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  • Meltdown99
    Meltdown99 None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    Yes
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Sorry for the thread derail.
    Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property.
    Back to Agnes....
    Do like animals?  If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park.  Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters.  Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not.  In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...

    I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...

    Hang in there.  When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking.  Life works that way sometimes.
    Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here.
    I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him.
    I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there.
    Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle.
    I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't.
    Thanks for your kindness.
    Would your sister let you take her dog to a park?  If so, you can take her dog to the park.  Just be honest about the dog not being yours.

    You love animals.  You want to volunteer.  Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter.  Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not.   Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Sorry for the thread derail.
    Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property.
    Back to Agnes....
    Do like animals?  If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park.  Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters.  Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not.  In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...

    I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...

    Hang in there.  When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking.  Life works that way sometimes.
    Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here.
    I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him.
    I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there.
    Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle.
    I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't.
    Thanks for your kindness.
    Would your sister let you take her dog to a park?  If so, you can take her dog to the park.  Just be honest about the dog not being yours.

    You love animals.  You want to volunteer.  Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter.  Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not.   Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
    Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before.
    Good idea with the volunteering.
    I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity.
    Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring.
    When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.

    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • stuckinline
    stuckinline Posts: 3,408
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Sorry for the thread derail.
    Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property.
    Back to Agnes....
    Do like animals?  If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park.  Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters.  Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not.  In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...

    I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...

    Hang in there.  When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking.  Life works that way sometimes.
    Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here.
    I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him.
    I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there.
    Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle.
    I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't.
    Thanks for your kindness.
    Would your sister let you take her dog to a park?  If so, you can take her dog to the park.  Just be honest about the dog not being yours.

    You love animals.  You want to volunteer.  Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter.  Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not.   Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
    Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before.
    Good idea with the volunteering.
    I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity.
    Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring.
    When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.

    Thoughts_Arrive,
    Here you go:
    https://dogshome.com/volunteer-at-lost-dogs-home/volunteer-overview/
    https://www.victoriandogrescue.org.au/how-you-can-help/become-a-volunteer.html
    https://rspcavic.org/volunteering/

  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 40,102
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Sorry for the thread derail.
    Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property.
    Back to Agnes....
    Do like animals?  If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park.  Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters.  Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not.  In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...

    I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...

    Hang in there.  When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking.  Life works that way sometimes.
    Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here.
    I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him.
    I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there.
    Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle.
    I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't.
    Thanks for your kindness.
    Would your sister let you take her dog to a park?  If so, you can take her dog to the park.  Just be honest about the dog not being yours.

    You love animals.  You want to volunteer.  Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter.  Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not.   Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
    Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before.
    Good idea with the volunteering.
    I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity.
    Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring.
    When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.

    an extremely attractive female friend of mine (seriously, if I wasn't involved with my now-wife at the time, i would have jumped) got tired of failing at relationships. she went to plenty of fish. she is now married to the guy with two kids. it's not stupid. it's the way to go for people who don't want to try to meet drunk people at the bar. 
    Your boos mean nothing to me, for I have seen what makes you cheer



  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,961
    Yes
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Sorry for the thread derail.
    Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property.
    Back to Agnes....
    Do like animals?  If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park.  Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters.  Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not.  In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...

    I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...

    Hang in there.  When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking.  Life works that way sometimes.
    Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here.
    I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him.
    I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there.
    Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle.
    I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't.
    Thanks for your kindness.
    Would your sister let you take her dog to a park?  If so, you can take her dog to the park.  Just be honest about the dog not being yours.

    You love animals.  You want to volunteer.  Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter.  Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not.   Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
    Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before.
    Good idea with the volunteering.
    I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity.
    Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring.
    When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.

    I know several married couples who met through online dating. FWIW.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes
    stuckinline said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Sorry for the thread derail.
    Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property.
    Back to Agnes....
    Do like animals?  If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park.  Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters.  Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not.  In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...

    I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...

    Hang in there.  When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking.  Life works that way sometimes.
    Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here.
    I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him.
    I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there.
    Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle.
    I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't.
    Thanks for your kindness.
    Would your sister let you take her dog to a park?  If so, you can take her dog to the park.  Just be honest about the dog not being yours.

    You love animals.  You want to volunteer.  Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter.  Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not.   Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
    Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before.
    Good idea with the volunteering.
    I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity.
    Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring.
    When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.

    Thoughts_Arrive,
    Here you go:
    https://dogshome.com/volunteer-at-lost-dogs-home/volunteer-overview/
    https://www.victoriandogrescue.org.au/how-you-can-help/become-a-volunteer.html
    https://rspcavic.org/volunteering/

    Thank you. I might prefer working with animals than with people.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes
    HughFreakingDillon said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Sorry for the thread derail.
    Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property.
    Back to Agnes....
    Do like animals?  If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park.  Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters.  Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not.  In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...

