I am trying to, been having problems relaxing during the day and falling asleep at night since. Nervous and anxious as.
Want to make this work, sick of being single at almost 27 yrs, so I feel more under pressure to not blow it.
Plus I've had job interviews that I am waiting to find out if I got the job.
Too many things on my mind and I'm constantly nervous/anxious atm. :?
Thanks all.
the hardest part of meeting someone is the 1st impression and since you knew each other previously she already has that 1st impression of you. relax and don't put this girl on such a pedestal. enjoy the night and don't worry about getting into a relationship already. enjoy the hour, two, three or whatever it turns into. if you focus on the 1st 5 minutes you'll be shocked at how quickly it turns into 3, 4, 5 hours.
#1. Ask her a ton of questions. Fact: Women just want to talk and want men to listen.
This is not always the case, especially for shy women. I would prefer not to do most of the talking at that stage of the game, but that's just me. But the asking questions part is good, shows interest.
and, yes, pj20!
Definitely not always the case. I went on a date a few months ago and the guy sat there and asked me question after question after question. It was the worst date I have ever been on.
Advice... hmmmm... where do i begin. From my own persoanl experience here's a few things NOT to do:
Don't stare at her rack the whole time, it can be a bit off putting
Don't lend her a CD unless you don't care if you don't get it back
Don't tell her you live with your mother and that it's an agreed living arrangement
Don't bring and example of your mates wedding album
I'm sure i have a lot more, but on a more serious note i just went on a date last night in a popular cafe/restaurant area and we went for a walk first before finding a nice cafe to sit down in. I thought that was a nice way to start things off without having that sit down face to face conversation straight away which can be a bit intimidating.
#1. Ask her a ton of questions. Fact: Women just want to talk and want men to listen.
This is not always the case, especially for shy women. I would prefer not to do most of the talking at that stage of the game, but that's just me. But the asking questions part is good, shows interest.
and, yes, pj20!
Definitely not always the case. I went on a date a few months ago and the guy sat there and asked me question after question after question. It was the worst date I have ever been on.
Engage in conversation. Don't just ask questions.
Good luck
That sounds like an inquisition! Definitely engage. It's awkward, though, if someone doesn't ask things, otherwise (for me) I feel very put on the spot, like I have to come up with things to say. (not my thing)...but an interview?? nah.
Be yourself...only reference your nervousness once (once is cute, more than that is awkward and insecure)...Don't force your humor, let it come naturally....be attentive.....think of some good stories or how you might remember her from high school......make some witty comments/observations about your immediate environment....try to be in the moment the best you can, your nervousness is taking you out of the moment.
I wish you well!
Be yourself...only reference your nervousness once (once is cute, more than that is awkward and insecure)...Don't force your humor, let it come naturally....be attentive.....think of some good stories or how you might remember her from high school......make some witty comments/observations about your immediate environment....try to be in the moment the best you can, your nervousness is taking you out of the moment.
I wish you well!
Thank you.
You reckon I should tell her this is my first date?
Just so that she understands the nervousness?
Also I am thinking of telling her why I said "we'll see" about doing something else after coffee, just so she doesn't think I am cocky or not keen.
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Be yourself...only reference your nervousness once (once is cute, more than that is awkward and insecure)...Don't force your humor, let it come naturally....be attentive.....think of some good stories or how you might remember her from high school......make some witty comments/observations about your immediate environment....try to be in the moment the best you can, your nervousness is taking you out of the moment.
I wish you well!
Thank you.
You reckon I should tell her this is my first date?
Just so that she understands the nervousness?
Also I am thinking of telling her why I said "we'll see" about doing something else after coffee, just so she doesn't think I am cocky or not keen.
no and no....did you not read my first reply to this thread....shut the fuck with the stupid shit and enjoy your night out.
Fake confidence and as she goes down on you you will become confident :twisted:
But if really shy just have fun and don't pressure yourself, whats the worst that could happen.
Just ask questions (like in the 40 Year Old virgin )
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Be yourself...only reference your nervousness once (once is cute, more than that is awkward and insecure)...Don't force your humor, let it come naturally....be attentive.....think of some good stories or how you might remember her from high school......make some witty comments/observations about your immediate environment....try to be in the moment the best you can, your nervousness is taking you out of the moment.
