Wife going out of town for Bachelorette Party

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  • Indifference71
    Indifference71 Chicago Posts: 14,927
    rick1zoo2 wrote:
    I've read most of this thread and I don't understand - people have responed to you, tried to help, give you some advice, and all I see is you bashing the responses. what exactly were you looking for when you made this thread?



    Reassurance that he isn't being crazy.
  • JonnyPistachio
    JonnyPistachio Florida Posts: 10,219
    rick1zoo2 wrote:
    I've read most of this thread and I don't understand - people have responed to you, tried to help, give you some advice, and all I see is you bashing the responses. what exactly were you looking for when you made this thread?

    Maybe this, that she's guilty of disrespect and she shouldnt be going to this party with the untrustworthy friends who might persuade her to do terrible things with the "herd mentality":
    pandora wrote:
    Have you already made her guilty?

    This is exactly what i've been sensing all along.
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  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    JonnyPistachio wrote:
    rick1zoo2 wrote:
    I've read most of this thread and I don't understand - people have responed to you, tried to help, give you some advice, and all I see is you bashing the responses. what exactly were you looking for when you made this thread?

    Maybe this, that she's guilty of disrespect and she shouldnt be going to this party with the untrustworthy friends who might persuade her to do terrible things with the "herd mentality":
    pandora wrote:
    Have you already made her guilty?

    This is exactly what i've been sensing all along.
    This can be common in relationships, it stems from jealousy and fear, which most everyone
    has moments of. We all fear losing someone we love right? scary stuff.

    But we also don't want to push that someone away either
    by them interpreting we think them untrustworthy.
    That's horrible for mate to feel that in love, that their partner can't trust them.

    Flipside, like I mentioned it's not too smart to put oneself in situations of temptation
    or that can be perceived as temptation to one's mate. Trouble with a capital T.

    Me personally will be glad when this party is over and all is well and the happy
    family realizes how lovely love is! They are the lucky ones! :D

    Then get ready for the next test, on and on...
    before one knows it the big picture is here and gone
    and life is two UP chairs with the warmth of a loving hand,
    this is living!
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    JK_Livin wrote:
    Hire a P.I.

    send me a pic, let me know where they are staying and i will tail them for 300 plus expenses

    pm if you are interested
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  • shep
    shep Houston Posts: 5,902
    rick1zoo2 wrote:
    I've read most of this thread and I don't understand - people have responed to you, tried to help, give you some advice, and all I see is you bashing the responses. what exactly were you looking for when you made this thread?

    As I supposed at the beginning... he has a decision/position already formed in his head, and he came here for someone to agree with him and firm up his choice.

    Unfortunately we haven't been doing that for him... in fact (just guessing here), I'd say most of us have been taking the opposite stance... which has resulted in him bashing most of our advice and questioning my reading comprehension...

    :corn:
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  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    Where I agree with the OP is his feelings to some degree...
    his right to worry.

    If his wife drinks her share with no one around to watch out for her
    he has a right to worry about her safety.
    I have won many a lampshade award in my life and JB has mostly been there to
    watch over me and my foolishness.

    Early on going out with the girls I put myself in dangerous situations
    all in the name of crazy ass fun.
    Thank goodness I was safe and never sorry.

    If this is a rare occasion, a special occasion as it sounds,
    then I'm sure everything will be ok.
    If she is going out often and it's girls gone wild
    I can see how that would be disrespectful and worrisome for her hubby
    and daughters.... which seems not to be the case.

    I think this one time will pass and their relationship will grow stronger
    and hopefully the girls will go to dinner and a movie more often then places
    that spell trouble for married people without their spousal units ;)
  • DS1119
    DS1119 Posts: 33,497
    shep wrote:
    rick1zoo2 wrote:
    I've read most of this thread and I don't understand - people have responed to you, tried to help, give you some advice, and all I see is you bashing the responses. what exactly were you looking for when you made this thread?

    As I supposed at the beginning... he has a decision/position already formed in his head, and he came here for someone to agree with him and firm up his choice.

    Unfortunately we haven't been doing that for him... in fact (just guessing here), I'd say most of us have been taking the opposite stance... which has resulted in him bashing most of our advice and questioning my reading comprehension...

    :corn:


    This.
  • eddiec
    eddiec Posts: 3,974
    I was a bartender in New York for many years and I witnessed a lot of married women(and men) do some bad things on their weekend in NY.

    You can trust a person 100% but that trust usually doesn't include 15 Woo-Woo shots and a few martinis :lol:
  • PillowPants
    PillowPants Posts: 4,877
    81 wrote:
    rick1zoo2 wrote:
    what exactly were you looking for when you made this thread?

    a hug?


    i think the wife started the thread just to get some super hot pearl jam guys to go to the party

    see you all at the Slippery Noodle Inn!!!
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    81 wrote:
    JK_Livin wrote:
    Hire a P.I.

    send me a pic, let me know where they are staying and i will tail them for 300 plus expenses

    pm if you are interested

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  • PillowPants
    PillowPants Posts: 4,877
    so... did we chat with the wife?
  • Grandmas Jam
    Grandmas Jam Posts: 1,860
    is this a real concern? this cant be a genuine post here? i am just boggled that someone would post this on a message board about pearl jam.


    also can you tell me when and where this is all going down so i can see if i can join in?
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  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    norm wrote:
    81 wrote:
    JK_Livin wrote:
    Hire a P.I.

    send me a pic, let me know where they are staying and i will tail them for 300 plus expenses

    pm if you are interested

    200.jpg

    :corn:
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  • dcfaithful
    dcfaithful Posts: 13,076
    Dude... trust your wife man.

    Maybe give us some insight as to how bad her decision making when drunk is. Because if you're comparing her saying something offensive or stupid when drunk to her ability to remain faithful, that is an unfair comparison.

    What reason has she ever given you to feel the way you do? Honestly man, I would just like to say again: trust your wife. I think THAT speaks volumes, if you show her that you trust her. If you openly place your trust in someones (especially your wife's) hands, they'll most likely respect that.

    Perhaps she's worried that you might take the opportunity away from her to do something equally unfaithful...

    If you say you "trust your wife", then trust your wife. Give her the opportunity to prove to you that your trust is safe.

    If you're seriously that bothered by it though, why not sincerely come to your wife about your concerns... you never know, she might be really understanding.

    Best of luck man, I don't know her or you, but I think you have nothing to worry about.
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  • Grandmas Jam
    Grandmas Jam Posts: 1,860
    keeponrockin wrote:
    I think of Drive By Truckers...

    'Bottle don't make you do a thing, it just lets you'. .


    When I'm 6 ft under ground I'll need a drink or two
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  • Grandmas Jam
    Grandmas Jam Posts: 1,860
    edited October 2012
    PillowPants wrote:
    81 wrote:
    rick1zoo2 wrote:
    what exactly were you looking for when you made this thread?

    a hug?


    i think the wife started the thread just to get some super hot pearl jam guys to go to the party

    see you all at the Slippery Noodle Inn!!!
    I'll be there at 9 wearing my "Everybody gets laid" shirt
    Post edited by Grandmas Jam on
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  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    offer still stands..pm me and we can work out the details.
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  • polaris_x
    polaris_x Posts: 13,559
    party should have happened already ... would love to know what happened ... :corn:
  • DS1119
    DS1119 Posts: 33,497
    polaris_x wrote:
    party should have happened already ... would love to know what happened ... :corn:



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  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    polaris_x wrote:
    party should have happened already ... would love to know what happened ... :corn:

    i didn't get the PI gig. :x
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