    I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...

    Hang in there.  When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking.  Life works that way sometimes.
    Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here.
    I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him.
    I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there.
    Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle.
    I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't.
    Thanks for your kindness.
    Would your sister let you take her dog to a park?  If so, you can take her dog to the park.  Just be honest about the dog not being yours.

    You love animals.  You want to volunteer.  Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter.  Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not.   Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
    Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before.
    Good idea with the volunteering.
    I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity.
    Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring.
    When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.

    an extremely attractive female friend of mine (seriously, if I wasn't involved with my now-wife at the time, i would have jumped) got tired of failing at relationships. she went to plenty of fish. she is now married to the guy with two kids. it's not stupid. it's the way to go for people who don't want to try to meet drunk people at the bar. 
    What is plenty of fish? Is it a speed dating thing?
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,961
    edited November 2018
    Yes
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    HughFreakingDillon said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Meltdown99 said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Sorry for the thread derail.
    Enough of me, I will never find love. I will die alone. Probably stabbed to death by my meth addicted neighbours who have been aggressively harassing neighbours and damaging property.
    Back to Agnes....
    Do like animals?  If so, get a dog ... Take the dog for walks in the park.  Trust me, Dogs are great conversation starters.  Whenever I have been out with my dog someone almost always wants to pet the dog and that leads to conversations and what not.  In my case my encounter with people end after the conversation, but that's because I am not looking for friends or a relationship...

    I can not emphasize this enough, you are far from the only person who feels lonely...chances are there is plenty of people in your area who also feel the same way...

    Hang in there.  When I met my wife, it just happened, neither of us was even looking.  Life works that way sometimes.
    Yeah I love animals. I would have a dog if I didn't live with my parents, they don't want animals here.
    I have my sister's dog. Love seeing him.
    I met a girl at university as we were waiting to cross the road to get to a lecture. She had a therapy dog. It is how we got talking. So I agree with you there.
    Later she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. Avoided me. People are so fickle.
    I've been waiting for it to happen without looking for years and it hasn't.
    Thanks for your kindness.
    Would your sister let you take her dog to a park?  If so, you can take her dog to the park.  Just be honest about the dog not being yours.

    You love animals.  You want to volunteer.  Combine the 2, and instantly you have a common interest with someone else who is volunteering at an animal shelter.  Animal shelters likely do not pray before each shift, at least I hope not.   Trust me, if I were ever to get into the dating the scene, I'd be lost ... really lost, not so much at how to meet someone ... more as to how to interact with them.
    Yeah, she's let me take him for a walk around the neighbourhood before.
    Good idea with the volunteering.
    I don't want to try online dating. I find it so stupid. Reducing someone to a 2D commodity.
    Tinder is the worst, so superficial. Dating sites, well with them I find introductions so lame. Wouldn't know what to write about myself, I'm quite boring.
    When it comes to interacting, I struggle, I am not a good small talker. Awkward.

    an extremely attractive female friend of mine (seriously, if I wasn't involved with my now-wife at the time, i would have jumped) got tired of failing at relationships. she went to plenty of fish. she is now married to the guy with two kids. it's not stupid. it's the way to go for people who don't want to try to meet drunk people at the bar. 
    What is plenty of fish? Is it a speed dating thing?
    Just a regular dating website that is very popular. Many people find their spouses on it. I'm sure most went through plenty of duds before they found the right one though. That's normal with or without dating websites.
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes
    I was communicating with a lady over the past few days on facebook as we both commented on a Simpsons related post.
    She commented in that post days after we stopped commenting to each other asking if I had joined a Simpsons group she suggested and told me how she felt about one I suggested. I thought hmmm, she's remembered me days after we stopped exchanging comments on this post so maybe she's someone who might be interested in knowing me further.
    Anyhow, I decided to send her a friend request last night (because we both love Simpsons and I find her attractive) and she added me. We chatted for a few hours last night over messenger.
    I seriously thought she is my age or younger but she is 8 years older. We have a lot in common artistically. However, she has a very big social group, seems extroverted, goes to many events and loves electronic music and not rock. Not sure we'd be compatible as I have few friends, prefer the quiet life, and love rock. What my social psychology unit at university has taught me is that birds of a feather flock together and that opposites do not attract, they repel. 
    Maybe she might think I am too young as well. 
    Will see how things go. I am not going to get my hopes up as I've been in similar situations before where nothing happened. If she starts initiating conversation first then I'll take it as a sign of interest and try summon the courage to ask her out for a coffee. But I doubt it will happen given the age difference and different lives we live. But boy is she pretty.

