid, I couldn't even get up the nerve to call & order a pizza. I wouldn't ask a saleslady in a store where the restroom was no matter how badly I had to go. That's how nervous I was about talking to people I didn't know. Since I've been older, I've managed to get through social situations largely with the help of liquid courage. Whoever thought middle-of-the-work-day coffee was the best event through which to meet up with people you barely know was a damn fool. I'd like to meet that guy right about now - and kick him in the nuts.

:? Didn't go well then?

Hasn't happened yet. I'm just really nervous and wish we were doing something where it would be appropriate for me to be drinking.

Heisenberg

Is there any way we can get a webcam on this for a live stream?
Can we get an undercover friend of _'s to sit at a nearby table with a Macbook?

stargirl69

81 wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

_ wrote:

Have a mentioned that I'm really a pretty shy person? When I was a kid, I couldn't even get up the nerve to call & order a pizza. I wouldn't ask a saleslady in a store where the restroom was no matter how badly I had to go. That's how nervous I was about talking to people I didn't know. Since I've been older, I've managed to get through social situations largely with the help of liquid courage. Whoever thought middle-of-the-work-day coffee was the best event through which to meet up with people you barely know was a damn fool. I'd like to meet that guy right about now - and kick him in the nuts.

:? Didn't go well then?

t minus 45 minutes

Oh ... I think there is a lot of over worrying and over thinking of this date going on :?

_

Heisenberg wrote:

Is there any way we can get a webcam on this for a live stream?
Can we get an undercover friend of _'s to sit at a nearby table with a Macbook?

Haha... my sister is already threatening to show up. (Payback for something that happened in high school.) She thinks she can be covert - but we're twins for fuck's sake!

Heisenberg

_ wrote:

Hasn't happened yet. I'm just really nervous and wish we were doing something where it would be appropriate for me to be drinking.

_ just remember, he's probably just as nervous as you. He was probably up half the night last night trying to figure out what color of hair tie to wear on his pony tail. Just relax, be yourself, and if it goes well, great. If not, you aren't out anything except a cup of coffee. :thumbup:

81

_ wrote:

Heisenberg wrote:

Is there any way we can get a webcam on this for a live stream?
Can we get an undercover friend of _'s to sit at a nearby table with a Macbook?

Haha... my sister is already threatening to show up. (Payback for something that happened in high school.) She thinks she can be covert - but we're twins for fuck's sake!

twins you say....

polaris_x

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Okay, quick: So what do I say when I leave? Assuming I'll want to see him again, do I ask him out again? Or do I just let him know I'm interested in seeing him again but leave it up to him to ask me later?? :?

standard response:

if you like him: thanks for taking the time to meet me - i enjoyed our talk ... i would like to do it again sometime if you are interested

if you don't like him: i have herpes - do you want to come over to my place and go through my new kids on the block collection?

_

stargirl69 wrote:

Oh ... I think there is a lot of over worrying and over thinking of this date going on :?

Yes. Yes there is. Welcome to inside my head. It's not pretty. :oops:

81

Heisenberg wrote:

He was probably up half the night last night trying to figure out what color of hair tie to wear on his pony tail.

stargirl69

_ wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

Oh ... I think there is a lot of over worrying and over thinking of this date going on :?

Yes. Yes there is. Welcome to inside my head. It's not pretty. :oops:

I don't have the time to go through 600 posts but I say take a deep breath and enjoy and if it's bad just remind yourself it won't last

_

polaris_x wrote:

_ wrote:

Okay, quick: So what do I say when I leave? Assuming I'll want to see him again, do I ask him out again? Or do I just let him know I'm interested in seeing him again but leave it up to him to ask me later?? :?

standard response:

if you like him: thanks for taking the time to meet me - i enjoyed our talk ... i would like to do it again sometime if you are interested

if you don't like him: i have herpes - do you want to come over to my place and go through my new kids on the block collection?

I was actually just thinking this morning that I don't want him to see my iPod because of my embarrassment over New Kids on the Block music that's on there. How do you people know me so well?! :oops:

Heisenberg

polaris_x wrote:

_ wrote:

Okay, quick: So what do I say when I leave? Assuming I'll want to see him again, do I ask him out again? Or do I just let him know I'm interested in seeing him again but leave it up to him to ask me later?? :?

standard response:

if you like him: thanks for taking the time to meet me - i enjoyed our talk ... i would like to do it again sometime if you are interested

if you don't like him: i have herpes - do you want to come over to my place and go through my new kids on the block collection?

If it goes well, send him a hair product gift basket for his flowing locks and a note asking for a 2nd date

if it goes poorly..."well I gotta go, my ex-husband's parole board hearing is this afternoon and I can't miss it"

_

stargirl69 wrote:

_ wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

Oh ... I think there is a lot of over worrying and over thinking of this date going on :?

Yes. Yes there is. Welcome to inside my head. It's not pretty. :oops:

I don't have the time to go through 600 posts but I say take a deep breath and enjoy and if it's bad just remind yourself it won't last

Thanks.

RKCNDY

_ wrote:

Have a mentioned that I'm really a pretty shy person? When I was a kid, I couldn't even get up the nerve to call & order a pizza. I wouldn't ask a saleslady in a store where the restroom was no matter how badly I had to go. That's how nervous I was about talking to people I didn't know. Since I've been older, I've managed to get through social situations largely with the help of liquid courage. Whoever thought middle-of-the-work-day coffee was the best event through which to meet up with people you barely know was a damn fool. I'd like to meet that guy right about now - and kick him in the nuts.

you'll be fine...I'm a really shy person too, I was really shy as a kid too (I hated the phone and calling people I didn't know...I still hate the phone).

You'll get over it, Watch, when it's all said and done you'll be back here saying "I had the best time! We talked so much, I lost track of time!" If it doesn't work out, then oh well, at least you have the experience of asking a guy out (so very bold and progressive). Makes it easier for the next time...for the next Mr. Sensitive ponytail guy you fall for.

81

t minus 35 and counting.

Heisenberg

81 wrote:

t minus 35 and counting.

Stop it...you're just trying to fast track yourself to 30K posts

polaris_x

Heisenberg wrote:

If it goes well, send him a hair product gift basket for his flowing locks and a note asking for a 2nd date

if it goes poorly..."well I gotta go, my ex-husband's parole board hearing is this afternoon and I can't miss it"

"oh look at the time ... i should be getting the lab results back from the mysterious fungus they found coming out of my bum"

81

i'm going to lunch....so you get it now