Should I ask her out?

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  • comebackgirl
    comebackgirl Posts: 9,885
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    Went really well guys/girls. We were there for almost 3 hrs time flew. She can talk so the evening barely went without silence and I didn't have to worry about topics it all just flowed. We actually didn't even have coffee. Dinner and wine. I paid and walked her safely to her car in the dark side street. She drove me to my car and we said bye with a kiss on the cheek. She said she will pay for the next time, I didn't even suggest a next time (does that mean she likes me?).
    She was happy and bubbly all night which put me at ease.

    So yeah will most likely see her at the movies with others on Monday night.
    Will text her tomorrow to tell her I had a great time and say something like "should do it again soon".

    A big thank you to all for your kind advice. You are all amazing. :)
    That is fantastic! Glad you had such a good time :)
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  • mydogmookieblaylock
    mydogmookieblaylock Posts: 2,996
    81 wrote:
    8-)

    i'm glad you had a great time.

    but i also want to be on record here...

    the next time you are stressing over asking a girl out or not, think about tonight and think about the good time you would have missed....
    +1

    good work my friend! ..... tell me you used the tomato joke??? :)
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,958
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    Went really well guys/girls. We were there for almost 3 hrs time flew. She can talk so the evening barely went without silence and I didn't have to worry about topics it all just flowed. We actually didn't even have coffee. Dinner and wine. I paid and walked her safely to her car in the dark side street. She drove me to my car and we said bye with a kiss on the cheek. She said she will pay for the next time, I didn't even suggest a next time (does that mean she likes me?).
    She was happy and bubbly all night which put me at ease.

    So yeah will most likely see her at the movies with others on Monday night.
    Will text her tomorrow to tell her I had a great time and say something like "should do it again soon".

    A big thank you to all for your kind advice. You are all amazing. :)
    Sounds good! Much better than coffee (You know, I actually hate it when a guy asks me for coffee. I KNOW that they are doing it because they don't want to risk being stuck with me for longer than half an hour if they don't want to be, and I find that kind of wimpy and wishy-washy. At least ask me to go for a drink. Coffee is so cliche. And really, if he's asking me out, I should think he already knows he's interested enough to tolerate me for longer than coffee :lol:. If I'm not sure I can tolerate HIM for longer than coffee, I wouldn't go on a date with him at all, because seriously, he's gotta be pretty bad if I can't at least have a desire to commit to a couple hours to get to know him).
    I personally think you should call her tomorrow and ask her out again. If movie night isn't until Monday, sounds like you should do something with her before that if you really like her. Like over the weekend. Do the gettin' while the gettin's good. :lol: But that's just what I'd do if I were you. :)
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    yay! see? you were worried about nothing!
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  • The Juggler
    The Juggler Posts: 49,599
    helluva thread!


    good work buddy :mrgreen:
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  • Dissidentman
    Dissidentman Posts: 15,381
    Don't do it.
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,958
    Dissidentman wrote:
    Don't do it.
    :fp:
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  • Get_Right
    Get_Right Posts: 14,217
    Dont wait too long to call.
    And don't communicate by facebook.

    Pick up the phone like a man.

    Good luck
  • The Juggler
    The Juggler Posts: 49,599
    Get_Right wrote:
    Dont wait too long to call.
    And don't communicate by facebook.

    Pick up the phone like a man.

