Being frugal VS. Being cheap

I don't think so. I hope not. I never mentioned a baloney sammich anywhere I just added that because we can never know why someone can or cannot afford something. And I guess I felt a bit of shame about my rant earlier this week when it looked like the mug set mistakenly showed it was only available to analog members and I said we're too poor to afford two analog memberships

I cannot stand cheap people!! Like Speedy said, being frugal and smart with your money is always a good idea....but cheap bastards drive me nuts.
Two examples I ran into this week alone.
Dude I know I went to college with. He's a successful lawyer, his wife is a pharmacist. Both making 6-figures. Friends and I from college meet up every year for a college reunion of sorts. Hang out in college town, drink, tailgate, go to the game....good times. Every damn year, this guy cheaps it up the whole time. Each of us will buy rounds...he always disappears when it's his turn. It's like pulling teeth to get him to buy a round. Last time I opened a tab at a bar, told everyone first round is on me and bought a round of shots. I later find out he kept ordering beers on my tab. Not the end of the world but he goes..."Oh, sorry man, I thought you had the tab open for everyone". Really?!? We'll get a couple of hotel rooms in advance and at that time he's always "well, I'll just go home or crash elsewhere". 90% of the time he'll ask to crash in one of our rooms at the end of the night. I've called him out in this and it's such a waste of time. This week he calls up and tells me he and his wife are going to be in town for a couple days. Asks me if they can stay with me. First of all, we're not THAT close and it's only to save a fn buck. Pretty sure he wouldn't pay for food or drink if he did stay here either. Him and his wife bring in at least $225k a year. Cheap bastard!
Met another friend for HH last night. Guy makes good money too. He's the type that will order a a bunch of crap, a bunch of drinks, when I have 2 beers and will want to split it. Or I'll get it the bill, say "you get it next time" and he won't...and has never. We used to go to the bar and watch football. We'd be there for like 3-4 hours..order a bunch of stuff, if I had one more beer, he'll let the waitress know to split the check with that extra beer on my tab. So we're there for 3-4 hours, we'll each have a $50 bill. He'll seriously leave like $1 for a tip. I'll leave extra money to cover for his cheap ass. I mean the waitress slaved over us for 4 hours....
Fuck...maybe I just need new friends.

Not the same thing exactly, but it makes me think of pot luck parties or going away celebrations at work. The same people that don't bring anything in, or never chip in, are always the first one to show up and fill their plate till its over flowing. Have you no shame???

ldent42 said:

I dunno man. You have no idea what other people finances are like. You could be making good money but especial for people with advanced education you don't know what kind of crazy debt they may have. You don't know if they're supporting a parent or relative who can't support themself.

Cheap assholes buying beers on your tab are just assholes. If you're broke then stay home. But it's not really okay to be judging people like that.

I hear ya. The two guys I was referring to I've know for 10+ years going back to college.
The one who's a lawyer now, was a cheap ass back in college too. He'd show up to a tailgate and "forgot" to bring his own beer....then would happily mooch off of people then eat their food. He went through college on his parents dime...who were also very well off. He'd only go to the bars if it was $1 pitcher night or some shit, otherwise we'd never see him.

The other was a broke college kid who now makes very good money. Debt free, not married, no kids....still counts every damn penny!

ldent42 said:

I dunno man. You have no idea what other people finances are like. You could be making good money but especial for people with advanced education you don't know what kind of crazy debt they may have. You don't know if they're supporting a parent or relative who can't support themself.

Cheap assholes buying beers on your tab are just assholes. If you're broke then stay home. But it's not really okay to be judging people like that.

You're right, you have no idea what the person next to you is going through. However, one shouldn't be out and about taking advantage of friends just to 'appear' to be living large.

mca47 said:

In college, I was broke, worked two jobs....I busted my ass off to get by.
He never had to work, got a fat allowance, drove a BMW....and would always mooch.

Say no more my friend. That explains it all.

I had a friend that did stuff like that. He'd bum cigarettes off anyone and everyone but would never ever buy his own. As a group we'd go out to eat and he'd order a cup of soup if anything at all, and then just eat everyone else's food. Some people really have no shame.

I like the people that steal extra Taco Bell hot sauce packets and then proudly display them in there homes.

Jason P said:

I like the people that steal extra Taco Bell hot sauce packets and then proudly display them in there homes.

Wait, people do that?