Do I take wife to Wrigley PJ show?

slobberdog68 · May 2013

duska3419 wrote:

slobberdog68 wrote:

There's some chicks on here that go to shows. Im one of them. I've never gone alone, only with another chick. I'm sure you can find ppl to meet up with for particular shows, especially if you are selling a single ticket. We should start a female travel group for PJ shows

We def should!

PJinIL · May 2013

Thanks for all the awesome replies....and it must've been a 'speak of the devil' situation because it sounds like a different out of town trip will be deciding for us. No confrontation necessary

Not that I couldn't have had a truthful conversation with her about it, I wouldn't have lied about my feeling on the situation. She was never promised the ticket, it is actually supposed to be for my friend, but doesn't look like he's going to make it. We were discussing what to do if he couldn't go with me and she said maybe she'd want to go. Enter the question of how to tell her I'd rather it be a thing for me.

I truly feel for the poster who lost his wife, and that really makes sense, what he said. But I do believe in keeping one's identity to some degree, and I'd rather share things we're both into, her enjoy things on her own that I'm not into, than to feel obligated to share everything.

So, unless my buddy ends up being able to make it, it looks like I'm going to have a ticket for sale.

That goat is awfully cute. Does it smoke weed? Evil little goat. :fp:

LOVEBOATCAPT0226 · May 2013

You can just invite me instead!!!

Kimmiebyrom · May 2013

duska3419 wrote:

slobberdog68 wrote:

I'm in the same boat but with my husband
I took him to MIA and since there were a lot of hits, he had fun but when they tour in the fall :shock:
I'm debating on whether I should just meet up with some of the fans instead. I feel kinda bad but....here's what he said when Satans Bed came on my iPod the other day, " these are the PJ songs that I hate! You can't even understand a F'ing word he's saying" one of my Fav songs btw
Anyhow, I'm not going to feel bad, it's the one thing that is mine and mine alone and at MIA all I kept doing all night was making him push closer to the front (sorry) so I could be with all the real fans.
I gotta say though, I'm a little worried about going alone since the majority of the PJ fans are guys! I've never gone to a concert alone and I'm a little worried about the drunk A-holes

There's some chicks on here that go to shows. Im one of them. I've never gone alone, only with another chick. I'm sure you can find ppl to meet up with for particular shows, especially if you are selling a single ticket. We should start a female travel group for PJ shows

Yep! That's a great idea. I'm going to Wrigley alone.

Kimmiebyrom · May 2013

PJinIL wrote:

That goat is awfully cute. Does it smoke weed? Evil little goat. :fp:

This is why we can't have nice things.

2001ALLSTAREDDIE · May 2013

be a stand-up guy and tell her straight out that you'd rather go by yourself because you want to let your freak flag fly, and that you don't want to be responsible for her having a good time.

Free · May 2013

Through the thread is the air of having the responsibility of entertaining the wife. Where does this mentality come from? Two individuals are responsible for their own selves, so the idea of lowering one's enthusiasm or freak flag because the wife is going escapes me. In my marriage, we are two individuals who love each other and don't rely on each other for supplying a good time, we make it ourselves, individually AND jointly. I am seriously lost at this "ball and chain" mentality of the spouse bringing the other down at an event that's supposed to lift one up. Choose your battles, be yourself, and release any control there may be in your relationship. Maybe, just maybe she won't want to go in the end, but if she does, so what? Be yourself anyway, let the freak flag fly because life is short.

Get_Right · May 2013

Mamasan23 wrote:

we both agreed that PJ shows are much better with spouses/sig others at home.* It's not just the music, but it's the entire package, the people, the atmosphere, etc. All of that is 'our' thing. And we get to enjoy it together and take a break from reality for a bit.

THIS :!:

slobberdog68 · May 2013

Get_Right wrote:

Mamasan23 wrote:

we both agreed that PJ shows are much better with spouses/sig others at home.* It's not just the music, but it's the entire package, the people, the atmosphere, etc. All of that is 'our' thing. And we get to enjoy it together and take a break from reality for a bit.

THIS :!:

Yes!
Now let's have a tour so we can have that 2 hours of pure, crazy, let it all out, screaming, hands in the air, jumping up and down fun!

PJinIL · May 2013

slobberdog68 wrote:

Get_Right wrote:

Mamasan23 wrote:

we both agreed that PJ shows are much better with spouses/sig others at home.* It's not just the music, but it's the entire package, the people, the atmosphere, etc. All of that is 'our' thing. And we get to enjoy it together and take a break from reality for a bit.