    Good luck

    fuck that. carrier pigeon is what he should be using.
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  • xavier mcdaniel
    xavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,469
    so anyone care to give me the short version of this?
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  • SPEEDY MCCREADY
    SPEEDY MCCREADY Posts: 27,073
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    so anyone care to give me the short version of this?
    She asked him out.
    Take me piece by piece.....
    Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
  • xavier mcdaniel
    xavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,469
    SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    so anyone care to give me the short version of this?
    She asked him out.

    wow. impressive 15 pages of speculating whether he should ask and she pulled the reverse option.
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    Chicago 2007
    Camden 2008 MSG 2008 MSG 2008 Hartford 2008.
    Seattle 2009 Seattle 2009 Philadelphia 2009,Philadelphia 2009 Philadelphia 2009
    Hartford 2010 MSG 2010 MSG 2010
    Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
    Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
    Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016
    Fenway 2, 2018
    MSG 2022
    St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023
    MSG 2024, MSG 2024
    Philadelphia 2024
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    Things happen in the game. Nothing you
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    "I'm gonna beat this guy up."
  • SPEEDY MCCREADY
    SPEEDY MCCREADY Posts: 27,073
    edited January 2013
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    so anyone care to give me the short version of this?
    She asked him out.

    wow. impressive 15 pages of speculating whether he should ask and she pulled the reverse option.
    But now HE is wondering how long he should wait, until he contacts HER for date #2.

    Facsinating stuff!

    :P
    Post edited by SPEEDY MCCREADY on
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  • xavier mcdaniel
    xavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,469
    wow. impressive 15 pages of speculating whether he should ask and she pulled the reverse option.[/quote]
    But know HE is wondering how long he should wait, until he contacts HER for date #2.

    Facsinating stuff!

    :P[/quote]

    Not that I know anything, but if someone that I liked enough to the point to ask the internet whether I should ask them out, pulled the reverse, I'd contact her pronto, but then again what do I know.
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    Chicago 2007
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    Toronto 2011,Toronto 2011
    Wrigley Field 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Brooklyn 2013 Philadelphia 2, 2013
    Philadelphia 1, 2016 Philadelphia 2 2016 New York 2016 New York 2016 Fenway 1, 2016
    Fenway 2, 2018
    MSG 2022
    St. Paul, 1, St. Paul 2 2023
    MSG 2024, MSG 2024
    Philadelphia 2024
    "I play good, hard-nosed basketball.
    Things happen in the game. Nothing you
    can do. I don't go and say,
    "I'm gonna beat this guy up."
  • tallman72
    tallman72 Posts: 353
    quote]Only contact we have is occasional Facebook chat.[[/quote]

    you said this on your first post on 19/1/13 and now 4 days later she has asked you out.

    im just wondering if she is a member on this forum as well because its a really uncanny lol
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    mydogmookieblaylock wrote:
    81 wrote:
    8-)

    i'm glad you had a great time.

    but i also want to be on record here...

    the next time you are stressing over asking a girl out or not, think about tonight and think about the good time you would have missed....
    +1

    good work my friend! ..... tell me you used the tomato joke??? :)

    Thank you :D
    Don't know what the tomato joke is :?
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    tallman72 wrote:
    quote]Only contact we have is occasional Facebook chat.[

    you said this on your first post on 19/1/13 and now 4 days later she has asked you out.

    im just wondering if she is a member on this forum as well because its a really uncanny lol[/quote]

    She invited me and many others out to the movies. Not exactly asking me out I'd say.
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    xavier mcdaniel wrote:
    wow. impressive 15 pages of speculating whether he should ask and she pulled the reverse option.
    But know HE is wondering how long he should wait, until he contacts HER for date #2.

    Facsinating stuff!

    :P[/quote]

    Not that I know anything, but if someone that I liked enough to the point to ask the internet whether I should ask them out, pulled the reverse, I'd contact her pronto, but then again what do I know.[/quote]

    She invited me to a movie night along with others. She has always invited me to events but me being a hermit I declined always.
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:
    But now HE is wondering how long he should wait, until he contacts HER for date #2.

    Facsinating stuff!

    :P

    Already suggested a second date to her. She seems keen on that judging by her reply text.
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  • mydogmookieblaylock
    mydogmookieblaylock Posts: 2,996
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    Don't know what the tomato joke is :?
    if it gets quiet or you get stuck - use the tomato joke .... here it is
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NrGeOHpEGk0

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