Engagement Rings.

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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    cutback wrote:
    if i'm putting down a huge chunk of change for this trinket i'm gonna make damn sure she gets the ring she wants.... :)

    here's the thing though, if someone gives you a ring you don't have anything to compare it to. you're going to like it unless it's TOTALLY off like as I said yellow instead of white. Plus, let's just face it- expensive jewelery all looks the same: boring. It never really "says" anything about the person who's wearing it except that they can afford wearing "real" jewelery. In all my life, I have NEVER noticed an engagement ring on someone's hand and thought "wow, that's really cool." But I'm CONSTANTLY noticing big silver rings that probably cost about $50 or less and thinking "wow, that's really cool." think about it.
  • Get_Right
    Get_Right Posts: 14,117
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    Maybe not in Manhattan. ;)

    What is "a lot" is kind of a personal thing.

    Trust me I know that well, very well.

    But even so, thats about what a nice basic ring costs.
    But you are right its all relative. Im lucky, my wife doesnt care about jewlery,
    just handbags.
    :)
  • know1
    know1 Posts: 6,801
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    here's the thing though, if someone gives you a ring you don't have anything to compare it to. you're going to like it unless it's TOTALLY off like as I said yellow instead of white. Plus, let's just face it- expensive jewelery all looks the same: boring. It never really "says" anything about the person who's wearing it except that they can afford wearing "real" jewelery. In all my life, I have NEVER noticed an engagement ring on someone's hand and thought "wow, that's really cool." But I'm CONSTANTLY noticing big silver rings that probably cost about $50 or less and thinking "wow, that's really cool." think about it.

    You may be an exception to the norm, however. I'm just sayin... ;)
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  • NeilJam
    NeilJam Posts: 1,191
    Don't pay an outrageous price for a diamond. Find out what other stone she likes and get a ring with that instead. Then it would be more unique instead of just having a boring expensive diamond.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    NeilJam wrote:
    Don't pay an outrageous price for a diamond. Find out what other stone she likes and get a ring with that instead. Then it would be more unique instead of just having a boring expensive diamond.

    I have a friend who has a sapphire (which is actually more "traditional" than a diamond for engagements) and it is REALLY pretty. it was much, much cheaper than a diamond too.
  • Phantom Pain
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  • jbalicki10
    jbalicki10 Posts: 517
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I have a friend who has a sapphire (which is actually more "traditional" than a diamond for engagements) and it is REALLY pretty. it was much, much cheaper than a diamond too.

    This is what I did. She actually gets complimented on the ring because it is unique.
  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    macgyver06 wrote:
    5000 to much?

    i dont know what im doing


    pearl jam girls? any ideas

    the 'rule' is to spend 2 months salary
    but I don't think it's the dollar amt spent so much as the type of ring that you purchase and will it be someething your lady will like.

    You could try to find out from her sister (if she has one) or friends what she would like and go from there.

    if you can afford at least a carat, imo that is a nice decent size :D
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  • G-force
    G-force Posts: 218
    Allie wrote:
    the 'rule' is to spend 2 months salary
    but I don't think it's the dollar amt spent so much as the type of ring that you purchase and will it be someething your lady will like.

    You could try to find out from her sister (if she has one) or friends what she would like and go from there.

    if you can afford at least a carat, imo that is a nice decent size :D

    2 Months salary !?! You crack me up. For as long as I can remember the cliche has always been one (1) month. Perhaps that 2 month reference is specific to Manhattan and you are employed by a jeweler.? LMAO
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    G-force wrote:
    2 Months salary !?! You crack me up. For as long as I can remember the cliche has always been one (1) month. Perhaps that 2 month reference is specific to Manhattan and you are employed by a jeweler.? LMAO

    No, Allie is right. The old cliche is "2 months salary".
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    No, Allie is right. The old cliche is "2 months salary".

    isn't there an add that goes "how can two months salary last forever?"

    blegh!!!

    let me think...if I spent two months salary...a) that would be a damn expensive ring b) I would be homeless for two months.

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  • G-force
    G-force Posts: 218
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    No, Allie is right. The old cliche is "2 months salary".


    Okay, I stand corrected. I am slipping, that is the second mistake I have made this year.

    Indeed, askmen.com references the 2 month rule. Yikes, that is more than my volvo.
  • laylagrrl
    laylagrrl Posts: 46
    If you're not sure what type of ring she would like, you can go to a jewelry store and pick out some rings in your price range. Then propose, she says yes, take her to the jewelry store and the person will bring out those rings you chose and she gets to make the final decision. Yeah it's just a ring and all but you want her to like it since she has to wear it and look at it for the rest of her life :)
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  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    isn't there an add that goes "how can two months salary last forever?"

    yeah...one of those debeer's commercials, I think. barf.
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    G-force wrote:
    Yikes, that is more than my volvo.

    lol, yeah...it's crazy, no?
  • Spunkie
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    macgyver06 wrote:
    5000 to much?

    i dont know what im doing


    pearl jam girls? any ideas

    Three months salary.
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  • Abookamongstthemany
    Abookamongstthemany Posts: 8,209
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    ugh, I never want a ring (at least not a diamond. some other cheaper ring I probably wouldn't mind but I digress), but if I did get one it would mean SO MUCH MORE if he picked it out himself. To me it's supposed to be a gift, and being asked to pick out your own gift is just tacky. if a person wants to *marry* me I'm sure he'd know by then what my preferences are, and even if not, who cares, it's just a ring.

    Also, I forgot to add in my post above, engagement rings are incredibly tacky to me for a huge reason- MEN DON'T WEAR THEM. It's like sticking a "SOLD" sign on a woman. Gross.


    I agree with most of what you've said in this thread. Nice posts
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  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    no engagement ring. save it for nice wedding rings for both of you. engagement rings are meaningless- they were invented as a marketing campaign for debeers in the 1940s. Plus diamonds are a screwed up business. You never really know for sure where they are coming from or if anyone hands were chopped off in the process. They are overpriced bits of rock, and the people who mine them-the citizens of the countries that own this resource-are in extreme poverty even though the amount of wealth exploited from the resource is crazy. I'm sure if your gf is any type of socially conscious person, she will appreciate not getting a ring. Really, think about how much money it is too. is that really worth it? If you invest that $5000, think of what it get the two of you and any kids you might have in the future. I know people who don't even wear their engagement rings- they just sit in a box somewhere.

    and 5,000 is way too much. my super nice watch wasn't even a fraction of that and it tells time. what does a ring do?

    PLEASE don't listen tothis.
    NOT all women think like this.
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  • BarryWalker
    BarryWalker Posts: 75
    I too an thinking about making the plunge. Any opinions on getting a certified diamond vs. non-certified? I'd hate to buy a diamond that I thought was good quality later to find out it's worthless.
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  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    BarryWalker wrote:
    I too an thinking about making the plunge. Any opinions on getting a certified diamond vs. non-certified? I'd hate to buy a diamond that I thought was good quality later to find out it's worthless.

    If you want to make certain that you're getting what you're paying for, go for a GIA or AGS certified stone. If you buy a non-certified stone, you're going to have to rely on your eye to trust that it's worth whatever the jeweler is telling you. Some people are comfortable with that and that's fine, but you are definitely setting yourself up for paying more than it is technically worth....and who wants to do that?

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