    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,961
    edited November 2018
    Yes
    You know, I read that and at first read "but she is years old". I was all :tired: . But then I read again. :lol:
    Who cares if she's 8 years older? Hell, Emmanuel Macron's wife is 25 years older than he is, they're madly in love, and nobody gives a shit. 8 years isn't a big gap. Remember, you wouldn't have brought the age gap up if she was the man. So forget about the sexist double standards.
    Good luck!
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes
    PJ_Soul said:
    You know, I read that and at first read "but she is years old". I was all :tired: . But then I read again. :lol:
    Who cares if she's 8 years older? Hell, Emmanuel Macron's wife is 25 years older than he is, they're madly in love, and nobody gives a shit. 8 years isn't a big gap. Remember, you wouldn't have brought the age gap up if she was the man. So forget about the sexist double standards.
    Good luck!
    I don't have a problem with dating older women. I actually would prefer it over immature girls.
    It's me who thinks she may have an issue with it.
    Thanks.
    I don't think anything will eventuate, especially when she learns I am a hermit with few friends as opposed to her gazillions and her party lifestyle. 
    I hold onto the hope that things happen when you don't expect them to and when you don't look.
    Hope...
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • LongestRoad
    LongestRoad Posts: 477
    No
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    rgambs said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    Thanks Bootlegger. 
    Lately I've been looking up people I went to high school with to see what they're up to and most are married with kids.
    It's been getting me down. I don't know why I do it when it hurts.
    They would all be jealous of you being single if you got out there and mixed it up.
    Doubt it. Probably laugh at me.
    A guy I was friends with (not from school) asked his parents who are my parents' friends if I've found someone yet.
    Everyone is wondering why I still have not been in a relationship at 34 years of age.
    I'm a joke.
    Dude, I’m 41 and single. The only relationship I’ve ever had that lasted any length of time ended nearly 18 years ago. Other than that I’ve never had anything go on longer than a month or two. I’ve spent many hours and many days wondering what it is about me that no one wants to stick around. Why women don’t flirt with me or respond acceptingly to my flirtations. Why everyone I know has no trouble finding relationships and never goes more than a month without being in one. Trust me, I know first hand how frustrating it is and how defeated you can feel by it.
    And it’s ok to feel negative about it. I still do, quite a bit actually. No one is happy 24/7/365. Even what may seem to be the happiest, most joyous person has bad days. Whether it’s bad hair, bad personal interactions, bad day at work, failed a test, lost a pet, wrecked their car, etc.  But don’t ever call yourself a joke, or think you’ve failed, or think others are better off because believe me, we all go through shit. We all fight battles everyday.
    Bottom line is that you have to figure out the things that give you joy & satisfaction to combat that, and do those things. Take care of yourself first and make yourself happy because, believe me, no one else is gonna do it for you. You are you, you are defined by your characteristics and the things or enjoy. So give those things to yourself instead of denying them because you don’t have a partner or you worry about what people think. Let them think. They aren’t you, and if they are focused on you, that’s a reflection of their own unhappiness. You’ll eventually realize the freedom you have to do things you enjoy without having someone to answer to.

    And P.S. Social media is a terrible way to get a glimpse on anyone else. Even though it seems like some people post their entire lives on there, I can assure you you’re only seeing the highlights and not viewing the whole game.
    Girls avoid me which is hard on me.
    I feel like I am some intimidating person.
    I feel the same, everyone I know finds a partner so easy and it makes me wonder why I fail.
    Sick of being assumed to be gay by people.
    I feel ashamed to meet someone and have to tell them they're my first girlfriend and I am a virgin. It's too late for me. People will get turned off by my story.
    Thank you for your kind words.
    Just be yourself. That’s enough. Don’t tell your story if you don’t feel comfortable telling it without giving a crap whether they will accept it. Or,until you know the person you’re telling it to is the person you trust enough to care. When negative breeds negative stop. Positive will breed positivity. 
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes
    I am always myself.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes
    How girls feel when I try to get to know them...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wlkUmmnAyy8
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • LongestRoad
    LongestRoad Posts: 477
    No
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How girls feel when I try to get to know them...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wlkUmmnAyy8
    Are you trying to get to know them with a light sabre ? etc.??  I’m not sure what this is showing? 
  • Meltdown99
    Meltdown99 None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    Yes
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    I was communicating with a lady over the past few days on facebook as we both commented on a Simpsons related post.
    She commented in that post days after we stopped commenting to each other asking if I had joined a Simpsons group she suggested and told me how she felt about one I suggested. I thought hmmm, she's remembered me days after we stopped exchanging comments on this post so maybe she's someone who might be interested in knowing me further.
    Anyhow, I decided to send her a friend request last night (because we both love Simpsons and I find her attractive) and she added me. We chatted for a few hours last night over messenger.
    I seriously thought she is my age or younger but she is 8 years older. We have a lot in common artistically. However, she has a very big social group, seems extroverted, goes to many events and loves electronic music and not rock. Not sure we'd be compatible as I have few friends, prefer the quiet life, and love rock. What my social psychology unit at university has taught me is that birds of a feather flock together and that opposites do not attract, they repel. 
    Maybe she might think I am too young as well. 
    Will see how things go. I am not going to get my hopes up as I've been in similar situations before where nothing happened. If she starts initiating conversation first then I'll take it as a sign of interest and try summon the courage to ask her out for a coffee. But I doubt it will happen given the age difference and different lives we live. But boy is she pretty.

