Single or Married??

dimitrispearljam

redrock wrote:

MrSmith wrote:

i think marriage should be a 10 year contract. at the end of the contract, if both parties want to continue, then you are locked in again for the next 10 years. i hope my future fiance goes for it.

Do you really think that it's a good basis to build a relationship on? Start and nurture a family? It is certainly essential to take stock and look at where things are going but this is an ongoing thing, all the time - not every 10 years and decide OK.. we stay... nope.. we go....

Married for 21 years AND alive

congrats...and another one on heroes list

LikeAnOpeningBandForTheSun

redrock wrote:

MrSmith wrote:

i think marriage should be a 10 year contract. at the end of the contract, if both parties want to continue, then you are locked in again for the next 10 years. i hope my future fiance goes for it.

Do you really think that it's a good basis to build a relationship on? Start and nurture a family? It is certainly essential to take stock and look at where things are going but this is an ongoing thing, all the time - not every 10 years and decide OK.. we stay... nope.. we go....

Married for 21 years AND alive

probably better than a messy divorce after a few years.

helplessdancer

ive been legally separated for 10+ years. i could be divorced(not sure) and i dont really care either way cause i ain't going down that path again

my godfather is my hero. same hen for 20+years. separate houses, 3 streets away from each other. never married her, never moved in, yet still together. go figure!

redrock

MrSmith wrote:

redrock wrote:

MrSmith wrote:

i think marriage should be a 10 year contract. at the end of the contract, if both parties want to continue, then you are locked in again for the next 10 years. i hope my future fiance goes for it.

Do you really think that it's a good basis to build a relationship on? Start and nurture a family? It is certainly essential to take stock and look at where things are going but this is an ongoing thing, all the time - not every 10 years and decide OK.. we stay... nope.. we go....

Married for 21 years AND alive

probably better than a messy divorce after a few years.

Probably, but it is still 'officially' viewing what one should be looking at a lifetime commitment as something temporary. Even a messy divorce after a few years is not planned. Just seems another way not to have to work at the relationship (after all, it's only committed for 10 years). Call me old fashion but going into a marriage thinking 'we'll give it a go for 10 years and we'll see after that' is just not the same as 'we commit to a lasting relationship where we can have kids and raise/nuture them until adulthood and we will endeavour to make it work'.

dimitrispearljam

redrock wrote:

Probably, but it is still 'officially' viewing what one should be looking at a lifetime commitment as something temporary. Even a messy divorce after a few years is not planned. Just seems another way not to have to work at the relationship (after all, it's only committed for 10 years). Call me old fashion but going into a marriage thinking 'we'll give it a go for 10 years and we'll see after that' is just not the same as 'we commit to a lasting relationship where we can have kids and raise/nuture them until adulthood and we will endeavour to make it work'.

the only thing i can call u is early wake up person,like me...

redrock

dimitrispearljam wrote:

redrock wrote:

Probably, but it is still 'officially' viewing what one should be looking at a lifetime commitment as something temporary. Even a messy divorce after a few years is not planned. Just seems another way not to have to work at the relationship (after all, it's only committed for 10 years). Call me old fashion but going into a marriage thinking 'we'll give it a go for 10 years and we'll see after that' is just not the same as 'we commit to a lasting relationship where we can have kids and raise/nuture them until adulthood and we will endeavour to make it work'.

the only thing i can call u is early wake up person,like me...

I start work very early....

dimitrispearljam

redrock wrote:

dimitrispearljam wrote:

the only thing i can call u is early wake up person,like me...

I start work very early....

me too,its not the wake up that i hate..is that shaving...

smithnic

dimitrispearljam wrote:

redrock wrote:

dimitrispearljam wrote:

the only thing i can call u is early wake up person,like me...

I start work very early....

me too,its not the wake up that i hate..is that shaving...

I skipped that part today for that reason. Going for the House, MD scruff look. Liking it.

pandora

together 30 years married 28- no question- we are the lucky ones
after all these years still "in love"

dimitrispearljam

pandora wrote:

together 30 years married 28- no question- we are the lucky ones
after all these years still "in love"

heroes!!!!!!!!

tinkerbell

pandora wrote:

together 30 years married 28- no question- we are the lucky ones
after all these years still "in love"

Awesome!

LikeAnOpeningBandForTheSun

i dont think many people are hardwired for 30 years of marriage without a little cheating going on.

dimitrispearljam

little??there is no little..is u cheat or u dont...

Ms. Wes C.addle

... and why is it that people cheat again?

theoceansmademe

Whizbang wrote:

deliriously happily single.....

yes, they seem to go together well.

me, married 14.5 years.

dimitrispearljam

ms. wes c.addle wrote:

... and why is it that people cheat again?

MAYBE THE LITTLE ISNT ENOUGH...

LikeAnOpeningBandForTheSun

i bet old grandma or grandpa who have been married 50 years probably played around a little back in the day, but they just dealt with it and moved on. they didnt have cameras and answering machines and cellphones everywhere to catch them. seems the only real way to have a healthy long term marriage

pandora

We don't cheat cause we don't want to hurt each other. Also our lovemaking is very very good so why ruin a working partnership of life.

dimitrispearljam

MrSmith wrote:

i bet old grandma or grandpa who have been married 50 years probably played around a little back in the day, but they just dealt with it and moved on. they didnt have cameras and answering machines and cellphones everywhere to catch them. seems the only real way to have a healthy long term marriage

dimitrispearljam

pandora wrote:

We don't cheat cause we don't want to hurt each other. Also our lovemaking is very very good so why ruin a working partnership of life.

beautiful relationships can be real with out beautiful peple..