I wish you well!
Thank you.
You reckon I should tell her this is my first date?
Just so that she understands the nervousness?
Also I am thinking of telling her why I said "we'll see" about doing something else after coffee, just so she doesn't think I am cocky or not keen.
I would suggest to just say you don't date very often. At some point in the first half of the date, I don't think you need to reference the "we'll see" comment directly, just suggest a couple things that you could do afterward. Go with the de-caf, too, you'll probably be jumpy enough as it is.
Thank you all for the advice and feedback, much appreciated.
As for the coffee on a Sat night not being a good idea mentioned earlier, she suggested we do something Sat night, I always thought and read that coffee or drinks at a bar are most suitable for a first date.
Maybe I should've suggested Sunday lunchtime, oh wells.
Where we are meeting up is not a walking distance to her house.
I hope she doesn't want to go city, too much traffic.
It is all cafe's and restaurants where we are going, not sure if there is a place more exciting there, see what happens.
I always had in my mind something "more exciting" for a second date.
I am going by the rules on youtube and online dating advice sites.
You are acting EXACTLY like I was with my girl seven months ago..
Now our dates consist of us farting on each other and laughing about it..
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the hardest part of meeting someone is the 1st impression and since you knew each other previously she already has that 1st impression of you. relax and don't put this girl on such a pedestal. enjoy the night and don't worry about getting into a relationship already. enjoy the hour, two, three or whatever it turns into. if you focus on the 1st 5 minutes you'll be shocked at how quickly it turns into 3, 4, 5 hours.
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i just need to say
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Definitely not always the case. I went on a date a few months ago and the guy sat there and asked me question after question after question. It was the worst date I have ever been on.
Engage in conversation. Don't just ask questions.
Good luck
Don't stare at her rack the whole time, it can be a bit off putting
Don't lend her a CD unless you don't care if you don't get it back
Don't tell her you live with your mother and that it's an agreed living arrangement
Don't bring and example of your mates wedding album
I'm sure i have a lot more, but on a more serious note i just went on a date last night in a popular cafe/restaurant area and we went for a walk first before finding a nice cafe to sit down in. I thought that was a nice way to start things off without having that sit down face to face conversation straight away which can be a bit intimidating.
don't forget the test
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kW94hQQMTQw
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-lNNUl9jrzw
Shit I hope not, didn't intend to come across as cocky :?
Interesting test.
Thanks again to all.
We go to "The Fishmonger."
Pretty much how it's been ever since.
(But I did reach over and unlock the door for him, PPFL.)
The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill
A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
I am so glad I know what that means...
Is it wrong every time I hear camel toe I think of you
:?
The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill
A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
Do you work for UPS? I could have sworn I saw you checking out my package
Not a good ice breaker
The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill
A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
:twisted:
Searching Urban Dictionary...
:think:
The ONLY thing better than a glass of beer is tea with Miss McGill
A protuberance of flesh above the waistband of a tight pair of trousers
I wish you well!
Thank you.
You reckon I should tell her this is my first date?
Just so that she understands the nervousness?
Also I am thinking of telling her why I said "we'll see" about doing something else after coffee, just so she doesn't think I am cocky or not keen.
hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
maybe some sex.
see what happens.
But if really shy just have fun and don't pressure yourself, whats the worst that could happen.
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it is literally the biggest moment of his entire life. shame on you for trivializing it like that. my goodness.
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OK...bad Shimmy... Let me set this straight...where's my whip at? Thoughts_Arrive, you can borrow it.
I would suggest to just say you don't date very often. At some point in the first half of the date, I don't think you need to reference the "we'll see" comment directly, just suggest a couple things that you could do afterward. Go with the de-caf, too, you'll probably be jumpy enough as it is.
You are acting EXACTLY like I was with my girl seven months ago..
Now our dates consist of us farting on each other and laughing about it..
Good luck!
Could blow an opportunity that rarely comes along for me. :(
I like that one.
Not bringing any of those, not good to get it on on the first date (according to dating sites).