    Remember this opposite's attract.  I was told by a marriage counsellor that the only reason my wife and I lasted 25 years was because we were opposite in personality and had many different interest...so do not always think you need to find someone with the same interest as yourself...
    Give Peas A Chance…
  • Meltdown99
    Meltdown99 None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    Yes
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    I was communicating with a lady over the past few days on facebook as we both commented on a Simpsons related post.
    She commented in that post days after we stopped commenting to each other asking if I had joined a Simpsons group she suggested and told me how she felt about one I suggested. I thought hmmm, she's remembered me days after we stopped exchanging comments on this post so maybe she's someone who might be interested in knowing me further.
    Anyhow, I decided to send her a friend request last night (because we both love Simpsons and I find her attractive) and she added me. We chatted for a few hours last night over messenger.
    I seriously thought she is my age or younger but she is 8 years older. We have a lot in common artistically. However, she has a very big social group, seems extroverted, goes to many events and loves electronic music and not rock. Not sure we'd be compatible as I have few friends, prefer the quiet life, and love rock. What my social psychology unit at university has taught me is that birds of a feather flock together and that opposites do not attract, they repel. 
    Maybe she might think I am too young as well. 
    Will see how things go. I am not going to get my hopes up as I've been in similar situations before where nothing happened. If she starts initiating conversation first then I'll take it as a sign of interest and try summon the courage to ask her out for a coffee. But I doubt it will happen given the age difference and different lives we live. But boy is she pretty.

    You'll find someone someday, and when you do I think you'll have a shot a really good relationship, I say this because you have been looking for so long, that when you meet someone you are really going to treat that person properly.  Good luck to you.
    Give Peas A Chance…
  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,501
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    I was communicating with a lady over the past few days on facebook as we both commented on a Simpsons related post.
    She commented in that post days after we stopped commenting to each other asking if I had joined a Simpsons group she suggested and told me how she felt about one I suggested. I thought hmmm, she's remembered me days after we stopped exchanging comments on this post so maybe she's someone who might be interested in knowing me further.
    Anyhow, I decided to send her a friend request last night (because we both love Simpsons and I find her attractive) and she added me. We chatted for a few hours last night over messenger.
    I seriously thought she is my age or younger but she is 8 years older. We have a lot in common artistically. However, she has a very big social group, seems extroverted, goes to many events and loves electronic music and not rock. Not sure we'd be compatible as I have few friends, prefer the quiet life, and love rock. What my social psychology unit at university has taught me is that birds of a feather flock together and that opposites do not attract, they repel. 
    Maybe she might think I am too young as well. 
    Will see how things go. I am not going to get my hopes up as I've been in similar situations before where nothing happened. If she starts initiating conversation first then I'll take it as a sign of interest and try summon the courage to ask her out for a coffee. But I doubt it will happen given the age difference and different lives we live. But boy is she pretty.

    There ya go man. Just keep talking to her, be kind, and DON’T OVERTHINK THINGS! (That’s important, hence why I put it in all caps.) Keep doing what you’re doing, ask her out soon, and see where it goes. Don’t worry about opposites or birds of a feather and all that crap. Every relationship has similarities and differences. Who knows, perhaps her personality & lifestyle will help break you out of your shell.
    And do NOT worry about the age difference. Unless you’re underage or early 20s, no one really gives a crap about age differences.
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes
    Thank you dude.
    I'll see if she initiates conversation with me first. If it's only me doing the initiating then that's a sign of no interest.
    If she initiates I'll chat for a bit here and then ask her out.
    As I said before, not getting my hopes up as I've been down this road so many times.
    As for opposites attracting, every single lecturer at university tells us that they do not based on evidence. Even as recently as this semester in my social psychology subject. 
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Yes
    LongestRoad said:
    Thoughts_Arrive said:
    How girls feel when I try to get to know them...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wlkUmmnAyy8
    Are you trying to get to know them with a light sabre ? etc.??  I’m not sure what this is showing? 
    Just showing that every girl is frightened of me. Makes me feel like I am a movie villain.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014

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