THIS :!:

Yes!
Now let's have a tour so we can have that 2 hours of pure, crazy, let it all out, screaming, hands in the air, jumping up and down fun!

This is our church, we all sing in the choir!

Hunger Strike · May 2013

I have to admit, I'm in the same boat. I have a long time touring friend, but this time, my husband wants to go. And he's stoked. Keeps talking about it, and I'm excited for him to be there. Sad that I'm not brining my PJ spouse, but the husband has been so awesome throughout the years, putting up with my touring. I owe him this. It will be a blast.

elvistheking44 · May 2013

If my wife mentioned to me that she had more fun when I was not around and I was bringing her down by being included in something she loved I'd certainly think something else was wrong with our marriage. Thats some shit boyfriend/girlfriend talk when one of them is still keeping the door open in case something better comes along. If you can't let your freak flag fly with your spouse than perhaps your spouse doesn't know you on all levels.

JOEJOEJOE · May 2013

MY wife has been traveling to PJ shows much longer than I have, so I hope I am not considered an enemy of her gig enjoyment!

Indifference · May 2013

Anyone else surprised by the responses in this thread? Maybe just me. :fp:

Get_Right · May 2013

ofthegirl99 wrote:

If my wife mentioned to me that she had more fun when I was not around and I was bringing her down by being included in something she loved I'd certainly think something else was wrong with our marriage. Thats some shit boyfriend/girlfriend talk when one of them is still keeping the door open in case something better comes along. If you can't let your freak flag fly with your spouse than perhaps your spouse doesn't know you on all levels.

absence makes the heart grow fonder.....
boys night out is all, which every man needs to stay sane IMHO

elvistheking44 · May 2013

Get_Right wrote:

ofthegirl99 wrote:

If my wife mentioned to me that she had more fun when I was not around and I was bringing her down by being included in something she loved I'd certainly think something else was wrong with our marriage. Thats some shit boyfriend/girlfriend talk when one of them is still keeping the door open in case something better comes along. If you can't let your freak flag fly with your spouse than perhaps your spouse doesn't know you on all levels.

absence makes the heart grow fonder.....
boys night out is all, which every man needs to stay sane IMHO

Boys/Girls nights out are certainly necessary. To be concerned you wont have fun because your wife/husband is along with you is a problem.

slobberdog68 · May 2013

Indifference wrote:

Anyone else surprised by the responses in this thread? Maybe just me. :fp:

Surprised how? I think if our significant others are not into PJ as much as we are and we think
we will have more fun without them then we should go alone or with other fans.

When my husband goes to his wooden boat shows

and talks about building boats with a bunch
of dudes, I don't want any part of it. I guess @ 45 years old, we understand that always being together
is not healthy. We spend plenty of time together, this is my thing, not his.

elvistheking44 · May 2013

slobberdog68 wrote:

Indifference wrote:

Anyone else surprised by the responses in this thread? Maybe just me. :fp:

Surprised how? I think if our significant others are not into PJ as much as we are and we think
we will have more fun without them then we should go alone or with other fans.

When my husband goes to his wooden boat shows and talks about building boats with a bunch
of dudes, I don't want any part of it. I guess @ 45 years old, we understand that always being together
is not healthy. We spend plenty of time together, this is my thing, not his.

This is perfectly healthy in my opinion. I like certain things, my wife likes certain things. I think everyone gets that couples have and need space for different likes. The OP makes is seem like he's concerned that his wife is gonna bring him down and ruin his good time and not let him be himself and "fly his freak flag" Making it seem like the kind of "freak flag" he wants to fly his wife would not approve or support. I'm sure if your husband asked you to attend a boat show with him because it is important to him, you would go and wouldn't sulk about it. You'd go to support him and his interest...

P-Town-P-Jam-Fan · May 2013

I understand where the op is coming from. My wife does enjoy PJ and I enjoy going to PJ concerts with her. I don't think he is saying her being there (her presence) is going to bring him down, its just hard to have a great great time if you look over at your wife and she looks like her feet hurt and she's tired of standing. Its just kind of a bummer...I don't rely on my wife for my happiness, but at the same time, if she is having a terrible time its hard for me to have a great time. We went to the Bern, Switzerland show in 06 - first GA PJ show for us. When PJ came on, there was such a crush of people who pushed forward, we were completely smashed and although I could handle it, It was my least favorite PJ show because I was worried about whether or not she could handle it the whole time and it did take away from my enjoyment.

callen · May 2013

Pearl Jam shows are special and would always want to share the experience with my best freind. Maybe being idealistic..but....

Do I take wife to Wrigley PJ show?

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